Happy Sunday to you all I’m sorry I won’t be doing a weekly Spiritual Guidance Post this week I’m having a break, if truth be told I’m going to waste my whole Sunday playing sims 4.
Just because in sims I’ve got a better handle on life.
I’ve decided to do this post today because we have all dealt with a few narcissistic people in our life time.
You know the ones who are completely deluded that they have played a part in causing another human being pain.
It’s so easy to fall into a narcissistic trap because they are clever, at first they’ll say all right things and do all the right things to reel you in.
Once you have fallen into that black hole of nothingness it’s very difficult to pull yourself out of it.
It’s extremely difficult to remove yourself from a situation like this especially when you hold nothing but love for someone.
I can hundreds percent relate to the whole aspect of being in a connection with a certain individual.
That has these traits….
During the last few months of lockdown I feel its either gone two ways for people they have either been stuck within a narcissistic connection or have come within their power and a realisation that enough is enough and its time to act accordingly.
So how do you starve a narcissistic of your energy.
I know that a few of these steps won’t be easy for you but one thing I can promise you with time and self healing you will be fine.
This advice is from someone who’s been through it all yes it’s myself.
1. Go no contact.
This is the best option for you! If at all possible, cut all contact with him immediately and at once.
2. Be uninterested
This is the best option for you if you must have contact with the narcissist. Show no emotion, only answer the questions that must be answered and do so quick and to the point. Do not react at all to anything the narcissist says. Do not bite his bait of arguments or discussion about things that you’ve already discussed. Keep everything you say and do with him to an absolute minimum devoid of any emotion.
3. Keep it simple.
If you must have contact with the narcissist, keep all interaction brief. If he sends you a million texts, respond to only whatever is absolutely necessary. If you have to meet up, do what you came there for and nothing further. Again, remember – no emotion!
4. Walk away when their manipulative.
Whenever they starts to try to engage you, manipulate or blame you, walk away. Just end the conversation by leaving it. Don’t try to explain or reason with them about what’s happening. Just walk away. Soon you’ll train the narcissist that you aren’t available to be their energy supply any longer.
5. Don’t talk about the narcissist with people who know them.
If possible, don’t speak with them at all, but if you must, avoid details about your personal life and anything to do with the narcissist.
All of that information will end up making its way back to the narcissist and he or she can be fed energy from you through the third party. they will know what irks you and what buttons to push. they will know how their affecting you and you’ll continue to be seen as their energy source.
6. Set boundaries and don’t back down from them.
The reason the narcissist made their way into your life in the first place was because you didn’t have healthy boundaries in place.
Learn from that and implement the changes you need to make now!
Don’t feel bad for your boundaries and don’t reason your way out of enforcing them (i.e., “He or she doesn’t really know what he’s or she is doing,” or they are making improvements and he or she can change”). You teach other people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.
7. Live your life.
Work on you, focus on you, build your future!
Don’t allow the narcissist to take any more of your time.
Set goals for yourself and celebrate when you reach them.
Build a healthy support system around you and don’t look back! There’s nothing for you back there.
Start implementing these things and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll find that the narcissist has no more hold on you!
One thing you always need to remember is that you hold the power to your own destiny we all get blindsided by love and connections but always believe in your own power to set boundaries and realise your self worth.
I don’t know about my other lovely blog friends but I’ve been finding it very hard to blog as of late it’s partly because of the situation we are all in and the fact that it’s been a very boring few months.
It’s certainly been an emotional experience.
I have seen such a massive change in myself.
I’ve always been so focused on looking and being perfect I’ve been forgetting to live in the moment.
I think this might be to past relationships and the pressure to always look and be perfect.
I’ve masked who I really was.
Dont get me wrong I can be hardwork sometimes but I have a heart of gold and I love and care unconditionally.
I need to say one thing to all my readers.
Always being worried of what people think of you is the worst emotional blockage you will ever have to try and remove.
We put so much pressure on ourselves to look and be perfect its exhausting.
Social media plays a massive part on the way we see ourselves.
Put on that fake smile girl and get them hearts.
It’s taken me a long time to love this skin that intwines my bones.
My belly still jiggles a little and my bum still wiggles.
And I can go from dignified to jenny from the block within seconds.
But my quirky ways and my pure heart and my ability to bring a smile to another humans face is what matters most.
In all of us is a little bit of silly and a yearning of sweatpants hair up and chilling with no make up on.
You just need someone who appreciates your soul and not someone who picks you beacause you look good on thier arm.
Looks grow old but the soul stays the same
Be comfortable with who you are.
I’m 75% stronger than I used to be, I know my worth and my confidence grows.
Tomorrow will be a start to a brand new week I’m feeling a lot of positivity from the universe at the moment, I feel the dynamics have somewhat changed , there has been a huge transitional shift .
Out with the negativity and the darkness and in comes the light at the end of the road.
For a lot of you it seems like a lifetime in waiting for such clarity and understanding of your own soul.
A lot more of you have opened your minds to what’s around you , this I feel is from you having time away from normal daily routine , as we all know life hasn’t been normal for all of us for a while now , but take one good thing from this pandemic its made us have time to sit and evaluate our lives and look at situations differently, for many of us it’s given us the power of voice and to allow our true selves to shine through braking down the false veil that we all shield behind.
I would like to state that all my spiritual guidance blogs are for entertaiment purpose only.
Take what resonates and leave the rest.
All signs and elements are included.
Weekly Vision Message
I’m standing in busy old fashioned train station , I can hear the steam from the engines and I can smell the burning of the coal.
There is a lot of people rushing around in all directions trying to get to their destinations.
As I approach my platform I can feel and see the sadness from loved ones saying goodbye to each other, also hugs of reassurance to.
As I reach my train I hesitate ,I take one deep breath and step aboard.
I’m feeling nervous and scared, will everything be ok , will I return again , Will things remain the same.
This message I feel is linked to long distance love connections , I feel a few of you are really struggling with this situation at the moment , if your in a relationship or apart from someone you wish to have a connection with then this is a message for you.
Time and distance can never come between true love connections , if the two of you are determined and wanting to make your situation work then it will, Trust is needed to build a solid foundation everything else comes from trust and loyalty.
As long as you both put the effort into this connection distance or time will never come between you.
Its frustrating not making plans for your intermediate future but have faith and be willing to make time for each other in other ways and remain truthful and honest to one another.
The universe is reassuring you that everything will work out fine….
When the World card is reversed it symbolizes imperfection, lack of vision, and disappointment.
The result of the project is imperfect, disappointing, and lacks vision.
Or you are having trouble reaching your goal.
You may be frustrated and tempted to take a shortcut, but that will only lead to more frustration, and you won’t be happy with the result.
The world in reverse in love I feel with the world in reverse regarding your love life , is that your pushing away your soul mate due to fear , you don’t feel you both can overcome this situation.
So you are shutting down regarding your connection.
If your single this can mean your not ready to commit , your not interested in sharing your life with anyone at the moment.
When the Two of Swords is reversed in a Tarot reading, it can mean you are being indecisive.
There might be fear and confusion.
It might leave you inert and unable to act.
It can also mean that you’re finally seeing something for what it is.
The Two of Swords in reverse is an indication that things are no longer being stalled.
If you’re single, it might mean that you need to choose between two prospective partners and are having trouble deciding.
If you’re in a relationship, it can mean that you and your significant other are at a crossroads and need to decide what comes next.
When the Three of Cups is upright , it signifies feelings around friendship.
It represents community and the network created when we interact with others.
You may find you have a lot of parties and celebrations on your calendar.
This card also means it is time to examine your attachments from an emotional point of view.
The card may also represent all types of support, including giving and receiving help.
The Three of Cups in love is an indication that good times are ahead.
If you’re single, you may find a spark with someone from your past.
If you’ve been in a dry spell, you may find potential partners knocking on your door.
If you’re in a relationship, this card can mean there’s an upcoming celebration of love, such as a wedding or engagement.
When the Lovers card is upright ,it stands for love, harmony, trust, honour, the beginning of romance, and optimism.
It is a card of passion, and feeling passionate, but it isn’t strictly about romantic relationships and intense interpersonal bonds.
One basic meaning of this card is that you may come across a divergence you dare not miss, no matter the difficulty, even if it is against your chosen path.
Be on the lookout for this opportunity, and don’t automatically take the easy road.
Think things over before you come to a decision.
Perhaps it’s time to take a leap of faith.
The Lovers card in a Tarot is seriously romantic.
If you’re single, hang on tight because a red-hot romance is headed to you.
If you’re in a relationship, things are about to heat up between you.
When the Eight of Cups is upright , it is time to realize that the past is gone.
An end is approaching, and what was thought to be permanent is no longer so.
It is time to accept the change that is staring you in the face.
The card signals that it’s time to move on. The only thing permanent in life is change, and everything slips away sooner or later.
The Eight of Cups in love represents feeling’s of abandonment.
If you’re in a relationship, it could mean that you or your partner is ready to walk away.
But I feel communication is needed as I feel that your holding back on your feelings.
If you’re single, it represents loneliness and the inability to allow yourself to thrive in a new relationship.
When the Four of Swords is reversed, it can mean you are finally finding the strength to get through (or out of) something.
It can also indicate that you’re ready to address stress, anxiety, and other things that worry you.
It can also mean taking care of yourself after a long time of not doing so.
The Four of Swords in love is an indication that you are ready to connect or reconnect with a past love !!
If you’re single, it means you might want to take some time to figure out exactly what you want in a partner before welcoming someone new into your life.
If you’re in a relationship, you are entering a period of peacefulness with your partner.
Bottom Of the Deck
When the Tower card is reversed in a Tarot reading, it means that you are stuck in a rut or trapped in a bad situation.
You need to shake things up.
You probably know this, but you have been procrastinating about making a big change.
Take a hard look at habits and traditions that you’ve been following unquestioningly.
Ask yourself how they are holding you back.
And why your scared of following your heart
What can you throw away to make room for something better?
The Tower card in love means profound changes are happening.
If you’re single, it could mean you need to reconstruct yourself from the ground up before you have room for a relationship.
If you’re in a relationship, it might have to end, signalling a breakup or divorce.
Even if the relationship remains standing, it will change fundamentally in some way.
Angel Oracle Message
Any obstacles that you have been experiencing are temporary.
Your guardian angels are taking care of the details to remove them from your path.
Do not worry about the appearance of challenges, because they are just an illusion that will soon disappear.
If you worry excessively about these issues, you will fuel them with power and energy.
See them instead as wispy clouds that can’t really block you.
This is an especially important time for you to stay in steady contact with God and your angels.
Sometimes when we are under stress, we forget to pray and ask for Heaven’s help – yet these are the times when it is best for us to enlist the assistance of our Creator and celestial guides.
It is your angels’ great pleasure to help you to navigate along a smooth path.
They know that you will grow faster in a peaceful setting, just as a plant grows strongest with the optimal nutrients, sunlight, and water.
Your life is becoming more stable with a quieter form of excitement.
The drama of obstacles is now a thing of the past.
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Nothing is permanent in this wicked world – not even our troubles.
I hope you are all well.
I wanted to check in with you and let you know I’m still around in the background I’m just taking some time away from everyday hussle and bussle.
One thing I’ve come to realise these last few weeks is nothing is permanent in life, life can change instantly and it doesn’t matter how much we try and prevent something from happening we can’t.
Being a virgo for me is giving my all to every aspect of my life so at my job, at my home with my children and within my relationships.
I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have and putting other people first has always been a big stop block for me within all aspects of my life.
Truth is I care way to much about everything and I overthink far to much, I think with a realistic mind but I have a tenancy to be aggravated by people who are lazy and uncoordinated and people who play games.
It’s just my virgo traits.
I’ve worked very hard past few weeks on my mental health I’ve relapsed a few times had a few wobbles. I’ve been quite and unresponsive for a day or too I find it easier to shut down than try and explain my feelings.
It’s just way I’ve always be.
I’ve very lucky to have such a good support network around me i didn’t a few years ago but now I have people around me who understand when I’m having a bad day not to push me to far.
My blogging has slowed down abit again due to mostly me being busy but also to fear of getting on people’s nerves with all my posting but again like my mum says you don’t need to read if you don’t want to just…
You don’t need to justify anything you do to anyone.
Just have to be true to yourself.
Yes I may seem like an emotional lunatic very up and down when it comes to life, but you would be surprised how many people suffer in silance and pretend that they are OK.
I tell my story to help others sometimes along side the joking and everyday life blogs we need realisation that everyone is human and we all feel emotion and we all deal with life in different ways.
I tell mine through my writing along side my singing therapy.
And I really hope some people out there find comfort from my blog and sharing my experiences.
It’s been great to sit still for a while and catch my breath but slowly I’m coming back to myself….
P. S don’t forget to check out tommrow’s weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog.
How many of us find ourselves hoping for a better day ahead.
You can find yourself so wrapped up with daily routine and structure, you forget how much of your life is passing you by.
Do you crumble at the idea of not having a plan in place for every outting or experience in life.
Then you just maybe existing and not living.
A lot of people need structure and fear spontaneous life events.
The classic what if moment.
That fills us with anxiety and fear of rejection.
Some of the best experiences in life are followed by a ephiany moment….
We as humans are stronger than we think.
An advantage human can go through several transition in a lifetime its how we evolve and adapt to change.
As you know change is inevitable and if the universe thinks that you are heading in the wrong direction it will make changes for you.
We loose our true self for all sorts or reasons but one thing is pretty much certain we always find our way back to our authentic self.
It’s difficult feeling being lost and hopeless, not knowing what’s next.
But not every situation needs to be controlled and it doesn’t need a plan either.
If your like me then I find it extremely hard to let my guard down and trust people, I hate not knowing why and when, but one thing I’ve learnt is it doesn’t matter how much you need structure or answers you don’t always get it.
For myself now don’t force anything any more because anything that needs to be forced isn’t worth having.
And great things can happen when you loosen the grip of needed to control everything.
There’s no magic eight ball…
But you have your intuition so use it well and trust the process only then will you find the way back to your authentic self.
I thought I would do a little blog on where I’m at just to let you all know why I’m not around as much at the moment.
Well the title says it all radio silence for the people who haven’t heard this saying before I will explain below.
It means a periodoftimewhen someone does notcommunicatewith anotherpersonor otherpeople.
Seems dramatic I know but its my choice.
I’ve needed to strip back every aspect in my life and look at what direction I was heading towards.
Believe me it wasn’t healthy to some extent I’m still battling with my demons.
I’ve been through a very long period of heartache and self loathing for such a long time I’ve just had enough.
Closing the last chapter was the hardest and I have one last hurdle to get over before I can truly move forward.
I suppose you have to fully let the old layers of yourself fall away before you can heal and rebuild yourself.
I’ve given so much of myself to people who didn’t deserve me.
Now I know that and it’s difficult for me to pull my energy back.
But it’s what’s needed for me to be the best person I can be.
It’s time for me to take back my power and allow myself to put myself first.
So I’ve decided to pull back my energy from social media even though its a great place to reach out and put yourself our there I don’t feel I’m 100% ready for it.
With me trying to engage with people I found it’s drained me physically and emotionally.
I just simply can’t find the strength to deal with other peoples issues at the moment it makes me hypocritical giving our advice and not listing to my own inner wisdom.
I’ve decided to not post anymore pictures or videos of myself at the moment because Im really not happy within myself and because I want people to get to know the real me not just the outside exterior of myself.
Tommrow I’m back on my health kick and the universe is giving me a massive… To move forward so I will be back after some me time and I will come back better and stronger.