Happy Sunday to you all I’m sorry I won’t be doing a weekly Spiritual Guidance Post this week I’m having a break, if truth be told I’m going to waste my whole Sunday playing sims 4.
Just because in sims I’ve got a better handle on life.
I’ve decided to do this post today because we have all dealt with a few narcissistic people in our life time.
You know the ones who are completely deluded that they have played a part in causing another human being pain.
It’s so easy to fall into a narcissistic trap because they are clever, at first they’ll say all right things and do all the right things to reel you in.
Once you have fallen into that black hole of nothingness it’s very difficult to pull yourself out of it.
It’s extremely difficult to remove yourself from a situation like this especially when you hold nothing but love for someone.
I can hundreds percent relate to the whole aspect of being in a connection with a certain individual.
That has these traits….
During the last few months of lockdown I feel its either gone two ways for people they have either been stuck within a narcissistic connection or have come within their power and a realisation that enough is enough and its time to act accordingly.
So how do you starve a narcissistic of your energy.
I know that a few of these steps won’t be easy for you but one thing I can promise you with time and self healing you will be fine.
This advice is from someone who’s been through it all yes it’s myself.
1. Go no contact.
This is the best option for you! If at all possible, cut all contact with him immediately and at once.
2. Be uninterested
This is the best option for you if you must have contact with the narcissist. Show no emotion, only answer the questions that must be answered and do so quick and to the point. Do not react at all to anything the narcissist says. Do not bite his bait of arguments or discussion about things that you’ve already discussed. Keep everything you say and do with him to an absolute minimum devoid of any emotion.
3. Keep it simple.
If you must have contact with the narcissist, keep all interaction brief. If he sends you a million texts, respond to only whatever is absolutely necessary. If you have to meet up, do what you came there for and nothing further. Again, remember – no emotion!
4. Walk away when their manipulative.
Whenever they starts to try to engage you, manipulate or blame you, walk away. Just end the conversation by leaving it. Don’t try to explain or reason with them about what’s happening. Just walk away. Soon you’ll train the narcissist that you aren’t available to be their energy supply any longer.
5. Don’t talk about the narcissist with people who know them.
If possible, don’t speak with them at all, but if you must, avoid details about your personal life and anything to do with the narcissist.
All of that information will end up making its way back to the narcissist and he or she can be fed energy from you through the third party. they will know what irks you and what buttons to push. they will know how their affecting you and you’ll continue to be seen as their energy source.
6. Set boundaries and don’t back down from them.
The reason the narcissist made their way into your life in the first place was because you didn’t have healthy boundaries in place.
Learn from that and implement the changes you need to make now!
Don’t feel bad for your boundaries and don’t reason your way out of enforcing them (i.e., “He or she doesn’t really know what he’s or she is doing,” or they are making improvements and he or she can change”). You teach other people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.
7. Live your life.
Work on you, focus on you, build your future!
Don’t allow the narcissist to take any more of your time.
Set goals for yourself and celebrate when you reach them.
Build a healthy support system around you and don’t look back! There’s nothing for you back there.
Start implementing these things and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll find that the narcissist has no more hold on you!
One thing you always need to remember is that you hold the power to your own destiny we all get blindsided by love and connections but always believe in your own power to set boundaries and realise your self worth.
Do any of you get bored of you’re hair colours very quickly…
If so you are very much like me I get so bored of being the same all the time , It doesn’t matter how many times you reinvent yourself as long as your happy that all that matters.
So I swapped my shadow root black and red hair to split coloured hair this weekend , Ive been wanting to do for a while and because I’m a bit impulsive and different i hate looking the same just to fit in with society.
So I don’t really listen to other peoples opinion’s as I live my life the way I want to live it.
Home Hair colouring can send shockwaves of anxiety through your body , so many questions surrounding home haircolouring but ive decided to do this blog to try and ease your worries.
I must add i have had training and passed both in hair & beauty level 2 & 3.
So please be aware I am familiar with the science behind hair products.
I must state that if your going to colour your own hair please follow the guidelines on the the product you purchase regarding patch testing before going ahead with the full head colouring .
Select your best shade
To find your best shade at the store, eye those close to your current one.
Boxed dyes are usually displayed in colour order on a shelf, Hold a section of your hair up to a box to find a close match, then choose from the next two shades on either side.
You don’t want to run out of dye halfway through the process.
Make sure you purchase enough product
If your hair is shoulder length or longer, you may need two boxes to cover your whole head, depending on hair thickness.
If you end up with a leftover box, you can always save it for next time or return it.
Do not mix Hair colours of different shades
Unless you’re a professional, combining multiple different shades of hair colour is not recommended (ever!).
None of the major companies would guarantee that the resulting colour would be a predictable combination.
In fact, even when you stick with a single colour, the result usually varies slightly from what’s pictured on the box.
Your best bet is to simply pick one shade and follow the instructions to the letter, strand test included.
Always follow strand and skin test procedures
Though bypassing it is tempting, the strand test is key, especially when trying a new shade.
Colour a few trimmed or hidden hairs first, then look at the result before you commit.
A common horror story from testers who didn’t do this hair that turned orange and purple or green.
Having the right tools to do the task at hand.
Set up your tools on the counter before you begin.
Read through the included instructions before you jump in.
That way, you’ll be clear on the steps and won’t have to stop mid-process, which could lead to mistakes like leaving the dye on too long or missing areas.
Always Apply Colour to dry hair
Hair colour experts (and hair colour packaging directions) recommend dyeing your hair when it is dry.
When hair is saturated with water, the dye may not take to the hair strands or become diluted, producing an undesirable result.
You should begin applying hair dye at the roots.
Always apply to the roots first
Because they are where regrowth occurs first and the least damaged part of hair, they need the most colour and processing time.
Let the hair colour develop for the amount of time indicated on packaging directions. Then comb it through the rest of your hair to distribute it evenly and avoid a two-tone effect.
Look in two mirror’s
Colouring the back of your head can be tricky.
Use a double mirrors to check the back of your head in the bathroom mirror as you colour so you won’t miss spots.
Get rid of unwanted dye spills before they stain your skin.
To sweep away any dye splatters as they happen so they don’t have a chance to set, have facial cleansing wipes on hand or a simply baby wipe will do.
Choosing new colour hair products
No shampoo is totally colour-safe, since all shampooing requires wetting hair — and water itself strips dye “Though sulphate-free shampoos are thought to slow down colour loss, our tests have found that they don’t always perform significantly better than those with sulphate’s.
Extend your shade’s life with a shampoo or conditioner designed specifically for colour-treated hair ,Look for terminology such as “colour protect,” “colour-preserving” or “for colour” on packaging. They’re less likely to strip away added colour (which other products may), so your new shade lasts longer.
Some find it easier to just go to the salon and leave it to the expert’s but for me I like to do my own hair because I know exactly what I want and from experience not all salons will give you your desired outcome.
But please know I do have previous experience within the hairdressing industry to perform more complex hair colouring technique’s on my own hair.
Here is my new colour below ….
If you have any questions please feel free to contact me using the contact box or comments below..
Tonight’s article is all about changing your mindset and applying positivity to your own life.
I wanted to talk this evening on changing your own mindset , I know that sometimes its difficult to remain positive in tough situation’s or when your surrounded by negative people.
But you will be surprised how quickly life will change when you remain positive and manifest the life you require.
No one want’s to just settle in life but the key is to always be one step ahead.
Changing your mindset wont happen overnight it will happen gradually you will start to see progression in your own life just from changing the way you think and react to situations and people around you.
Let me ask you a few questions..
Have you always put other people’s happiness before your own?
2. Do you sometimes feel envious of other peoples lives’ ?
3.Do you want to make positive changes but don’t know how ?
Let me answer the best way I can.
Are you a human being who thrives on making others smile and making people happy , do you put there happiness before your own ?
Let me stop you right there without sounding to harsh its ok to wear your heart on your sleeve but you can’t pour from an empty glass , you must make sure you nurture your own soul before you give your all to someone else, if you have ever gone along with a situation that your not completely at ease with just to make someone else happy this is where I stop you and say don’t put yourself in a situation you don’t feel comfortable with just to please someone else in the long run you will only have regrets.
You should feel able to openly speak with family and friends if you don’t feel comfortable with a situation, If you don’t feel you can openly communicate then maybe working on your relationship’s and friendship’s are needed and understanding is needed from both parties.
Its ok to feel envious of people, not everyone has the same outlook on life or wish fulfilment, everyone’s back story is different too, if its wealth you seek or true love make sure to apply manifestation to your life.
I would highly recommend a dream board to start the law of attraction process within your life.
Many people have used this technique to apply positivity to their lives.
May i also suggest this amazing book I’ve come across to help you understand the applying of law and attraction to the universe.
It can be extremely difficult to make changes in life when your unsure on where to start , I’m going to give you a few pointers below.
1. Identify and understand what you want to change.
Whenever you decide to make a change, you must first understand why you’re making the change in the first place.
“You need to be able to identify what it is about your goal that adds to you as a person, that makes you feel better and more expansive,”
If your goal aligns with your core values, then “the thought of it will trigger a positive gut feeling.”
2. Rid your life of negativity.
This is not as simple as it may sound. If you’re surrounded by negativity, then how can you expect to have a positive and joyful life?
In fact, those who are negative or surrounded by negativity are more stressed, get sick more often, and have less opportunities than those who are positive.
“When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive.”
Of course, that’s easier said than done. That’s why he suggests that you can accomplish this goal by doing the following:
You’ll find when you complete these steps, you’ll become more confident in your life.
3. Exercise more often.
You may be getting tired of hearing everyone telling you that you need more exercise. Sure. Exercising is great for you physically. But, it’s also an excellent way to become more positive in life.
Exercise can change the direction of most situations in your life.
The benefits of exercise are immeasurable. You gain purpose, drive, but most of all it teaches you a discipline.
For starters, when you exercise, you feel better about yourself, which leads to having more confidence. Exercise also reduces anxiety and stress and releases euphoric chemicals in the brain like endorphins and dopamine.
4. Build a support network.
A “strong social support network can be critical to help you through the stress of tough times, whether you’ve had a bad day at work or a year filled with loss or chronic illness.” This group of friends, family, and peers is also important because they provide additional benefits like providing a sense of belonging, an increase in self-worth, and a feeling of security whenever you need advice, information, or guidance.
5. Take baby steps.
“The one primary motivator that leads us to persevere is baby steps, That’s because when we look at the big picture we can get overwhelmed with all of the steps involved in achieving a goal.
Instead, break the “big picture goal down into systematic, manageable baby steps.” Then, document and celebrate your wins daily.
This will help you achieve that change that you’ve been seeking in a positive way and meaningful way.
Key is not to be so hard on yourself change can be fearful but letting go of negative influences and patterns can open new pathways.
Just always remember to nurture yourself and let positivity flow.
I hope your having a great bank holiday tomorrow my annual leave is over and it’s back to work for me.
As the Country tries to get back to some sort of normality, I know there will be many apprehensive parents regarding sending children back into full time education.
I don’t normally talk about my children on my blog but, I wanted to share my experience dealing with my own children and current pandemic covid 19 and how its affected there social needs.
I am fully aware that I’m not the only parent who has had similar issues especially if you have older children in high school .
When lockdown hit a state of national panic set in it’s a situation when have never had to deal with undoubtable it was freighting at times , the fear of daily life’s restricted and of course catching the virus and spreading it to more vulnerable people was a massive worry , schools , shops , entertainment venues where forced to shut people where continually glued to social media and the news.
As a parent we have to try and be strong for our children me I’m already O.C.D about my kids touching things and being to far away from me unless their in a secure environment like school or with family.
But what i haven’t really understood until now is how its deeply affected them both mentally and physically.
School is a normal way of life its six hours from Monday to Friday where they are learning, mixing with friends without the influence of parents.
School helps children grow it gives them their confidence and helps them widen there skills to help them through the early stages of Life.
I’ve seen mixed emotions online regarding children going back to school , if you want my honest view and this is totally my personal opinion on it all , I may get some negative press regarding this but honestly it’s just how I perceive the situation
It’s time for them to go back , of course they will not be able to mix with children in a normal manner but at least its a start to bringing back their normal routine.
I have to say home schooling has been somewhat stressful its been many years since I was school and the curriculum has changed so much i know I’m not the only parent who will agree.
My youngest child has asked many questions regarding Covid and ive tried to give the most honest replies some time’s its not been easy but we have managed to explain the best way we know how.
My eldest i feel has been frightened it got to the point I’ve had to remove her social media with there being a lot of fake news she can be very vulnerable so i felt it was the best outcome to try and ease her anxiety.
When talking to our children about difficult situations it can leave us a wreck it makes us really question our abilities as parents, here we have tiny humans who are like sponges may I add they absorb all information that may not hold the complete truth, that in itself causes anxiety and depression over time.
Ive watched my children closely over this pandemic and ive noticed certain negative changes and its been challenging even more than normal.
Ive tried to put plans in place to help them both progress but what i have found out is that being open and talking to each other on a level a child or teenager would understand its helped ease their worries.
I have listed a few tips below to help worried parents , try not to be to hard on yourself either.
Don’t be afraid to talk about it: Convey the facts and set an emotionally reassuring tone.
Be age-appropriate: Teens can process and handle a higher level of detail than five year olds. Focus on answering your child/student’s questions. Do your best to answer honestly and clearly; it’s okay if you can’t answer everything.
Follow their lead: Invite your child or student to ask questions and share their perspective: Invite them to tell you anything they may have heard about the coronavirus and express how they feel.
Check yourself: Feeling anxious? Take some time to calm down before trying to have a conversation or answer your child’s questions.
Focus on actions you can take: Emphasize safety precautions everyone can take to help keep themselves and others healthy: good hand hygiene, cough and sneeze etiquette, social distancing and staying home if you aren’t feeling well.
Stick to routine: Structured days with regular mealtimes and bedtimes are an essential part of keeping kids happy and healthy.
Keep talking: Tell kids/students you will keep them updated as you learn more. Let them know the lines of communication are going to be open and as you learn more, you will share the information with them, too.
Please feel free to share this image with your children.
(Not schools are recommending facemasks’ be sure to check your child’s school for guidelines )
I know there will be many worried parents over the next few days but we are all in this together please remember that school’s have guidelines that they need to stick by ordered by the government like everything a massive learning curve for us all i do feel this will be the way of life for a while.
But its so important that we address the mental health side of this pandemic within children as they are the next generation and support and structure is needed.
I hope you are well, I just wanted to do a quick blog about a new exciting opportunity I have decided to progress forward with.
I’m not sure if any other fellow bloggers have come across the term guest blogging, but its Guest blogging, also called “guest posting,” is the act of writing content for another company or sole talent.
But why have I chosen to showcase other people’s business and talent’s I hear you ask.
I feel its extremely important to help each other grow there are times in life where we need to be selfish but when it comes to empowerment and recognising other peoples talents it doesn’t help to show your support.
All throughout my younger years ive built up my talent skills and I can really put my hand to mostly anything call me del boy but honestly there isn’t anything I wont try and learn to help with my own progression.
But what I lacked was support and people willing to help me grow so after a few failed attempts I know how gut wrenching it feels when you fail due to lack of support.
So here I am the universe gave me a sign to empower people and showcase their business and talents.
And it maybe only a small gesture of my own good will but from one small gesture can come some amazing opportunities.
All my life ive been selfless and I’ve always wanted to help others I suppose I wear my heart on my sleeve but I truly know how hard it is to be heard in a world that’s always so noisy.
So here is my pitch i hope it draws you in to work along side me lets help each other grow.
Once a month i will be giving away one free guest blog spot on my own blog seashells and lipgloss blog.
This post will stay on my blog indefinitely so that new readers will always be able read your blog and get to know your business and your talent’s leading them to choose to follow your journey through your own social media accounts and lead to potential clientele growth.
I’m looking for…
Artist’s , Musicians’, Photographer’s , All Small Businesses , Charites, Venues , Creative Writer’s.
I’m open to new talent opportunities also it doesn’t just have to be what’s listed above.
If your interested in what I have to offer please email me on..
email@example.com or via my contact block below
Hello and happy Friday here from lovely sunny Merseyside.
I hope you are all ok whatever you have planned for today i really hope you have a wonderful day.
I’ve just finished my morning workout and i felt inspired to blog so here i am coffee at the ready.
If your hoping for juicy gossip going from my blog title unfortunately I’m not allowed to tell all at the moment that’s for another article when i’m ready to share but admit its caught your attention hasn’t it .
I wanted to connect to all my fellow bloggers or newbies that are just starting out.
To give insight into how ive progressed with my blog and what’s helped me along the way.
I’m going to start of by saying welcome to your own special place on the internet where you can completely be yourself , yes you heard that correctly you can be yourself.
One thing i have learnt from blogging is that its perfectly fine to express yourself but use your experience’s and your words constructively.
Depending on what type of blogger you see yourself as people tend to stick to relatively the same category i.e fashion , travel , reviews etc.
With me i prefer to just be a lifestyle blogger i can pick and choose from a wide range of subjects that i can create article’s from and hopefully my readers can engage and relate to them .
Trying to find your niche can be tough but once you have the hang of it , its pretty much straight forward.
Remember that blogging can be a form of therapy to, it’s worked better for me than any therapist has.
Its your experience’s that really connects with your readers being completely open helps you engage better with your blogging community to.
Ive been blogging since April 2019 and at first my reach to my readers was relatively slow but after a few months the number of readers started to get higher and higher.
Ive never been fantastic at English or spelling as I’ve openly admitted in previous posts but who cares that’s what spell check is for right…
When i first started my blog i was going through a very bad time in my personal life with no outlet to get all my emotions out but i used my blog to constructively express myself trying my hardest to leave certain experiences out of my blog due to legal obligations .
So why did i choose a name I hear you all say rather than just call my blog by my own name well its because mine is a brand not just Stacie.
And Stacie is pretty boring just kidding.
Call it my alter ego…
Seashells and Lipgloss comes from my two favourite things and it also links my location within my blog.
Seashells because i live by the seaside and I love it and lipgloss because who doesn’t love lipgloss and the fact i don’t go anywhere with out it.
Fits perfectly for me lets get with how this article can help you find your way in the blogging network .
Coming up with great tagline titles really does help i sometimes use song lyrics , quotes or my own depending on what subject I’m blogging about and if it’s a article , poetry or product review.
Deciding if your going to be completely truthful or to try curve your words to fit to your audience.
I choose to be my authentic self I’m very vocal in my every day life i always state if its an over 18 post because i feel its important to give people a heads up if they choose not to engage that’s fine not everyone likes cussing .
Using gifs oh how i love a gif who doesn’t i love using them i’m well known for using them to as my other blogging platform community tells me #fashionpotluck.
There catchy i love them.
Using your own pictures is always a must especially if your advertsing a product being authentic is important and don’t be afraid to blog as many times as you like a day its your blog.
I try to blog at least once a day to try and keep my viewers interested but someone times life takes over and your not able to so don’t worry if you can’t blog everyday.
Coming to the end of my article I want you to all know that if you write a blog and its important to you then it really doesn’t matter what other peoples views are its your thoughts you send out to the universe and out on your blog.
People are not forced to engage they choose to by their own free will.
So just write your heart out and remember each experience makes us stronger.
If you have any questions please comment below ❤️👇