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I never thought I had the motivation to make a change to my lifestyle and eating habits but after a few rough months and lots of heartache.

I decided it was time to make drastic changes.

I didn’t want to just lose the weight that was holding me back but I wanted to work on my self-worth and learn to love myself again.
Over the past ten years, as I’ve gradually yoyo dieted and lost and gained weight.

I’ve been aware of so many changes – not just in my body but life in general.

But this time round I’ve worked my hardest.

Here are 10 things that you don’t expect to happen when you lose weight…

1.Your skin will loosen and head to your feet.

I know, gross. Once you start dropping the pounds, everyone experiences this and its not always exercise that helps with excess skin in fact it doesn’t hardly help at all.

This has to be one of my main issues at the moment it’s been getting to me that bad I’ve actually consulted two private medical practices to ask about paid surgery to remove excess skin.

It’s unbearable at times.

2. Itchy skin and sore stretch marks.

If you have lost weight and have stretch marks from either having children or rapid weight gain.

The healing process of shrinking stretch marks is terrible if you have this problem too then you feel my pain.

3.Your boobs will shrink.

I miss the fullness of my boobs.

Don’t get me wrong, they are still a good handful but not quite what they were.

I’ve reversed two cup sizes which is good for me due to less back pain and better fitting underwear.

4.You feel guilty for even looking at a freddo

I’m more relaxed with my eating now but in the first few months I would feel so guilty if I ate something ‘naughty’. Do allow yourself treats (weekends are a good time for this) but in moderation, of course!

5.You become a boring .

I’m sure I’ve bored friends and family with my nutritional advice as they bite into a sandwich. Sorry.

It’s just because you feel so passionate about your own body and taking care of it you just try and help others.

That can sometimes come across as being over boring with annoying weight loss information.

6. Constantly having to be careful when buying new items of clothing.

This should be enjoyable and a happier side of weightloss infact the whole thing just stresses me out, down to remembering you don’t need your past bigger sizes.

To not wanting to spend a small fortune on clothes that may not fit you after more increased weightloss.

7. The true understanding that being thin doesn’t make you happier.

True statement there, just because being thin changes your body and mental attitude it doesn’t mean that all your problems will disappear.

Remember that your weight doesn’t define you as a person.

8. Maintaining the weight loss.

Maintenance can be even harder than losing the weight itself. When I began my journey, I was fueled by success, non-scale victories, and a newfound confidence I gained from becoming a healthier and happier me. But once I began to reach that weight range I’d been gunning for, I started to think, β€œWell, I’ve already lost a ton of weight.

So adapting my future healthy eating plan for long term process wasn’t going to be easy.

9. My relationships with friends and family have changed; some have grown stronger, and some have become more distant.

When you embark on a big lifestyle change like this, you aren’t just adjusting your eating habits and physical activity. Your interests, hobbies, and thought processes change, too. Even my relationships have changed.
Some friendships have grown apart, because our relationships were so heavily fueled by social drinking and eating.

I think the hardest part about this lifestyle change is that I never anticipated my friendships would shift.

10. I am still scared that I will spiral out of control and gain everything back.

This is an irrational thought, but it is also a very real one. It is especially heightened when I’m traveling or enjoying life and I go in the β€œfuck it, I’m on vacation” mode, and I binge to the point where I’m not sure I can come back from it.

Like going hard on sweets or alcohol hiding it from friends out of guilt, or overeating in general.

I’m aware that this is a problem for me, and it terrifies me when I lose control that way.

While I would be upset if I reversed my hard work, I think there’s a deeper fear there of disappointing everyone else and having my failure displayed on a very public level.

So there you have it the truth that no one tells you during the process of losing weight…

I hope I’ve helped 😊

Love to you all

Stacie xx

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Getting Back To Normal

Good Afternoon All.

I hope your having a great bank holiday tomorrow my annual leave is over and it’s back to work for me.

As the Country tries to get back to some sort of normality, I know there will be many apprehensive parents regarding sending children back into full time education.

I don’t normally talk about my children on my blog but, I wanted to share my experience dealing with my own children and current pandemic covid 19 and how its affected there social needs.

I am fully aware that I’m not the only parent who has had similar issues especially if you have older children in high school .

When lockdown hit a state of national panic set in it’s a situation when have never had to deal with undoubtable it was freighting at times , the fear of daily life’s restricted and of course catching the virus and spreading it to more vulnerable people was a massive worry , schools , shops , entertainment venues where forced to shut people where continually glued to social media and the news.

As a parent we have to try and be strong for our children me I’m already O.C.D about my kids touching things and being to far away from me unless their in a secure environment like school or with family.

But what i haven’t really understood until now is how its deeply affected them both mentally and physically.

School is a normal way of life its six hours from Monday to Friday where they are learning, mixing with friends without the influence of parents.

School helps children grow it gives them their confidence and helps them widen there skills to help them through the early stages of Life.

I’ve seen mixed emotions online regarding children going back to school , if you want my honest view and this is totally my personal opinion on it all , I may get some negative press regarding this but honestly it’s just how I perceive the situation

It’s time for them to go back , of course they will not be able to mix with children in a normal manner but at least its a start to bringing back their normal routine.

I have to say home schooling has been somewhat stressful its been many years since I was school and the curriculum has changed so much i know I’m not the only parent who will agree.

My youngest child has asked many questions regarding Covid and ive tried to give the most honest replies some time’s its not been easy but we have managed to explain the best way we know how.

My eldest i feel has been frightened it got to the point I’ve had to remove her social media with there being a lot of fake news she can be very vulnerable so i felt it was the best outcome to try and ease her anxiety.

When talking to our children about difficult situations it can leave us a wreck it makes us really question our abilities as parents, here we have tiny humans who are like sponges may I add they absorb all information that may not hold the complete truth, that in itself causes anxiety and depression over time.

Ive watched my children closely over this pandemic and ive noticed certain negative changes and its been challenging even more than normal.

Ive tried to put plans in place to help them both progress but what i have found out is that being open and talking to each other on a level a child or teenager would understand its helped ease their worries.

I have listed a few tips below to help worried parents , try not to be to hard on yourself either.

  • Don’t be afraid to talk about it: Convey the facts and set an emotionally reassuring tone.
  • Be age-appropriate: Teens can process and handle a higher level of detail than five year olds. Focus on answering your child/student’s questions. Do your best to answer honestly and clearly; it’s okay if you can’t answer everything.
  • Follow their lead: Invite your child or student to ask questions and share their perspective: Invite them to tell you anything they may have heard about the coronavirus and express how they feel.
  • Check yourself: Feeling anxious? Take some time to calm down before trying to have a conversation or answer your child’s questions.
  • Focus on actions you can take: Emphasize safety precautions everyone can take to help keep themselves and others healthy: good hand hygiene, cough and sneeze etiquette, social distancing and staying home if you aren’t feeling well.
  • Stick to routine: Structured days with regular mealtimes and bedtimes are an essential part of keeping kids happy and healthy.
  • Keep talking: Tell kids/students you will keep them updated as you learn more. Let them know the lines of communication are going to be open and as you learn more, you will share the information with them, too.

Please feel free to share this image with your children.

(Not schools are recommending facemasks’ be sure to check your child’s school for guidelines )

I know there will be many worried parents over the next few days but we are all in this together please remember that school’s have guidelines that they need to stick by ordered by the government like everything a massive learning curve for us all i do feel this will be the way of life for a while.

But its so important that we address the mental health side of this pandemic within children as they are the next generation and support and structure is needed.

Im sending love to you all.

Stacie x