I hope you are all well and have had a great weekend.
Whist I’ve had a bit of time to myself the past few days I’ve looked back over the last few months and how slowly started to bring myself back to life.
Mental health is so important to me because I understand how other people feel when their at a low point in life and how our minds affects our progression, relationships and the way we see ourselves.
One of the main issues I had was trying to hold everything inside keeping feelings and emotions inside.
It really didn’t work it was like putting a packet of mentos in a bottle of coke and expecting it not to erupt..
It happens there’s no holding it in..
This is know as fight and flight mode..
When your in flight of fight mode which does happen a lot with people who have anxiety and other conditions that are linked to mental distress. All you want to do is run and hide away push everyone away and bottle everything up so you try to surpress your emotions and pretend your fine.
There are three stages of flight or flight alarm, resistance, and exhaustion.
Alarm – This occurs when we first perceive something as stressful, and then the body initiates the fight-or-flight response.
Resistance – If the perceived stress continues, the body stays activated at a higher metabolic level in an effort to offset the persistent stress. The body cannot maintain this level indefinitely, and its resources will eventually deplete.
Exhaustion – Prolonged exposure to the stressor will result in the depletion of the body’s resources, and the resulting wear and tear will suppress the immune system and cause bodily functions to deteriorate.
This can lead to a variety of health issues and illnesses, including heart disease, digestive problems, depression, and diabetes.
It’s important we try and figure out what triggers us in order to help us not only move on but to help stop fight or flight reactions reaccurring.
It’s all about personal boundaries and allowing yourself to actually put you’re own needs first.
I’m always told by people I don’t know how you always manage to cope with certain situations and people.
I was always told you’re extremely strong willed the answer to them would be yes I suppose so but all I wanted to scream is I’m not I just wear a mask like most people I’m good at suppressing my emotions which can then come across like I’m not affected by situations or people’s actions.
But actually I really am affected by it just good at hiding my feelings.
One of my biggest issues is trying to understand why people don’t like me i know in past situations I’ve not been the best possible person I could be.
But I’ve learnt from my mistakes.
I have issues with rejection I find it extremely hard to understand why people wouldn’t like me…
But the people who are close to me always tell me is because I actually try and achieve something in life and that I aways wear my heart on my sleeve.
I’ve come to realise that not everyone likes everyone and that’s OK sometimes there isn’t a reason and there isn’t an answer to your question you just have to accept it for what it is and move on.
It’s impossible to be liked by everyone and never try understand why people do things the way they do or say the things they say.
Your only in control of yourself.
It’s all about quality of friendship and family connections not quantity the people who love your will always listen to you however many times your need to scream or moan but never be scared to express how you really feel.
Your causing more damage to yourself than good by pretending you’re OK don’t be scared to ask for help or put yourself first.
Sending hugs to you all
Lots of love