A different point of view.

Evening all

It’s been a minute since I’ve connected with you all.

It’s really difficult at the moment to get into the Christmas spirit, I think we can all agree that Christmas will be a very different one this year.

But we are all in the same situation!!!

I wanted to blog tonight because I recently received a message regarding a subject that really gets my back up.

I literally hate it when people make a comment that’s so unacceptable that they honestly need to check themselves before making such stupid comments to others.

Words hurt but people don’t seem to understand that.

So I had a message from a female on my instagram this lovely lady had recently received a very silly message on her own Instagram.

So the message said ooh girl if you lost a bit of weight and had a bit of work done to your face you would be amazing I’d definitely date you then.

Let me just clarify something for your someone else’s weight isn’t anyones concern neither is their appearance.

If you dont like what you see simply scroll on and leave people be.

I’ve dealt with messages like this before so the lovely lady had messaged me asking for my advice on how I personally dealt with this situation.

I told her…

If I wasn’t such a strong person people’s opinions would really run deep.

But listen I’ve dealt with rejection, I’ve dealt with insults.

If I want to eat a family size pack of biscuits with an afternoon brew I will do ..

Thats my choice!!

My weight doesn’t define me or my personality.

If my face offends anyone tough.

People can I just say this to you all never ever let someones comments bring you down.

Weight doesn’t define a person.

I know slimmer people who struggle with confidence, the outside doesn’t define who the person is on the inside.

Always remember that.

If you feel like you need to loose weight then do it for all the right reasons not because someone told you too.

But again size doesn’t define someone’s personality.

The face comment I told her I felt was dam right cheeky, some people have no shame, it’s OK to have an opinion but keep them to yourselves.

Not everyone likes everyone.

But there is always someone for everyone.

But I could tell this comment had really knocked this lovely ladies confidence.

Sometimes rejection teaches you very valuable life lessons it also teaches you self worth.

If any one is telling you anything like this lovely lady has had to deal with thrown them a wide curve ball and hope it hits their ego pretty dam hard.

Maybe suggest that they might want to watch shallow hal in the future and learn how to complement someone appropriately without judgment.

So chin up lovely your beautiful always remember that….

and keep being yourself.

Love Stacie xx

Losing yourself to find yourself

Life is a funny old thing isn’t it?

How many of us find ourselves hoping for a better day ahead.

You can find yourself so wrapped up with daily routine and structure, you forget how much of your life is passing you by.

Do you crumble at the idea of not having a plan in place for every outting or experience in life.

Then you just maybe existing and not living.

A lot of people need structure and fear spontaneous life events.

The classic what if moment.

That fills us with anxiety and fear of rejection.

Some of the best experiences in life are followed by a ephiany moment….

We as humans are stronger than we think.

An advantage human can go through several transition in a lifetime its how we evolve and adapt to change.

As you know change is inevitable and if the universe thinks that you are heading in the wrong direction it will make changes for you.

We loose our true self for all sorts or reasons but one thing is pretty much certain we always find our way back to our authentic self.

It’s difficult feeling being lost and hopeless, not knowing what’s next.

But not every situation needs to be controlled and it doesn’t need a plan either.

If your like me then I find it extremely hard to let my guard down and trust people, I hate not knowing why and when, but one thing I’ve learnt is it doesn’t matter how much you need structure or answers you don’t always get it.

For myself now don’t force anything any more because anything that needs to be forced isn’t worth having.

And great things can happen when you loosen the grip of needed to control everything.

There’s no magic eight ball…

But you have your intuition so use it well and trust the process only then will you find the way back to your authentic self.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

Listen… It’s not your job to be everything to everyone.

Evening all I’ve not late night blogged for a while but it’s Sunday evening and

I’m filled with anxiety again.

There’s days where I need to have a moment to myself just to put my head straight.

It’s extremely difficult to be one hundred percent who you are these days.

I find that people are very judgmental and quick to jump to conclusions.

Without the facts.

I have to say that sometimes humans don’t have an alternative motif for just simply being helpful or truthful.

Sometimes it’s just in their nature to be honest without fear and to want to work hard to make a difference.

I truly believe that the current situation I find myself in is exactly where I need to be, you find yourself in certain situations in life where there is either lessons to be learnt or truth to be given in order for change to take place.

Somethings been stagnant for to long stubborn for change then….

You smack bang in the middle of a situation you either need to learn from or make a difference.

One thing I’ve realised is when you see through people your not very well liked that’s a know fact.

When your real and disconnect from the drama that’s when you become the drama and in no way shape or form have I got time for drama.

I’m literally at that stage where I still feel anxious and some days I’m not as strong.

But honestly your put on this earth to yes be thoughtful of others but to also be thoughtful of yourself.

I can’t stress enough to people if your struggling to juggle life and struggling with the people around you.

Distance is sometimes the best key you can never pour from an empty cup.

You can make sure your vessel is fine but if the minds off balance then the two don’t work in harmony.

Don’t put to much pressure on yourself to be the perfect parent, sibling, partner, friend or work colleague.

You need to nurture your own soul before you give to others.

When people try and drag you into Drama don’t fall for it, if it’s not your issue then leave it, some people don’t like the truth and can be….

But don’t fall for it you can’t fix everything or everyone so don’t try to.

Just be honest to yourself and honest with others and if your respected for it great if not there’s no love lost.

Good night everyone

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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Evening all ❀️I’m starting of tonights blog on a positive note because its all about the positivity and being your true self.

It’s very rare to find real people to connect with by real I mean the types of people who are straight up no strings bullshit attached

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Say it as it is.

Here’s the thing when you find yourself in a tough situation with another human being its difficult to try and come to terms with their reaction and behaviour.

In an instant they will completely forget everything you ever did that was kind or nice for them.

And they will only see the bad situation surrounding the connection the good won’t matter anymore.

Two adults should be able to sit and sort through differences with out acting like two kids in a playground.

Not everyone has to be an enemy.

If people actually take the time to think and work through problems the world would be a much better functioning place.

I’ve tried so many times to fix others I’ve forgotten to fix myself.

Let me tell you being honest doesn’t always make people think highly of you some people don’t want to hear the truth.

Beacause they see no errors in their way of life.

You can’t fix a connection if the other party isn’t taking half the responsibility for the issues surrounding you both.

There’s no smoke without fire.

I used to get so wrapped up in what other people thought of me I lost a little bit of myself each day trying to hide who I really was.

Now I just don’t care anymore I’m my authentic self and I’m trying to make my mark on the world.

Some people won’t like you for being real but don’t forget that comes from their own insecurities.

I’m not happy all the time.

But the one thing I will always be is honest.

I’m too tired for games, being scared of offending anyone & hiding the real me to make others feel comfortable.

Give me real honest communication any day.

A good connection is based on complete honesty.

If you feel you can’t be honest with either partners or freinships maybe it’s not meant to be.

I respect people more for being real.

Love to you all.

Stacie πŸ’‹πŸ’•β€οΈπŸ’•β€οΈ

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Evening all πŸ’•β€οΈ

Two blogs in one day I’m spoiling you all.

Tonights topic is all about drama and how life and people can pull you into all different situations.

It’s all about how you react to a situation.

Tonight I just want to give some clear advice this is coming from someone who’s always dealt with these kind tough situations.

Like most people I’ve had my fair share of heartache and problems some I’ve caused myself some have been caused by others.

Let’s start with me and how I have sometimes caused my own drama.

I’m an introvert I overthink everything it can cause me to have anxiety attacks if I dwell on situations for to long.

Instead of me finding a rational explanation I will act on impulse and either do something I instantly regret.

Or say something that I haven’t really thought about before saying it and then it’s too late it’s been said.

I’m also too honest which doesn’t always work in my favour.

As I get older I’m having to change my way of thinking and how I approach situations that I feel uncomfortable about.

It still doesn’t stop me shutting down and pushing others away.

That’s just my stubborn behaviour.

But im learning that not every situation needs a negative response.

Sometimes not every situation needs a reaction at all.

Now let’s talk about the elephant in the room.

Other people….

Let me just say this clearly whatever you do or say to someone else you need to realise that you will never be able to control their actions or response.

You can’t control what they think of you it’s completely up to the person in question how they perceive you.

But what you are in control of is how much emotion you invest into a situation.

We as humans will never be able to fully understand each other.

We aren’t wired the same way mentally we are physically but not mentally you cannot control other people’s views of you.

Some will like you and find your personality traits amazing.

Some people just get on better than other’s.

It’s just human nature.

Some will find you annoying egotistical possibly can’t stand to be around you and everything you say will always be wrong.

You can’t please everyone.

And never try to understand why people do the things they do.

If it comes from malace my best advice would be to just simply not engage it’s not worth it leave them to it.

Don’t walk your path with hate just simply let it go.

These are karmic lessons on not to make same mistakes twice.

But never ever let anyone stop you from progressing by dragging you into unnecessary drama.

I have no time for it.

I’ve let alot go from my past I’m only ever going forward.

Remember you can’t control the person or situation but you can change how you react to it.

P. S be kind, be beautiful, be you

Love to you all.

Stacie πŸ’•β€οΈπŸ’•β€οΈπŸ’‹

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No more drama Mary j bilge

𝕀π•₯’𝕀 𝕛𝕦𝕀π•₯ π•π•šπ•—π•–, 𝕀π•₯’𝕝𝕝 𝕓𝕖 𝕠𝕧𝕖𝕣 𝕓𝕖𝕗𝕠𝕣𝕖 𝕨𝕖 π•œπ•Ÿπ• π•¨ π•šπ•₯.

Are we living or just existing.

Are we composed and consistent.

One day we are here and the next we are not.

We have to cherish all that we have got.

Its not about money or the treasures you seek.

Just to simply be happy and the memories we keep.

Don’t be scared to say how you feel.

Because even after all this time we allow ourselves to heal.

Be grateful for love be grateful for pain be grateful for the sun and the rain.

Be grateful for the air that you breathe.

Be grateful for the dreams but you must believe.

We all get one chance to walk the earth as us.

Be present be proud and learn to adjust.

Learn to love with all your heart.

Even when times get tough and you’re apart.

Beacuse all that matters in the end.

Is who we become next my friend.

Stacie Leanne 22/06/2020

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Afternoon all ❀️

I really hope you are all ok .

Bit of a weird blog today about being mindful of others and of yourself.

Its not been a bad weekend but ive awoken today to feel somewhat very withdrawn in myself.

Ive got things on my mind.

Peoples coping mechanisms are different to others, i would rather withdraw than keep going over the same conversation about my emotional unbalances.

I don’t think i could find the correct words to explain, im no good at all that.

I’ve been called somethings in my time needy, obsessed, to much, attention seeker..

Thing is im none of them and i don’t see why i should get tarnished by these words when none of them are true.

Human beings can be incredibly cruel to each other.

Your forced onto a planet with people and forced to understand why they say the things they say and do the things they do.

And your meant to be ok with their behaviour however crappy it is.

Being kind doesn’t cost nothing it really doesn’t.

But what does cost something is either you loosing a relationship, freindship or family members.

With being kind i don’t mean you need to become soft and let people walk over you its about being mindful to others with words that come from your mouth.

The ones your in control of.

One word can change somones whole day.

In either a negative or a positive way, your actions are from within.

Im asking in such times we find ourselves in and thereafter to be Mindful of people’s emotions and thoughts.

Im fine with how ive grown i don’t need to prove to anyone who i am.

To anyone but myself….

If im withdraw and i dont get in touch its because im going through something or im just trying to get through this thing we call life.

Dont give space to people in your mind your heart or your life that aren’t mindful of your emotions.

It’s just not worth the heartbreak or time trying to explain to someone who’s only intentions was to get one over on you.

You dont need that sort of person in your life.

Keep safe, keep mindful, you are loved.

Stacie 🐚 πŸ’‹ πŸ’„ ❀️ ❀️ ❀️

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Evening all ❀️

I trust you are all OK again sending virtual hugs to all my national and international reader’s.

Tonight its going to be a slightly deeper blog post.

I would like to talk about emotional and mental support in life in general.

Again I know its about emotion but this really runs deep.

In a time where we have nothing but time to think about everything we wouldn’t normally think about.

Ive herd more and more people are actually being more open and talking to people about emotions and experiences.

That they wouldn’t normally talk about.

Insecurities run deep and can lead you on to a very dark path of self destruction.

I have walked this path alot of times.

Linked to…

And self doubt asking ourselves all sorts of questions.

I personally hate confusion not knowing where you stand with someone.

Humans need some sort of consistency in life.

If someone or a situation doesn’t have a slight bit of consistency things tend to derail and alot of people feel a little lost too.

Insecurity can actually really mess up situations and experiences that can be amazing for you but self doubt and the little dark cloud of negativity will float above your head.

When you actually experience emotional unbalance like this you tend to push away people who you love and who loves you and actually the one’s who care for you.

This is called flight or fight mode and defense goes up and you shut down emotionally.

Due to past hurt and experiences.

It can be scary moving on from a situation where that’s all you’ve ever known or choosing to love again after a very heartbreaking situation.

But one thing you must not take with you during your moving on stage is….

The feeling of dread and a thought pattern that situations from your past and that they may repeat themselves again.

You have learnt you have grown from your past situation and connections its your learning experience that moulds you into being a better person and make you..

Don’t push people away who love you and care for you.

It’s very rare to find someone who genuinely cares about you and expects nothing in return.

Those are the ones you need to keep close to your heart.

Life’s all about taking risks if it doesn’t work out well that’s fine dust yourself off and start again.

There’s no such thing as an easy life unfortunately everything we have dealt with or will deal with is sent our way to test us.

Fear wants us to put bigger locks on our hearts and the doors to our future pathways

Where as love wants us to be all as one and give people a fair chance.

That seed you have planted in your mind the one that’s blackened your soul need removing and you need to understand you are loved and are worthy of a chance to be yourself you deserve excitement and to love again and that’s the ride of life.

Love to you all 😊

Stacie 🐚 πŸ’‹ πŸ’„ ❀️ ❀️

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Stacie Leanne 16/04/2020

Within the darkness beholds the night.
Therfore comes morning to show you the light.

Everyday it’s a blessing to be alive.
To wake up each day and know you have survived.

Be thankful for the love and the support you receive.

Be thankful for the sky and the air that you breathe.

Life is challenging and sometimes a struggle.
Sometimes it gets to much to juggle.

But you woke up this morning and you open your eyes.

How greatful you should feel to be alive.