A different point of view.

Evening all

It’s been a minute since I’ve connected with you all.

It’s really difficult at the moment to get into the Christmas spirit, I think we can all agree that Christmas will be a very different one this year.

But we are all in the same situation!!!

I wanted to blog tonight because I recently received a message regarding a subject that really gets my back up.

I literally hate it when people make a comment that’s so unacceptable that they honestly need to check themselves before making such stupid comments to others.

Words hurt but people don’t seem to understand that.

So I had a message from a female on my instagram this lovely lady had recently received a very silly message on her own Instagram.

So the message said ooh girl if you lost a bit of weight and had a bit of work done to your face you would be amazing I’d definitely date you then.

Let me just clarify something for your someone else’s weight isn’t anyones concern neither is their appearance.

If you dont like what you see simply scroll on and leave people be.

I’ve dealt with messages like this before so the lovely lady had messaged me asking for my advice on how I personally dealt with this situation.

I told her…

If I wasn’t such a strong person people’s opinions would really run deep.

But listen I’ve dealt with rejection, I’ve dealt with insults.

If I want to eat a family size pack of biscuits with an afternoon brew I will do ..

Thats my choice!!

My weight doesn’t define me or my personality.

If my face offends anyone tough.

People can I just say this to you all never ever let someones comments bring you down.

Weight doesn’t define a person.

I know slimmer people who struggle with confidence, the outside doesn’t define who the person is on the inside.

Always remember that.

If you feel like you need to loose weight then do it for all the right reasons not because someone told you too.

But again size doesn’t define someone’s personality.

The face comment I told her I felt was dam right cheeky, some people have no shame, it’s OK to have an opinion but keep them to yourselves.

Not everyone likes everyone.

But there is always someone for everyone.

But I could tell this comment had really knocked this lovely ladies confidence.

Sometimes rejection teaches you very valuable life lessons it also teaches you self worth.

If any one is telling you anything like this lovely lady has had to deal with thrown them a wide curve ball and hope it hits their ego pretty dam hard.

Maybe suggest that they might want to watch shallow hal in the future and learn how to complement someone appropriately without judgment.

So chin up lovely your beautiful always remember that….

and keep being yourself.

Love Stacie xx

Weekly Spiritual Guidance 15/11/2020 to 22/11/2020

Good Afternoon all

How this week has passed us by so quickly its that time of the week again for your weekly spiritual guidance .

Today my energy is feeling a bit ropey but I’m here and ready to pass on messages from the divine.

Let me just remind you all that my spiritual guidance blogs are for entertainment purpose only.

Take what resonates and leave the rest.

For all signs and elements for the week commencing 15/11/2020 to 22/11/2020

Lets see what vision message the universe wants to share with you today..

I am seeing an image of a gentleman sitting at a table with his phone in front of him , I can feel mixed emotions bubbling up inside of him.

I feel the urgency of speaking the truth ,I feel this is linked to a past love interest that didn’t quite go as expected.

He is hovering over his phone , his heart starts to beat fast , he gains the courage to message this female , the message says !!

”HI I HOPE YOUR DOING WELL, THIS MAYBE A LONGSHOT BUT I WOULD REALLY LIKE TO MEET AND TALK TO YOU ”

He hits the send button and eagerly awaits a response, I can feel the anxiety rising within.

Will she reply ?

Its taken months maybe years for this gentleman to come to a realisation of how he feels about the female but now fears it maybe to late for them !!

He knows deep down there maybe a chance she wont reply , Either way he gets closure or the chance to speak the truth .

The universe want you to know that everyone makes mistakes , everyone feels fear when it comes to realisation of emotions , some people cant process emotions like others only option is to shut it out and push it aside.

Until the realisation of what you truly feel hits home and the damage is already done .

To right a wrong you must be truthful , you must also understand that sometimes there isn’t a way forward from your past mistake , there is only closure of a cycle .

But the universe wants you to be at peace and your past connections to be at peace , so if you cant make peace with the past at least make peace with yourself.

Lets Proceed With Our Weekly Tarot Card Guidance

Card 1

When the Ace of Cups is upright it means that you are a vessel for deep love and sympathy.

Love is the essence of this card, but it may or may not be romantic love.

Look to connect with other people

. This is the time to forgive or ask for forgiveness.

This is the time to set your anger aside and look for peace, and to drop your reserve and let your feelings come to the fore.

This is the time when your time is coming.

The Ace of Cups in love is an indication that there is tremendous romantic potential at this time.

If you are single, you may experience a very deep connection with someone new.

If you are in a relationship, then you and your partner will enjoy a period of deep intimacy and togetherness.

Card 2

When the Magician card is upright , it symbolizes originality, creativity, skill, self-confidence, and dexterity.

The card means you will be given an idea, a solution to a problem, an ambitious career, a love life, or a job.

You must trust in your big brain to help you find what you need and let the world open up to you.

The Magician card in love is usually a sign of positive things to come.

If you’re single, a new (and profound!) love is likely headed your way.

If you’re in a relationship, it could mean it is time to deepen your bond with your partner. All in all, a very good thing.

Card 3

When the Queen of Pentacles is upright ,it means you think as she does. You feel warm and caring toward others.

You are sensible in your approach.

You are true to your word. You’re highly generous, and best of all, you can be trusted when the chips are down.

By drawing the Queen of Pentacles card, you can be inspired by the atmosphere of warmth, trust, security, and whatever else the Queen stands for, including her special energy.

The Queen of Pentacles in love means you’re feeling confident and secure in love.

If you’re single, make sure to take time in picking the perfect partner.

If you’re in a relationship, it might mean it is time for you and your significant other to take a luxurious, romantic vacation together.

Card 4

When the Five of Cups is upright in a Tarot reading, it is there to alert you to the possibilities of a loss.

You might already be aware of the loss.

If not, this is when you must try to reduce the importance of the loss, if not avoid it altogether.

The Five of Cups in love means you have some sense of loss and grief when it comes to your relationships, past and present.

If you are single, it means you might live in worry that you let your soul mate get away.

If you’re in a relationship, the Five of Cups might mean that a breakup is coming in your future.

If you don’t want that to happen, you need to work on resolving deep issues.

Card 5

When the World card is upright it symbolizes completion, perfection, and recognition, in addition to honours, the end result, success, fulfilment, triumph, and eternal life.

It indicates a happy end to a project.

It will be accompanied by well-earned praise, celebration, and success.

Enjoy the satisfaction and fulfilment of a job well done.

The World card in love suggests finality, soul mates, ideal partners, a permanent and successful relationship.

If you are single, it may mean that you are feeling ready to begin something new, with fresh new optimism.

If you are in a relationship, maybe you are celebrating a happy anniversary or a marriage after a long engagement.

Card 6

The Queen of Wands always looks at the positive in all situations.

Her life is busy, and nothing gets her down.

She is healthy and fit, naturally strong, perfectly coordinated, and a good athlete.

The Queen of Wands has faith in her own abilities but is never arrogant.

Her belief that she can accomplish whatever she wishes comes from her self-assurance. When the Queen of Wands is upright in a Tarot reading, you need to feel and think like she does.

You need to feel attractive, believe in yourself, and be full of energy.

Her special energy has a special meaning. You need to be inspired by the Queen of Wands in whatever form she appears to you.

The appearance of this card may suggest that you be wholeheartedly adventurous, creative, and trusting. In fact, shake off those blues and be gung-ho about life.

This card means you need to create an atmosphere of cheerfulness and confident enthusiasm.

This is the time to be inspired by everything the Queen of Wands stands for.

The Queen of Wands in love is a lovely thing.

If you’re single, it might mean that either you’re about to meet a Queen of Wands type or you are the Queen of Wands type.

If you’re in a relationship, it means that you’re taking on characteristics of the Queen of Wands or that your partner is.

Bottom Of The Deck

When the Two of Pentacles is upright it means you can take care of all the demands made of you. You’ll juggle obstacles with excitement.

The card is a sign that you have to believe in yourself even if you aren’t feeling confident.

You can meet all challenges if you just remember to be flexible.

Forcing your way through difficulties is not going to work.

Sometimes the way forward is by a step to the side or backward.

The Two of Pentacles in love is an indication that you have a decision coming up.

If you’re single, this means you must decide if you want to stay single or make room for someone new in your life.

If you’re in a relationship, you might be facing a large financial decision that will impact the future of your relationship.

Be honest with yourself about what you want.

I hope you enjoyed your weekly guidance post please feel free to comment below if you have any questions or extra clarity.

Please feel free to share like and comment and donate to my blog if you wish.

Sending Love to you all

Stacie xx

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The Shutdown

Evening everyone

I hope your all OK…

This year has been pretty hectic for all of us and its about to get extra bumpy as mercury retrograde is on its way from October 14th to November 3rd.

So buckle up its going to be a wild ride.

I always feel very odd this time of the year it feels very much off balance.

Feels like I’m fighting for air in paper bag but never getting anywhere fast.

So frustrating for me because I’m a virgo and I’m impatient.

Every so often I feel utterly helpless my body feels drained and painful.

I’m in the process of clearing out an old cycle and becoming a newer more improved Stacie.

As if one transition wasn’t enough this year, I’ve been graced with another.

Progression is always needed to assend onto a better version of yourself.

During this period of time it gets very confusing and emotional.

You become more detached from the people around you.

Sometimes that’s not a bad thing this gives you time to observe the company you keep.

And who you allow to impact your life.

There’s no point holding on to people or situations that just cause you deep emotional anxiety and emotional pain.

Everybody will need to withdraw their energy at some point in life its unavoidable.

Think of it as a spiritual clear out nobody likes cobwebs in the corners of thier minds.

Mercury retrograde can be tough for us all but it’s how we handle ourselves during.

And what lessons can be learnt.

So how can we survive the next mercury retrograde….
Surviving Mercury retrograde is pretty simple: Remember to proofread everything, choose your words carefully, avoid signing contracts (or review them extra carefully), back up your data, and plan for travel mishap .

The truth, cosmic warrior, is that Mercury retrograde isn’t all bad; in fact, it can serve as your quarterly self-assessment.

How prepared are you for inconveniences? How zen are you feeling these days? Although Mercury retrograde isn’t a great time to make huge changes, it is ideal for reflection.

So if your feeling a little out of sorts at the moment and over the next few weeks that will be…

And its perfectly fine to be in hermit mode at the moment to avoid unnecessary stress and pain.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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Two Way Street

Evening all

Been a while since my last late night blog.

I’ve always had the the ability to tell the truth regarding situations and my own emotions.

This blog this evening is something that I’ve been struggling to come to terms with.

And that’s understanding that when it comes to love and relationships it simply can’t be all onesided.

I know most people have dealt with similar situations in regards to connections.

Can anyone here genuinely say they have ever been so in love that they would do anything to make the other person happy and completely disregarding their own feelings in order to be more appealing to the other party I know I have.

You know how it goes you play it cool try and keep busy but all your waiting for is the next….

To then find that it never comes.

One thing I’ve realised is that connections work both ways effort needs to come from both sides.

Your not the one who takes orders from a ringleader.

You make your own rules and follow them as you wish.

Over the years I’ve put my everything into my connections with people, I’ve really gone above board to make people happy, trouble is with me, I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have, and I love to love it’s just in my nature.

One thing I’ve realised over the past few months is that sometimes the universe will remove toxic people from your life other times you must remove them yourself.

Those who bring ill intentions into our lives do not or will not love us.

They will simply take what they need then leave.

That isn’t someone who loves you.

Love and respect is a two way street.

Never wait for someone to change their mind regarding their feelings.

That may never happen which leaves you feeling deflated.

Always be true to you but when the times right you will meet someone who understands you completely and no matter what the feelings will be mutual never onesided.

Loving all the wrong people prepares us to completely be ourselves and be at peace in our lives.

But most importantly it prepares us to receive the love we all deserve.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

Blindsided

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Good Morning All

Its Saturday Which means its the weekend..

I awoke from not much sleep but Ive worked out coffee in hand I’m ready to be creative and let my passion flow.

Ive been getting a lot of emails and messages lately honestly I love getting messages from you all asking me for my guidance regarding your situations it makes me feel like I know what I’m talking about & also I like being helpful to other people.

I received an email of a lady in the U.S.A she had previously come across my blog and wanted my advice after her relationship of thirteen years ended abruptly.

I’m going to be honest I could feel her pain whilst reading her email one line that will always stick with me is I’m lost I really don’t know how I will carry on.

I just wanted to give her a hug because when your in love with someone and the feelings are no longer there on the partners side its a terrible feeling.

You just don’t know what you could of possibly done wrong, was you the actual problem all along.

Lets go over what the actual meaning of blindsided in love .

Blindside in love happens when one person thinks that everything is smooth and perfect in the relationship and suddenly the other person announces that they want to opt out. Being blindsided can shatter a person as it is unexpected and came without a warning.

We don’t see the red flags because we are so in love with someone we put them on a pedestal, it doesn’t matter what that person does to us we just don’t see the bigger picture.

  1. Your Feelings Are Normal

When you fail to pick up any signs that your partner was unhappy in the relationship and then suddenly ends it, you are going to feel like you have been blindsided by a breakup.

It’s normal to feel total shock and disbelief that this is happening to you because you thought you were both happy.

You will torture yourself with endless questions wondering how did it all go wrong. All these feelings are normal and they will pass as you process this heart breaking event.


2. Don’t Blame Yourself

Aside from cheating or doing something equally as destructive in the relationship, you can’t take the full blame for being splitting up.

If your ex wasn’t happy, they should have spoken up and discussed the issues that were bothering them.

But some people feel it’s easier to walk away rather than work through the issues towards a better relationship. You might have just been unlucky enough to fall for one of these types.


3. Take Time For Yourself

Be kind to yourself as you process this breakup.

Your heart has taken quite a blow without warning and it’s going to feel as if your world has been flipped upside down.

Often, your self-esteem will take a steep nosedive because you are going to feel unloved and unwanted.

The best way to combat these negative feelings is to pamper yourself so you get mini boosts of happiness as you work your way through the emotional pain.


4. Be Happy With Other People

Keep misery to a minimum by hanging out with good friends that can give you a shoulder to cry on.

Do fun things that you enjoy to take your mind off the breakup.

It’s really easy to slip into depression when someone you love tells you that they don’t want to be with you.

Surround yourself with people who think positive and can cheer you up when you are hurting the most.


5. Don’t Waste Your Time Trying To Convince Them.

The last thing you should do is try to convince them that they have made a mistake. Although it may have come as a complete surprise to you, it’s highly likely they where thinking about exiting the relationship long before it happened.

They had gave it a lot of thought before they actually initiated the breakup.

At this point, they have had more time to process the painful emotions and has detached themselves from them.


6. Acceptance Wont Come Easy

Although it always takes some time to accept a breakup, this one is going to be particularly difficult because you weren’t expecting to lose them at all.

You will remember the most recent time that they said “I love you” and struggle with the idea that their feelings couldn’t have changed that quickly.

Worst of all is that you will expect them to come back to you, and many times they won’t. It’s best to think of that relationship as a chapter in your life that has come to an end unless they says otherwise.


7. Distract Yourself

Find distractions to keep your mind from drowning in memories of your old relationship.

After you have been through a blindsiding breakup, your mind is going to struggle and try to make sense of the whole situation, which will bring up many old memories.

Find things to distract yourself like find a new hobby, sign up for a class in something you have always wanted to learn or learn a new language. The goal is to distract yourself so you won’t constantly be tortured by thoughts of your ex.

The key is to work on yourself when you go through a situation like this not because you where the problem in the first place but because you deserve to be loved and understood being blindsided can really be a whirlwind process but you will get through it , it just takes time.

You will learn new things about yourself when your in a state of vulnerability but you must always remember not every relationship will be the same as your last so please don’t give up on love when the time is right you will know but for now take your time and get to know yourself.

Please don’t Hesitate to email me if you need my advice using contact box below .

I’m Sending you love.

Stacie xxx

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Good evening all.

I trust you are all well , and starting to get back to some sort of normality.

Tonight’s article i feel will be relatable to a wide audience , its that part of our lives we can find extremely confusing and also heart-breaking yes its love and relationship’s.

I get lots of messages from my readers asking for advice regarding love and relationship’s , I’m no dear Deidre but ive had my own share of heartbreak and confusion.

First i want to say to you all that read this article proceed with an open mind its just advice and my own added personal experience’s, so lets get to it.

The daunting experience of love and relationship’s it can leave us in quite a confused state , love makes us do things we wouldn’t normally do it can either evolve us or destroy us.

It all depends on how we react to certain situations, we live in a world were we are forced to always do the right thing the respectable thing even if sometimes it makes ourselves unhappy .

When it comes to finding another human being that we are compatible with it can be like finding a needle in a haystack.


Lets just address the elephant in the room here and just make something clear , there isn’t such thing as a perfect partner everyone has faults.

So lets throw away the perfect partner check list out shall we and be realistic here.

Dating isn’t anything like it used to be its all swipe left swipe right these days, There is an app for all sorts of things these days but are dating apps actually a useful tool to help you find the perfect partner.

Do you want me to be perfectly honest here… I’m going to say no sorry tinder …

I know some people may not agree here but remember what i said previously remain open minded.

I just think dating apps show pictures and its all about first impression’s on people and superficial looks.

How can you really get to know people from just a short bio of themselves on a site with millions of users.

It isn’t possible I’m not saying lets go back to the 1930’s what I’m trying to say is times have moved on but it still doesn’t hurt to use some of the traditional dating method’s.

So what if your already in a love connection and your unsure on what you want from your connection together.

If you find yourself in a connection where your unsure if you see future progress with that person the key is communication don’t waste your own time or the other parties time , because we all know that time is precious and you will never get it back.

Its always best to be honest and upfront i know sometimes its not easy to cause others heartbreak but you could be potentially be holding yourself and your partner back from finding more compatible connections.

I know its sad but sometimes we need to let go in order to progress.

This part of the article connects to everybody who maybe talking to someone and are having mixed signals from the other party.

Have you been talking a lot lately and all of a sudden communication slows down or do they completely go ghost on you well here are a few tips that i have learnt myself over the years.

  • Don’t make yourself so easily available to them, I know how it goes you get that texted message and you think oh i have to texted back straight away DONT!!!! there isn’t a law on how long you should wait to texted back but don’t make yourself so easy to be reachable.
  • They must understands that you need to study or hang out with friends or family, you need your own space it’s not healthy to spend 24 hours a day every day together.
  • Set Boundaries The right man or lady will step up to the plate and bring their A game. By conveying how you wish to be treated you are setting yourself up as the exceptionally high value human being that you are.
  • The three day texted rule this one’s for you if your being subjected to the ultimate male code of treat them mean keep them keen let’s ignore them for three days and see what happens rubbish, well lads your theory is outdated as the ark, by doing this incredibly silly tactic you could possibly make them loose complete interest in you sorry but we want consistency alongside space don’t confuse the two.

After going through my own in depth dating experiences .

That’s when I realized that as a society, we don’t teach our people about the things each of us desires most. We all want love.

We want relationships. 

We want to grow. 

This is what we imagine can happen in a great relationship, but most of us haven’t deleted our unconscious relationship programming.

 To change those habits into new ones, we have to do it with our hearts, not just our minds. Knowing something isn’t the same as being someone new. 

Love can be a beautiful experience if we allow ourselves to be honest with our own feelings , there isn’t any wrong or right way to date someone but you have to feel it in both your heart and mind, Both working symmetrically and in harmony .

Love to you All

Stacie xx