Late night blogging for me its Monday and it’s a start of a brand new week.I wanted to share this blog with you all because at the moment I know people are struggling with their mental health and dealing with fear and anxiety.
When your forced to make changes or if a change is forced upon you it can be a very frustrating and confusing time let alone scary.
Some people deal with change well others don’t it’s just human nature.
Some have better coping mechanisms than others.I’m going to share some knowledge I’ve learnt over the past six months and how I’ve used it to help me progress..
1. Never change who you are to fit in with other’s…
I’ve been in this situation so many times.
Instead of being the person you are you end up being so far away from who you actually are and perceiving you’re self to be someone you’re not.
This is a massive lesson to learn because to all the people who just want to be liked by everyone it’s not going to happen…Sometimes in life people dislike you for no reason it happens.
Never ever under any circumstances try and fit in with others.You loose yourself in the process and whilst others around you are happy you will not be happy because you aren’t being your true self.
2. You will never understand another person’s actions towards you.
Dont try and debunk why someone treats you the way they do you will go round in circles in your own brain trying to figure it all out honestly it’s not worth it.
Life goes on always remember that and everyone has their own burdens to carry if you find a kind person around you be one.
3. Toughen up
I know it’s easy for me to say yes I said the exact same thing when I was told I’m too kind to people who don’t deserve it.It takes courage to stand up for yourself and say enough is enough.
I’m not dealing with this situation any more.
You either move past it or make life harder than it needs to be.
You don’t need to participate in every situation that gets thrown your way
People are going to think what they think and nothing you do or say will make them believe otherwise.
4. Don’t justify any decisions you make.
This one is simple it’s your life its your choice every decision you make is either for you to evolve and grow or to move on to something better.
If you feel it’s right go with your own gut instinct at the end of the day people talk it’s what humans do but you might as well just do it anyway regardless you can accept advice but never let someone criticise you for simply trying to better yourself.
5. Let them believe what they want to.
Best thing to do here don’t react when you enter transformation you care less about how others see you and more about how you see yourself.
What’s your self worth and why sometimes it doesn’t always pay you to be completely honest sometimes we just don’t need to say nothing at all…
People won’t understand how they treated you until you treat them in exactly the same way its just the way it is.
But don’t try and justify anything to anyone who’s already made up their mind about who you are.
Even if their perception is false.
6. The Chinese Whisperers
Massive lessons I’ve learnt this year is don’t believe everything someone says about someone.
We as humans are very quick to judge and get tangled up in all sort of drama that doesn’t really concern us.
This is my massive learning curve for 2020.
Leave people to fight their own battles.
We have all done it said something and thought why the hell have I just said that we are all human and make mistakes we live with alot of regret throughout life but its when you don’t learn from it that makes it dangerous for us.
I’m literally no longer getting involved with anything that doesn’t concern me you can’t keep making the same mistake.
You can’t bulid a new life by keep talking parts of the old one and trying to make the pieces fit it simply doesn’t work that way.
You will loose parts of yourself and people who you always thought would be around you forever but that’s part of the process where you are ready to move on.
You have your memories and sometimes that’s more than enough.
Love to you all