A different point of view.

Evening all

It’s been a minute since I’ve connected with you all.

It’s really difficult at the moment to get into the Christmas spirit, I think we can all agree that Christmas will be a very different one this year.

But we are all in the same situation!!!

I wanted to blog tonight because I recently received a message regarding a subject that really gets my back up.

I literally hate it when people make a comment that’s so unacceptable that they honestly need to check themselves before making such stupid comments to others.

Words hurt but people don’t seem to understand that.

So I had a message from a female on my instagram this lovely lady had recently received a very silly message on her own Instagram.

So the message said ooh girl if you lost a bit of weight and had a bit of work done to your face you would be amazing I’d definitely date you then.

Let me just clarify something for your someone else’s weight isn’t anyones concern neither is their appearance.

If you dont like what you see simply scroll on and leave people be.

I’ve dealt with messages like this before so the lovely lady had messaged me asking for my advice on how I personally dealt with this situation.

I told her…

If I wasn’t such a strong person people’s opinions would really run deep.

But listen I’ve dealt with rejection, I’ve dealt with insults.

If I want to eat a family size pack of biscuits with an afternoon brew I will do ..

Thats my choice!!

My weight doesn’t define me or my personality.

If my face offends anyone tough.

People can I just say this to you all never ever let someones comments bring you down.

Weight doesn’t define a person.

I know slimmer people who struggle with confidence, the outside doesn’t define who the person is on the inside.

Always remember that.

If you feel like you need to loose weight then do it for all the right reasons not because someone told you too.

But again size doesn’t define someone’s personality.

The face comment I told her I felt was dam right cheeky, some people have no shame, it’s OK to have an opinion but keep them to yourselves.

Not everyone likes everyone.

But there is always someone for everyone.

But I could tell this comment had really knocked this lovely ladies confidence.

Sometimes rejection teaches you very valuable life lessons it also teaches you self worth.

If any one is telling you anything like this lovely lady has had to deal with thrown them a wide curve ball and hope it hits their ego pretty dam hard.

Maybe suggest that they might want to watch shallow hal in the future and learn how to complement someone appropriately without judgment.

So chin up lovely your beautiful always remember that….

and keep being yourself.

Love Stacie xx

Pulling the plug on negativity and regaining your power.

Hello everyone

I seem to start all my blogs the same way it’s just something I’ve always done.

I like to engage with my readers on a one to one basis.

Even though I know there’s plenty of you that read my posts, I just like to come down to a personal level and be real with you all.

Im the kind of women who reads other people’s experiences on Google.

I’m the sort of women who listens to tarot readers on YouTube on a daily basis seeking guidance.

I’m the kind of women who would love anyone unconditionally if they let me.

I’ll stop right there I said the LOVE!!! Word right yes I did.

One thing I have come to realise is that not everyone projects the same amount of energy as you do.

Dont expect to much from someone who doesn’t take the time to fully get to know you as a person.

We think we know people straight away, humans are very quick to judge..

To some people life, love and their surroundings are always an up hill struggle.

These are the people who will constantly moan, degrade, judge others for getting of the ferris-wheel when they’ve simply had enough of going around in circles.

At some point you have to get off and drop the energy from people’s negativity.

People who don’t seek answers or express their truth aren’t people I like to mix with.

I’m quite happy being able to connect to all my readers in such a powerful way.

So that’s why I love to blog as much as I do.

It helps me explain what goes on inside my brain and when I’m experiencing emotions and heartbreak.

It’s taken me a long time to realise this not all negative insults or drama needs more negative responses, don’t add fuel to the fire.

Simply walk away and pull the plug on any negativity it’s not worth the energy.

Humans are programmed to hold on to pain just for the fear of giving up to eagerly.

You don’t have to prove a point to anyone but yourself.

So if you find yourself in a situation that constantly goes around in circles just pull that plug and regain your power.

Love to you all ❀️

Stacie xxx

Losing yourself to find yourself

Life is a funny old thing isn’t it?

How many of us find ourselves hoping for a better day ahead.

You can find yourself so wrapped up with daily routine and structure, you forget how much of your life is passing you by.

Do you crumble at the idea of not having a plan in place for every outting or experience in life.

Then you just maybe existing and not living.

A lot of people need structure and fear spontaneous life events.

The classic what if moment.

That fills us with anxiety and fear of rejection.

Some of the best experiences in life are followed by a ephiany moment….

We as humans are stronger than we think.

An advantage human can go through several transition in a lifetime its how we evolve and adapt to change.

As you know change is inevitable and if the universe thinks that you are heading in the wrong direction it will make changes for you.

We loose our true self for all sorts or reasons but one thing is pretty much certain we always find our way back to our authentic self.

It’s difficult feeling being lost and hopeless, not knowing what’s next.

But not every situation needs to be controlled and it doesn’t need a plan either.

If your like me then I find it extremely hard to let my guard down and trust people, I hate not knowing why and when, but one thing I’ve learnt is it doesn’t matter how much you need structure or answers you don’t always get it.

For myself now don’t force anything any more because anything that needs to be forced isn’t worth having.

And great things can happen when you loosen the grip of needed to control everything.

There’s no magic eight ball…

But you have your intuition so use it well and trust the process only then will you find the way back to your authentic self.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

The Shutdown

Evening everyone

I hope your all OK…

This year has been pretty hectic for all of us and its about to get extra bumpy as mercury retrograde is on its way from October 14th to November 3rd.

So buckle up its going to be a wild ride.

I always feel very odd this time of the year it feels very much off balance.

Feels like I’m fighting for air in paper bag but never getting anywhere fast.

So frustrating for me because I’m a virgo and I’m impatient.

Every so often I feel utterly helpless my body feels drained and painful.

I’m in the process of clearing out an old cycle and becoming a newer more improved Stacie.

As if one transition wasn’t enough this year, I’ve been graced with another.

Progression is always needed to assend onto a better version of yourself.

During this period of time it gets very confusing and emotional.

You become more detached from the people around you.

Sometimes that’s not a bad thing this gives you time to observe the company you keep.

And who you allow to impact your life.

There’s no point holding on to people or situations that just cause you deep emotional anxiety and emotional pain.

Everybody will need to withdraw their energy at some point in life its unavoidable.

Think of it as a spiritual clear out nobody likes cobwebs in the corners of thier minds.

Mercury retrograde can be tough for us all but it’s how we handle ourselves during.

And what lessons can be learnt.

So how can we survive the next mercury retrograde….
Surviving Mercury retrograde is pretty simple: Remember to proofread everything, choose your words carefully, avoid signing contracts (or review them extra carefully), back up your data, and plan for travel mishap .

The truth, cosmic warrior, is that Mercury retrograde isn’t all bad; in fact, it can serve as your quarterly self-assessment.

How prepared are you for inconveniences? How zen are you feeling these days? Although Mercury retrograde isn’t a great time to make huge changes, it is ideal for reflection.

So if your feeling a little out of sorts at the moment and over the next few weeks that will be…

And its perfectly fine to be in hermit mode at the moment to avoid unnecessary stress and pain.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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Listen… It’s not your job to be everything to everyone.

Evening all I’ve not late night blogged for a while but it’s Sunday evening and

I’m filled with anxiety again.

There’s days where I need to have a moment to myself just to put my head straight.

It’s extremely difficult to be one hundred percent who you are these days.

I find that people are very judgmental and quick to jump to conclusions.

Without the facts.

I have to say that sometimes humans don’t have an alternative motif for just simply being helpful or truthful.

Sometimes it’s just in their nature to be honest without fear and to want to work hard to make a difference.

I truly believe that the current situation I find myself in is exactly where I need to be, you find yourself in certain situations in life where there is either lessons to be learnt or truth to be given in order for change to take place.

Somethings been stagnant for to long stubborn for change then….

You smack bang in the middle of a situation you either need to learn from or make a difference.

One thing I’ve realised is when you see through people your not very well liked that’s a know fact.

When your real and disconnect from the drama that’s when you become the drama and in no way shape or form have I got time for drama.

I’m literally at that stage where I still feel anxious and some days I’m not as strong.

But honestly your put on this earth to yes be thoughtful of others but to also be thoughtful of yourself.

I can’t stress enough to people if your struggling to juggle life and struggling with the people around you.

Distance is sometimes the best key you can never pour from an empty cup.

You can make sure your vessel is fine but if the minds off balance then the two don’t work in harmony.

Don’t put to much pressure on yourself to be the perfect parent, sibling, partner, friend or work colleague.

You need to nurture your own soul before you give to others.

When people try and drag you into Drama don’t fall for it, if it’s not your issue then leave it, some people don’t like the truth and can be….

But don’t fall for it you can’t fix everything or everyone so don’t try to.

Just be honest to yourself and honest with others and if your respected for it great if not there’s no love lost.

Good night everyone

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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I never thought I had the motivation to make a change to my lifestyle and eating habits but after a few rough months and lots of heartache.

I decided it was time to make drastic changes.

I didn’t want to just lose the weight that was holding me back but I wanted to work on my self-worth and learn to love myself again.
Over the past ten years, as I’ve gradually yoyo dieted and lost and gained weight.

I’ve been aware of so many changes – not just in my body but life in general.

But this time round I’ve worked my hardest.

Here are 10 things that you don’t expect to happen when you lose weight…

1.Your skin will loosen and head to your feet.

I know, gross. Once you start dropping the pounds, everyone experiences this and its not always exercise that helps with excess skin in fact it doesn’t hardly help at all.

This has to be one of my main issues at the moment it’s been getting to me that bad I’ve actually consulted two private medical practices to ask about paid surgery to remove excess skin.

It’s unbearable at times.

2. Itchy skin and sore stretch marks.

If you have lost weight and have stretch marks from either having children or rapid weight gain.

The healing process of shrinking stretch marks is terrible if you have this problem too then you feel my pain.

3.Your boobs will shrink.

I miss the fullness of my boobs.

Don’t get me wrong, they are still a good handful but not quite what they were.

I’ve reversed two cup sizes which is good for me due to less back pain and better fitting underwear.

4.You feel guilty for even looking at a freddo

I’m more relaxed with my eating now but in the first few months I would feel so guilty if I ate something ‘naughty’. Do allow yourself treats (weekends are a good time for this) but in moderation, of course!

5.You become a boring .

I’m sure I’ve bored friends and family with my nutritional advice as they bite into a sandwich. Sorry.

It’s just because you feel so passionate about your own body and taking care of it you just try and help others.

That can sometimes come across as being over boring with annoying weight loss information.

6. Constantly having to be careful when buying new items of clothing.

This should be enjoyable and a happier side of weightloss infact the whole thing just stresses me out, down to remembering you don’t need your past bigger sizes.

To not wanting to spend a small fortune on clothes that may not fit you after more increased weightloss.

7. The true understanding that being thin doesn’t make you happier.

True statement there, just because being thin changes your body and mental attitude it doesn’t mean that all your problems will disappear.

Remember that your weight doesn’t define you as a person.

8. Maintaining the weight loss.

Maintenance can be even harder than losing the weight itself. When I began my journey, I was fueled by success, non-scale victories, and a newfound confidence I gained from becoming a healthier and happier me. But once I began to reach that weight range I’d been gunning for, I started to think, β€œWell, I’ve already lost a ton of weight.

So adapting my future healthy eating plan for long term process wasn’t going to be easy.

9. My relationships with friends and family have changed; some have grown stronger, and some have become more distant.

When you embark on a big lifestyle change like this, you aren’t just adjusting your eating habits and physical activity. Your interests, hobbies, and thought processes change, too. Even my relationships have changed.
Some friendships have grown apart, because our relationships were so heavily fueled by social drinking and eating.

I think the hardest part about this lifestyle change is that I never anticipated my friendships would shift.

10. I am still scared that I will spiral out of control and gain everything back.

This is an irrational thought, but it is also a very real one. It is especially heightened when I’m traveling or enjoying life and I go in the β€œfuck it, I’m on vacation” mode, and I binge to the point where I’m not sure I can come back from it.

Like going hard on sweets or alcohol hiding it from friends out of guilt, or overeating in general.

I’m aware that this is a problem for me, and it terrifies me when I lose control that way.

While I would be upset if I reversed my hard work, I think there’s a deeper fear there of disappointing everyone else and having my failure displayed on a very public level.

So there you have it the truth that no one tells you during the process of losing weight…

I hope I’ve helped 😊

Love to you all

Stacie xx

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Getting Back To Normal

Good Afternoon All.

I hope your having a great bank holiday tomorrow my annual leave is over and it’s back to work for me.

As the Country tries to get back to some sort of normality, I know there will be many apprehensive parents regarding sending children back into full time education.

I don’t normally talk about my children on my blog but, I wanted to share my experience dealing with my own children and current pandemic covid 19 and how its affected there social needs.

I am fully aware that I’m not the only parent who has had similar issues especially if you have older children in high school .

When lockdown hit a state of national panic set in it’s a situation when have never had to deal with undoubtable it was freighting at times , the fear of daily life’s restricted and of course catching the virus and spreading it to more vulnerable people was a massive worry , schools , shops , entertainment venues where forced to shut people where continually glued to social media and the news.

As a parent we have to try and be strong for our children me I’m already O.C.D about my kids touching things and being to far away from me unless their in a secure environment like school or with family.

But what i haven’t really understood until now is how its deeply affected them both mentally and physically.

School is a normal way of life its six hours from Monday to Friday where they are learning, mixing with friends without the influence of parents.

School helps children grow it gives them their confidence and helps them widen there skills to help them through the early stages of Life.

I’ve seen mixed emotions online regarding children going back to school , if you want my honest view and this is totally my personal opinion on it all , I may get some negative press regarding this but honestly it’s just how I perceive the situation

It’s time for them to go back , of course they will not be able to mix with children in a normal manner but at least its a start to bringing back their normal routine.

I have to say home schooling has been somewhat stressful its been many years since I was school and the curriculum has changed so much i know I’m not the only parent who will agree.

My youngest child has asked many questions regarding Covid and ive tried to give the most honest replies some time’s its not been easy but we have managed to explain the best way we know how.

My eldest i feel has been frightened it got to the point I’ve had to remove her social media with there being a lot of fake news she can be very vulnerable so i felt it was the best outcome to try and ease her anxiety.

When talking to our children about difficult situations it can leave us a wreck it makes us really question our abilities as parents, here we have tiny humans who are like sponges may I add they absorb all information that may not hold the complete truth, that in itself causes anxiety and depression over time.

Ive watched my children closely over this pandemic and ive noticed certain negative changes and its been challenging even more than normal.

Ive tried to put plans in place to help them both progress but what i have found out is that being open and talking to each other on a level a child or teenager would understand its helped ease their worries.

I have listed a few tips below to help worried parents , try not to be to hard on yourself either.

  • Don’t be afraid to talk about it: Convey the facts and set an emotionally reassuring tone.
  • Be age-appropriate: Teens can process and handle a higher level of detail than five year olds. Focus on answering your child/student’s questions. Do your best to answer honestly and clearly; it’s okay if you can’t answer everything.
  • Follow their lead: Invite your child or student to ask questions and share their perspective: Invite them to tell you anything they may have heard about the coronavirus and express how they feel.
  • Check yourself: Feeling anxious? Take some time to calm down before trying to have a conversation or answer your child’s questions.
  • Focus on actions you can take: Emphasize safety precautions everyone can take to help keep themselves and others healthy: good hand hygiene, cough and sneeze etiquette, social distancing and staying home if you aren’t feeling well.
  • Stick to routine: Structured days with regular mealtimes and bedtimes are an essential part of keeping kids happy and healthy.
  • Keep talking: Tell kids/students you will keep them updated as you learn more. Let them know the lines of communication are going to be open and as you learn more, you will share the information with them, too.

Please feel free to share this image with your children.

(Not schools are recommending facemasks’ be sure to check your child’s school for guidelines )

I know there will be many worried parents over the next few days but we are all in this together please remember that school’s have guidelines that they need to stick by ordered by the government like everything a massive learning curve for us all i do feel this will be the way of life for a while.

But its so important that we address the mental health side of this pandemic within children as they are the next generation and support and structure is needed.

Im sending love to you all.

Stacie x