A different point of view.

Evening all

It’s been a minute since I’ve connected with you all.

It’s really difficult at the moment to get into the Christmas spirit, I think we can all agree that Christmas will be a very different one this year.

But we are all in the same situation!!!

I wanted to blog tonight because I recently received a message regarding a subject that really gets my back up.

I literally hate it when people make a comment that’s so unacceptable that they honestly need to check themselves before making such stupid comments to others.

Words hurt but people don’t seem to understand that.

So I had a message from a female on my instagram this lovely lady had recently received a very silly message on her own Instagram.

So the message said ooh girl if you lost a bit of weight and had a bit of work done to your face you would be amazing I’d definitely date you then.

Let me just clarify something for your someone else’s weight isn’t anyones concern neither is their appearance.

If you dont like what you see simply scroll on and leave people be.

I’ve dealt with messages like this before so the lovely lady had messaged me asking for my advice on how I personally dealt with this situation.

I told her…

If I wasn’t such a strong person people’s opinions would really run deep.

But listen I’ve dealt with rejection, I’ve dealt with insults.

If I want to eat a family size pack of biscuits with an afternoon brew I will do ..

Thats my choice!!

My weight doesn’t define me or my personality.

If my face offends anyone tough.

People can I just say this to you all never ever let someones comments bring you down.

Weight doesn’t define a person.

I know slimmer people who struggle with confidence, the outside doesn’t define who the person is on the inside.

Always remember that.

If you feel like you need to loose weight then do it for all the right reasons not because someone told you too.

But again size doesn’t define someone’s personality.

The face comment I told her I felt was dam right cheeky, some people have no shame, it’s OK to have an opinion but keep them to yourselves.

Not everyone likes everyone.

But there is always someone for everyone.

But I could tell this comment had really knocked this lovely ladies confidence.

Sometimes rejection teaches you very valuable life lessons it also teaches you self worth.

If any one is telling you anything like this lovely lady has had to deal with thrown them a wide curve ball and hope it hits their ego pretty dam hard.

Maybe suggest that they might want to watch shallow hal in the future and learn how to complement someone appropriately without judgment.

So chin up lovely your beautiful always remember that….

and keep being yourself.

Love Stacie xx

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Nothing is permanent in this wicked world – not even our troubles.

Charlie Chaplin

Evening all

I hope you are all well.

I wanted to check in with you and let you know I’m still around in the background I’m just taking some time away from everyday hussle and bussle.

One thing I’ve come to realise these last few weeks is nothing is permanent in life, life can change instantly and it doesn’t matter how much we try and prevent something from happening we can’t.

Being a virgo for me is giving my all to every aspect of my life so at my job, at my home with my children and within my relationships.

I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have and putting other people first has always been a big stop block for me within all aspects of my life.

Truth is I care way to much about everything and I overthink far to much, I think with a realistic mind but I have a tenancy to be aggravated by people who are lazy and uncoordinated and people who play games.

It’s just my virgo traits.

I’ve worked very hard past few weeks on my mental health I’ve relapsed a few times had a few wobbles. I’ve been quite and unresponsive for a day or too I find it easier to shut down than try and explain my feelings.

It’s just way I’ve always be.

I’ve very lucky to have such a good support network around me i didn’t a few years ago but now I have people around me who understand when I’m having a bad day not to push me to far.

My blogging has slowed down abit again due to mostly me being busy but also to fear of getting on people’s nerves with all my posting but again like my mum says you don’t need to read if you don’t want to just…

You don’t need to justify anything you do to anyone.

Just have to be true to yourself.

Yes I may seem like an emotional lunatic very up and down when it comes to life, but you would be surprised how many people suffer in silance and pretend that they are OK.

I tell my story to help others sometimes along side the joking and everyday life blogs we need realisation that everyone is human and we all feel emotion and we all deal with life in different ways.

I tell mine through my writing along side my singing therapy.

And I really hope some people out there find comfort from my blog and sharing my experiences.

It’s been great to sit still for a while and catch my breath but slowly I’m coming back to myself….

P. S don’t forget to check out tommrow’s weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog.

Love to you all…

Stacie xx

Losing yourself to find yourself

Life is a funny old thing isn’t it?

How many of us find ourselves hoping for a better day ahead.

You can find yourself so wrapped up with daily routine and structure, you forget how much of your life is passing you by.

Do you crumble at the idea of not having a plan in place for every outting or experience in life.

Then you just maybe existing and not living.

A lot of people need structure and fear spontaneous life events.

The classic what if moment.

That fills us with anxiety and fear of rejection.

Some of the best experiences in life are followed by a ephiany moment….

We as humans are stronger than we think.

An advantage human can go through several transition in a lifetime its how we evolve and adapt to change.

As you know change is inevitable and if the universe thinks that you are heading in the wrong direction it will make changes for you.

We loose our true self for all sorts or reasons but one thing is pretty much certain we always find our way back to our authentic self.

It’s difficult feeling being lost and hopeless, not knowing what’s next.

But not every situation needs to be controlled and it doesn’t need a plan either.

If your like me then I find it extremely hard to let my guard down and trust people, I hate not knowing why and when, but one thing I’ve learnt is it doesn’t matter how much you need structure or answers you don’t always get it.

For myself now don’t force anything any more because anything that needs to be forced isn’t worth having.

And great things can happen when you loosen the grip of needed to control everything.

There’s no magic eight ball…

But you have your intuition so use it well and trust the process only then will you find the way back to your authentic self.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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Evening all

I thought I would do a little blog on where I’m at just to let you all know why I’m not around as much at the moment.

Well the title says it all radio silence for the people who haven’t heard this saying before I will explain below.

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Seems dramatic I know but its my choice.

I’ve needed to strip back every aspect in my life and look at what direction I was heading towards.

Believe me it wasn’t healthy to some extent I’m still battling with my demons.

I’ve been through a very long period of heartache and self loathing for such a long time I’ve just had enough.

Closing the last chapter was the hardest and I have one last hurdle to get over before I can truly move forward.

I suppose you have to fully let the old layers of yourself fall away before you can heal and rebuild yourself.

I’ve given so much of myself to people who didn’t deserve me.

Now I know that and it’s difficult for me to pull my energy back.

But it’s what’s needed for me to be the best person I can be.


It’s time for me to take back my power and allow myself to put myself first.

So I’ve decided to pull back my energy from social media even though its a great place to reach out and put yourself our there I don’t feel I’m 100% ready for it.

With me trying to engage with people I found it’s drained me physically and emotionally.

I just simply can’t find the strength to deal with other peoples issues at the moment it makes me  hypocritical giving our advice and not listing to my own inner wisdom.

I’ve decided to not post anymore pictures or videos of myself at the moment because Im really not happy within myself and because I want people to get to know the real me not just the outside exterior of myself.

Tommrow I’m back on my health kick and the universe is giving me a massive…
To move forward so I will be back after some me time and I will come back better and stronger.

Love to you all ❀️

Stacie xxx

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Evening all…

This will be my last blog post at the age of 32 tomorrow is my birthday.

Do you even celebrate when your in your 30’s my answer to that is yes.

I’ve made it to 33 after everything I’ve been through I’ve made it.

It’s been tough lifes not been kind but im grateful I’m here and I’m alive.


What does being thirty three years of age mean to me and how will I be making changes for the foreseeable future.

After a few wobbly weeks I’ve been really thinking about myself as a person and how I approach situations.

I’ve realised that it’s time to move on from anything or anyone that’s caused me great harm.

Worst thing to do in the world of hold on to a grudge you only ever hurt yourself in the process…


The other issue I have is feeling guilty for actually living my life the way I want too and having to keep other people happy, I’m not doing it anymore so heads up people Stacie  is going to do what she wants to do and if it upsets the apple cart tough..


You get to a point in life you can’t keep worrying about other people.

Keep yourself in check make yourself happy because no one else will do it for you.

I’ll always be me but an upgraded version of my old self.

I’m finding people are seeking the old version of myself but she’s just not there anymore.

I’ve made  huge progress so far I’m not going to stop now.

The diet is back tommrow after a weekend of eating out and gin..

My aim is to loose another stone by end of September.

It’s achievable but I’ll need to be strict and keep active.

So what are my birthday plans well I’ll be on my own just the way I like it hopefully weather is OK.

I will head down my local beach and grab a coffee somewhere and watch the world go by.

I do have plans to see one of my best friends and my other friend at the end of September for a girlie night out with  festival vibes but until then it will be hard work and dedication.

And growing a little bit stronger each day.

I hope you have a fantastic week ahead don’t let people get you down and keep smiling.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx


Weekly Spiritual Guidance 04/09/2020 to 11/09/2020

Hello Everyone

I hope you are all well..

It’s that time of the week again for your weekly spiritual guidance from Seashells & Lipgloss blog.

I really do hope that all my readers enjoy them and please don’t forget to share like and subscribe to my blog for other daily blog posts on life love and everything else in-between.

As I must always state that all my weekly spiritual guidance’s posts are for entertainment purpose only.

My guidance’s posts are for all signs and elements.

Take What resonates and leave the rest to the universe.

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My spiritual vision message for this week is…

This week as I was tuning into spirit ready for your guidance messages , I was shown a fast flowing stream, I also saw a girl with a large orange autumn leaf in her hand she want’s to put the leaf in the stream and let if float away but she’s worried that the stream will overpower the leaf and drag it under water.

What she feels is panic and fear of what might happen to the leaf if she lets go of it.

She sits there a while calm’s her thoughts and her mind as she contemplates she notices that whist she’s taken a step back to focus on herself that the stream has calmed down its not so fast moving anymore and her fear for the leaf has passed.

She is now able to let go and watch it sail down into the horizon until she can no longer see the leaf and she’s let go of the fear.

The moral to this vision is sometimes we don’t act on situations due to the fear of what might or might not happen but as we take a step back to refocus ourselves and evaluate situations we move forward with a more clear and positive mindset, this allows us to let go and move on to better and bigger things , just from releasing fear of the unknown.

1st Card

The Justice card in Tarot is about reason, truth, and, yes, justice.

This is the card about cold, objective balance.

It’s also about moderation in all things, as well as the realities of karma. If you’re not keeping the scales balanced, there could be some fallout.

Justice symbolizes harmony, balance, equality, righteousness, virtue, honour, and advice.

It can also mean a time for adjustments, as well as an opportunity to bring physical, emotional, social, and spiritual things back into balance.

It also means it is time to stand tall and strong against the things that might be trying to throw you off balance.

2nd Card

The Lovers card in Tarot symbolizes love, as well as romance, connection, attraction, and perfect harmony.

The basic symbols of this card are an angel or Cupid, a man and a woman, and two trees. In some decks, there is a man standing between two women, and in some decks, one tree is flowering and the other has fruit.

Β it stands for love, harmony, trust, honour, the beginning of romance, and optimism.

It is a card of passion, and feeling passionate, but it isn’t strictly about romantic relationships and intense interpersonal bonds.

One basic meaning of this card is that you may come across a divergence you dare not miss, no matter the difficulty, even if it is against your chosen path.

Be on the lookout for this opportunity, and don’t automatically take the easy road.

Think things over before you come to a decision.

Perhaps it’s time to take a leap of faith in love and connections.

3rd Card

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The Seven of Pentacles means you need a time-out.

This isn’t a card of finality. This is an in-between card that means you have to pause and check your strategy.

The image on the card is a person who has worked hard and then paused to take some time to admire their work.

It means it is time to catch your breath after a lot of activity.

It’s time to assess your work and what you get from that work.

Maybe you’ve been so busy that you haven’t taken the time to reflect on what you’ve accomplished.

This is the time to take stock of your situation and make sure you’re getting the results you want.

4th Card

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The Hierophant card in Tarot symbolizes traditional values and is often associated with the religious or spiritual.

The purpose of the Hierophant is to bring the spiritual down to earth.

The basic meaning of this Tarot card is to create harmony in the face of crisis. During a crisis, the Hierophant diffuses the panic and offers good and practical advice.

The basic symbols of the Hierophant card are twin pillars, a staff, throne, the triple crown of a pope, a hand raised in blessing, and two acolytes.

Β It symbolizes a need to conform and social approval on the one hand, and mercy, forgiveness, compassion, conformity, and inspiration on the other.

This card means that you know how to solve your problem even though it isn’t very easy.

5th Card

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The Nine of Pentacles in Tarot stands for discipline, self-reliance, and refinement.

The Nine of Pentacles meaning in a Tarot reading is positive.

It’s about not concentrating too much on the business side of life, represented by coins in the image that are placed toward the ground.

On the other hand, there is another side to life: the arts, music, and the other forms of beauty that are very much part of our lives.

You have to enjoy these finer things, too.

It’s time to let go and enjoy the finer things in life and share that abundance with others. You’ve earned it. It’s time to focus less on work and more on enjoying arts and culture. The card also signifies self-reliance. Remember to trust your own abilities.

This is the time to take matters into your own hands.

6th Card

The Queen of Swords in Tarot stands for honesty, astuteness, forthrightness, wittiness, and experience.

Her personality is a combination of the positive air energy of the Swords suit and the inward focus of a Queen.

The Queen of Swords admires honesty, is committed to truth, and tells you exactly as it is. She has no interest in lies or tricks and has a marked lack of pretence.

She fully understands the good and the bad of the world and is not easy to fool.

She can easily analyse a situation, and she can identify a tricky one coming at her.

Her observations are straightforward and candid and not meant to be hurtful.

Another of the traits of the Queen of Swords is a sense of humour along with witty comebacks.

It means you need to think and feel like her.

The first and foremost way is to be completely honest. You need to figure out what is going on and ensure that you are not letting yourself be fooled.

You may also need to see the humour in a situation you are facing, and make sure that you’re inspired by her special energy.

I hope you enjoyed your weekly guidance post please feel free to comment below if you have any questions or extra clarity.

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Sending Love to you all

Stacie xx



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