Morning all its just gone 12.45am in the UK 🇬🇧
I’m still up alone with my thoughts.
I wouldn’t say it was a bad thing being alone with your thoughts but sometimes the pain of past emotions come back.
Before I explain my reasons for this blog I have to say something it’s not deemed weak to talk about emotions nor does it mean your pathetic it means your human and its OK to openly talk about how you feel it doesn’t make you desperate and I have to get one thing absolutely clear 👇👇👇
I’m human just like the rest of you.
And being human I feel we need to openly tell people how we feel without fear.
To give an open and honest answer or reaction to someone’s questions takes courage.
There’s is to many games that get played when if comes to emotions.
I think that’s very cruel to pull someone in by false hopes and protenses.
But unfortunately it happens a lot…
I had an email of a lady she wanted a bit of advice regarding emotion I wasn’t sure I was the best person to give this advice but I tried nevertheless.
She told me about this guy she liked she had liked him for a while they both went out few times she started to catch feelings for him.
He was this cool guy bit egotistical she said to me he liked the single life.
But she really liked this guy and she was hoping to progress further with him.
She said to me you know I liked him that much he made me feel so nervous because I really wanted everything to be perfect.
But by her trying to be perfect just made him pull away.
She said to me I was so upset I wanted answers but he just got mad and pulled away and then the contact stopped.
Leaving her all confused and self conscious.
I replied back to her best way possible.
I’m no good with love but I saw alot of myself in this lady and to be honest I just wanted to give her a big hug.
Like I wish someone would of done to me.
I said look don’t beat yourself up about feeling something for another human being it’s perfectly natural it happens it’s life.
I did sense a bit of vulnerability in this lady again which I feel from myself at times.
The ability to fall quickly in love with an idea or fantasy for the other party not to be feeling the same.
It’s a very lonely place to be it’s also very painful place.
And if not quickly identified can make you cold hearted.
I said to her if this guy really liked you the way you liked him there would be no way he would let you go.
Maybe timing was completely off maybe he had other options to seek out.
But as much as it pains me to say this don’t put your life on hold to wait and see if he changes his mind.
It’s very hard to give advice to another human being when you need to listen to your own advice.
When all you want is someone to love you back but we know it’s not that easy sometimes you just have to move on.
I was once called stupid and desperate for saying how I felt but I just wanted this lady to know and the rest of you it’s not desperate or stupid to say how you feel its brave and honest and if the other party can’t take your honesty then leave it atleast you have been open with them.
In an ideal world it would be great to have a fairy tale ending but life isn’t always like that.
It’s real its raw and it can be most heartbreaking experience of your life but don’t ever feel like you can’t express emotions.
The lady kindly thanked me for my help and I wished her the best but I know how hard it can be to try and move on with life without wondering why…
Not everything or everybody we attract is meant to be with us till the end but in somecases maybe they are untill it’s time to let go.
Lots of love stacie xxx 🐚💋💄❤️
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