What The Universe Wants You To Know ! Weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog 29/11/2020 to 6/12/2020

Good Afternoon to you all.

I trust you are all well as can be.

I feel there are a lot of you feeling quite lost at the moment I also feel very tired and surrounded by heavy energy

Today I’m going to get straight to business and concentrate on what the universe needs to share with you all.

I would like to state that all my weekly guidance blogs are for entertainment purpose only.

All signs and elements are included take what resonates and leave the rest.

Weekly vision message

Its late evening , im sitting on a porch in an old rocking chair.

I can hear the crickets chirping , The night time Wildlife ready to come to life in the darkness.

The sun is setting , the sky is filled with an eerily orange glow.

The silence is deafening.

But my mind feels clear and my heart feels pure, with each rock of the chair I can feel emotions arising, I feel like I’m trying to get somewhere but I’m getting no where fast.

I feel fear and frustration , I’m filled with fear and regret of not following my own heart and listing to other people.

As the darkness fills the sky my mind comes to life.

Within the few minutes where my mind was clear and my heart felt pure , I found true peace within.

That’s when the universe reminds me that between the chaos, there is calm and a chance of reflection, and a chance of true happiness.

You need to remind yourself that its ok to take a break and a step back.

Tarot Card Connection

1st Card

The Moon

With the Moon it’s likely that emotions are complicated at this time.

The environment can be one full of misunderstandings, and not everything is as it appears. You may need to do some work to get to the bottom of things; be sure to not only ensure the intentions of others, but also understand your own emotions, desires and motivations.

There may be old attitudes, beliefs or ideas that are clouding your judgement. Many things can be hiding in your unconscious affecting your ability to accept love. Are past relationships haunting you? Have you lost faith in love? Do you believe you are unworthy of love? All of these can have profound affects on how we approach relationships. Now is the time to examine them and reveal them as they truly are.

2nd Card

Justice In Reverse

Justice is about karma, and if you’ve been putting forth the effort, love and romance will be coming your way. If you’ve been kind, loving and supportive, your relationships will be a mirror of what you’ve been giving to others.

If you’ve been single, your loving and positive disposition will make you especially attractive to new potential romances.

Because this card is all about the law of cause and effect, make sure you have been treating your partner fairly. Watch out for resentment and defensiveness, and ensure that conflicts in your relationships are handled with respect and trust in your other half.

Compromise and understanding is needed now. Sometimes this card is also about being tactful, and expressing your frustrations in a way that are mindful of your partner’s feelings. As long as issues hare handled with honesty and good faith, your relationship will thrive.

3rd Card

Five of Wands Reversed

The Five of Wands reversed meaning can be that your natural method of dealing with disagreements is avoiding any kind of conflict by getting away from that place as fast as you can.

Sometimes this can be regarded as a good thing, but other times, it may lead to a number of issues that are brewing up within you, for which you will have to address soon.

On the other hand, it can also mean that you have worked through your troubles and that you do not have any more issues to worry about.

Issues of how you deal with conflict can affect your relationships now.

If you’re in a relationship, ensure that you haven’t been bottling up your resentments to avoid conflicts that the two of you need to have a smooth partnership.

Eventually avoiding difficult conversations lead to an erosion of trust. Remember that every person has the right to their needs, and having needs does not make you any less lovable.

If you’ve been doing the hard work of expressing yourself honestly with your partner however, you may find that misunderstandings are clearing up. What were once arguments may disappear once honesty and clarity have been achieved.

4th Card

The Devil

Getting the devil card in your reading shows that you have feelings of entrapment, emptiness and lack of fulfilment in your life.

It might also mean that you are a slave to materialism and opulence and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to shake off the feeling of wanting to indulge in luxurious living. 

You might be aware that this kind of lifestyle is leading you down the rabbit hole, but you have that feeling of not having any form of control over your actions or urges.


Addiction to substances or material pleasures can also be the reason for your feelings of powerlessness and entrapment. 

In situations such as these, you may feel as though you are a slave, unable to control your impulses or willpower to direct yourself towards something other than the satisfaction of these desires. 

Lust and temptation are symbolized by the Devil.

There can be a sense of hedonism, and a selfish desire for gratification with this card. In less serious circumstances, it can also just simply mean a pursuit for all of life’s earthly pleasures.

There is nothing wrong in having a bit of fun, but make sure that you are not hurting others or giving them wrong impressions when you do.

If you’re only looking for hook-ups, it is up to you to communicate that with your dates. Make sure you avoid pressuring others if they decide your lifestyle isn’t something that suits them. Communication will be more important than ever now.

Alternatively, the Devil can also signal addiction, and in the context of love and relationships, co-dependency.

Over time, this can be destructive to the individuality and self of both partners. Be wary, and ensure that the two of you remain strong individuals within your relationship.

5th Card

Page Of Pentacles

When we meet the Page of Pentacles, we see immediately that she is one that is ambitious and focused. She is protected, nourished, provided for by the suit whose name she bears.

Guided by it, she is deeply tied to the earth, nature, and all of its gifts.

She cherishes the body, for it too is something which is a manifestation of her element. Her diligence, ambition and loyalty drives her to quickly make plans for the future – for it is there where her focus lies.


When you meet her, she may be the bearer of news connected to all earthly and material matters. When you hear her message, be inspired as she is – lay down the foundations to follow your ambitions.

Generally, the Page of pentacles refers to the kind of energy that you need to complete all that is needed for your work.

It may point to the determination, focus and the ability to stick with a particular task no matter how boring it may seem.

In terms of work, the Page of Pentacles may signify that there are a lot of tasks you are responsible for, but your time to complete them is much too limited. This is not the time to feel stressed and overwhelmed. Assistance will be there for you, you just have to ask for it. 

In relation to finances, the Page of Pentacles can refer to the reward for your hard work. For those who are investing their hard–earned money, this is not the perfect time for you to take the risk. Invest your money in a safe and traditional way – the diligence will pay you back. If you are currently experiencing a health issue, this problem may be the result of the continuous neglect. Let a professional make sure that this is not the case.

The person symbolized by the Page of Pentacles is ambitious, loyal and practical; they may often be seen as studious, but once you get to know them well, they can also be quite funny.

Their ambition and focus means that they are hardworking. They are likely to be as dedicated as they are to a lover, as they are to their goals.

Their quiet demeanour may make them hard to notice at first, compared to other folks that may be more out going.

If this doesn’t represent a person that is entering your love life, the Page of Pentacles tarot love meaning can simply signal this Page’s dedication and loyalty in your relationship.

While sometimes the relationship can lack passion and feel a bit boring, the love is there; you may only need to go out there and figure out how to inject some fun and excitement back into your romance. Try not to always put practicality before passion in the relationship and the two of you should be just fine.

6th Card

The Seven Of Wands

The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event. The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle

The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event.

The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle that you need to go through to maintain your position, rather than to attain it.

This is about the difficulties we face to continue to have success. You should be ready for the competition to you defend your title, and to prove yourself. Others are going to desire the same results that you do, so you need to stay ahead of the them.

There will be challenges to the success of your project or venture from an outside source. You must remain dedicated to your desires, and with a clear purpose and effort, you will overcome them.


The overall meaning of the Seven of Wands is to hold your ground, no matter what is challenging your position.

You will need to defend this position and take a stand against those who are aiming to take your spot. There are setbacks during this time, but you need to keep fighting for your beliefs and confront those that may threaten or oppose you and your beliefs.

Bottom Of The Deck

The Empress

The Empress shows us how deeply we are embedded to our femininity. Femininity could be associated with fertility, expression, creativity and nurturing among many other aspects.

It therefore calls you to connect with beauty and bring happiness to your life.

Understand yourself and get in touch with your sensuality so that you can attract life circumstances to bring happiness and joy. She is a signal that be kind to yourself, to take care of yourself.

The Empress is also a strong indication of pregnancy and motherhood.

You can look for other cards to confirm if this is truly pregnancy, or rather just an indication of a motherly, nurturing and caring attitude.

The Empress card could also mean the birth of a new idea, business or project on your life. Owing to the good fortune that surrounds this card, you can be sure that such situations and projects would end successfully in your life.

Discover and bring forth those ideas that have been clinging to you and make sure that you devote yourself towards accomplishing them.

This card is a sign that they are going to be successful, and well taken care of. The Empress, as the archetype of the mother earth, also encourages you to spend time interacting with nature, the mother of all of us.

The empress stems from the element of earth.

The person represented by this card can be loving, nurturing and caring, as has financial security or appreciative of beautiful, comforting things. Sometimes, the Empress can point to love and work coming together, either with a co-worker, or perhaps a new business venture.

When it comes to relationships, this card also heralds a stable, serious and committed relationship. Because the card also represents motherhood, sometimes it can also signal marriage or pregnancy, or at least a new family, in whatever form that means for you.

I hope you enjoyed your weekly guidance post please feel free to comment below if you have any questions or extra clarity.

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Sending Love to you all

Stacie xx

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𝕊𝕚𝕘𝕟𝕤 𝕒𝕟𝕕 𝕊𝕪𝕞𝕡𝕥𝕠𝕞𝕤 𝕠𝕗 𝕒 𝕍𝕚𝕥𝕒𝕞𝕚𝕟 𝔹𝟙𝟚 𝕕𝕖𝕗𝕚𝕔𝕚𝕖𝕟𝕔𝕪.

Evening everyone

I hope your all doing well.

I hope tonights blog will make more people aware of b12 deficiency and how it maybe impacting on your health.

Since loosing weight I’ve noticed more health issues which I had put down to being overweight.

But the last few months I’ve noticed a huge change in my body and emotional state.

I’ve been constantly tired even though I’ve had my recommend eight hours a night sleep.

I’ve been suffering with numbness in my hands and elevated heart palpitations.

My moods have been very up and down and hard to control.

And I won’t start with the seasick balance issues and brain fog and terrible cold sores.

I wanted to make people aware of how a B12 deficiency can cause serious issues and irreversible changes if not acted on quickly.

I must state I’m no doctor or trained medical expert but I’m sharing my own experience with you all.

Here’s a little bit about Vitamin B12

Vitamin B12, also known as cobalamin, is an important water-soluble vitamin.

It plays an essential role in the production of your red blood cells and DNA, as well as the proper functioning of your nervous system.

Vitamin B12 is naturally found in animal foods, including meats, fish, poultry, eggs and dairy. However, it can also be found in products fortified with B12, such as some varieties of bread and plant-based milk.

Unfortunately, B12 deficiency is common, especially in the elderly. You’re at risk of deficiency if you don’t get enough from your diet or aren’t able to absorb enough from the food you eat.

People at risk of a B12 deficiency include.

  • The elderly
  • Those who’ve had surgery that removes the part of the bowel that absorbs B12
  • People on the drug metformin for diabetes
  • People following a strict vegan diet
  • Those taking long-term antacid drugs for heartburn.

Unfortunately, symptoms of a vitamin B12 deficiency can take years to show up, and diagnosing it can be complex. A B12 deficiency can sometimes be mistaken for a folate deficiency.

Low levels of B12 cause your folate levels to drop. However, if you have a B12 deficiency, correcting low folate levels may simply mask the deficiency and fail to fix the underlying problem.

Here are 8 signs and symptoms of a true vitamin B12 deficiency.

  • Weakness , tiredness, or lightheadedness
  • Heart palpitations and shortness of breath
  • Pale skin
  • A smooth tongue
  • Constipation, diarrhea, loss of appetite, or gas
  • Nerve problems like numbness or tingling, muscle weakness, and problems walking
  • Vision loss
  • Mental problems like depression, memory loss, or behavioral changes.

Here are some foods that are high in Vitamin B12

I’ve been taking Vitamin B12 supplements now for while but I can always tell when I haven’t been including them in my daily diet routine.

My body crashes and I have all my symptoms come back within a few days of being off B12 supplements.

Sometimes life takes over and we forget our own needs but talking care of our bodies needs is extremely important for our day to day lives.

I’m now back on my Vitamin B12 and I’m starting to feel human again.

I hope you have all found my blog resourceful.

Love to you all

Stacie xx

ℝ𝕒𝕕𝕚𝕠 𝕊𝕚𝕝𝕖𝕟𝕔𝕖

Evening all

I thought I would do a little blog on where I’m at just to let you all know why I’m not around as much at the moment.

Well the title says it all radio silence for the people who haven’t heard this saying before I will explain below.

It means a  period of time when someone does not communicate with another person or other people.

Seems dramatic I know but its my choice.

I’ve needed to strip back every aspect in my life and look at what direction I was heading towards.

Believe me it wasn’t healthy to some extent I’m still battling with my demons.

I’ve been through a very long period of heartache and self loathing for such a long time I’ve just had enough.

Closing the last chapter was the hardest and I have one last hurdle to get over before I can truly move forward.

I suppose you have to fully let the old layers of yourself fall away before you can heal and rebuild yourself.

I’ve given so much of myself to people who didn’t deserve me.

Now I know that and it’s difficult for me to pull my energy back.

But it’s what’s needed for me to be the best person I can be.


It’s time for me to take back my power and allow myself to put myself first.

So I’ve decided to pull back my energy from social media even though its a great place to reach out and put yourself our there I don’t feel I’m 100% ready for it.

With me trying to engage with people I found it’s drained me physically and emotionally.

I just simply can’t find the strength to deal with other peoples issues at the moment it makes me  hypocritical giving our advice and not listing to my own inner wisdom.

I’ve decided to not post anymore pictures or videos of myself at the moment because Im really not happy within myself and because I want people to get to know the real me not just the outside exterior of myself.

Tommrow I’m back on my health kick and the universe is giving me a massive…
To move forward so I will be back after some me time and I will come back better and stronger.

Love to you all ❤️

Stacie xxx

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𝟙𝟘 𝕋𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘𝕤 𝕋𝕙𝕖𝕪 𝔻𝕠𝕟’𝕥 𝕋𝕖𝕝𝕝 𝕐𝕠𝕦 𝕎𝕙𝕖𝕟 𝕐𝕠𝕦 𝕃𝕠𝕤𝕖 𝕎𝕖𝕚𝕘𝕙𝕥

I never thought I had the motivation to make a change to my lifestyle and eating habits but after a few rough months and lots of heartache.

I decided it was time to make drastic changes.

I didn’t want to just lose the weight that was holding me back but I wanted to work on my self-worth and learn to love myself again.
Over the past ten years, as I’ve gradually yoyo dieted and lost and gained weight.

I’ve been aware of so many changes – not just in my body but life in general.

But this time round I’ve worked my hardest.

Here are 10 things that you don’t expect to happen when you lose weight…

1.Your skin will loosen and head to your feet.

I know, gross. Once you start dropping the pounds, everyone experiences this and its not always exercise that helps with excess skin in fact it doesn’t hardly help at all.

This has to be one of my main issues at the moment it’s been getting to me that bad I’ve actually consulted two private medical practices to ask about paid surgery to remove excess skin.

It’s unbearable at times.

2. Itchy skin and sore stretch marks.

If you have lost weight and have stretch marks from either having children or rapid weight gain.

The healing process of shrinking stretch marks is terrible if you have this problem too then you feel my pain.

3.Your boobs will shrink.

I miss the fullness of my boobs.

Don’t get me wrong, they are still a good handful but not quite what they were.

I’ve reversed two cup sizes which is good for me due to less back pain and better fitting underwear.

4.You feel guilty for even looking at a freddo

I’m more relaxed with my eating now but in the first few months I would feel so guilty if I ate something ‘naughty’. Do allow yourself treats (weekends are a good time for this) but in moderation, of course!

5.You become a boring .

I’m sure I’ve bored friends and family with my nutritional advice as they bite into a sandwich. Sorry.

It’s just because you feel so passionate about your own body and taking care of it you just try and help others.

That can sometimes come across as being over boring with annoying weight loss information.

6. Constantly having to be careful when buying new items of clothing.

This should be enjoyable and a happier side of weightloss infact the whole thing just stresses me out, down to remembering you don’t need your past bigger sizes.

To not wanting to spend a small fortune on clothes that may not fit you after more increased weightloss.

7. The true understanding that being thin doesn’t make you happier.

True statement there, just because being thin changes your body and mental attitude it doesn’t mean that all your problems will disappear.

Remember that your weight doesn’t define you as a person.

8. Maintaining the weight loss.

Maintenance can be even harder than losing the weight itself. When I began my journey, I was fueled by success, non-scale victories, and a newfound confidence I gained from becoming a healthier and happier me. But once I began to reach that weight range I’d been gunning for, I started to think, “Well, I’ve already lost a ton of weight.

So adapting my future healthy eating plan for long term process wasn’t going to be easy.

9. My relationships with friends and family have changed; some have grown stronger, and some have become more distant.

When you embark on a big lifestyle change like this, you aren’t just adjusting your eating habits and physical activity. Your interests, hobbies, and thought processes change, too. Even my relationships have changed.
Some friendships have grown apart, because our relationships were so heavily fueled by social drinking and eating.

I think the hardest part about this lifestyle change is that I never anticipated my friendships would shift.

10. I am still scared that I will spiral out of control and gain everything back.

This is an irrational thought, but it is also a very real one. It is especially heightened when I’m traveling or enjoying life and I go in the “fuck it, I’m on vacation” mode, and I binge to the point where I’m not sure I can come back from it.

Like going hard on sweets or alcohol hiding it from friends out of guilt, or overeating in general.

I’m aware that this is a problem for me, and it terrifies me when I lose control that way.

While I would be upset if I reversed my hard work, I think there’s a deeper fear there of disappointing everyone else and having my failure displayed on a very public level.

So there you have it the truth that no one tells you during the process of losing weight…

I hope I’ve helped 😊

Love to you all

Stacie xx

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Getting Back To Normal

Good Afternoon All.

I hope your having a great bank holiday tomorrow my annual leave is over and it’s back to work for me.

As the Country tries to get back to some sort of normality, I know there will be many apprehensive parents regarding sending children back into full time education.

I don’t normally talk about my children on my blog but, I wanted to share my experience dealing with my own children and current pandemic covid 19 and how its affected there social needs.

I am fully aware that I’m not the only parent who has had similar issues especially if you have older children in high school .

When lockdown hit a state of national panic set in it’s a situation when have never had to deal with undoubtable it was freighting at times , the fear of daily life’s restricted and of course catching the virus and spreading it to more vulnerable people was a massive worry , schools , shops , entertainment venues where forced to shut people where continually glued to social media and the news.

As a parent we have to try and be strong for our children me I’m already O.C.D about my kids touching things and being to far away from me unless their in a secure environment like school or with family.

But what i haven’t really understood until now is how its deeply affected them both mentally and physically.

School is a normal way of life its six hours from Monday to Friday where they are learning, mixing with friends without the influence of parents.

School helps children grow it gives them their confidence and helps them widen there skills to help them through the early stages of Life.

I’ve seen mixed emotions online regarding children going back to school , if you want my honest view and this is totally my personal opinion on it all , I may get some negative press regarding this but honestly it’s just how I perceive the situation

It’s time for them to go back , of course they will not be able to mix with children in a normal manner but at least its a start to bringing back their normal routine.

I have to say home schooling has been somewhat stressful its been many years since I was school and the curriculum has changed so much i know I’m not the only parent who will agree.

My youngest child has asked many questions regarding Covid and ive tried to give the most honest replies some time’s its not been easy but we have managed to explain the best way we know how.

My eldest i feel has been frightened it got to the point I’ve had to remove her social media with there being a lot of fake news she can be very vulnerable so i felt it was the best outcome to try and ease her anxiety.

When talking to our children about difficult situations it can leave us a wreck it makes us really question our abilities as parents, here we have tiny humans who are like sponges may I add they absorb all information that may not hold the complete truth, that in itself causes anxiety and depression over time.

Ive watched my children closely over this pandemic and ive noticed certain negative changes and its been challenging even more than normal.

Ive tried to put plans in place to help them both progress but what i have found out is that being open and talking to each other on a level a child or teenager would understand its helped ease their worries.

I have listed a few tips below to help worried parents , try not to be to hard on yourself either.

  • Don’t be afraid to talk about it: Convey the facts and set an emotionally reassuring tone.
  • Be age-appropriate: Teens can process and handle a higher level of detail than five year olds. Focus on answering your child/student’s questions. Do your best to answer honestly and clearly; it’s okay if you can’t answer everything.
  • Follow their lead: Invite your child or student to ask questions and share their perspective: Invite them to tell you anything they may have heard about the coronavirus and express how they feel.
  • Check yourself: Feeling anxious? Take some time to calm down before trying to have a conversation or answer your child’s questions.
  • Focus on actions you can take: Emphasize safety precautions everyone can take to help keep themselves and others healthy: good hand hygiene, cough and sneeze etiquette, social distancing and staying home if you aren’t feeling well.
  • Stick to routine: Structured days with regular mealtimes and bedtimes are an essential part of keeping kids happy and healthy.
  • Keep talking: Tell kids/students you will keep them updated as you learn more. Let them know the lines of communication are going to be open and as you learn more, you will share the information with them, too.

Please feel free to share this image with your children.

(Not schools are recommending facemasks’ be sure to check your child’s school for guidelines )

I know there will be many worried parents over the next few days but we are all in this together please remember that school’s have guidelines that they need to stick by ordered by the government like everything a massive learning curve for us all i do feel this will be the way of life for a while.

But its so important that we address the mental health side of this pandemic within children as they are the next generation and support and structure is needed.

Im sending love to you all.

Stacie x

Blindsided

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Good Morning All

Its Saturday Which means its the weekend..

I awoke from not much sleep but Ive worked out coffee in hand I’m ready to be creative and let my passion flow.

Ive been getting a lot of emails and messages lately honestly I love getting messages from you all asking me for my guidance regarding your situations it makes me feel like I know what I’m talking about & also I like being helpful to other people.

I received an email of a lady in the U.S.A she had previously come across my blog and wanted my advice after her relationship of thirteen years ended abruptly.

I’m going to be honest I could feel her pain whilst reading her email one line that will always stick with me is I’m lost I really don’t know how I will carry on.

I just wanted to give her a hug because when your in love with someone and the feelings are no longer there on the partners side its a terrible feeling.

You just don’t know what you could of possibly done wrong, was you the actual problem all along.

Lets go over what the actual meaning of blindsided in love .

Blindside in love happens when one person thinks that everything is smooth and perfect in the relationship and suddenly the other person announces that they want to opt out. Being blindsided can shatter a person as it is unexpected and came without a warning.

We don’t see the red flags because we are so in love with someone we put them on a pedestal, it doesn’t matter what that person does to us we just don’t see the bigger picture.

  1. Your Feelings Are Normal

When you fail to pick up any signs that your partner was unhappy in the relationship and then suddenly ends it, you are going to feel like you have been blindsided by a breakup.

It’s normal to feel total shock and disbelief that this is happening to you because you thought you were both happy.

You will torture yourself with endless questions wondering how did it all go wrong. All these feelings are normal and they will pass as you process this heart breaking event.


2. Don’t Blame Yourself

Aside from cheating or doing something equally as destructive in the relationship, you can’t take the full blame for being splitting up.

If your ex wasn’t happy, they should have spoken up and discussed the issues that were bothering them.

But some people feel it’s easier to walk away rather than work through the issues towards a better relationship. You might have just been unlucky enough to fall for one of these types.


3. Take Time For Yourself

Be kind to yourself as you process this breakup.

Your heart has taken quite a blow without warning and it’s going to feel as if your world has been flipped upside down.

Often, your self-esteem will take a steep nosedive because you are going to feel unloved and unwanted.

The best way to combat these negative feelings is to pamper yourself so you get mini boosts of happiness as you work your way through the emotional pain.


4. Be Happy With Other People

Keep misery to a minimum by hanging out with good friends that can give you a shoulder to cry on.

Do fun things that you enjoy to take your mind off the breakup.

It’s really easy to slip into depression when someone you love tells you that they don’t want to be with you.

Surround yourself with people who think positive and can cheer you up when you are hurting the most.


5. Don’t Waste Your Time Trying To Convince Them.

The last thing you should do is try to convince them that they have made a mistake. Although it may have come as a complete surprise to you, it’s highly likely they where thinking about exiting the relationship long before it happened.

They had gave it a lot of thought before they actually initiated the breakup.

At this point, they have had more time to process the painful emotions and has detached themselves from them.


6. Acceptance Wont Come Easy

Although it always takes some time to accept a breakup, this one is going to be particularly difficult because you weren’t expecting to lose them at all.

You will remember the most recent time that they said “I love you” and struggle with the idea that their feelings couldn’t have changed that quickly.

Worst of all is that you will expect them to come back to you, and many times they won’t. It’s best to think of that relationship as a chapter in your life that has come to an end unless they says otherwise.


7. Distract Yourself

Find distractions to keep your mind from drowning in memories of your old relationship.

After you have been through a blindsiding breakup, your mind is going to struggle and try to make sense of the whole situation, which will bring up many old memories.

Find things to distract yourself like find a new hobby, sign up for a class in something you have always wanted to learn or learn a new language. The goal is to distract yourself so you won’t constantly be tortured by thoughts of your ex.

The key is to work on yourself when you go through a situation like this not because you where the problem in the first place but because you deserve to be loved and understood being blindsided can really be a whirlwind process but you will get through it , it just takes time.

You will learn new things about yourself when your in a state of vulnerability but you must always remember not every relationship will be the same as your last so please don’t give up on love when the time is right you will know but for now take your time and get to know yourself.

Please don’t Hesitate to email me if you need my advice using contact box below .

I’m Sending you love.

Stacie xxx

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Good afternoon…

I hate to have to do blogs like this now because I’m so far away from the person who I was 18 months ago.
But as its my blog and I know people who truly care about me will understand every word that I wrote. Nothing else matters than how you see yourself.

So here it goes….

Hey I’m stacie I’m a 32 year old working mum of two.

I have two girls that I need to show strength and empowerment to.

Yes how ive evolved from who I once was and to the people who don’t understand why I’ve changed I’m going to explain a little.

If your affected by it then tough then maybe you know you have played a part in my story and maybe the truth hits home hard but that’s not my gulit it’s yours.

When all people say is oh well your strong you can deal with it but your actually screaming inside I can’t do this anymore, I’ve had enough yes this was me 18 months ago disappointed by ego, relationships,friendships and your own personal growth.

If I could go back now and slap myself 18 months previous I would.
How I’ve allowed others to use and walk over me.

To lie, abuse my friendship and my love then act like I was the one who put the knife in their back.

Well guess what I’ve just pulled the last knife out of my own back.

Whatever I’ve done in order to create my own innerpeace is my bussiness.

I’ve lost weight for me and I will continue to do what makes me happy…

And if I want to sit there in my bra and pants and post a selfie I will because this women is proud of who’s shes becoming.

After years of looking in the mirror and hating myself I finally have self love.

If you don’t like to see someone else progress then that’s your own issue.

I won’t settle for anything less than what I deserve.
So yes you can say who does she think she is.

But you don’t know the truth behind my change and why I needed to change myself.

I’m still here there’s still parts of stacie but I’ve upgraded and outgrown people who didn’t bring peace to my life my old ways of thinking have gone.

I’m still compassionate I still have a heart but the walls are a little higher..

No time for drama, fake friends or judgement.

I’m here to make something of myself.

So keep your judgement to yourself because it’s not welcome here.

We don’t cut people out for the fun of it we cut people out because we have finally opened our eyes.

I’m no angel I know that but one thing is I’ve learnt from my mistakes I don’t try and pass them off to someone else and hide.

But understand that sometimes people need to wipe slate clean and walk away from anything that damages the soul.

Sometimes that includes cutting ties and moving on.

Thanks for reading 💓💗

Stacie xx
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Todays Article highlights the health benefits when applying Apple Cider Vinegar to you’re daily diet routine.

I must make you aware that this post is strictly from a non professional view I’m not a doctor its my own views on the product alone.

I decided to add Apple Cider Vinegar to my diet when I first started my exante diet program.

Ive seen remarkable changes in my health and wellbeing just from applying this wonderful product to my daily diet.

So lets get straight to it.

What is the consistency of Apple Cider Vinegar?

Apple cider vinegar is fermented juice from crushed apples. Like apple juice, apple cider vinegar may contain various vitamins and minerals, as well as dietary fibre.

Apple cider vinegar may also contain acetic acid and citric acid. But it can be hard to know exactly what’s in some apple cider vinegar products.

When purchasing Apple Cider Vinegar must have the mother still present.

Raw vinegar with the mother contains probiotics, enzymes and nutrients. These things are removed through filtering and heating.

This is why its important to purchase a raw product in order to receive full health benifits from it

Lets us now move on to the health benefits of Apple Cider Vinegar shown below 👇👇

I have definitely noticed its help my bloating stomach after eating.

I also feel fuller after each meal.

It’s helped my skin and my hair growth and I now have a lot more energy.

It’s definitely helped with my blood sugar levels.

Now on to the method of actually consuming apple cider vinegar.

Never consume straight from the bottle always dilute in water I normally fill a half pint glass half way up with water then add the apple cider vinegar
A typical dose is 1–2 tablespoons (15–30 ml) mixed with water and taken before or after meals.

I sometimes use it on my salads too.

I feel its definitely helped me loose weight alongside my diet plan it just works well together and it’s only three calories so not bad in all.

The taste isn’t fantastic but nothing that’s good for you ever is I normally just take a shot and it’s over with.

Then I’m ready to go about my day.

You can purchase apple cider with the mother at any health food store or local supermarket.

I normally get mine from aldi supermarket.

It’s relatively cheap so apple cider gets a…..

From me give it a go but there is plenty of more scientific resources available online you can research before you buy.

Please check out side effects before use.

I hope I’ve enlightened you all to give it a go you will see amazing results.

Love Stacie xx

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Afternoon everyone.

I wanted to share a blog with you all this afternoon about my mental issues and my weight loss.

I know quite a few people that would benefit from this blog post so I decided to share my thoughts and experiences surrounding the Mental affects of loosing weight and how I’ve been dealing with it.

I hope whoever reads my blog will find it helpful.

Isn’t it just fabulous when you loose weight.

In just over seven months I’ve managed to loose three and a half stone on the exante diet.

I couldn’t be any happier I’ve actually achieved something and most importantly have actually stuck to a diet by the third week I’ve normally given up but no I was determined to do it so I have.

I’ve had the odd blip along the way but that’s normally when I’m under stress and I have to say won’t give my Sunday dinners or the odd gin up for no one that’s my weekly treat.

One thing I’ve had issues with is clothes and my mental health.

I haven’t had a problem purchasing clothes at times I’ve thought oh lord somebody take my bank card off me.

But what I’ve have had issues with is the mental side of loosing weight.

My whole style has changed because I no longer feel that I need to cover up every part of my body.

Or look in the mirror and hate the way I see myself.

One of the issues I’ve had is when I’ve been shopping online I’ve been automatically looking at my original pre weightloss size it happens everytime I still forget even now.

It’s so nice to to say I can’t purchase that as its not in a plus size range.

Not that I’m being biased about other ranges.

But after so long of liking clothing that I would feel silly in due to my size.

I can now shop anywhere and know I will find something I will like in my new size and feel amazing in the style and colours of my choice.

Instead of looking like a member of the adams family.

Now I don’t have to feel that way any more but again your mind can have a negative impact on your desired outcome if you let it.

I popped out today to a bit of essential and non essential shopping.

Its been a while since I’ve set foot in a proper clothing store other than primark.

So I decided to go into newlook my local store in town hasn’t got a plus size range but I’ve always gone for the biggest size they stock.

Looking through the clothing racks not touching anything was hard expecially when you’re trying to work out sizes.

But needs must my brain was saying to me you need biggest size they have.

I actually stood their for a while thinking what the hell am I doing I don’t need the biggest size anymore.

Put my normal size back and picked up my new clothing size.

I’m not sure if I will get used to being a small size its been a very long time since I’ve been in a smaller size.

I cannot express how emotional I am to be able to get my whole bottom half of Me in a size 14 trousers from a store like new look and know I’ve achieved that outcome from my own determination.

Normally i wouldn’t of been able to get my ankles in a size 14 never mind my whole bottom half of my body.

It’s so difficult to train your own mind after years of negative thoughts about your own body.

It’s affected me both mentally and physically and its also affected my relationships with past partners.

Really knocked my confidence.

But In time I hope I can change my shopping mindset still i can’t believe I’m a completely different person and with the transformation still ongoing I just suppose it will take some getting used to and a whole lot of Selflove.

Today’s purchase #newlook

Love to you all.

Stacie xxxx

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Afternoon all.




I hope you are all well.

I wanted to blog this afternoon about a question ive been asked many times but I’ve always dodged to answer it just because i didn’t know how to respond with a valid answer.

How do you do the right thing even when you know its going to be one of the hardest things you have had to ever do.

Like i have said ive always dodged this question when i get asked by readers just because it hit’s home hard for me.

Letting fear overtake your judgement can sometimes steer you away from the right choices.

We sometimes choose the easier option just because its less effort or it will cause less dramatic consequence’s in our life’s

Everyone likes a peaceful life right ????

I hate that saying i just put up with it for a peaceful life.

Why do you put up with rubbish situations , friendship’s & relationship’s just for an easier life.

You know your blocking something that can completely turn your life around.

Think of your life as a box full of clutter from the past & present you know some crap is useful ,some crap is what your holding on to just in case its of any use,but the other is just stuff you need to detach yourself from you need to let that go chuck it in the fuck it bucket and move on don’t drag it into your future.

And even though that box maybe hard to sort through it’s got to be done.

Doing the right thing isn’t always what we want to do, change can be painful letting go can be painful.

But life will never progress if you keep taking the easiest way out.

I want to be sitting in my arm chair when im in my 80’s surrounded by memories and have wisdom and stories to tell my grandkids that i lived an great life had taken risk’s and loved hard and not having any regrets.

I’m not ok with living just an ok life i want to actually make a difference so that is what i will do.

You see you have to progress & build up courage to take a leap of faith.

Living with regret is one of the hardest pill to swallow trust me.

How do you know if you’re making he right choice is another question for another blog but the short answer to that is we don’t know we just have to trust our instinct’s and take a leap of faith.

You will recover and bounce back from making choices that could rock your world but either way its a learning curve in life.

Everything takes time if the change is good and its been tough you can be proud of the risk you had taken and if the change breaks your heart your moving on to bigger and better things and you will heal .

Love to you all

Stacie

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