How To Starve A Narcissist

Hello my lovely people

Happy Sunday to you all I’m sorry I won’t be doing a weekly Spiritual Guidance Post this week I’m having a break, if truth be told I’m going to waste my whole Sunday playing sims 4.

Just because in sims I’ve got a better handle on life.

I’ve decided to do this post today because we have all dealt with a few narcissistic people in our life time.

You know the ones who are completely deluded that they have played a part in causing another human being pain.

It’s so easy to fall into a narcissistic trap because they are clever, at first they’ll say all right things and do all the right things to reel you in.

Once you have fallen into that black hole of nothingness it’s very difficult to pull yourself out of it.

It’s extremely difficult to remove yourself from a situation like this especially when you hold nothing but love for someone.

I can hundreds percent relate to the whole aspect of being in a connection with a certain individual.

That has these traits….

During the last few months of lockdown I feel its either gone two ways for people they have either been stuck within a narcissistic connection or have come within their power and a realisation that enough is enough and its time to act accordingly.

So how do you starve a narcissistic of your energy.

I know that a few of these steps won’t be easy for you but one thing I can promise you with time and self healing you will be fine.

This advice is from someone who’s been through it all yes it’s myself.

1. Go no contact.

This is the best option for you! If at all possible, cut all contact with him immediately and at once.

2. Be uninterested

This is the best option for you if you must have contact with the narcissist. Show no emotion, only answer the questions that must be answered and do so quick and to the point. Do not react at all to anything the narcissist says. Do not bite his bait of arguments or discussion about things that you’ve already discussed. Keep everything you say and do with him to an absolute minimum devoid of any emotion.

3. Keep it simple.

If you must have contact with the narcissist, keep all interaction brief. If he sends you a million texts, respond to only whatever is absolutely necessary. If you have to meet up, do what you came there for and nothing further. Again, remember – no emotion!

4. Walk away when their manipulative.

Whenever they starts to try to engage you, manipulate or blame you, walk away. Just end the conversation by leaving it. Don’t try to explain or reason with them about what’s happening. Just walk away. Soon you’ll train the narcissist that you aren’t available to be their energy supply any longer.

5. Don’t talk about the narcissist with people who know them.

If possible, don’t speak with them at all, but if you must, avoid details about your personal life and anything to do with the narcissist.

All of that information will end up making its way back to the narcissist and he or she can be fed energy from you through the third party. they will know what irks you and what buttons to push. they will know how their affecting you and you’ll continue to be seen as their energy source.

6. Set boundaries and don’t back down from them.

The reason the narcissist made their way into your life in the first place was because you didn’t have healthy boundaries in place.

Learn from that and implement the changes you need to make now!

Don’t feel bad for your boundaries and don’t reason your way out of enforcing them (i.e., “He or she doesn’t really know what he’s or she is doing,” or they are making improvements and he or she can change”). You teach other people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

7. Live your life.

Work on you, focus on you, build your future!

Don’t allow the narcissist to take any more of your time.

Set goals for yourself and celebrate when you reach them.

Build a healthy support system around you and don’t look back! There’s nothing for you back there.

Start implementing these things and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll find that the narcissist has no more hold on you!

One thing you always need to remember is that you hold the power to your own destiny we all get blindsided by love and connections but always believe in your own power to set boundaries and realise your self worth.

love to you all .

Stacie xxxx

Pulling the plug on negativity and regaining your power.

Hello everyone

I seem to start all my blogs the same way it’s just something I’ve always done.

I like to engage with my readers on a one to one basis.

Even though I know there’s plenty of you that read my posts, I just like to come down to a personal level and be real with you all.

Im the kind of women who reads other people’s experiences on Google.

I’m the sort of women who listens to tarot readers on YouTube on a daily basis seeking guidance.

I’m the kind of women who would love anyone unconditionally if they let me.

I’ll stop right there I said the LOVE!!! Word right yes I did.

One thing I have come to realise is that not everyone projects the same amount of energy as you do.

Dont expect to much from someone who doesn’t take the time to fully get to know you as a person.

We think we know people straight away, humans are very quick to judge..

To some people life, love and their surroundings are always an up hill struggle.

These are the people who will constantly moan, degrade, judge others for getting of the ferris-wheel when they’ve simply had enough of going around in circles.

At some point you have to get off and drop the energy from people’s negativity.

People who don’t seek answers or express their truth aren’t people I like to mix with.

I’m quite happy being able to connect to all my readers in such a powerful way.

So that’s why I love to blog as much as I do.

It helps me explain what goes on inside my brain and when I’m experiencing emotions and heartbreak.

It’s taken me a long time to realise this not all negative insults or drama needs more negative responses, don’t add fuel to the fire.

Simply walk away and pull the plug on any negativity it’s not worth the energy.

Humans are programmed to hold on to pain just for the fear of giving up to eagerly.

You don’t have to prove a point to anyone but yourself.

So if you find yourself in a situation that constantly goes around in circles just pull that plug and regain your power.

Love to you all ❤️

Stacie xxx

Noticing details that no one else sees. #mentalhealthawareness

Good morning all

As I sit in my bed coffee in hand deep in thought feeling an element of Carrie Bradshaw from sex in the city.

Life is somewhat chaotic but peaceful at the same time.

Over the last year I have to say I’ve met some truly amazing people each with a story that’s so unique and both inspiring.

It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the moment and get trapped in your own bubble your oblivious to others around you.

Sometimes life gets so hectic we can forget about everything that’s truly important.

Reevaluating your life isn’t an easy task.

But In time it gets less complicated and more a way of life.

You become aware of the love around you and the connections you form.

Humans are unique each with a personal story that’s just waiting to be heard, we just need to vibe with people who want to listen.

I opened my eyes and my heart six months ago from then on I’ve come to realise that each of us walks on our own path.

Sometimes we walk same path but it’s never the exact same story we share.

Sometimes people just need someone to listen not to judge.

I’m sharing this blog with you all to raise awareness.

To check in with people around you I know life gets busy and there isn’t enough time in the Day.

But just sending a quick message can completely change someone’s day.

Let them know you care.

Sometimes that’s all people need is just to know people genuinely care.

Reassurance is needed from loved ones other than from their own mind.

The mind can be a dark place…

So be someones light.

Love Stacie xxxx

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ℝ𝕒𝕕𝕚𝕠 𝕊𝕚𝕝𝕖𝕟𝕔𝕖

Evening all

I thought I would do a little blog on where I’m at just to let you all know why I’m not around as much at the moment.

Well the title says it all radio silence for the people who haven’t heard this saying before I will explain below.

It means a  period of time when someone does not communicate with another person or other people.

Seems dramatic I know but its my choice.

I’ve needed to strip back every aspect in my life and look at what direction I was heading towards.

Believe me it wasn’t healthy to some extent I’m still battling with my demons.

I’ve been through a very long period of heartache and self loathing for such a long time I’ve just had enough.

Closing the last chapter was the hardest and I have one last hurdle to get over before I can truly move forward.

I suppose you have to fully let the old layers of yourself fall away before you can heal and rebuild yourself.

I’ve given so much of myself to people who didn’t deserve me.

Now I know that and it’s difficult for me to pull my energy back.

But it’s what’s needed for me to be the best person I can be.


It’s time for me to take back my power and allow myself to put myself first.

So I’ve decided to pull back my energy from social media even though its a great place to reach out and put yourself our there I don’t feel I’m 100% ready for it.

With me trying to engage with people I found it’s drained me physically and emotionally.

I just simply can’t find the strength to deal with other peoples issues at the moment it makes me  hypocritical giving our advice and not listing to my own inner wisdom.

I’ve decided to not post anymore pictures or videos of myself at the moment because Im really not happy within myself and because I want people to get to know the real me not just the outside exterior of myself.

Tommrow I’m back on my health kick and the universe is giving me a massive…
To move forward so I will be back after some me time and I will come back better and stronger.

Love to you all ❤️

Stacie xxx

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Snooze From The News.. Taking Care Of Your Mental Health During Covid 19

Good Evening all

Its Friday and I’m officially off work for the weekend i can only send my apologies for my absence from my blog ive been so busy and exhausted when ive been at home.

Ive been wanting to do this blog for a while , I’ve received messages from lovely people all over the world regarding mental health during the covid pandemic.

When we are suppressed into a situation that isn’t normal to us it can be very overwhelming and scary.

For someone who struggles with daily life in everyday normal situations to then be forced into what everyone calls the new normal it can be a struggle.

You never need to be ashamed of your emotions or admitting to being overwhelmed its better to talk and connect to support network or to close family and friends.

Never bottle up your feelings to the point where it can feel like your head may explode.
There’s always some to talk to.

Within the current pandemic it can be extremely difficult to keep up with all the changes but let me ask you a few questions.

Have you been drawn into the media frenzy or exposed and drawn in to false information ?

Do you find that your obsessing over social media , news paper headlines and T.V ?

Do you feel like your feelings and opinions can’t be express in fear of being ridiculed.

I want to share my own thoughts and experience’s with my readers just to make you aware everyone has their own free speech and free will everyone has an entitlement to say how their feeling.

There isn’t no wrong or right way to feel every person is different and as soon as people understand that the more people won’t feel like they need to compress themselves into perfect bubble.

I don’t know about you all but back in March and April this year I felt glued to the TV and social media watching for updates from this man….


At first I backed Boris for the emense task he had  ahead of him.

As time went on things started to not make much sense my fear started to turn into suspicion and now anger.

I must state I completely feel for everyone who’s lost loved ones during this pandemic and this blog isn’t about me not caring its about people’s mental health.

But things didn’t add up and the obsession I had was mentally draining along side the pressure of it all.

So what did i start doing….

Yes I turned off the TV and started taking snoozes on all my social media profiles.

I didn’t want to see it..
It wasn’t me ignoring the pandemic it was me drawing my energy back from all this negative energy and focusing on the future and my own progression.

I must state don’t get drawn into the media frenzy of false news and click bait listen to the facts follow the guidelines.

News editors are well know for twisting a story to make it more appealing to readers.
It’s all about the sales.

I’ve got to be honest don’t like coronavirus talk in my house in fact it’s banned.

I say you need to..


We all have our own theories and thoughts but always remember at the moment it restricts our movements not our abilities to be human beings.

We still need self care, friendships, family and love, we will get back to normal.

Ecomany will bounce back.
Health services will improve and you as humans will bounce back.

Never allow your own opinion be defined by what others think that’s their views everyone is different.

So music isn’t banned, walks are not Banned, laughter isn’t Banned, life isn’t banned it’s just restricted don’t let the media put you in a dark place.

Dont let your mind or others stop you from speaking your truth.

Take a snooze from the news and beat those pandemic blues.


Love to you all

Stacie xx

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