Pulling the plug on negativity and regaining your power.

Hello everyone

I seem to start all my blogs the same way it’s just something I’ve always done.

I like to engage with my readers on a one to one basis.

Even though I know there’s plenty of you that read my posts, I just like to come down to a personal level and be real with you all.

Im the kind of women who reads other people’s experiences on Google.

I’m the sort of women who listens to tarot readers on YouTube on a daily basis seeking guidance.

I’m the kind of women who would love anyone unconditionally if they let me.

I’ll stop right there I said the LOVE!!! Word right yes I did.

One thing I have come to realise is that not everyone projects the same amount of energy as you do.

Dont expect to much from someone who doesn’t take the time to fully get to know you as a person.

We think we know people straight away, humans are very quick to judge..

To some people life, love and their surroundings are always an up hill struggle.

These are the people who will constantly moan, degrade, judge others for getting of the ferris-wheel when they’ve simply had enough of going around in circles.

At some point you have to get off and drop the energy from people’s negativity.

People who don’t seek answers or express their truth aren’t people I like to mix with.

I’m quite happy being able to connect to all my readers in such a powerful way.

So that’s why I love to blog as much as I do.

It helps me explain what goes on inside my brain and when I’m experiencing emotions and heartbreak.

It’s taken me a long time to realise this not all negative insults or drama needs more negative responses, don’t add fuel to the fire.

Simply walk away and pull the plug on any negativity it’s not worth the energy.

Humans are programmed to hold on to pain just for the fear of giving up to eagerly.

You don’t have to prove a point to anyone but yourself.

So if you find yourself in a situation that constantly goes around in circles just pull that plug and regain your power.

Love to you all ❤️

Stacie xxx

Are You Awake

Hello Everyone

Ive been writing this article for quite some time now debating whether or not to post it on my blog due to its controversial nature.

I have been posting in different articles about the current situation with snippets of information regarding the awakening.

I must add that a spiritual awakening isn’t about U.F.O’s and the world ending, An awakening is a shift in consciousness in which thinking and awareness separate.

For most people it is not an event but a process they undergo.

Even those rare beings who experience a sudden, dramatic, and seemingly irreversible awakening will still go through a process in which the new state of consciousness gradually flows into and transforms everything they do and so becomes integrated into their lives.

Another definition is an act or moment of becoming suddenly aware of something.

Your no longer walking around asleep , you find yourself asking questions that you wouldn’t normally ask you see situations and people for what they really are.

People who go through an awakening are not crazy , people tend to attack things they don’t understand.

My awakening started over a year ago and I still don’t feel like its complete but I know I’m near the end.

With current situations in the world along side my own awakening and the fact ive seen nobody but work colleges for the past seven months and ive not seen my own family since November 2019 , I’m starting to see there is a major injustice that is occurring within our own lives, there is a lot of people who are still asleep people who are following the system , living in fear , who are being compliance to what we are being told to do.

When you go through a awakening you drop the ego , your eyes are open to what is going on and you question everything and that’s because you no longer feel the need of control and compliance, you live your own life.

Of course everyone has there own views and I’m not here to try and change anyone’s views but the world of today needs you to wake up and stand up for your freedom.

I get asked about my awakening a lot do I find it frightening , do I find it challenging has it changed me as a person .

What I always says that change is scary yes but once you let go of the fear and you accept that you are being awakened everything is more free flowing and less confusing , its been very confusing over certain stages but I feel that ive learnt a lot over the past few months about myself and the world we live in.

So I wanted to give you all a little insight into the stages of awakening so I have listed the Ten known awakening stages below.

The 10 Stages of Awakening

Stage 1:

You are despondent about life and are unhappy with the current state you are in. You feel unsupported or frustrated by life or those around you. You start feeling the desire take your power back and make changes.

You feel the desire to take your life into your own hands and take responsibility for it. You no longer want to rely on others or external events for your happiness. Just setting the intention to claim your power back helps to activate your energy, your chakra’s and your soul. This causes you to open your eyes. Awakening has begun.

Stage 2:

You are able to see life in a whole new light. You experience a sense of bliss, euphoria and freedom, but there is also a pain. Suddenly, you are confronted with all sorts of emotions surrounding your past and how you have chosen to live your life. You start to question everything. You start to challenge everything.

Stage 3:

There is a push-pull between staying awake and closing your eyes. There is a fear of what will happen if you continue on the path of awakening. You are at the point of taking a leap into the unknown. Things around your start to crumble. Your beliefs, the way you have lived your life, all start to become meaningless or mistaken. You start to feel stuck and bewildered. The ground you are walking on suddenly feels shaky, you know if you continue it will implode. At this stage, many people go back to sleep, but those who continue, begin to transform.

Stage 4:

Everything has crumbled and you are in the dark, but you must be in the dark in order to understand the light. You look around and are perplexed by the state of the world. The poverty, the greed, the state of the environment. You wonder how this has been allowed to happen. You feel depressed and wonder how you will integrate into society. You have a desire to be a hermit, to be alone, to be with nature. The people around you can’t understand, they think its a “phase”. Suddenly there is no satisfaction in your life. You feel alone and lost, you start to question- “Who am I?” 

Stage 5:

You realize that you don’t need to change the world but you need to loosen the grip to fear and control.

You start looking within and realize that through changing yourself you will automatically change the world. You start feeling a greater sense of connectedness to the world. You start focusing your attention on love and gratitude. You may even start studying or researching spirituality or all things metaphysical. You slowly start changing your perception of the world and realize that you are on this earth for a reason.

Stage 6:

You start to really feel and see the inter-connectedness of all things; nature, animals, the stars. You see that we are not in the Universe, but part of it. Your consciousness is  and you start seeing the world on a deeper, more connected level.

Your intuition and psychic gifts expand and you see that we are all equal and one of the same. Your life starts showing you signs of synchronicity You start realizing that your thoughts, emotions and feelings shape your reality. Your lifestyle slowly starts shifting and changing to support this.

Stage 7:

This new awareness allows you to feel one with the Universe. You start understanding your purpose. You start shifting away from the tangible and instead, realize the greater power of energy and intention. You start seeing that all you need to do to start walking the path of your higher purpose  is to be your true, authentic self. You realize that your authentic self is what you have come to this earth to share.

Stage 8:

You begin to align with your true, authentic self. Ideas burst out of you like seeds. Inspiration follows you. Things start unfolding, your destiny becomes clearer. You start attracting abundance into your life through your creations and ideas. Your life is very much transformed and the people around you and experiences that you have, reflect your current state of higher consciousness. Challenges are still presented to you, but you are better equipped emotionally and spiritually to deal with them.

Stage 9:

As you pursue your path you realize that you are co creating with the divine .

You realize that when you surrender to and work with the Divine, things are better, bigger and have more flow. You start working alongside Source energy and understand that you will always be guided. You may even start connecting with your Spirit guides guardian angels or higher self.

Your intuition and psychic gifts may develop to be even stronger.

Stage 10:

As you work alongside the Divine, you start to align your energy with that of unconditional love.

You are love, you radiate love and you feel love. You realize that this life is temporary and simply an experience to enjoy. You understand that the entire awakening process has simply been to make your life easier, more peaceful and more secure.

I can’t stress enough how important it is not to fight against your awakening it will happen and when it does everything will make sense and you will be amazed at what you will see when your eyes are truly open .

Please Take a look at this YouTube video below.

Please feel free to contact me via my contact box I would love to hear your awakening experience’s.

Love to you all

Stacie xx

Blindsided

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Good Morning All

Its Saturday Which means its the weekend..

I awoke from not much sleep but Ive worked out coffee in hand I’m ready to be creative and let my passion flow.

Ive been getting a lot of emails and messages lately honestly I love getting messages from you all asking me for my guidance regarding your situations it makes me feel like I know what I’m talking about & also I like being helpful to other people.

I received an email of a lady in the U.S.A she had previously come across my blog and wanted my advice after her relationship of thirteen years ended abruptly.

I’m going to be honest I could feel her pain whilst reading her email one line that will always stick with me is I’m lost I really don’t know how I will carry on.

I just wanted to give her a hug because when your in love with someone and the feelings are no longer there on the partners side its a terrible feeling.

You just don’t know what you could of possibly done wrong, was you the actual problem all along.

Lets go over what the actual meaning of blindsided in love .

Blindside in love happens when one person thinks that everything is smooth and perfect in the relationship and suddenly the other person announces that they want to opt out. Being blindsided can shatter a person as it is unexpected and came without a warning.

We don’t see the red flags because we are so in love with someone we put them on a pedestal, it doesn’t matter what that person does to us we just don’t see the bigger picture.

  1. Your Feelings Are Normal

When you fail to pick up any signs that your partner was unhappy in the relationship and then suddenly ends it, you are going to feel like you have been blindsided by a breakup.

It’s normal to feel total shock and disbelief that this is happening to you because you thought you were both happy.

You will torture yourself with endless questions wondering how did it all go wrong. All these feelings are normal and they will pass as you process this heart breaking event.


2. Don’t Blame Yourself

Aside from cheating or doing something equally as destructive in the relationship, you can’t take the full blame for being splitting up.

If your ex wasn’t happy, they should have spoken up and discussed the issues that were bothering them.

But some people feel it’s easier to walk away rather than work through the issues towards a better relationship. You might have just been unlucky enough to fall for one of these types.


3. Take Time For Yourself

Be kind to yourself as you process this breakup.

Your heart has taken quite a blow without warning and it’s going to feel as if your world has been flipped upside down.

Often, your self-esteem will take a steep nosedive because you are going to feel unloved and unwanted.

The best way to combat these negative feelings is to pamper yourself so you get mini boosts of happiness as you work your way through the emotional pain.


4. Be Happy With Other People

Keep misery to a minimum by hanging out with good friends that can give you a shoulder to cry on.

Do fun things that you enjoy to take your mind off the breakup.

It’s really easy to slip into depression when someone you love tells you that they don’t want to be with you.

Surround yourself with people who think positive and can cheer you up when you are hurting the most.


5. Don’t Waste Your Time Trying To Convince Them.

The last thing you should do is try to convince them that they have made a mistake. Although it may have come as a complete surprise to you, it’s highly likely they where thinking about exiting the relationship long before it happened.

They had gave it a lot of thought before they actually initiated the breakup.

At this point, they have had more time to process the painful emotions and has detached themselves from them.


6. Acceptance Wont Come Easy

Although it always takes some time to accept a breakup, this one is going to be particularly difficult because you weren’t expecting to lose them at all.

You will remember the most recent time that they said “I love you” and struggle with the idea that their feelings couldn’t have changed that quickly.

Worst of all is that you will expect them to come back to you, and many times they won’t. It’s best to think of that relationship as a chapter in your life that has come to an end unless they says otherwise.


7. Distract Yourself

Find distractions to keep your mind from drowning in memories of your old relationship.

After you have been through a blindsiding breakup, your mind is going to struggle and try to make sense of the whole situation, which will bring up many old memories.

Find things to distract yourself like find a new hobby, sign up for a class in something you have always wanted to learn or learn a new language. The goal is to distract yourself so you won’t constantly be tortured by thoughts of your ex.

The key is to work on yourself when you go through a situation like this not because you where the problem in the first place but because you deserve to be loved and understood being blindsided can really be a whirlwind process but you will get through it , it just takes time.

You will learn new things about yourself when your in a state of vulnerability but you must always remember not every relationship will be the same as your last so please don’t give up on love when the time is right you will know but for now take your time and get to know yourself.

Please don’t Hesitate to email me if you need my advice using contact box below .

I’m Sending you love.

Stacie xxx

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𝔾𝕦𝕖𝕤𝕥 𝔹𝕝𝕠𝕘𝕘𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕆𝕡𝕡𝕠𝕣𝕥𝕦𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕚𝕖𝕤

Good Afternoon all.

I hope you are well, I just wanted to do a quick blog about a new exciting opportunity I have decided to progress forward with.

I’m not sure if any other fellow bloggers have come across the term guest blogging, but its Guest blogging, also called “guest posting,” is the act of writing content for another company or sole talent.

But why have I chosen to showcase other people’s business and talent’s I hear you ask.

I feel its extremely important to help each other grow there are times in life where we need to be selfish but when it comes to empowerment and recognising other peoples talents it doesn’t help to show your support.

All throughout my younger years ive built up my talent skills and I can really put my hand to mostly anything call me del boy but honestly there isn’t anything I wont try and learn to help with my own progression.

But what I lacked was support and people willing to help me grow so after a few failed attempts I know how gut wrenching it feels when you fail due to lack of support.

So here I am the universe gave me a sign to empower people and showcase their business and talents.

And it maybe only a small gesture of my own good will but from one small gesture can come some amazing opportunities.

All my life ive been selfless and I’ve always wanted to help others I suppose I wear my heart on my sleeve but I truly know how hard it is to be heard in a world that’s always so noisy.

So here is my pitch i hope it draws you in to work along side me lets help each other grow.

Once a month i will be giving away one free guest blog spot on my own blog seashells and lipgloss blog.

This post will stay on my blog indefinitely so that new readers will always be able read your blog and get to know your business and your talent’s leading them to choose to follow your journey through your own social media accounts and lead to potential clientele growth.

I’m looking for…

Artist’s , Musicians’, Photographer’s , All Small Businesses , Charites, Venues , Creative Writer’s.

I’m open to new talent opportunities also it doesn’t just have to be what’s listed above.

If your interested in what I have to offer please email me on..

seashellsandlipglossblog@gmail.com or via my contact block below

 

𝔹𝕒𝕔𝕜 𝕥𝕠 𝔹𝕒𝕤𝕚𝕔𝕤 𝕃𝕠𝕧𝕖 & 𝔻𝕒𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘

Good evening all.

I trust you are all well , and starting to get back to some sort of normality.

Tonight’s article i feel will be relatable to a wide audience , its that part of our lives we can find extremely confusing and also heart-breaking yes its love and relationship’s.

I get lots of messages from my readers asking for advice regarding love and relationship’s , I’m no dear Deidre but ive had my own share of heartbreak and confusion.

First i want to say to you all that read this article proceed with an open mind its just advice and my own added personal experience’s, so lets get to it.

The daunting experience of love and relationship’s it can leave us in quite a confused state , love makes us do things we wouldn’t normally do it can either evolve us or destroy us.

It all depends on how we react to certain situations, we live in a world were we are forced to always do the right thing the respectable thing even if sometimes it makes ourselves unhappy .

When it comes to finding another human being that we are compatible with it can be like finding a needle in a haystack.


Lets just address the elephant in the room here and just make something clear , there isn’t such thing as a perfect partner everyone has faults.

So lets throw away the perfect partner check list out shall we and be realistic here.

Dating isn’t anything like it used to be its all swipe left swipe right these days, There is an app for all sorts of things these days but are dating apps actually a useful tool to help you find the perfect partner.

Do you want me to be perfectly honest here… I’m going to say no sorry tinder …

I know some people may not agree here but remember what i said previously remain open minded.

I just think dating apps show pictures and its all about first impression’s on people and superficial looks.

How can you really get to know people from just a short bio of themselves on a site with millions of users.

It isn’t possible I’m not saying lets go back to the 1930’s what I’m trying to say is times have moved on but it still doesn’t hurt to use some of the traditional dating method’s.

So what if your already in a love connection and your unsure on what you want from your connection together.

If you find yourself in a connection where your unsure if you see future progress with that person the key is communication don’t waste your own time or the other parties time , because we all know that time is precious and you will never get it back.

Its always best to be honest and upfront i know sometimes its not easy to cause others heartbreak but you could be potentially be holding yourself and your partner back from finding more compatible connections.

I know its sad but sometimes we need to let go in order to progress.

This part of the article connects to everybody who maybe talking to someone and are having mixed signals from the other party.

Have you been talking a lot lately and all of a sudden communication slows down or do they completely go ghost on you well here are a few tips that i have learnt myself over the years.

  • Don’t make yourself so easily available to them, I know how it goes you get that texted message and you think oh i have to texted back straight away DONT!!!! there isn’t a law on how long you should wait to texted back but don’t make yourself so easy to be reachable.
  • They must understands that you need to study or hang out with friends or family, you need your own space it’s not healthy to spend 24 hours a day every day together.
  • Set Boundaries The right man or lady will step up to the plate and bring their A game. By conveying how you wish to be treated you are setting yourself up as the exceptionally high value human being that you are.
  • The three day texted rule this one’s for you if your being subjected to the ultimate male code of treat them mean keep them keen let’s ignore them for three days and see what happens rubbish, well lads your theory is outdated as the ark, by doing this incredibly silly tactic you could possibly make them loose complete interest in you sorry but we want consistency alongside space don’t confuse the two.

After going through my own in depth dating experiences .

That’s when I realized that as a society, we don’t teach our people about the things each of us desires most. We all want love.

We want relationships. 

We want to grow. 

This is what we imagine can happen in a great relationship, but most of us haven’t deleted our unconscious relationship programming.

 To change those habits into new ones, we have to do it with our hearts, not just our minds. Knowing something isn’t the same as being someone new. 

Love can be a beautiful experience if we allow ourselves to be honest with our own feelings , there isn’t any wrong or right way to date someone but you have to feel it in both your heart and mind, Both working symmetrically and in harmony .

Love to you All

Stacie xx