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Evening all

I thought I would do a little blog on where I’m at just to let you all know why I’m not around as much at the moment.

Well the title says it all radio silence for the people who haven’t heard this saying before I will explain below.

It means a Β periodΒ ofΒ timeΒ when someone does notΒ communicateΒ with anotherΒ personΒ or otherΒ people.

Seems dramatic I know but its my choice.

I’ve needed to strip back every aspect in my life and look at what direction I was heading towards.

Believe me it wasn’t healthy to some extent I’m still battling with my demons.

I’ve been through a very long period of heartache and self loathing for such a long time I’ve just had enough.

Closing the last chapter was the hardest and I have one last hurdle to get over before I can truly move forward.

I suppose you have to fully let the old layers of yourself fall away before you can heal and rebuild yourself.

I’ve given so much of myself to people who didn’t deserve me.

Now I know that and it’s difficult for me to pull my energy back.

But it’s what’s needed for me to be the best person I can be.


It’s time for me to take back my power and allow myself to put myself first.

So I’ve decided to pull back my energy from social media even though its a great place to reach out and put yourself our there I don’t feel I’m 100% ready for it.

With me trying to engage with people I found it’s drained me physically and emotionally.

I just simply can’t find the strength to deal with other peoples issues at the moment it makes me  hypocritical giving our advice and not listing to my own inner wisdom.

I’ve decided to not post anymore pictures or videos of myself at the moment because Im really not happy within myself and because I want people to get to know the real me not just the outside exterior of myself.

Tommrow I’m back on my health kick and the universe is giving me a massive…
To move forward so I will be back after some me time and I will come back better and stronger.

Love to you all ❀️

Stacie xxx

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The Shutdown

Evening everyone

I hope your all OK…

This year has been pretty hectic for all of us and its about to get extra bumpy as mercury retrograde is on its way from October 14th to November 3rd.

So buckle up its going to be a wild ride.

I always feel very odd this time of the year it feels very much off balance.

Feels like I’m fighting for air in paper bag but never getting anywhere fast.

So frustrating for me because I’m a virgo and I’m impatient.

Every so often I feel utterly helpless my body feels drained and painful.

I’m in the process of clearing out an old cycle and becoming a newer more improved Stacie.

As if one transition wasn’t enough this year, I’ve been graced with another.

Progression is always needed to assend onto a better version of yourself.

During this period of time it gets very confusing and emotional.

You become more detached from the people around you.

Sometimes that’s not a bad thing this gives you time to observe the company you keep.

And who you allow to impact your life.

There’s no point holding on to people or situations that just cause you deep emotional anxiety and emotional pain.

Everybody will need to withdraw their energy at some point in life its unavoidable.

Think of it as a spiritual clear out nobody likes cobwebs in the corners of thier minds.

Mercury retrograde can be tough for us all but it’s how we handle ourselves during.

And what lessons can be learnt.

So how can we survive the next mercury retrograde….
Surviving Mercury retrograde is pretty simple: Remember to proofread everything, choose your words carefully, avoid signing contracts (or review them extra carefully), back up your data, and plan for travel mishap .

The truth, cosmic warrior, is that Mercury retrograde isn’t all bad; in fact, it can serve as your quarterly self-assessment.

How prepared are you for inconveniences? How zen are you feeling these days? Although Mercury retrograde isn’t a great time to make huge changes, it is ideal for reflection.

So if your feeling a little out of sorts at the moment and over the next few weeks that will be…

And its perfectly fine to be in hermit mode at the moment to avoid unnecessary stress and pain.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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π•Žπ•™π•’π•₯’𝕀 π•žπ•ͺ π•žπ•šπ•€π•€π•šπ• π•Ÿ

Hi

Here’s a little bit of late night blogging for you.

This is always the time that I reflect on my day.My house is quite and my mind is clear.

I was asked today what my mission was in life, do I have direct plans on where I would like my future to go.People are absolutely obsessed with making plans.

Yes it’s essential for travel and the more constructive way of life but when we look into our connections with people and future plans how can you really plan ahead.

Time changes in an instant so do connections no one can be prepared for that you just have to do your best to deal with situations as there unfolding.

No amount of planning can stop the inevitable from happening.I think this is where humans really go wrong in life.

Trying to press the stop button before their feet have even left the ground running.

It’s difficult trying to be yourself in a world that’s so judgemental.

My mission in life is to show people that anything is possible if you believe that you can achieve it.

So my mission is positivity, I won’t get involved with anything or anyone who I know will either have distructive trait or cause unessary negative vibes.

It’s not what I’m about anymore.I don’t want it and the world doesn’t need it.With great change also comes sacrifice you loose parts of yourself which you thought you where holding on to for all the right reasons turns out its only causing you more damage in the long run.

My mission isn’t to preach my mission is to make people awake to their own surroundings and to what serves thier greater good.

It feels great to give to connections but make sure you’re also giving to yourself.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝔾𝕝𝕠𝕨 π•Œπ•‘

Hiya Everyone

I hope you have had a great day I would like to say I have but that hasn’t been the case.

Do you know when you roll out of bed in the morning and you know its not going to be a great day both emotionally and physically, most the time these days I have my shit together.

But today I felt like the whole world was against me, my anxiety attacks are less and less these days since I’ve found my confidence back but still one slips through the cracks of that barrier that ive built so high around my soul and every now and again the old Stacie tries to remerge from the shadows and i have to rain her back into the darkness because that jush isn’t me anymore.

This blog post I’ve wanted to post for along time now and I’ve been putting it off for a while but i think its time to share it with you all.

To the people who know me in person who read my blog will understand exactly how I’ve been feeling and hopefully you will understand why I’ve needed to do what I have done to simply keep my head above water and to stop myself from drowning.

Up until the last six months Ive been at war with myself , my mind and my heart trying to align all three has been a battle and half.

I’ve always put others first and always put myself last just to make other people happy.

Ive loved and not always been loved back the old unrequited love is an arsehole.

I’ve sat there and listened and let someone pull me apart piece by piece for simply being me.

Ive kept calm when the fire inside me had raged.

I’ve been battered and bruised by my own self confidence.

Until that day comes and you think you know enough is enough I’m not taking this anymore.

I got up that morning in February and thought this is the last time i will allow my life and the people around me to control me..

It started with some external changes I was so determined to loose weight as that held my confidence back massively and I knew I had to drastically do something to achieve what i wanted so that was the first step for me.

So then the hair changed you always know when a women means business she changes her hair said coco channel , so that’s when my transformation really started when the red hair came along , that in itself gave me a lot of confidence.

Over the past 7 months i have worked on my surroundings and the company i kept.

I had taken a step back from anyone who brings drama to my life, I’m not about the drama, I just want a peaceful life.

One thing I realised when your going through a glow up is that some people will support you others will completely turn on you.

Ive been called nasty and evil plus lot more but i know that’s not me at all.

That’s the kind of people I haven’t got time for anymore.

We all go through bad times i know but its how we choose to evolve from it.

You see some people don’t like other people evolving due to their own insecurities, that’s when you realise that your energies are not meant to combine.

Your eyes open and you truly see people and situations that you once where involved with and think what the hell was i doing.

Transformation does that to you.

So what are my plans for the near future I’m sure that people will have something to say but you know what its my life my body I will do what makes me happy.

I don’t go into things blind I do my research..

so I’m fast approaching 33 and its time to start taking proper care of myself as vain as that sounds but again my choice, so i have been in touch with the Harley medical group to see if they will sort my loose skin from weight loss, that for me is a massive step in the mean time i will just have to put up with it.

Its ok people saying you look fine but its my choice i have to do what makes me happy and i would never go to the extreme.

So the glow up after such a rubbish time is amazing and I’m in this bubble at the moment where I feel untouchable from anything or anyone who caused me heartache and upset in the past.

If you like the new me then cool if you don’t then tough I’m never going back.

And I’m so proud of myself, I still have bad days and I know that one day someone will get me and will love me completely for just being me if given half the chance all I want to do is be happy but until then I’m like a elastic band I will always ping back ….

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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π•‹π•’π•π•œ 𝕀’𝕝𝕝 π•ƒπ•šπ•€π•₯π•–π•Ÿ

Afternoon all..

I hope you are all well and have had a great weekend.

Whist I’ve had a bit of time to myselfΒ  the past few days I’ve looked back over the last few months and how slowly started to bring myself back to life.

Mental health is so important to me because I understand how other people feel when their at a low point in life and how our minds affects ourΒ  progression, relationships and the way we see ourselves.

One of the main issues I had was trying to hold everything inside keeping feelings and emotions inside.

It really didn’t work it was like putting a packet of mentos in a bottle of coke and expecting it not to erupt..


It happens there’s no holding it in..

This is know as fight and flight mode..

When your in flight of fight mode which does happen a lot with people who have anxiety and other conditions that are linked to mental distress. All you want to do is run and hide away push everyone away and bottle everything up so you try to surpress your emotions and pretend your fine.


There are three stages of flight or flight alarm, resistance, and exhaustion.

Alarm – This occurs when we first perceive something as stressful, and then the body initiates the fight-or-flight response.

Resistance – If the perceived stress continues, the body stays activated at a higher metabolic level in an effort to offset the persistent stress.Β  The body cannot maintain this level indefinitely, and its resources will eventually deplete.

Exhaustion – Prolonged exposure to the stressor will result in the depletion of the body’s resources, and the resulting wear and tear will suppress the immune system and cause bodily functions to deteriorate.

This can lead to a variety of health issues and illnesses, including heart disease, digestive problems, depression, and diabetes.

It’s important we try and figure out what triggers us in order to help us not only move on but to help stop fight or flight reactions reaccurring.

It’s all about personal boundaries and allowing yourself to actually put you’re own needs first.

I’mΒ  always told by people IΒ  don’tΒ  know how you always manage toΒ  cope with certain situations and people.
I was always toldΒ  you’re extremely strong willed the answer to them would be yes I suppose so but all I wanted to scream is I’m not I just wear a mask like most people I’m good at suppressing my emotions which can then come across like I’m not affected by situations or people’s actions.

But actually I really am affected by it just good at hiding my feelings.

One of my biggest issues is trying to understand why people don’t like me i know in past situations I’ve not been the best possible person I could be.
But I’ve learnt from my mistakes.

I have issues with rejection I find it extremely hard to understand why people wouldn’t like me…


But the people who are close to me always tell me is because I actually try and achieve something in life and that I aways wear my heart on my sleeve.

I’ve come to realise that not everyone likes everyone and that’s OK sometimes there isn’t a reason and there isn’t an answer to your question you just have to accept it for what it is and move on.

It’s impossible to be liked by everyone and never try understand why people do things the way they do or say the things they say.

Your only in control of yourself.

It’s all about quality of friendship and family connections not quantity the people who love your will always listen to you however many times your need to scream or moan but never be scared to express how you really feel.

Your causing more damage to yourself than good by pretending you’re OK don’t be scared to ask for help or put yourself first.

Sending hugs to you all

Lots of love
Stacie xx

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Good evening..

Late night blogging for me its Monday and it’s a start of a brand new week.I wanted to share this blog with you all because at the moment I know people are struggling with their mental health and dealing with fear and anxiety.

When your forced to make changes or if a change is forced upon you it can be a very frustrating and confusing time let alone scary.

Some people deal with change well others don’t it’s just human nature.

Some have better coping mechanisms than others.I’m going to share some knowledge I’ve learnt over the past six months and how I’ve used it to help me progress..

1. Never change who you are to fit in with other’s…

I’ve been in this situation so many times.

Instead of being the person you are you end up being so far away from who you actually are and perceiving you’re self to be someone you’re not.

This is a massive lesson to learn because to all the people who just want to be liked by everyone it’s not going to happen…Sometimes in life people dislike you for no reason it happens.

Never ever under any circumstances try and fit in with others.You loose yourself in the process and whilst others around you are happy you will not be happy because you aren’t being your true self.

2. You will never understand another person’s actions towards you.

Dont try and debunk why someone treats you the way they do you will go round in circles in your own brain trying to figure it all out honestly it’s not worth it.

Life goes on always remember that and everyone has their own burdens to carry if you find a kind person around you be one.

3. Toughen up

I know it’s easy for me to say yes I said the exact same thing when I was told I’m too kind to people who don’t deserve it.It takes courage to stand up for yourself and say enough is enough.

I’m not dealing with this situation any more.

You either move past it or make life harder than it needs to be.

You don’t need to participate in every situation that gets thrown your way

People are going to think what they think and nothing you do or say will make them believe otherwise.

4. Don’t justify any decisions you make.

This one is simple it’s your life its your choice every decision you make is either for you to evolve and grow or to move on to something better.

If you feel it’s right go with your own gut instinct at the end of the day people talk it’s what humans do but you might as well just do it anyway regardless you can accept advice but never let someone criticise you for simply trying to better yourself.

5. Let them believe what they want to.

Best thing to do here don’t react when you enter transformation you care less about how others see you and more about how you see yourself.

What’s your self worth and why sometimes it doesn’t always pay you to be completely honest sometimes we just don’t need to say nothing at all…

People won’t understand how they treated you until you treat them in exactly the same way its just the way it is.

But don’t try and justify anything to anyone who’s already made up their mind about who you are.

Even if their perception is false.

6. The Chinese Whisperers

Massive lessons I’ve learnt this year is don’t believe everything someone says about someone.

We as humans are very quick to judge and get tangled up in all sort of drama that doesn’t really concern us.

This is my massive learning curve for 2020.

Leave people to fight their own battles.

We have all done it said something and thought why the hell have I just said that we are all human and make mistakes we live with alot of regret throughout life but its when you don’t learn from it that makes it dangerous for us.

I’m literally no longer getting involved with anything that doesn’t concern me you can’t keep making the same mistake.

You can’t bulid a new life by keep talking parts of the old one and trying to make the pieces fit it simply doesn’t work that way.

You will loose parts of yourself and people who you always thought would be around you forever but that’s part of the process where you are ready to move on.

You have your memories and sometimes that’s more than enough.

Stay strong

Love to you all

Stacie x

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𝔾𝕣𝕠𝕨π•₯𝕙 π•žπ•–π•’π•Ÿπ•€ π•”π•™π• π• π•€π•šπ•Ÿπ•˜ π•™π•’π•‘π•‘π•šπ•Ÿπ•–π•€π•€ 𝕠𝕧𝕖𝕣 π•™π•šπ•€π•₯𝕠𝕣π•ͺ

Good afternoon…

I hate to have to do blogs like this now because I’m so far away from the person who I was 18 months ago.
But as its my blog and I know people who truly care about me will understand every word that I wrote. Nothing else matters than how you see yourself.

So here it goes….

Hey I’m stacie I’m a 32 year old working mum of two.

I have two girls that I need to show strength and empowerment to.

Yes how ive evolved from who I once was and to the people who don’t understand why I’ve changed I’m going to explain a little.

If your affected by it then tough then maybe you know you have played a part in my story and maybe the truth hits home hard but that’s not my gulit it’s yours.

When all people say is oh well your strong you can deal with it but your actually screaming inside I can’t do this anymore, I’ve had enough yes this was me 18 months ago disappointed by ego, relationships,friendships and your own personal growth.

If I could go back now and slap myself 18 months previous I would.
How I’ve allowed others to use and walk over me.

To lie, abuse my friendship and my love then act like I was the one who put the knife in their back.

Well guess what I’ve just pulled the last knife out of my own back.

Whatever I’ve done in order to create my own innerpeace is my bussiness.

I’ve lost weight for me and I will continue to do what makes me happy…

And if I want to sit there in my bra and pants and post a selfie I will because this women is proud of who’s shes becoming.

After years of looking in the mirror and hating myself I finally have self love.

If you don’t like to see someone else progress then that’s your own issue.

I won’t settle for anything less than what I deserve.
So yes you can say who does she think she is.

But you don’t know the truth behind my change and why I needed to change myself.

I’m still here there’s still parts of stacie but I’ve upgraded and outgrown people who didn’t bring peace to my life my old ways of thinking have gone.

I’m still compassionate I still have a heart but the walls are a little higher..

No time for drama, fake friends or judgement.

I’m here to make something of myself.

So keep your judgement to yourself because it’s not welcome here.

We don’t cut people out for the fun of it we cut people out because we have finally opened our eyes.

I’m no angel I know that but one thing is I’ve learnt from my mistakes I don’t try and pass them off to someone else and hide.

But understand that sometimes people need to wipe slate clean and walk away from anything that damages the soul.

Sometimes that includes cutting ties and moving on.

Thanks for reading πŸ’“πŸ’—

Stacie xx
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πŸ’‹π•π•¦π•€π•₯ 𝔹𝕖 ℝ𝕖𝕒𝕝 πŸ’‹

Evening all ❀️I’m starting of tonights blog on a positive note because its all about the positivity and being your true self.

It’s very rare to find real people to connect with by real I mean the types of people who are straight up no strings bullshit attached

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Say it as it is.

Here’s the thing when you find yourself in a tough situation with another human being its difficult to try and come to terms with their reaction and behaviour.

In an instant they will completely forget everything you ever did that was kind or nice for them.

And they will only see the bad situation surrounding the connection the good won’t matter anymore.

Two adults should be able to sit and sort through differences with out acting like two kids in a playground.

Not everyone has to be an enemy.

If people actually take the time to think and work through problems the world would be a much better functioning place.

I’ve tried so many times to fix others I’ve forgotten to fix myself.

Let me tell you being honest doesn’t always make people think highly of you some people don’t want to hear the truth.

Beacause they see no errors in their way of life.

You can’t fix a connection if the other party isn’t taking half the responsibility for the issues surrounding you both.

There’s no smoke without fire.

I used to get so wrapped up in what other people thought of me I lost a little bit of myself each day trying to hide who I really was.

Now I just don’t care anymore I’m my authentic self and I’m trying to make my mark on the world.

Some people won’t like you for being real but don’t forget that comes from their own insecurities.

I’m not happy all the time.

But the one thing I will always be is honest.

I’m too tired for games, being scared of offending anyone & hiding the real me to make others feel comfortable.

Give me real honest communication any day.

A good connection is based on complete honesty.

If you feel you can’t be honest with either partners or freinships maybe it’s not meant to be.

I respect people more for being real.

Love to you all.

Stacie πŸ’‹πŸ’•β€οΈπŸ’•β€οΈ

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Evening all πŸ’•β€οΈ

Two blogs in one day I’m spoiling you all.

Tonights topic is all about drama and how life and people can pull you into all different situations.

It’s all about how you react to a situation.

Tonight I just want to give some clear advice this is coming from someone who’s always dealt with these kind tough situations.

Like most people I’ve had my fair share of heartache and problems some I’ve caused myself some have been caused by others.

Let’s start with me and how I have sometimes caused my own drama.

I’m an introvert I overthink everything it can cause me to have anxiety attacks if I dwell on situations for to long.

Instead of me finding a rational explanation I will act on impulse and either do something I instantly regret.

Or say something that I haven’t really thought about before saying it and then it’s too late it’s been said.

I’m also too honest which doesn’t always work in my favour.

As I get older I’m having to change my way of thinking and how I approach situations that I feel uncomfortable about.

It still doesn’t stop me shutting down and pushing others away.

That’s just my stubborn behaviour.

But im learning that not every situation needs a negative response.

Sometimes not every situation needs a reaction at all.

Now let’s talk about the elephant in the room.

Other people….

Let me just say this clearly whatever you do or say to someone else you need to realise that you will never be able to control their actions or response.

You can’t control what they think of you it’s completely up to the person in question how they perceive you.

But what you are in control of is how much emotion you invest into a situation.

We as humans will never be able to fully understand each other.

We aren’t wired the same way mentally we are physically but not mentally you cannot control other people’s views of you.

Some will like you and find your personality traits amazing.

Some people just get on better than other’s.

It’s just human nature.

Some will find you annoying egotistical possibly can’t stand to be around you and everything you say will always be wrong.

You can’t please everyone.

And never try to understand why people do the things they do.

If it comes from malace my best advice would be to just simply not engage it’s not worth it leave them to it.

Don’t walk your path with hate just simply let it go.

These are karmic lessons on not to make same mistakes twice.

But never ever let anyone stop you from progressing by dragging you into unnecessary drama.

I have no time for it.

I’ve let alot go from my past I’m only ever going forward.

Remember you can’t control the person or situation but you can change how you react to it.

P. S be kind, be beautiful, be you

Love to you all.

Stacie πŸ’•β€οΈπŸ’•β€οΈπŸ’‹

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Evening all ❀️

Sending out virtual hugs to you all.

Tonight i wanted to give you all a little bit of an update on myself.

And go through explaining the process of how I’ve started to turn my life around.

Firstly you will see from previous blogs that i have been put through an emotional whirlwind past few months.

Finally the times are changing.

Since gaining my confidence back I’ve been working on other area’s of my life.

Having a bit of an emotional clear out is what I needed.

As you start changing old patterns in you life you will see both blessings and true colors of others around you.

We don’t see that others can actually hold us back instead of helping us grow.

Until we start to make drastic changes in life.

As sad as it seems sometimes we just outgrow people, places and situations thats life.

Thank them for being apart of your journey and move on.

I know it maybe hard to understand that Selflove is important, you must remember to nurture yourself aswell as giving to others.

I’ve had to change because i couldn’t carry on down the path of self destruction.

Change the mindset and you will receive.

I’ve had a lot of people try and put me down just for simply trying to be me.

But not anymore I’ve made changes im just not the same person as I used to be.

Change has to occur to allow us to grow.

Now I’ve started changing my mindset I’ve started to attract positivity to my life and thing’s have really started to progress for me.

Im currently a brand influencer to three brands and the list is growing daily.

Bohogirljewellery.com

Xquizit Attire

Sexy lingerie

I’m super excited to be a part of such great brands.

I also continue to support local businesses and national businesses.

Im also part of a fantastic blogging team called fashion potluck i was selected by their panel to join.

Soon im hoping to be doing vlogging.

And of course more singing and song writing.

Ans im also designing some of own clothing range.

I’m very happy at the moment i don’t have time to sit and dwell on the past.

When my future is looking so busy.

Just a little bit of positive engery and a clearer mind can attract a better future.

Until next time….

Love to you all 😊

Stacie 🐚 πŸ’‹ πŸ’„ ❀️ ❀️

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