I feel there are a lot of you feeling quite lost at the moment I also feel very tired and surrounded by heavy energy
Today I’m going to get straight to business and concentrate on what the universe needs to share with you all.
I would like to state that all my weekly guidance blogs are for entertainment purpose only.
All signs and elements are included take what resonates and leave the rest.
Weekly vision message
Its late evening , im sitting on a porch in an old rocking chair.
I can hear the crickets chirping , The night time Wildlife ready to come to life in the darkness.
The sun is setting , the sky is filled with an eerily orange glow.
The silence is deafening.
But my mind feels clear and my heart feels pure, with each rock of the chair I can feel emotions arising, I feel like I’m trying to get somewhere but I’m getting no where fast.
I feel fear and frustration , I’m filled with fear and regret of not following my own heart and listing to other people.
As the darkness fills the sky my mind comes to life.
Within the few minutes where my mind was clear and my heart felt pure , I found true peace within.
That’s when the universe reminds me that between the chaos, there is calm and a chance of reflection, and a chance of true happiness.
You need to remind yourself that its ok to take a break and a step back.
Tarot Card Connection
With the Moon it’s likely that emotions are complicated at this time.
The environment can be one full of misunderstandings, and not everything is as it appears. You may need to do some work to get to the bottom of things; be sure to not only ensure the intentions of others, but also understand your own emotions, desires and motivations.
There may be old attitudes, beliefs or ideas that are clouding your judgement. Many things can be hiding in your unconscious affecting your ability to accept love. Are past relationships haunting you? Have you lost faith in love? Do you believe you are unworthy of love? All of these can have profound affects on how we approach relationships. Now is the time to examine them and reveal them as they truly are.
Justice In Reverse
Justice is about karma, and if you’ve been putting forth the effort, love and romance will be coming your way. If you’ve been kind, loving and supportive, your relationships will be a mirror of what you’ve been giving to others.
If you’ve been single, your loving and positive disposition will make you especially attractive to new potential romances.
Because this card is all about the law of cause and effect, make sure you have been treating your partner fairly. Watch out for resentment and defensiveness, and ensure that conflicts in your relationships are handled with respect and trust in your other half.
Compromise and understanding is needed now. Sometimes this card is also about being tactful, and expressing your frustrations in a way that are mindful of your partner’s feelings. As long as issues hare handled with honesty and good faith, your relationship will thrive.
Five of Wands Reversed
The Five of Wands reversed meaning can be that your natural method of dealing with disagreements is avoiding any kind of conflict by getting away from that place as fast as you can.
Sometimes this can be regarded as a good thing, but other times, it may lead to a number of issues that are brewing up within you, for which you will have to address soon.
On the other hand, it can also mean that you have worked through your troubles and that you do not have any more issues to worry about.
Issues of how you deal with conflict can affect your relationships now.
If you’re in a relationship, ensure that you haven’t been bottling up your resentments to avoid conflicts that the two of you need to have a smooth partnership.
Eventually avoiding difficult conversations lead to an erosion of trust. Remember that every person has the right to their needs, and having needs does not make you any less lovable.
If you’ve been doing the hard work of expressing yourself honestly with your partner however, you may find that misunderstandings are clearing up. What were once arguments may disappear once honesty and clarity have been achieved.
Getting the devil card in your reading shows that you have feelings of entrapment, emptiness and lack of fulfilment in your life.
It might also mean that you are a slave to materialism and opulence and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to shake off the feeling of wanting to indulge in luxurious living.
You might be aware that this kind of lifestyle is leading you down the rabbit hole, but you have that feeling of not having any form of control over your actions or urges.
Addiction to substances or material pleasures can also be the reason for your feelings of powerlessness and entrapment.
In situations such as these, you may feel as though you are a slave, unable to control your impulses or willpower to direct yourself towards something other than the satisfaction of these desires.
Lust and temptation are symbolized by the Devil.
There can be a sense of hedonism, and a selfish desire for gratification with this card. In less serious circumstances, it can also just simply mean a pursuit for all of life’s earthly pleasures.
There is nothing wrong in having a bit of fun, but make sure that you are not hurting others or giving them wrong impressions when you do.
If you’re only looking for hook-ups, it is up to you to communicate that with your dates. Make sure you avoid pressuring others if they decide your lifestyle isn’t something that suits them. Communication will be more important than ever now.
Alternatively, the Devil can also signal addiction, and in the context of love and relationships, co-dependency.
Over time, this can be destructive to the individuality and self of both partners. Be wary, and ensure that the two of you remain strong individuals within your relationship.
Page Of Pentacles
When we meet the Page of Pentacles, we see immediately that she is one that is ambitious and focused. She is protected, nourished, provided for by the suit whose name she bears.
Guided by it, she is deeply tied to the earth, nature, and all of its gifts.
She cherishes the body, for it too is something which is a manifestation of her element. Her diligence, ambition and loyalty drives her to quickly make plans for the future – for it is there where her focus lies.
When you meet her, she may be the bearer of news connected to all earthly and material matters. When you hear her message, be inspired as she is – lay down the foundations to follow your ambitions.
Generally, the Page of pentacles refers to the kind of energy that you need to complete all that is needed for your work.
It may point to the determination, focus and the ability to stick with a particular task no matter how boring it may seem.
In terms of work, the Page of Pentacles may signify that there are a lot of tasks you are responsible for, but your time to complete them is much too limited. This is not the time to feel stressed and overwhelmed. Assistance will be there for you, you just have to ask for it.
In relation to finances, the Page of Pentacles can refer to the reward for your hard work. For those who are investing their hard–earned money, this is not the perfect time for you to take the risk. Invest your money in a safe and traditional way – the diligence will pay you back. If you are currently experiencing a health issue, this problem may be the result of the continuous neglect. Let a professional make sure that this is not the case.
The person symbolized by the Page of Pentacles is ambitious, loyal and practical; they may often be seen as studious, but once you get to know them well, they can also be quite funny.
Their ambition and focus means that they are hardworking. They are likely to be as dedicated as they are to a lover, as they are to their goals.
Their quiet demeanour may make them hard to notice at first, compared to other folks that may be more out going.
If this doesn’t represent a person that is entering your love life, the Page of Pentacles tarot love meaning can simply signal this Page’s dedication and loyalty in your relationship.
While sometimes the relationship can lack passion and feel a bit boring, the love is there; you may only need to go out there and figure out how to inject some fun and excitement back into your romance. Try not to always put practicality before passion in the relationship and the two of you should be just fine.
The Seven Of Wands
The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event. The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle
The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event.
The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle that you need to go through to maintain your position, rather than to attain it.
This is about the difficulties we face to continue to have success. You should be ready for the competition to you defend your title, and to prove yourself. Others are going to desire the same results that you do, so you need to stay ahead of the them.
There will be challenges to the success of your project or venture from an outside source. You must remain dedicated to your desires, and with a clear purpose and effort, you will overcome them.
The overall meaning of the Seven of Wands is to hold your ground, no matter what is challenging your position.
You will need to defend this position and take a stand against those who are aiming to take your spot. There are setbacks during this time, but you need to keep fighting for your beliefs and confront those that may threaten or oppose you and your beliefs.
Bottom Of The Deck
The Empress shows us how deeply we are embedded to our femininity. Femininity could be associated with fertility, expression, creativity and nurturing among many other aspects.
It therefore calls you to connect with beauty and bring happiness to your life.
Understand yourself and get in touch with your sensuality so that you can attract life circumstances to bring happiness and joy. She is a signal that be kind to yourself, to take care of yourself.
The Empress is also a strong indication of pregnancy and motherhood.
You can look for other cards to confirm if this is truly pregnancy, or rather just an indication of a motherly, nurturing and caring attitude.
The Empress card could also mean the birth of a new idea, business or project on your life. Owing to the good fortune that surrounds this card, you can be sure that such situations and projects would end successfully in your life.
Discover and bring forth those ideas that have been clinging to you and make sure that you devote yourself towards accomplishing them.
This card is a sign that they are going to be successful, and well taken care of. The Empress, as the archetype of the mother earth, also encourages you to spend time interacting with nature, the mother of all of us.
The empress stems from the element of earth.
The person represented by this card can be loving, nurturing and caring, as has financial security or appreciative of beautiful, comforting things. Sometimes, the Empress can point to love and work coming together, either with a co-worker, or perhaps a new business venture.
When it comes to relationships, this card also heralds a stable, serious and committed relationship. Because the card also represents motherhood, sometimes it can also signal marriage or pregnancy, or at least a new family, in whatever form that means for you.
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Nothing is permanent in this wicked world – not even our troubles.
I hope you are all well.
I wanted to check in with you and let you know I’m still around in the background I’m just taking some time away from everyday hussle and bussle.
One thing I’ve come to realise these last few weeks is nothing is permanent in life, life can change instantly and it doesn’t matter how much we try and prevent something from happening we can’t.
Being a virgo for me is giving my all to every aspect of my life so at my job, at my home with my children and within my relationships.
I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have and putting other people first has always been a big stop block for me within all aspects of my life.
Truth is I care way to much about everything and I overthink far to much, I think with a realistic mind but I have a tenancy to be aggravated by people who are lazy and uncoordinated and people who play games.
It’s just my virgo traits.
I’ve worked very hard past few weeks on my mental health I’ve relapsed a few times had a few wobbles. I’ve been quite and unresponsive for a day or too I find it easier to shut down than try and explain my feelings.
It’s just way I’ve always be.
I’ve very lucky to have such a good support network around me i didn’t a few years ago but now I have people around me who understand when I’m having a bad day not to push me to far.
My blogging has slowed down abit again due to mostly me being busy but also to fear of getting on people’s nerves with all my posting but again like my mum says you don’t need to read if you don’t want to just…
You don’t need to justify anything you do to anyone.
Just have to be true to yourself.
Yes I may seem like an emotional lunatic very up and down when it comes to life, but you would be surprised how many people suffer in silance and pretend that they are OK.
I tell my story to help others sometimes along side the joking and everyday life blogs we need realisation that everyone is human and we all feel emotion and we all deal with life in different ways.
I tell mine through my writing along side my singing therapy.
And I really hope some people out there find comfort from my blog and sharing my experiences.
It’s been great to sit still for a while and catch my breath but slowly I’m coming back to myself….
P. S don’t forget to check out tommrow’s weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog.
Evening all I’ve not late night blogged for a while but it’s Sunday evening and
I’m filled with anxiety again.
There’s days where I need to have a moment to myself just to put my head straight.
It’s extremely difficult to be one hundred percent who you are these days.
I find that people are very judgmental and quick to jump to conclusions.
Without the facts.
I have to say that sometimes humans don’t have an alternative motif for just simply being helpful or truthful.
Sometimes it’s just in their nature to be honest without fear and to want to work hard to make a difference.
I truly believe that the current situation I find myself in is exactly where I need to be, you find yourself in certain situations in life where there is either lessons to be learnt or truth to be given in order for change to take place.
Somethings been stagnant for to long stubborn for change then….
You smack bang in the middle of a situation you either need to learn from or make a difference.
One thing I’ve realised is when you see through people your not very well liked that’s a know fact.
When your real and disconnect from the drama that’s when you become the drama and in no way shape or form have I got time for drama.
I’m literally at that stage where I still feel anxious and some days I’m not as strong.
But honestly your put on this earth to yes be thoughtful of others but to also be thoughtful of yourself.
I can’t stress enough to people if your struggling to juggle life and struggling with the people around you.
Distance is sometimes the best key you can never pour from an empty cup.
You can make sure your vessel is fine but if the minds off balance then the two don’t work in harmony.
Don’t put to much pressure on yourself to be the perfect parent, sibling, partner, friend or work colleague.
You need to nurture your own soul before you give to others.
When people try and drag you into Drama don’t fall for it, if it’s not your issue then leave it, some people don’t like the truth and can be….
But don’t fall for it you can’t fix everything or everyone so don’t try to.
Just be honest to yourself and honest with others and if your respected for it great if not there’s no love lost.
I haven’t published any late night blogs for a while.
I’ve been busy with life and a few things have changed for me.As life progresses we expect a lot of change, we have to expect change otherwise there will be no forward movement.
You find that where you are just isn’t enough anymore.
For me it isn’t my location it’s my actual life I’ve not been happy for a while and I’ve realised that if I keep going round on this hamster wheel I may never get off, it’s only certain aspects of my life I find I’m feeling a little stuck and undervalued.
So I’ve had to put plans in motion for change.
You can’t grow if you stay in the shade.
I’ve taken many risks in my younger years and many haven’t worked out but it was a massive learning curve for me.
Being a mum, someone’s daughter, sister and friend sometimes isn’t easy.
And to be honest I know I’ve been hard work at times.
I don’t answer phone calls, messages for days on end just way I am I live in my own little space sometimes it all gets a little to much.
Don’t get me wrong I’m a strange person I like love but also crave my own space, I can’t stand constant communication or talking all the time.
I get easily irritated by forced conversations and will withdraw and zone out if put in a position I don’t feel comfortable in.
I like people but only small group of people they will tend to be long term friendships I will only forge new friendships If I really want to.
I will literally help anyone anyway I can within reason.
But alot of people can’t take to me and my personality.
I used to let that affect the way I saw myself but now I don’t care I just let people think what they want to think.
They say when you stop pleasing others and start pleasing yourself that’s when life really takes flight.
That’s the truth your vibe will attract the right type of people to your life and repel the wrong type of people because that’s when you are truly aligned with yourself.
Now I don’t rely on anyone but myself .
I’m making things happen for myself and I will do whatever it takes to get to my own happiness.
I’m half way through writing my own book.
My blog is doing amazing
I have new opportunities all the time.
But I know down the line I will have to take more leaps of faith to see where it guides me but now I have my own back I will achieve anything.
I awoke from not much sleep but Ive worked out coffee in hand I’m ready to be creative and let my passion flow.
Ive been getting a lot of emails and messages lately honestly I love getting messages from you all asking me for my guidance regarding your situations it makes me feel like I know what I’m talking about & also I like being helpful to other people.
I received an email of a lady in the U.S.A she had previously come across my blog and wanted my advice after her relationship of thirteen years ended abruptly.
I’m going to be honest I could feel her pain whilst reading her email one line that will always stick with me is I’m lost I really don’t know how I will carry on.
I just wanted to give her a hug because when your in love with someone and the feelings are no longer there on the partners side its a terrible feeling.
You just don’t know what you could of possibly done wrong, was you the actual problem all along.
Lets go over what the actual meaning of blindsided in love .
Blindside in love happens when one person thinks that everything is smooth and perfect in the relationship and suddenly the other person announces that they want to opt out. Being blindsided can shatter a person as it is unexpected and came without a warning.
We don’t see the red flags because we are so in love with someone we put them on a pedestal, it doesn’t matter what that person does to us we just don’t see the bigger picture.
Your Feelings Are Normal
When you fail to pick up any signs that your partner was unhappy in the relationship and then suddenly ends it, you are going to feel like you have been blindsided by a breakup.
It’s normal to feel total shock and disbelief that this is happening to you because you thought you were both happy.
You will torture yourself with endless questions wondering how did it all go wrong. All these feelings are normal and they will pass as you process this heart breaking event.
2. Don’t Blame Yourself
Aside from cheating or doing something equally as destructive in the relationship, you can’t take the full blame for being splitting up.
If your ex wasn’t happy, they should have spoken up and discussed the issues that were bothering them.
But some people feel it’s easier to walk away rather than work through the issues towards a better relationship. You might have just been unlucky enough to fall for one of these types.
3. Take Time For Yourself
Be kind to yourself as you process this breakup.
Your heart has taken quite a blow without warning and it’s going to feel as if your world has been flipped upside down.
Often, your self-esteem will take a steep nosedive because you are going to feel unloved and unwanted.
The best way to combat these negative feelings is to pamper yourself so you get mini boosts of happiness as you work your way through the emotional pain.
4. Be Happy With Other People
Keep misery to a minimum by hanging out with good friends that can give you a shoulder to cry on.
Do fun things that you enjoy to take your mind off the breakup.
It’s really easy to slip into depression when someone you love tells you that they don’t want to be with you.
Surround yourself with people who think positive and can cheer you up when you are hurting the most.
5. Don’t Waste Your Time Trying To Convince Them.
The last thing you should do is try to convince them that they have made a mistake. Although it may have come as a complete surprise to you, it’s highly likely they where thinking about exiting the relationship long before it happened.
They had gave it a lot of thought before they actually initiated the breakup.
At this point, they have had more time to process the painful emotions and has detached themselves from them.
6. Acceptance Wont Come Easy
Although it always takes some time to accept a breakup, this one is going to be particularly difficult because you weren’t expecting to lose them at all.
You will remember the most recent time that they said “I love you” and struggle with the idea that their feelings couldn’t have changed that quickly.
Worst of all is that you will expect them to come back to you, and many times they won’t. It’s best to think of that relationship as a chapter in your life that has come to an end unless they says otherwise.
7. Distract Yourself
Find distractions to keep your mind from drowning in memories of your old relationship.
After you have been through a blindsiding breakup, your mind is going to struggle and try to make sense of the whole situation, which will bring up many old memories.
Find things to distract yourself like find a new hobby, sign up for a class in something you have always wanted to learn or learn a new language. The goal is to distract yourself so you won’t constantly be tortured by thoughts of your ex.
The key is to work on yourself when you go through a situation like this not because you where the problem in the first place but because you deserve to be loved and understood being blindsided can really be a whirlwind process but you will get through it , it just takes time.
You will learn new things about yourself when your in a state of vulnerability but you must always remember not every relationship will be the same as your last so please don’t give up on love when the time is right you will know but for now take your time and get to know yourself.
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I’m Sending you love.
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I’m super excited to share this weeks spiritual guidance blog with you all.
Firstly I want to say that I really do hope that my guidance blogs helps all my readers in some way or another, I have had a spiritual gift for all my life and a huge interest in what come’s to us all after our passing for a very long time but I will save that for another blog.
My spiritual guidance blogs are all about you guys and me giving something back to you all as good will gesture for always taking the time out to read my blogs and support me in everything I do.
So lets get on with the legalities and get the boring stuff out the way first..
I have to state that all my guidance blogs are for entertainment purpose’s only .
My weekly guidance blogs are for all signs and elements, take what resonates and leave the rest to the universe .
Here we go..
I have a little message from the universe to everyone who’s really struggling with life at the moment.
Whilst connecting to gain clarity regarding your guidance today I was show a very clear image of a shadow person in front this shadow person two pathways formed as the vision got clearer I started to see more of a clearer outline of the shadow person, he was male , his expression on his face was somewhat of confusion and fear after a short while and hesitation…
I herd what path should I take the right one it seems less bumpy more plain sailing but what seeks me at the end is safe , unfulfilling in the long run it seems and easy less effort I have a dreaded feeling of regret.
He looks at the left path its full of bumps its looks scary full of uncertainties, dark corners great highs and steep lows he feels fear , excitement , great love and release from the ties of life.
As he stands there he knows he has to make a choice he can’t keep holding back in the darkness and floating about hoping everything will work out fine.
This is a very clear message I get for a lot of you, if you want something in life you have to make it happen it won’t just fall in your lap the universe doesn’t work like that you have to put the effort in .
If you want that dream job get of your butt start researching now on training , work on gaining skills and the opportunities’ will be endless.
If you have wanted a connection with someone emotionally for a while but you have always been held back by your own emotions and fear , speak your truth because it something wonderful can happen from just one honest truthful conversation if it works out great if it doesn’t no regret’s only lesson’s learnt.
Life doesn’t have a road map you don’t always need a plan because plans, people and situations can change just like the direction of the wind you need to live in the present and the now.
Four of Cups
Has the grass been looking greener on the other side?
The Four of Cups is a card that tells us we aren’t looking at the good things we already have in our lives, and instead are longing for what we could have.
When this card appears in your readings, it’s challenging you to stop daydreaming about what you could have in your life and instead count your blessings.
The Four of Cups is a warning that we need to be more appreciative of what we have, and show a little more gratitude towards the things we’ve already been blessed with.
When we become self-absorbed, and start taking what we have for granted, we tend to miss out on other opportunities.
The Four of Cups calls attention to the fact that while you are busy wondering about other things, you’re missing out on the chance to improve what you already have.
Five Of Cups
The Five of Cups is a surprisingly complex card for being a part of the Minor Arcana.
It is depicted as five golden chalices, three of which have been knocked to their sides while the remaining two stay standing.
This card brings about confirmation of loss, sorrow, and despair, but also signifies that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
The three downed cups typically refer to the feelings you already have about your situation.
Whatever it may be that life has thrown at you, it can be hard to come to terms with not being able to put things back as they were.
The Cups suit is related to water, and you certainly cannot refill the fallen chalices with the water they already held.
The two chalices that have been untouched, however, promise that your situation can be salvaged, even if some of its parts have been changed.
Page Of Swords
The Page of Swords is represented by a young man atop a hill, grasping a silver sword in both his hands.
Like the other Page cards of the Minor Arcana, he is still learning and growing.
Often he represents an actual young person in your life.
The Page of Swords stands for truth and justice, as well as open and honest communication.
He is likely to appear to those who are struggling between telling the truth and sparing someone’s feelings, or those who are having a hard time verbally expressing their emotions.
Its important that you express your emotions without fear of the outcome because your at greater risk of hurting yourself trying to keep others happy.
Page Of Wands
Generally speaking, the Page of Wands is in the area of having projects that come to fruition.
Something you initiated a while back starts to deliver positive results.
Another meaning that is to be considered frequently in a reading is that this Page represents a literal person in your life.
(S)he is a high energy person, a high-achiever that brings a positive vibe in your world.
Beware of lack of focus though.
Energy, success and enthusiasm are all good, but don’t take your eyes off the prize just yet.
Keep going keep achieving your hearts desires.
Ace Of Cups
This card is generally depicted as a large golden chalice with water overflowing from within.
The Ace of Cups shows up in a reading when you have reached a point of emotional stability, happiness, and peace.
It is a reminder that you have good emotional intelligence and a strong foundation on which you are able to take on the world, usually with a smile on your face.
A present position Ace of Cups means that the path your life has taken is the best one for you.
Whether it’s your relationship, family life, or career, you are in a secure and stable place emotionally.
Whatever you’ve been doing, it’s working in your favour so keep at it.
This card is also about gaining more insight into what is your role in a bigger scheme of things.
It can be a big project, it can be the community you are part of and so on.
The meaning is that you are more in tune with the world around you.
There is a virtuous circle, i.e. the more success you have, the more connected you feel and the more you are motivated to contribute.
In terms of travel, the World can literally indicate that you may be traveling around the world. You may soon go for a long distance trip.
You may also receive a message from the Universe to be more open to take in elements from the world around you.
Try to become more receptive and expand your awareness.
Thank you for reading i hope you gained comfort and guidance from this weeks post.
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I always start my blogs of the same way i suppose i want people to know that wherever you are in the world I’m sending my well wishes .
Sometimes just a few words can completely change someone’s day.
As i sit in my new office cup of tea in hand my imagination goes wild its always this time of night where i feel like i can actually breathe sometimes its the simple things in life us humans need just to soothe the soul.
Its not about what you have left behind or what’s in your future its about where you are now in the present that’s all that counts.
I’m going to share with you all a short story about Harry and Mark.
It was a perfect summers day in the height of a busy dinner hour an elderly gentleman called Harry sits down on his usual bench in City Hall Park .
The bench held special memories of when Harry and his dearly beloved wife Susie used to sit and watch the world go by.
After Harry’s wife passed away he would always keep up their daily routine just because to him that was Harry’s happy place.
At that exact moment in the finance district was Mark after a busy morning of meetings and Linda from H.R spoiling his $900 suit he had already had enough of the day.
Escaping the hustle of the office and the noise of the city he found himself in City Hall Park.
Where he sat next to Harry they exchanged a simple hello.
But Harry could see the strain on Marks face, Tough day huh ?
Mark replied a little , sometimes i don’t know what its all for ?
You have a little bit more life experience any advice Mark asked Harry.
Yes of course i do ? but its only advice said Harry.
Do you have regrets Harry, plenty but its in the past i can’t change the past he replied.
Do you look to the future said Mark , not really Harry replied the future is never set in stone it can change in an instant.
So what do you look to asked Mark, Harry simply replied the present.
The present said Mark !!!
You need to look at what’s around you in the present moment are you happy are you alive or just existing , are you in love and have you ever found yourself even in the darkest of places.
Because know this one thing what’s important in life can’t be brought like real love ,trust , inner peace and time.
Mark said I’ve not really thought about it in that way before Harry , I’m in a relationship but I’m under a lot of pressure to take the next step, and I’m not sure if she’s the one , Harry replied.
If you love her you will know you will feel it deep down in the pit of your stomach if she is the one if you don’t feel it you have your answer.
I also work to hard and long hours i don’t see my family enough i don’t take vacation’s , im simply relied on by my boss to give 100% all the time and it’s so exhausting.
Harry replied simply tell him no and take a vacation go see your family.
Work will always be there when you get back but your loved ones won’t always be here, you simply need to find balance.
Find out what’s important to you and let everything else go.
What would a random Old man who hasn’t got time on his side say to his younger self.
He would say son fall in love whenever possible, don’t work so hard, and use your time wisely.
Change what doesn’t seem to fit and take risks.
That afternoon on that bench in City Hall Park words of wisdom were exchanged and lives were changed forever.
Sometimes all we need is a little bit of direction and a fresh mindset to make changes don’t ever feel weak for asking advice even if it’s from a complete stranger.
Be open and listen it just might change your life.
I hope you are all well and have had a great weekend.
Whist I’ve had a bit of time to myself the past few days I’ve looked back over the last few months and how slowly started to bring myself back to life.
Mental health is so important to me because I understand how other people feel when their at a low point in life and how our minds affects our progression, relationships and the way we see ourselves.
One of the main issues I had was trying to hold everything inside keeping feelings and emotions inside.
It really didn’t work it was like putting a packet of mentos in a bottle of coke and expecting it not to erupt..
It happens there’s no holding it in..
This is know as fight and flight mode..
When your in flight of fight mode which does happen a lot with people who have anxiety and other conditions that are linked to mental distress. All you want to do is run and hide away push everyone away and bottle everything up so you try to surpress your emotions and pretend your fine.
There are three stages of flight or flight alarm, resistance, and exhaustion.
Alarm – This occurs when we first perceive something as stressful, and then the body initiates the fight-or-flight response.
Resistance – If the perceived stress continues, the body stays activated at a higher metabolic level in an effort to offset the persistent stress. The body cannot maintain this level indefinitely, and its resources will eventually deplete.
Exhaustion – Prolonged exposure to the stressor will result in the depletion of the body’s resources, and the resulting wear and tear will suppress the immune system and cause bodily functions to deteriorate.
This can lead to a variety of health issues and illnesses, including heart disease, digestive problems, depression, and diabetes.
It’s important we try and figure out what triggers us in order to help us not only move on but to help stop fight or flight reactions reaccurring.
It’s all about personal boundaries and allowing yourself to actually put you’re own needs first.
I’m always told by people I don’t know how you always manage to cope with certain situations and people. I was always told you’re extremely strong willed the answer to them would be yes I suppose so but all I wanted to scream is I’m not I just wear a mask like most people I’m good at suppressing my emotions which can then come across like I’m not affected by situations or people’s actions.
But actually I really am affected by it just good at hiding my feelings.
One of my biggest issues is trying to understand why people don’t like me i know in past situations I’ve not been the best possible person I could be. But I’ve learnt from my mistakes.
I have issues with rejection I find it extremely hard to understand why people wouldn’t like me…
But the people who are close to me always tell me is because I actually try and achieve something in life and that I aways wear my heart on my sleeve.
I’ve come to realise that not everyone likes everyone and that’s OK sometimes there isn’t a reason and there isn’t an answer to your question you just have to accept it for what it is and move on.
It’s impossible to be liked by everyone and never try understand why people do things the way they do or say the things they say.
Your only in control of yourself.
It’s all about quality of friendship and family connections not quantity the people who love your will always listen to you however many times your need to scream or moan but never be scared to express how you really feel.
Your causing more damage to yourself than good by pretending you’re OK don’t be scared to ask for help or put yourself first.