Good Afternoon to you all.
I trust you are all well as can be.
I feel there are a lot of you feeling quite lost at the moment I also feel very tired and surrounded by heavy energy
Today I’m going to get straight to business and concentrate on what the universe needs to share with you all.
I would like to state that all my weekly guidance blogs are for entertainment purpose only.
All signs and elements are included take what resonates and leave the rest.
Weekly vision message
Its late evening , im sitting on a porch in an old rocking chair.
I can hear the crickets chirping , The night time Wildlife ready to come to life in the darkness.
The sun is setting , the sky is filled with an eerily orange glow.
The silence is deafening.
But my mind feels clear and my heart feels pure, with each rock of the chair I can feel emotions arising, I feel like I’m trying to get somewhere but I’m getting no where fast.
I feel fear and frustration , I’m filled with fear and regret of not following my own heart and listing to other people.
As the darkness fills the sky my mind comes to life.
Within the few minutes where my mind was clear and my heart felt pure , I found true peace within.
That’s when the universe reminds me that between the chaos, there is calm and a chance of reflection, and a chance of true happiness.
You need to remind yourself that its ok to take a break and a step back.
Tarot Card Connection
With the Moon it’s likely that emotions are complicated at this time.
The environment can be one full of misunderstandings, and not everything is as it appears. You may need to do some work to get to the bottom of things; be sure to not only ensure the intentions of others, but also understand your own emotions, desires and motivations.
There may be old attitudes, beliefs or ideas that are clouding your judgement. Many things can be hiding in your unconscious affecting your ability to accept love. Are past relationships haunting you? Have you lost faith in love? Do you believe you are unworthy of love? All of these can have profound affects on how we approach relationships. Now is the time to examine them and reveal them as they truly are.
Justice In Reverse
Justice is about karma, and if you’ve been putting forth the effort, love and romance will be coming your way. If you’ve been kind, loving and supportive, your relationships will be a mirror of what you’ve been giving to others.
If you’ve been single, your loving and positive disposition will make you especially attractive to new potential romances.
Because this card is all about the law of cause and effect, make sure you have been treating your partner fairly. Watch out for resentment and defensiveness, and ensure that conflicts in your relationships are handled with respect and trust in your other half.
Compromise and understanding is needed now. Sometimes this card is also about being tactful, and expressing your frustrations in a way that are mindful of your partner’s feelings. As long as issues hare handled with honesty and good faith, your relationship will thrive.
Five of Wands Reversed
The Five of Wands reversed meaning can be that your natural method of dealing with disagreements is avoiding any kind of conflict by getting away from that place as fast as you can.
Sometimes this can be regarded as a good thing, but other times, it may lead to a number of issues that are brewing up within you, for which you will have to address soon.
On the other hand, it can also mean that you have worked through your troubles and that you do not have any more issues to worry about.
Issues of how you deal with conflict can affect your relationships now.
If you’re in a relationship, ensure that you haven’t been bottling up your resentments to avoid conflicts that the two of you need to have a smooth partnership.
Eventually avoiding difficult conversations lead to an erosion of trust. Remember that every person has the right to their needs, and having needs does not make you any less lovable.
If you’ve been doing the hard work of expressing yourself honestly with your partner however, you may find that misunderstandings are clearing up. What were once arguments may disappear once honesty and clarity have been achieved.
Getting the devil card in your reading shows that you have feelings of entrapment, emptiness and lack of fulfilment in your life.
It might also mean that you are a slave to materialism and opulence and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to shake off the feeling of wanting to indulge in luxurious living.
You might be aware that this kind of lifestyle is leading you down the rabbit hole, but you have that feeling of not having any form of control over your actions or urges.
Addiction to substances or material pleasures can also be the reason for your feelings of powerlessness and entrapment.
In situations such as these, you may feel as though you are a slave, unable to control your impulses or willpower to direct yourself towards something other than the satisfaction of these desires.
Lust and temptation are symbolized by the Devil.
There can be a sense of hedonism, and a selfish desire for gratification with this card. In less serious circumstances, it can also just simply mean a pursuit for all of life’s earthly pleasures.
There is nothing wrong in having a bit of fun, but make sure that you are not hurting others or giving them wrong impressions when you do.
If you’re only looking for hook-ups, it is up to you to communicate that with your dates. Make sure you avoid pressuring others if they decide your lifestyle isn’t something that suits them. Communication will be more important than ever now.
Alternatively, the Devil can also signal addiction, and in the context of love and relationships, co-dependency.
Over time, this can be destructive to the individuality and self of both partners. Be wary, and ensure that the two of you remain strong individuals within your relationship.
Page Of Pentacles
When we meet the Page of Pentacles, we see immediately that she is one that is ambitious and focused. She is protected, nourished, provided for by the suit whose name she bears.
Guided by it, she is deeply tied to the earth, nature, and all of its gifts.
She cherishes the body, for it too is something which is a manifestation of her element. Her diligence, ambition and loyalty drives her to quickly make plans for the future – for it is there where her focus lies.
When you meet her, she may be the bearer of news connected to all earthly and material matters. When you hear her message, be inspired as she is – lay down the foundations to follow your ambitions.
Generally, the Page of pentacles refers to the kind of energy that you need to complete all that is needed for your work.
It may point to the determination, focus and the ability to stick with a particular task no matter how boring it may seem.
In terms of work, the Page of Pentacles may signify that there are a lot of tasks you are responsible for, but your time to complete them is much too limited. This is not the time to feel stressed and overwhelmed. Assistance will be there for you, you just have to ask for it.
In relation to finances, the Page of Pentacles can refer to the reward for your hard work. For those who are investing their hard–earned money, this is not the perfect time for you to take the risk. Invest your money in a safe and traditional way – the diligence will pay you back. If you are currently experiencing a health issue, this problem may be the result of the continuous neglect. Let a professional make sure that this is not the case.
The person symbolized by the Page of Pentacles is ambitious, loyal and practical; they may often be seen as studious, but once you get to know them well, they can also be quite funny.
Their ambition and focus means that they are hardworking. They are likely to be as dedicated as they are to a lover, as they are to their goals.
Their quiet demeanour may make them hard to notice at first, compared to other folks that may be more out going.
If this doesn’t represent a person that is entering your love life, the Page of Pentacles tarot love meaning can simply signal this Page’s dedication and loyalty in your relationship.
While sometimes the relationship can lack passion and feel a bit boring, the love is there; you may only need to go out there and figure out how to inject some fun and excitement back into your romance. Try not to always put practicality before passion in the relationship and the two of you should be just fine.
The Seven Of Wands
The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event. The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle
The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event.
The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle that you need to go through to maintain your position, rather than to attain it.
This is about the difficulties we face to continue to have success. You should be ready for the competition to you defend your title, and to prove yourself. Others are going to desire the same results that you do, so you need to stay ahead of the them.
There will be challenges to the success of your project or venture from an outside source. You must remain dedicated to your desires, and with a clear purpose and effort, you will overcome them.
The overall meaning of the Seven of Wands is to hold your ground, no matter what is challenging your position.
You will need to defend this position and take a stand against those who are aiming to take your spot. There are setbacks during this time, but you need to keep fighting for your beliefs and confront those that may threaten or oppose you and your beliefs.
Bottom Of The Deck
The Empress shows us how deeply we are embedded to our femininity. Femininity could be associated with fertility, expression, creativity and nurturing among many other aspects.
It therefore calls you to connect with beauty and bring happiness to your life.
Understand yourself and get in touch with your sensuality so that you can attract life circumstances to bring happiness and joy. She is a signal that be kind to yourself, to take care of yourself.
The Empress is also a strong indication of pregnancy and motherhood.
You can look for other cards to confirm if this is truly pregnancy, or rather just an indication of a motherly, nurturing and caring attitude.
The Empress card could also mean the birth of a new idea, business or project on your life. Owing to the good fortune that surrounds this card, you can be sure that such situations and projects would end successfully in your life.
Discover and bring forth those ideas that have been clinging to you and make sure that you devote yourself towards accomplishing them.
This card is a sign that they are going to be successful, and well taken care of. The Empress, as the archetype of the mother earth, also encourages you to spend time interacting with nature, the mother of all of us.
The empress stems from the element of earth.
The person represented by this card can be loving, nurturing and caring, as has financial security or appreciative of beautiful, comforting things. Sometimes, the Empress can point to love and work coming together, either with a co-worker, or perhaps a new business venture.
When it comes to relationships, this card also heralds a stable, serious and committed relationship. Because the card also represents motherhood, sometimes it can also signal marriage or pregnancy, or at least a new family, in whatever form that means for you.
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Sending Love to you all
I hope your all OK…
This year has been pretty hectic for all of us and its about to get extra bumpy as mercury retrograde is on its way from October 14th to November 3rd.
So buckle up its going to be a wild ride.
I always feel very odd this time of the year it feels very much off balance.
Feels like I’m fighting for air in paper bag but never getting anywhere fast.
So frustrating for me because I’m a virgo and I’m impatient.
Every so often I feel utterly helpless my body feels drained and painful.
I’m in the process of clearing out an old cycle and becoming a newer more improved Stacie.
As if one transition wasn’t enough this year, I’ve been graced with another.
Progression is always needed to assend onto a better version of yourself.
During this period of time it gets very confusing and emotional.
You become more detached from the people around you.
Sometimes that’s not a bad thing this gives you time to observe the company you keep.
And who you allow to impact your life.
There’s no point holding on to people or situations that just cause you deep emotional anxiety and emotional pain.
Everybody will need to withdraw their energy at some point in life its unavoidable.
Think of it as a spiritual clear out nobody likes cobwebs in the corners of thier minds.
Mercury retrograde can be tough for us all but it’s how we handle ourselves during.
And what lessons can be learnt.
So how can we survive the next mercury retrograde….
Surviving Mercury retrograde is pretty simple: Remember to proofread everything, choose your words carefully, avoid signing contracts (or review them extra carefully), back up your data, and plan for travel mishap .
The truth, cosmic warrior, is that Mercury retrograde isn’t all bad; in fact, it can serve as your quarterly self-assessment.
How prepared are you for inconveniences? How zen are you feeling these days? Although Mercury retrograde isn’t a great time to make huge changes, it is ideal for reflection.
So if your feeling a little out of sorts at the moment and over the next few weeks that will be…
And its perfectly fine to be in hermit mode at the moment to avoid unnecessary stress and pain.
Love to you all
Been a while since my last late night blog.
I’ve always had the the ability to tell the truth regarding situations and my own emotions.
This blog this evening is something that I’ve been struggling to come to terms with.
And that’s understanding that when it comes to love and relationships it simply can’t be all onesided.
I know most people have dealt with similar situations in regards to connections.
Can anyone here genuinely say they have ever been so in love that they would do anything to make the other person happy and completely disregarding their own feelings in order to be more appealing to the other party I know I have.
You know how it goes you play it cool try and keep busy but all your waiting for is the next….
To then find that it never comes.
One thing I’ve realised is that connections work both ways effort needs to come from both sides.
Your not the one who takes orders from a ringleader.
You make your own rules and follow them as you wish.
Over the years I’ve put my everything into my connections with people, I’ve really gone above board to make people happy, trouble is with me, I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have, and I love to love it’s just in my nature.
One thing I’ve realised over the past few months is that sometimes the universe will remove toxic people from your life other times you must remove them yourself.
Those who bring ill intentions into our lives do not or will not love us.
They will simply take what they need then leave.
That isn’t someone who loves you.
Love and respect is a two way street.
Never wait for someone to change their mind regarding their feelings.
That may never happen which leaves you feeling deflated.
Always be true to you but when the times right you will meet someone who understands you completely and no matter what the feelings will be mutual never onesided.
Loving all the wrong people prepares us to completely be ourselves and be at peace in our lives.
But most importantly it prepares us to receive the love we all deserve.
Love to you all
Good Morning All
Its Saturday Which means its the weekend..
I awoke from not much sleep but Ive worked out coffee in hand I’m ready to be creative and let my passion flow.
Ive been getting a lot of emails and messages lately honestly I love getting messages from you all asking me for my guidance regarding your situations it makes me feel like I know what I’m talking about & also I like being helpful to other people.
I received an email of a lady in the U.S.A she had previously come across my blog and wanted my advice after her relationship of thirteen years ended abruptly.
I’m going to be honest I could feel her pain whilst reading her email one line that will always stick with me is I’m lost I really don’t know how I will carry on.
I just wanted to give her a hug because when your in love with someone and the feelings are no longer there on the partners side its a terrible feeling.
You just don’t know what you could of possibly done wrong, was you the actual problem all along.
Lets go over what the actual meaning of blindsided in love .
Blindside in love happens when one person thinks that everything is smooth and perfect in the relationship and suddenly the other person announces that they want to opt out. Being blindsided can shatter a person as it is unexpected and came without a warning.
We don’t see the red flags because we are so in love with someone we put them on a pedestal, it doesn’t matter what that person does to us we just don’t see the bigger picture.
- Your Feelings Are Normal
When you fail to pick up any signs that your partner was unhappy in the relationship and then suddenly ends it, you are going to feel like you have been blindsided by a breakup.
It’s normal to feel total shock and disbelief that this is happening to you because you thought you were both happy.
You will torture yourself with endless questions wondering how did it all go wrong. All these feelings are normal and they will pass as you process this heart breaking event.
2. Don’t Blame Yourself
Aside from cheating or doing something equally as destructive in the relationship, you can’t take the full blame for being splitting up.
If your ex wasn’t happy, they should have spoken up and discussed the issues that were bothering them.
But some people feel it’s easier to walk away rather than work through the issues towards a better relationship. You might have just been unlucky enough to fall for one of these types.
3. Take Time For Yourself
Be kind to yourself as you process this breakup.
Your heart has taken quite a blow without warning and it’s going to feel as if your world has been flipped upside down.
Often, your self-esteem will take a steep nosedive because you are going to feel unloved and unwanted.
The best way to combat these negative feelings is to pamper yourself so you get mini boosts of happiness as you work your way through the emotional pain.
4. Be Happy With Other People
Keep misery to a minimum by hanging out with good friends that can give you a shoulder to cry on.
Do fun things that you enjoy to take your mind off the breakup.
It’s really easy to slip into depression when someone you love tells you that they don’t want to be with you.
Surround yourself with people who think positive and can cheer you up when you are hurting the most.
5. Don’t Waste Your Time Trying To Convince Them.
The last thing you should do is try to convince them that they have made a mistake. Although it may have come as a complete surprise to you, it’s highly likely they where thinking about exiting the relationship long before it happened.
They had gave it a lot of thought before they actually initiated the breakup.
At this point, they have had more time to process the painful emotions and has detached themselves from them.
6. Acceptance Wont Come Easy
Although it always takes some time to accept a breakup, this one is going to be particularly difficult because you weren’t expecting to lose them at all.
You will remember the most recent time that they said “I love you” and struggle with the idea that their feelings couldn’t have changed that quickly.
Worst of all is that you will expect them to come back to you, and many times they won’t. It’s best to think of that relationship as a chapter in your life that has come to an end unless they says otherwise.
7. Distract Yourself
Find distractions to keep your mind from drowning in memories of your old relationship.
After you have been through a blindsiding breakup, your mind is going to struggle and try to make sense of the whole situation, which will bring up many old memories.
Find things to distract yourself like find a new hobby, sign up for a class in something you have always wanted to learn or learn a new language. The goal is to distract yourself so you won’t constantly be tortured by thoughts of your ex.
The key is to work on yourself when you go through a situation like this not because you where the problem in the first place but because you deserve to be loved and understood being blindsided can really be a whirlwind process but you will get through it , it just takes time.
You will learn new things about yourself when your in a state of vulnerability but you must always remember not every relationship will be the same as your last so please don’t give up on love when the time is right you will know but for now take your time and get to know yourself.
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I’m Sending you love.
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I hope you have had a great day I would like to say I have but that hasn’t been the case.
Do you know when you roll out of bed in the morning and you know its not going to be a great day both emotionally and physically, most the time these days I have my shit together.
But today I felt like the whole world was against me, my anxiety attacks are less and less these days since I’ve found my confidence back but still one slips through the cracks of that barrier that ive built so high around my soul and every now and again the old Stacie tries to remerge from the shadows and i have to rain her back into the darkness because that jush isn’t me anymore.
This blog post I’ve wanted to post for along time now and I’ve been putting it off for a while but i think its time to share it with you all.
To the people who know me in person who read my blog will understand exactly how I’ve been feeling and hopefully you will understand why I’ve needed to do what I have done to simply keep my head above water and to stop myself from drowning.
Up until the last six months Ive been at war with myself , my mind and my heart trying to align all three has been a battle and half.
I’ve always put others first and always put myself last just to make other people happy.
Ive loved and not always been loved back the old unrequited love is an arsehole.
I’ve sat there and listened and let someone pull me apart piece by piece for simply being me.
Ive kept calm when the fire inside me had raged.
I’ve been battered and bruised by my own self confidence.
Until that day comes and you think you know enough is enough I’m not taking this anymore.
I got up that morning in February and thought this is the last time i will allow my life and the people around me to control me..
It started with some external changes I was so determined to loose weight as that held my confidence back massively and I knew I had to drastically do something to achieve what i wanted so that was the first step for me.
So then the hair changed you always know when a women means business she changes her hair said coco channel , so that’s when my transformation really started when the red hair came along , that in itself gave me a lot of confidence.
Over the past 7 months i have worked on my surroundings and the company i kept.
I had taken a step back from anyone who brings drama to my life, I’m not about the drama, I just want a peaceful life.
One thing I realised when your going through a glow up is that some people will support you others will completely turn on you.
Ive been called nasty and evil plus lot more but i know that’s not me at all.
That’s the kind of people I haven’t got time for anymore.
We all go through bad times i know but its how we choose to evolve from it.
You see some people don’t like other people evolving due to their own insecurities, that’s when you realise that your energies are not meant to combine.
Your eyes open and you truly see people and situations that you once where involved with and think what the hell was i doing.
Transformation does that to you.
So what are my plans for the near future I’m sure that people will have something to say but you know what its my life my body I will do what makes me happy.
I don’t go into things blind I do my research..
so I’m fast approaching 33 and its time to start taking proper care of myself as vain as that sounds but again my choice, so i have been in touch with the Harley medical group to see if they will sort my loose skin from weight loss, that for me is a massive step in the mean time i will just have to put up with it.
Its ok people saying you look fine but its my choice i have to do what makes me happy and i would never go to the extreme.
So the glow up after such a rubbish time is amazing and I’m in this bubble at the moment where I feel untouchable from anything or anyone who caused me heartache and upset in the past.
If you like the new me then cool if you don’t then tough I’m never going back.
And I’m so proud of myself, I still have bad days and I know that one day someone will get me and will love me completely for just being me if given half the chance all I want to do is be happy but until then I’m like a elastic band I will always ping back ….
Love to you all
I hope you are all well i know
I always start my blogs of the same way i suppose i want people to know that wherever you are in the world I’m sending my well wishes .
Sometimes just a few words can completely change someone’s day.
As i sit in my new office cup of tea in hand my imagination goes wild its always this time of night where i feel like i can actually breathe sometimes its the simple things in life us humans need just to soothe the soul.
Its not about what you have left behind or what’s in your future its about where you are now in the present that’s all that counts.
I’m going to share with you all a short story about Harry and Mark.
It was a perfect summers day in the height of a busy dinner hour an elderly gentleman called Harry sits down on his usual bench in City Hall Park .
The bench held special memories of when Harry and his dearly beloved wife Susie used to sit and watch the world go by.
After Harry’s wife passed away he would always keep up their daily routine just because to him that was Harry’s happy place.
At that exact moment in the finance district was Mark after a busy morning of meetings and Linda from H.R spoiling his $900 suit he had already had enough of the day.
Escaping the hustle of the office and the noise of the city he found himself in City Hall Park.
Where he sat next to Harry they exchanged a simple hello.
But Harry could see the strain on Marks face, Tough day huh ?
Mark replied a little , sometimes i don’t know what its all for ?
You have a little bit more life experience any advice Mark asked Harry.
Yes of course i do ? but its only advice said Harry.
Do you have regrets Harry, plenty but its in the past i can’t change the past he replied.
Do you look to the future said Mark , not really Harry replied the future is never set in stone it can change in an instant.
So what do you look to asked Mark, Harry simply replied the present.
The present said Mark !!!
You need to look at what’s around you in the present moment are you happy are you alive or just existing , are you in love and have you ever found yourself even in the darkest of places.
Because know this one thing what’s important in life can’t be brought like real love ,trust , inner peace and time.
Mark said I’ve not really thought about it in that way before Harry , I’m in a relationship but I’m under a lot of pressure to take the next step, and I’m not sure if she’s the one , Harry replied.
If you love her you will know you will feel it deep down in the pit of your stomach if she is the one if you don’t feel it you have your answer.
I also work to hard and long hours i don’t see my family enough i don’t take vacation’s , im simply relied on by my boss to give 100% all the time and it’s so exhausting.
Harry replied simply tell him no and take a vacation go see your family.
Work will always be there when you get back but your loved ones won’t always be here, you simply need to find balance.
Find out what’s important to you and let everything else go.
What would a random Old man who hasn’t got time on his side say to his younger self.
He would say son fall in love whenever possible, don’t work so hard, and use your time wisely.
Change what doesn’t seem to fit and take risks.
That afternoon on that bench in City Hall Park words of wisdom were exchanged and lives were changed forever.
Sometimes all we need is a little bit of direction and a fresh mindset to make changes don’t ever feel weak for asking advice even if it’s from a complete stranger.
Be open and listen it just might change your life.
Love to you all
It’s been a minute since I’ve properly blogged.
It’s been one of those weeks well months if I’m honest but it’s all been hush hush.
I’ve really wanted to blog about situations but I know I can’t at the moment i haven’t got the heart to.
Or the words to discribe how it’s made me feel.
You wake up everyday with this ambition of wanting to make a change an difference to yourself and the world around you.
You build yourself up then for others to try and knock you down and to me that’s not fair.
It’s not all bad news and depressing states though I’ve learnt alot about myself during this process.
I’ve removed a lot of toxic energy but some is still remaining its been quite tough trying to find a solution to situation where you don’t even know where to start.
Anyone who understands what I’m going on about knows how hard it is to try and it still not be good enough.
I talk alot about myself in my blogs because this is the whole reason why I decided to share parts of myself with you all.
So that people could relate and not feel alone.
Because feeling alone is worst feeling in the world.
One thing I’ve realised is I’m not normal and neither do I want to be.
But then what is classed as not normal these days we all have faults somewhere down the line.
Can we actually define the social expectations of being normal?
Someone who shows traits of an eccentric character in society isn’t deemed to be normal.
Why because they don’t allow themselves to fall into the trap of normal social existence.
Go to school, get a job, fall in love, get married, have babies.
That’s great in all if that’s what you want but to just simply be you and make yourself happy sometimes doesn’t sit well with others.
Not everyone will understand you or know why you do the things you do.
And that’s OK it’s not right to judge somebody else’s path.
Some times you just need to take a second to refocus.
Progress is progress however big or small it is, it’s still progress..
So little by little than none at all.
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Love to you all
I hope you are all well and have had a great weekend.
Whist I’ve had a bit of time to myself the past few days I’ve looked back over the last few months and how slowly started to bring myself back to life.
Mental health is so important to me because I understand how other people feel when their at a low point in life and how our minds affects our progression, relationships and the way we see ourselves.
One of the main issues I had was trying to hold everything inside keeping feelings and emotions inside.
It really didn’t work it was like putting a packet of mentos in a bottle of coke and expecting it not to erupt..
It happens there’s no holding it in..
This is know as fight and flight mode..
When your in flight of fight mode which does happen a lot with people who have anxiety and other conditions that are linked to mental distress. All you want to do is run and hide away push everyone away and bottle everything up so you try to surpress your emotions and pretend your fine.
There are three stages of flight or flight alarm, resistance, and exhaustion.
Alarm – This occurs when we first perceive something as stressful, and then the body initiates the fight-or-flight response.
Resistance – If the perceived stress continues, the body stays activated at a higher metabolic level in an effort to offset the persistent stress. The body cannot maintain this level indefinitely, and its resources will eventually deplete.
Exhaustion – Prolonged exposure to the stressor will result in the depletion of the body’s resources, and the resulting wear and tear will suppress the immune system and cause bodily functions to deteriorate.
This can lead to a variety of health issues and illnesses, including heart disease, digestive problems, depression, and diabetes.
It’s important we try and figure out what triggers us in order to help us not only move on but to help stop fight or flight reactions reaccurring.
It’s all about personal boundaries and allowing yourself to actually put you’re own needs first.
I’m always told by people I don’t know how you always manage to cope with certain situations and people.
I was always told you’re extremely strong willed the answer to them would be yes I suppose so but all I wanted to scream is I’m not I just wear a mask like most people I’m good at suppressing my emotions which can then come across like I’m not affected by situations or people’s actions.
But actually I really am affected by it just good at hiding my feelings.
One of my biggest issues is trying to understand why people don’t like me i know in past situations I’ve not been the best possible person I could be.
But I’ve learnt from my mistakes.
I have issues with rejection I find it extremely hard to understand why people wouldn’t like me…
But the people who are close to me always tell me is because I actually try and achieve something in life and that I aways wear my heart on my sleeve.
I’ve come to realise that not everyone likes everyone and that’s OK sometimes there isn’t a reason and there isn’t an answer to your question you just have to accept it for what it is and move on.
It’s impossible to be liked by everyone and never try understand why people do things the way they do or say the things they say.
Your only in control of yourself.
It’s all about quality of friendship and family connections not quantity the people who love your will always listen to you however many times your need to scream or moan but never be scared to express how you really feel.
Your causing more damage to yourself than good by pretending you’re OK don’t be scared to ask for help or put yourself first.
Sending hugs to you all
Lots of love
Late night blogging for me its Monday and it’s a start of a brand new week.I wanted to share this blog with you all because at the moment I know people are struggling with their mental health and dealing with fear and anxiety.
When your forced to make changes or if a change is forced upon you it can be a very frustrating and confusing time let alone scary.
Some people deal with change well others don’t it’s just human nature.
Some have better coping mechanisms than others.I’m going to share some knowledge I’ve learnt over the past six months and how I’ve used it to help me progress..
1. Never change who you are to fit in with other’s…
I’ve been in this situation so many times.
Instead of being the person you are you end up being so far away from who you actually are and perceiving you’re self to be someone you’re not.
This is a massive lesson to learn because to all the people who just want to be liked by everyone it’s not going to happen…Sometimes in life people dislike you for no reason it happens.
Never ever under any circumstances try and fit in with others.You loose yourself in the process and whilst others around you are happy you will not be happy because you aren’t being your true self.
2. You will never understand another person’s actions towards you.
Dont try and debunk why someone treats you the way they do you will go round in circles in your own brain trying to figure it all out honestly it’s not worth it.
Life goes on always remember that and everyone has their own burdens to carry if you find a kind person around you be one.
3. Toughen up
I know it’s easy for me to say yes I said the exact same thing when I was told I’m too kind to people who don’t deserve it.It takes courage to stand up for yourself and say enough is enough.
I’m not dealing with this situation any more.
You either move past it or make life harder than it needs to be.
You don’t need to participate in every situation that gets thrown your way
People are going to think what they think and nothing you do or say will make them believe otherwise.
4. Don’t justify any decisions you make.
This one is simple it’s your life its your choice every decision you make is either for you to evolve and grow or to move on to something better.
If you feel it’s right go with your own gut instinct at the end of the day people talk it’s what humans do but you might as well just do it anyway regardless you can accept advice but never let someone criticise you for simply trying to better yourself.
5. Let them believe what they want to.
Best thing to do here don’t react when you enter transformation you care less about how others see you and more about how you see yourself.
What’s your self worth and why sometimes it doesn’t always pay you to be completely honest sometimes we just don’t need to say nothing at all…
People won’t understand how they treated you until you treat them in exactly the same way its just the way it is.
But don’t try and justify anything to anyone who’s already made up their mind about who you are.
Even if their perception is false.
6. The Chinese Whisperers
Massive lessons I’ve learnt this year is don’t believe everything someone says about someone.
We as humans are very quick to judge and get tangled up in all sort of drama that doesn’t really concern us.
This is my massive learning curve for 2020.
Leave people to fight their own battles.
We have all done it said something and thought why the hell have I just said that we are all human and make mistakes we live with alot of regret throughout life but its when you don’t learn from it that makes it dangerous for us.
I’m literally no longer getting involved with anything that doesn’t concern me you can’t keep making the same mistake.
You can’t bulid a new life by keep talking parts of the old one and trying to make the pieces fit it simply doesn’t work that way.
You will loose parts of yourself and people who you always thought would be around you forever but that’s part of the process where you are ready to move on.
You have your memories and sometimes that’s more than enough.
Love to you all
I hate to have to do blogs like this now because I’m so far away from the person who I was 18 months ago.
But as its my blog and I know people who truly care about me will understand every word that I wrote. Nothing else matters than how you see yourself.
So here it goes….
Hey I’m stacie I’m a 32 year old working mum of two.
I have two girls that I need to show strength and empowerment to.
Yes how ive evolved from who I once was and to the people who don’t understand why I’ve changed I’m going to explain a little.
If your affected by it then tough then maybe you know you have played a part in my story and maybe the truth hits home hard but that’s not my gulit it’s yours.
When all people say is oh well your strong you can deal with it but your actually screaming inside I can’t do this anymore, I’ve had enough yes this was me 18 months ago disappointed by ego, relationships,friendships and your own personal growth.
If I could go back now and slap myself 18 months previous I would.
How I’ve allowed others to use and walk over me.
To lie, abuse my friendship and my love then act like I was the one who put the knife in their back.
Well guess what I’ve just pulled the last knife out of my own back.
Whatever I’ve done in order to create my own innerpeace is my bussiness.
I’ve lost weight for me and I will continue to do what makes me happy…
And if I want to sit there in my bra and pants and post a selfie I will because this women is proud of who’s shes becoming.
After years of looking in the mirror and hating myself I finally have self love.
If you don’t like to see someone else progress then that’s your own issue.
I won’t settle for anything less than what I deserve.
So yes you can say who does she think she is.
But you don’t know the truth behind my change and why I needed to change myself.
I’m still here there’s still parts of stacie but I’ve upgraded and outgrown people who didn’t bring peace to my life my old ways of thinking have gone.
I’m still compassionate I still have a heart but the walls are a little higher..
No time for drama, fake friends or judgement.
I’m here to make something of myself.
So keep your judgement to yourself because it’s not welcome here.
We don’t cut people out for the fun of it we cut people out because we have finally opened our eyes.
I’m no angel I know that but one thing is I’ve learnt from my mistakes I don’t try and pass them off to someone else and hide.
But understand that sometimes people need to wipe slate clean and walk away from anything that damages the soul.
Sometimes that includes cutting ties and moving on.
Thanks for reading 💓💗