Guest Blog Kibla Ahmed Art

Welcome to my first guest blog , I decided to start writing guest articles a few month’s ago because I believe in empowering others.

Guest Blogging is a fantastic way of sharing other peoples talent’s and showing your support.

So lets get to it and let me introduce to you all the wonderfully talented Kibla Ahmed.

I first come across Kibla on Instagram, I can’t quite remember how long ago but I remember being taken back by Kibla’s immense love for comic book characters and even more so the talent and passion Kibla puts into his artistic creations.

Its not very often I come across someone who loves superhero’s as much as I do but Kibla journey and progress has really amazed me.

The hard work and time that goes into Kibla’s art work actually shows with every finished piece and its truly unique.

Kibla is a truly talented artist and I truly believe he will go far but what stands out the most, Kibla always remains humble and true to himself.

My Journey Told By Kibla

My story isn’t much “sounds like the beginning of a comic book” we go through our hardships in life but I won’t bore you with that stuff but what I will do is share my journey with you from five years ago to now, Impossible is a state of mind because if you really put your mind to it anything is impossible.

I know you’ve seen this on the home page already but I live by this, I’ll put it here again as a reminder, if you’ve haven’t seen this movie go check it out.

“We’ve always defined ourselves by the ability to overcome the impossible. And we count these moments. These moments when we dare to aim higher, to break barriers, to reach for the stars, to make the unknown known. We count these moments as our proudest achievements. But we lost all that. Or perhaps we’ve just forgotten that we are still pioneers. And we’ve barely begun. And that our greatest accomplishments cannot be behind us, because our destiny lies above us.” – Cooper – Interstellar

I started this Journey back in 2013, I hadn’t put pencil to paper in 15 years. I forgot what it was like to be creative and let my mind express my imagination, I was always sketching away back in school days then got to my college years and life turned upside down, it was a whole new world, to be honest, It’s was part of my life where I forgot about my younger self and my creativeness.

As you grow older and life’s hardships kick you around for a little bit it changes us, in a lot of ways it changes you, it makes you stronger or a little bit stranger in a good way. Then the moment happens that’s all it takes that one moment and that what happened to me, sorry this parts is cheesy “I got struck by lightning but I didn’t become The Flash”, without getting into too much detail five years ago while I was in the loft clearing things I stumbled across my old sketchbooks from school days and started flicking through the pages and in that moment a colorful orgasmic moment happen in my head an explosion of memories and ideas. 

A part of my mind which was locked away for almost 15 years and it all came rushing back to me, I remember sketching for hours that evening up in the loft lost within my imagination and my imagination on paper it all started there.

I think you can all agree that Kibla’s down to earth personality really shines through within his story and Kibla’s talent shows within his outstanding art work.

As i continue to follow Kibla’s journey I hope you will too ,because the world needs more positive and creative people Like Kibla.

Please take a look at some of Kibla’s creations below….

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You can also Find Kibla’s Links on my Sharing is Caring page.

Love to you all

Stacie x

10 ways to spot a catfish.

Evening all ❤️

I’m currently blogging from the comfort of a nice hot bath trying to get rid of this vile viral infection..

Since I’ve been or sick I’ve been binge watching two series one is the crown on nextflix and the other is the famous mtv show catfish.

I absolutely can’t get the back of why anyone would want to catfish anyone!

Too much effort to many lies..

I’ve never even been tempted to check out an ex using a fake account after a breakup their an ex for a reason who cares what they are doing and who they are seeing.

What you don’t see can’t piss you off right!!!!

That to me is 💯 true don’t engage with it don’t let it get to you life becomes less negative and you fill your time more productively.

Back to catfish well just incase you guys and girls haven’t blessed your eyes and ears with such vulnerability here is what’s catfishing means…

What is a catfish?

A catfish is a fake or stolen online identinty created by a person and used for the purposes of beginning a deceptive relationship.

Not all cases are as they seem but most of the people are very vulnerable and actually madly in love with someone they have never met in person.

I personally couldn’t project that much of my time and engery into something that to me doenst seem genuinely real.

It’s probably pretty harsh of me to judge but I truly believe you couldn’t just fall in love with a picture?

After a few failed relationships I actually feel you need get to know someone before the love and trust is their between you both and you have to actually spent time in person with the person in question to know and understand what they are like.

Anyone can hide who they are online.

Here comes to the important part the theory and the the 10 steps on how to know when you have a catfish swimming around you…

So the theory!!!

You log on to you social accounts check your emails and dm’s and you get this random cute guy or girl send you a friends request or a follow, you think there’s nothing to loose so why not and you accept maybe hour later you get a dm or a few likes on old and new pictures on Instagram.

You think oh well they must like what they see so you just go about your day then the dm comes..

‘hey how are you BTW you look very cute in your pictures I love your Instagram so inspiring’.

Beacuse your not rude you respond with a hey thanks for the follow and the dm and the nice comments what brings you to my profile.

Response goes on back and forth for maybe hours days and weeks maybe months.

And you try find out more about them but when you get too personal they close off.

You feel a connection to them even though they don’t have a lot of pictures or friends etc the idea of someone showing you attention and love really makes you like this person more.

So you ask to meet they always brush off the conversation or agree to meet but never show up!!

Fustrating right well this is where nev and max come in USA are so lucky they actually have a team of people who actually help vulnerable people either confront the catfish and move on with life or actually unite people who actually genuinely are the real deal.

75% of them turn out to be catfish.

It’s not sweet Tiffany who’s 25 has her own house and drives a fancy sports car.

It’s Timothy who’s 58 lives in his mums basement and who can’t get his arse on a push bike.

I’m Sorry but that’s the harsh truth and the reality of the Internet you can be anyone you want to be compelety the furthest away from you true self it’s unreal.

Here’s the most important part for your own wellbeing how to spot a catfish..

1.Too good to be true photos

Do they look like a model? Do they seem way too perfect to be a normal person? Search their photos using Google Search By Image – if you find the same images on lots of different sites linked to different names or if the images turn up on a stock photo site or modelling site, you might want to think twice

2. Too good to be true life

Don’t be too quick to believe everything you read. If they claim to be a brain surgeon and part time pilot, who enjoys running monthly marathons and volunteering to save the children in Africa, your alarm bells might start ringing.

3. No photos or webcam

Be alert to any profiles that offer no photos. Early in your interaction, ask them to send you a photo and if they refuse, you might become suspicious. Having a web chat is a great way to explore the level of chemistry between you. If they claim to have no access to a webcam (unusual these days), your intuition might tell you something.

4. Saying exactly what you want to hear.

Many victims report that the person said all the right things, they tapped into their deepest needs and said only positive things. We all know that ‘real people’ have flaws and tend to say a combination of positive, negative and neutral things so look out for this.

5. Too serious, too soon

Real intimacy takes time to build, it is based on trust. If they move too quickly into the realm of love and commitment, try not to be flattered. This may be a sign that they are not legitimate.

6. Asking for money

This should be a massive red flag (but unfortunately, many people are seduced by this). If they ask you for cash, this is an indicator that their intentions are based on something other than finding love – walk away!

7. Very low social media friend count

Check out their Facebook, Instagram twitter page as soon as you can. Often, when a Catfish sets up their false dating profile, they set up corresponding Facebook, Twitter and other social media accounts to demonstrate ‘social proof’ that they exist. If their other social media profiles appeared online around the same date as their dating profile, this could be an indicator of deception. If their Facebook profile has less than 100 friends or no people are tagged in their photos, this is also an indicator of a fake profile.

8. Traumatic life events

Many Catfish create elaborate stories to play on your sympathy, especially in the lead up to asking for money. Be aware of anyone who talks about major illnesses, traumas or unusual life events in the context of ‘feel sorry for me’.

9. Excuses, excuses, excuses

A key indicator of a Catfish is that they will not want to meet you in person (or via webcam). Be aware of anyone who constantly makes excuses as to why they can’t meet. A good guide is to aim to meet in person within one month of connecting online.

10. Trust your gut

Most victims of Catfish report that there were many little signs, lots of times when their gut told them NO but their heart told them YES. This is one situation where it is important to listen to your intuition, it’s there for a reason. Your unconscious mind gives you hints when it suspects someone is not the real deal, listen to it!

I know it’s a long blog post tonight but I honstly wanted to share with you how to be wise when it comes to others online.

I personally have had issues with fake profiles and I would rather the real person behind the fake profiles try and add me or contact me using their real accounts that way you can choose weither or not to respond appropriately.

Also check out mtv’s catfish series it will amaze you how vulnerable the people of this world can be when subjected to false promises and love.

Love to you all 😊

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

#seashellsandlipglossblog

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#catfish

You!!!!!

Evening all ❤️

To celebrate the return of the Netflix series You I’ve decided to do a little blog post.

For those who have not seen it your totally missing out…

Here is a little discription of what the first series was about.

What would you do for love?

For a brilliant male bookstore manager who crosses paths with an aspiring female writer, this question is put to the test.

A charming yet awkward crush becomes something even more sinister when the writer becomes the manager’s obsession.

Using social media and the internet, he uses every tool at his disposal to become close to her, even going so far as to remove any obstacle –including people — that stands in his way of getting to her.

Sounds creepy right things like this only happen for our viewing pleasure right…

Well your wrong.

I have been on receiving end of both sides being stalked and being called a stalker believe me neither of them is very nice.

The Internet is a wonderful place for humans to learn to grow to connect further than what we anticipate but it’s also a dark and sinister place.

When you share your life with millions of people you don’t realise how much information your giving freely.

This is something I didn’t take to lightly when I started blogging.

You think sharing a nice selfie or sharing your thoughts would just be innocent but to millions of people it can be interpreted many ways.

So let’s start with the stalker well it used to freak me out but now I find it quite sad for the person involved having an addiction to someone can be just as bad as drugs or alcohol abuse.

You can try and ignore block and try and move on with life but for that person temptation is always there curiousty gets the better of you.

It’s not fun for neither that are involved.

When I decided to blog I did think about the impact it would have on others.

But I couldn’t just give up because of the worry about upsetting people this is my life I couldn’t get my voice heard any other way so I decided to just go ahead with it.

I’m very technical headed I know my way around a computer but in no way will I be working for nasa in the future but I definitely understand alot about hidden ip’s and ways around hiding your true self online.

That’s the geek in me….

But anyway you can’t try and fool a smart women I see you taking a peek and honesty it’s not going to put me off my blogging.

I never disclose my location untill I’ve been and returned home.

I’m safety smart.

But honestly it’s not cool to have your every move watched and analysised by someone lurking in the shadows.

I’m more open than what people think if you want to know something and I’m comfortable with giving you an answer to your question then I will but if I’m not comfortable I will say.

That’s just me….

On to me being called a stalker….

We this I didn’t take lightly because it wasn’t me actually stalking I had been ghosted infact it had happened a few times by the same confused person.

I don’t actually think mine was stalking I’ve been stalked before it’s not nice so I wouldn’t want anyone else to go through it.

Mine was more a state of confusion of why what happened.. What did I do that was so wrong, why didn’t they like me.

Me being a virgo I needed to know well least to say I never did get the proper answer to why things went down the way they did.

So I just decided to drop it no point keep going over old ground.

No one likes rejection or to think there not good enough for soneone but instead of being honest people run away hide and block people of course your going to go a bit cuckoo trying to figure it all out.

You send the odd email or social friend request that’s not stalking.

Fake profiles, constant phone calls and messages and hiding who you are online to peep is stalking.

Not trying to find out why you wasn’t good enough for someone you fell in love with.

I just wanted to make that perfectly clear.

If my blog makes you uncomfortable please don’t read it I don’t make anyone click my link you do that out of your own curiosity.

Honestly I would recommend you watch you on Netflix it’s onto its second series now so if you haven’t seen it please watch from the start that’s what a real stalker is.

Stay smart stay safe..

Love to you all 😊

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 xxx

Netflix and chill ❤️

Hey all as I said in my previous post I’ve done nothing except for putting up Halloween decorations with my girls.

It is my favourite time of the year 🎃

Everyone loves Netflix infact ide be lost without it I absolutely love the fact its updated on a weekly basis and it has 1000s of great movies and TV series to watch.

You can literally binge watch if your not. Careful..

I just wanted to share with you a few series and films I’ve watched over the past few weeks and how I rate them.

So here it goes 📽️📺🎬

1. Insatiable (TV series) gets 7/10 from me.

2. Cold case files (true story series) 9/10 from me

3. Ready to mingle (film) 8/10 funny lighthearted

4. Fractured (film) 6/10 very weird film.

5. Into the tall grass (film) 6/10 again very weird adaptation to Stephen Kings novel.

6. Derry girls (TV series) 9/10 absolutely brilliant

7. Black mirror (TV series) 6/10 slightly weird but watchable

8. Hemlock Grove (TV series) 8/10 brilliantly weird.

9. Jack whitehall travels with my father (TV series) 9/10 I absolutely love this so funny.

10. Peaky blinders (TV series) has to be one of the best shows on TV ever 9/10

I’ve been keeping myself busy on quite evening when the girls are in bed by binge watching Netflix yes I’m gulity but it’s been a life saver for quite nights in… 😂

So go get Netflix now staying in is the new going out.

Have a great evening all don’t do anything I wouldn’t do 😉😉❤️

Love stacie xxx