𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝔾𝕝𝕠𝕨 π•Œπ•‘

Hiya Everyone

I hope you have had a great day I would like to say I have but that hasn’t been the case.

Do you know when you roll out of bed in the morning and you know its not going to be a great day both emotionally and physically, most the time these days I have my shit together.

But today I felt like the whole world was against me, my anxiety attacks are less and less these days since I’ve found my confidence back but still one slips through the cracks of that barrier that ive built so high around my soul and every now and again the old Stacie tries to remerge from the shadows and i have to rain her back into the darkness because that jush isn’t me anymore.

This blog post I’ve wanted to post for along time now and I’ve been putting it off for a while but i think its time to share it with you all.

To the people who know me in person who read my blog will understand exactly how I’ve been feeling and hopefully you will understand why I’ve needed to do what I have done to simply keep my head above water and to stop myself from drowning.

Up until the last six months Ive been at war with myself , my mind and my heart trying to align all three has been a battle and half.

I’ve always put others first and always put myself last just to make other people happy.

Ive loved and not always been loved back the old unrequited love is an arsehole.

I’ve sat there and listened and let someone pull me apart piece by piece for simply being me.

Ive kept calm when the fire inside me had raged.

I’ve been battered and bruised by my own self confidence.

Until that day comes and you think you know enough is enough I’m not taking this anymore.

I got up that morning in February and thought this is the last time i will allow my life and the people around me to control me..

It started with some external changes I was so determined to loose weight as that held my confidence back massively and I knew I had to drastically do something to achieve what i wanted so that was the first step for me.

So then the hair changed you always know when a women means business she changes her hair said coco channel , so that’s when my transformation really started when the red hair came along , that in itself gave me a lot of confidence.

Over the past 7 months i have worked on my surroundings and the company i kept.

I had taken a step back from anyone who brings drama to my life, I’m not about the drama, I just want a peaceful life.

One thing I realised when your going through a glow up is that some people will support you others will completely turn on you.

Ive been called nasty and evil plus lot more but i know that’s not me at all.

That’s the kind of people I haven’t got time for anymore.

We all go through bad times i know but its how we choose to evolve from it.

You see some people don’t like other people evolving due to their own insecurities, that’s when you realise that your energies are not meant to combine.

Your eyes open and you truly see people and situations that you once where involved with and think what the hell was i doing.

Transformation does that to you.

So what are my plans for the near future I’m sure that people will have something to say but you know what its my life my body I will do what makes me happy.

I don’t go into things blind I do my research..

so I’m fast approaching 33 and its time to start taking proper care of myself as vain as that sounds but again my choice, so i have been in touch with the Harley medical group to see if they will sort my loose skin from weight loss, that for me is a massive step in the mean time i will just have to put up with it.

Its ok people saying you look fine but its my choice i have to do what makes me happy and i would never go to the extreme.

So the glow up after such a rubbish time is amazing and I’m in this bubble at the moment where I feel untouchable from anything or anyone who caused me heartache and upset in the past.

If you like the new me then cool if you don’t then tough I’m never going back.

And I’m so proud of myself, I still have bad days and I know that one day someone will get me and will love me completely for just being me if given half the chance all I want to do is be happy but until then I’m like a elastic band I will always ping back ….

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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Good Afternoon all.

I hope you are well, I just wanted to do a quick blog about a new exciting opportunity I have decided to progress forward with.

I’m not sure if any other fellow bloggers have come across the term guest blogging, but its Guest blogging, also called β€œguest posting,” is the act of writing content for another company or sole talent.

But why have I chosen to showcase other people’s business and talent’s I hear you ask.

I feel its extremely important to help each other grow there are times in life where we need to be selfish but when it comes to empowerment and recognising other peoples talents it doesn’t help to show your support.

All throughout my younger years ive built up my talent skills and I can really put my hand to mostly anything call me del boy but honestly there isn’t anything I wont try and learn to help with my own progression.

But what I lacked was support and people willing to help me grow so after a few failed attempts I know how gut wrenching it feels when you fail due to lack of support.

So here I am the universe gave me a sign to empower people and showcase their business and talents.

And it maybe only a small gesture of my own good will but from one small gesture can come some amazing opportunities.

All my life ive been selfless and I’ve always wanted to help others I suppose I wear my heart on my sleeve but I truly know how hard it is to be heard in a world that’s always so noisy.

So here is my pitch i hope it draws you in to work along side me lets help each other grow.

Once a month i will be giving away one free guest blog spot on my own blog seashells and lipgloss blog.

This post will stay on my blog indefinitely so that new readers will always be able read your blog and get to know your business and your talent’s leading them to choose to follow your journey through your own social media accounts and lead to potential clientele growth.

I’m looking for…

Artist’s , Musicians’, Photographer’s , All Small Businesses , Charites, Venues , Creative Writer’s.

I’m open to new talent opportunities also it doesn’t just have to be what’s listed above.

If your interested in what I have to offer please email me on..

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Hello all

I hope you are all well i know

I always start my blogs of the same way i suppose i want people to know that wherever you are in the world I’m sending my well wishes .

Sometimes just a few words can completely change someone’s day.

As i sit in my new office cup of tea in hand my imagination goes wild its always this time of night where i feel like i can actually breathe sometimes its the simple things in life us humans need just to soothe the soul.

Its not about what you have left behind or what’s in your future its about where you are now in the present that’s all that counts.

I’m going to share with you all a short story about Harry and Mark.

It was a perfect summers day in the height of a busy dinner hour an elderly gentleman called Harry sits down on his usual bench in City Hall Park .

The bench held special memories of when Harry and his dearly beloved wife Susie used to sit and watch the world go by.

After Harry’s wife passed away he would always keep up their daily routine just because to him that was Harry’s happy place.

At that exact moment in the finance district was Mark after a busy morning of meetings and Linda from H.R spoiling his $900 suit he had already had enough of the day.

Escaping the hustle of the office and the noise of the city he found himself in City Hall Park.

Where he sat next to Harry they exchanged a simple hello.

But Harry could see the strain on Marks face, Tough day huh ?

Mark replied a little , sometimes i don’t know what its all for ?

You have a little bit more life experience any advice Mark asked Harry.

Yes of course i do ? but its only advice said Harry.

Do you have regrets Harry, plenty but its in the past i can’t change the past he replied.

Do you look to the future said Mark , not really Harry replied the future is never set in stone it can change in an instant.

So what do you look to asked Mark, Harry simply replied the present.

The present said Mark !!!

You need to look at what’s around you in the present moment are you happy are you alive or just existing , are you in love and have you ever found yourself even in the darkest of places.

Because know this one thing what’s important in life can’t be brought like real love ,trust , inner peace and time.

Mark said I’ve not really thought about it in that way before Harry , I’m in a relationship but I’m under a lot of pressure to take the next step, and I’m not sure if she’s the one , Harry replied.

If you love her you will know you will feel it deep down in the pit of your stomach if she is the one if you don’t feel it you have your answer.

I also work to hard and long hours i don’t see my family enough i don’t take vacation’s , im simply relied on by my boss to give 100% all the time and it’s so exhausting.

Harry replied simply tell him no and take a vacation go see your family.

Work will always be there when you get back but your loved ones won’t always be here, you simply need to find balance.

Find out what’s important to you and let everything else go.

What would a random Old man who hasn’t got time on his side say to his younger self.

He would say son fall in love whenever possible, don’t work so hard, and use your time wisely.

Change what doesn’t seem to fit and take risks.

That afternoon on that bench in City Hall Park words of wisdom were exchanged and lives were changed forever.

Sometimes all we need is a little bit of direction and a fresh mindset to make changes don’t ever feel weak for asking advice even if it’s from a complete stranger.

Be open and listen it just might change your life.

Love to you all
Stacie xx

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My Under The Stairs Office

Good Afternoon Everyone .

I hope you are all well and having a great weekend.

Today I’ve been busy finishing my own little office space ,i needed somewhere i could use to be creative other than blogging from my bedroom or my sofa.

My home isn’t a huge house its three bedroom home with two sitting areas there isn’t much space to call your own other than my bedroom.

But its home and its mine.

Having two children can kind of take over the place and ive always put them first so mum needed some space to be creative and in between a day time job i also run my blog , and my custom apparel business.

So life can become pretty madness at times as you can imagine.

I had been wanting to create a small office space for a while but I was debating on where and how I was going to achieve it on a budget .

So i have two storage cupboards in my hallway which where absolutely full of crap that no one wanted but i couldn’t be bothered to sort through and throw away but i finally got round to sorting it all out and i had a empty space a blank canvas if you like.

I had a budget of Β£200 which I’m happy to say i was under budget by Β£76.01, money saving always makes me happy.

I’m going to show you before and after picture …..

Desk was from Argos Β£50 , Chair also Argos Β£12

Paint and glitter was both from B& M bargains so was my flooring Β£20

My accessories Were from both Home Bargains & B& M Bargains

Wire Shelving Β£10 , Various Stationary and storage boxes Β£20

Candles and faux Plants Β£5

Wall stickers Where from Ebay Seller Kruger Stickers Β£3.49 for 90 Dalmatian Spots .

Lighting Are Battery powered and from Home Bargain’s Β£3.99 for three and they are so bright they also come with a remote.

Overall its not taken that long and i did have a bit of help.

I’m happy now i have a place to blog and be creative and also market my business.

Now i can get on with other projects i have been putting off for a while.

Have a fabulous evening all , im now going to relax with a classic amaretto and coke maybe cheeky whiskey in the mix.

Love to You All

Stacie xx

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It’s been a minute since I’ve properly blogged.

It’s been one of those weeks well months if I’m honest but it’s all been hush hush.

I’ve really wanted to blog about situations but I know I can’t at the moment i haven’t got the heart to.

Or the words to discribe how it’s made me feel.

You wake up everyday with this ambition of wanting to make a change an difference to yourself and the world around you.

You build yourself up then for others to try and knock you down and to me that’s not fair.

It’s not all bad news and depressing states though I’ve learnt alot about myself during this process.

I’ve removed a lot of toxic energy but some is still remaining its been quite tough trying to find a solution to situation where you don’t even know where to start.

Anyone who understands what I’m going on about knows how hard it is to try and it still not be good enough.

I talk alot about myself in my blogs because this is the whole reason why I decided to share parts of myself with you all.

So that people could relate and not feel alone.

Because feeling alone is worst feeling in the world.

One thing I’ve realised is I’m not normal and neither do I want to be.

But then what is classed as not normal these days we all have faults somewhere down the line.

Can we actually define the social expectations of being normal?

Someone who shows traits of an eccentric character in society isn’t deemed to be normal.

Why because they don’t allow themselves to fall into the trap of normal social existence.

Go to school, get a job, fall in love, get married, have babies.

That’s great in all if that’s what you want but to just simply be you and make yourself happy sometimes doesn’t sit well with others.

Not everyone will understand you or know why you do the things you do.

And that’s OK it’s not right to judge somebody else’s path.

Some times you just need to take a second to refocus.

Progress is progress however big or small it is, it’s still progress..

So little by little than none at all.

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Love to you all

Stacie xx

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Weekly Guidance 14/08/2020 to 21/08/2020

Hello Everyone..

Its time for weekly guidance from your one and only seashells and lipgloss aka Stacie.

This week i will be using my saints and angels oracle deck because i love to switch the energy up a bit to keep you all coming back for more.

First of all i must state that all my weekly guidance posts are for entertainment purpose only and are for all signs and all element’s.

Take what resonates and leave the rest.

Here it goes..

1st Card

Confidence

With this card you are being protected from negative influence’s , helping you to remain optimistic and filled with faith surrounding a current situation you are being shown to keep faith and stand firm with your choices.

As you enter a new stage in your life path you will be ready to let go of the past and move forwards with lessons learnt and knowledge gained from past experience’s your not going to make the same mistake twice but you need to also let go of fear regarding a new connection the past only repeats itself if you allow it to.

Have Confidence and know that you hold your own power.

2nd Card

Reward

You are being rewarded for all your efforts , hard work and dedication from helping others.

Its time to now take a step back and reap your reward and focus on your own needs and desires.

Your reward will come to you unexpectedly and in a happy and fore filling way , know you are being protected and loved from your loved ones in spirit.

I am being told that a lot of you have been giving your energy out and not gaining much in return this is why spirit is now saying to retreat and rejuvenate yourself .

Your good karma is on its way back to you.

3rd Card

Steady Progress

This card is all about yes you guessed it progress …

I feel that some of you are feeling very frustrated surrounding current and past situations.

spirit world wants you to know that you cant change the past but you can make progress in the present and the future.

And that’s where the progress is needed, don’t dwell on the past let go of the guilt and regrets and heart ache make way few new and exciting opportunities.

You are making progress even if you don’t feel like you are..

Small steps .

4th Card

Healing

With this card i feel that a lot of you have been feeling emotionally unattached over the past few months , im being shown low moods and lost of interest .

You are now going through a period of healing so allow yourself to accept the healing and start thinking about your own need and getting back on track.

Be especially aware of messages, signs and synchronicities at this time; they are a direct communication from the Universe guiding you in the right direction.

Look for Earth Angels at this time too.

People who are specially placed in your life to help you. 

5th Card

Sleep

With this card i feel a lot of you have been getting messages and signs in your dream state i feel that for some of you also sleep issues have been having a massive impact on your day to day life.

Sleep and rest is needed to be able to function right in life not only for our physical state but also mental state ,some of you have been not able to switch off at night and overthinking causing you to feel fear and allowing it to distract your mind from getting clear messages and guidance coming through for you during your dream state.

Spirit are making me aware that you need to change your bedtime routine i feel a lot of you have been wrapped up in current situations that are out of your control , wrapped up in the media and what other people are doing.

When it comes to night time allow yourselves to rest and quieten your mind to allow guidance to come to you.

6th Card

Speak Your Truth

When you speak your truth with courage and conviction, people take notice.

You can release any fears and doubts that your words will be met with disbelief if you first ask assistance from your angels and guides.

Ask them to send like minded people to you, who will aid you in your journey.

Often we know what is right, but we are held back by fear of judgement from others around us.

  It may be that they really need to hear what we have to say, and their fear and judgement comes from the simple fact that they just don’t understand us, yet, and that is what causes them to fear what we have to say.

Thank you for reading i hope you gained comfort and guidance from this weeks post.

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Sending Love to you all

Stacie xx

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Afternoon all..

I hope you are all well and have had a great weekend.

Whist I’ve had a bit of time to myselfΒ  the past few days I’ve looked back over the last few months and how slowly started to bring myself back to life.

Mental health is so important to me because I understand how other people feel when their at a low point in life and how our minds affects ourΒ  progression, relationships and the way we see ourselves.

One of the main issues I had was trying to hold everything inside keeping feelings and emotions inside.

It really didn’t work it was like putting a packet of mentos in a bottle of coke and expecting it not to erupt..


It happens there’s no holding it in..

This is know as fight and flight mode..

When your in flight of fight mode which does happen a lot with people who have anxiety and other conditions that are linked to mental distress. All you want to do is run and hide away push everyone away and bottle everything up so you try to surpress your emotions and pretend your fine.


There are three stages of flight or flight alarm, resistance, and exhaustion.

Alarm – This occurs when we first perceive something as stressful, and then the body initiates the fight-or-flight response.

Resistance – If the perceived stress continues, the body stays activated at a higher metabolic level in an effort to offset the persistent stress.Β  The body cannot maintain this level indefinitely, and its resources will eventually deplete.

Exhaustion – Prolonged exposure to the stressor will result in the depletion of the body’s resources, and the resulting wear and tear will suppress the immune system and cause bodily functions to deteriorate.

This can lead to a variety of health issues and illnesses, including heart disease, digestive problems, depression, and diabetes.

It’s important we try and figure out what triggers us in order to help us not only move on but to help stop fight or flight reactions reaccurring.

It’s all about personal boundaries and allowing yourself to actually put you’re own needs first.

I’mΒ  always told by people IΒ  don’tΒ  know how you always manage toΒ  cope with certain situations and people.
I was always toldΒ  you’re extremely strong willed the answer to them would be yes I suppose so but all I wanted to scream is I’m not I just wear a mask like most people I’m good at suppressing my emotions which can then come across like I’m not affected by situations or people’s actions.

But actually I really am affected by it just good at hiding my feelings.

One of my biggest issues is trying to understand why people don’t like me i know in past situations I’ve not been the best possible person I could be.
But I’ve learnt from my mistakes.

I have issues with rejection I find it extremely hard to understand why people wouldn’t like me…


But the people who are close to me always tell me is because I actually try and achieve something in life and that I aways wear my heart on my sleeve.

I’ve come to realise that not everyone likes everyone and that’s OK sometimes there isn’t a reason and there isn’t an answer to your question you just have to accept it for what it is and move on.

It’s impossible to be liked by everyone and never try understand why people do things the way they do or say the things they say.

Your only in control of yourself.

It’s all about quality of friendship and family connections not quantity the people who love your will always listen to you however many times your need to scream or moan but never be scared to express how you really feel.

Your causing more damage to yourself than good by pretending you’re OK don’t be scared to ask for help or put yourself first.

Sending hugs to you all

Lots of love
Stacie xx

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Good Afternoon all.

I hope you are all well I’ve been so busy the last few days with work and home life I’ve also been feeling a bit drained by certain energies but its now the weekend so its time to let that go and focus on myself.

I really enjoy doing these weekly guidance blogs because i love giving something back to you all i love sharing my spiritual energy with you all.

Lets get the formal bit out the way and i can start processing the messages and guidance for you all.

Disclaimer please note that weekly guidance blog post are for entertainment purpose only please take what resonates with you and leave the rest please note that its for all signs also.

The next few weeks there will be a lot of you who will be letting a lot go and choosing to move forwards there has been a period of stagnate energy nothings been moving on in fact i feel a lot has changed for a lot of you.

Trying times i feel are now passing but i feel most of you need to really sit and think about future plans only movement forward is needed not revisiting the past what’s left in the past should stay in the past.

I have been drawn to six tarot cards today im now going to share with you each interpretation.

First Card

Six Of Pentacle’s

The main meaning of the Six of Pentacles is that it is a card of sharing. Often, this card represents giving or receiving financial assistance, but in some cases, it can symbolize generosity with love, feelings, support, etc.

Typically, the Six of Pentacles predicts that charity being given and received.

If you are in financial hardship and have received the Six of Pentacles, you will be given a chance to recover.

Help is coming you need to trust that better times are coming and don’t be worried to ask others for help and support you must not allow your pride to get in the way.

Second Card

The Chariot

As you trudge along the pilgrimage of life, it is inevitable to experience rough and bumpy roads. But bear in mind that this too shall pass.

The upright position of the chariot card denotes the will to surpass difficult problems and the drive to break insurmountable boundaries. It gives a message that when you persist in winning challenges and obstacles, victory is surely within reach.

When you are in proper and full control of your affairs, you can easily achieve your goals and desires in life.

Again spirit has spoken and its all about moving forward taking charge and understanding that progress is needed in order to move forward but this card also indicated that you need to have a clear vision of where your going in order to guide yourself on to the correct path and go ahead without fear.

Third Card

The Star

The Star’s presence signifies a period of respite and renewal for you. This renewal may be spiritual, physical, or both. It is a particularly positive sign if you or someone close is recovering from illness or injury. It is a light in the darkness, illuminating your future and your past.

The light at the end of the tunnel card with the star its showing you that with a little bit of faith and trust in your own abilities you will be overcoming your current situation i also feel you have become stronger within yourselves in order to make changes in your mindset for future goals.

Fourth Card

Page of Wands

The Page of Wands in Tarot stands for being creative, enthusiastic, confident, and courageous. This card also considers spiritual concepts. Depending on the accompanying cards, at times the Page of Wands may further imply that the entire situation is immersed in the spirit of excitement and adventure. Again, depending on the circumstances, the Page of Wands can also suggest a presence of a young-at-heart adult or a child with whom you would interact. Such interactions may involve independence, high energy, risky behaviour, or shared enthusiasm.

The Page of wands card indicates a risk taker a dreamer someone who is living life and full of energy highly addictive trait to fall inline with.

I don’t believe this card is fearful its here to show us all that we all need excitement in our lives and to truly treasure the memories that we have the ones that are yet to come.

Let out your wild side and be free without fear.

Fifth Card

Knight of Pentacles

The Knight of Pentacles rushes to your side, bringing forth gifts of financial blessings, professional movement, stability and nobility.

He is a man of positive nature who takes responsibilities for his actions and is telling you that you should be responsible for yours as well. You are a dependable person, with good instincts who is watchful as well as a good physical leader.

The Knight of Pentacles offers protective assistance, a sense of duty as well as loyalty. He is practical and athletic. If this Knight represents you as the querent, then you are a super protective kind of person whose sense of duty and loyalty really motivates your life experience.

You are able to see the expansive side of things in life, the potential that all of the world possesses should we only take a hold and allow it to move us. You are going through a happy transit of the pursuit of success and abundance.

For all of you that are experiencing hardship at the moment this is your card and message from spirit saying hold fire this hardship is coming to an end the cogs in the wheel are starting to turn again don’t give up hope.

Good news is coming soon…

Sixth Card

Three of Cups.

Three of Cups, you will seeΒ three women lifting their cups up in the air in a celebration of some sort. Good times are in the air, for the three ladies have wreaths made of flowers in their hair.

Wreaths are often associated with success and victory, so their happiness is well deserved. The ladies are also seen standing on top of a field of flowers and fruit, further adding to the joyfulΒ feelings in this card.

There areΒ feelings of beauty, growth, compassion and happinessΒ that the women share between each other.

The meaning behind the Three of CupsΒ represents a period of happiness. You will be able to forget the worries of your daily life and spend quality time with family and friends.

To see the Three of Cups can indicate a happy reunion with a long lost friend, relative, or loved one. It can also mean a celebration, whether it is your own or for someone who you love. The event can be a birthday, wedding, or any other happy occasion. In general, it is about spending quality time with people you cherish in your life.Β 

I hope you have enjoyed your weekly guidance post please share like and comment below.

With love

Stacie xx

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Good evening..

Late night blogging for me its Monday and it’s a start of a brand new week.I wanted to share this blog with you all because at the moment I know people are struggling with their mental health and dealing with fear and anxiety.

When your forced to make changes or if a change is forced upon you it can be a very frustrating and confusing time let alone scary.

Some people deal with change well others don’t it’s just human nature.

Some have better coping mechanisms than others.I’m going to share some knowledge I’ve learnt over the past six months and how I’ve used it to help me progress..

1. Never change who you are to fit in with other’s…

I’ve been in this situation so many times.

Instead of being the person you are you end up being so far away from who you actually are and perceiving you’re self to be someone you’re not.

This is a massive lesson to learn because to all the people who just want to be liked by everyone it’s not going to happen…Sometimes in life people dislike you for no reason it happens.

Never ever under any circumstances try and fit in with others.You loose yourself in the process and whilst others around you are happy you will not be happy because you aren’t being your true self.

2. You will never understand another person’s actions towards you.

Dont try and debunk why someone treats you the way they do you will go round in circles in your own brain trying to figure it all out honestly it’s not worth it.

Life goes on always remember that and everyone has their own burdens to carry if you find a kind person around you be one.

3. Toughen up

I know it’s easy for me to say yes I said the exact same thing when I was told I’m too kind to people who don’t deserve it.It takes courage to stand up for yourself and say enough is enough.

I’m not dealing with this situation any more.

You either move past it or make life harder than it needs to be.

You don’t need to participate in every situation that gets thrown your way

People are going to think what they think and nothing you do or say will make them believe otherwise.

4. Don’t justify any decisions you make.

This one is simple it’s your life its your choice every decision you make is either for you to evolve and grow or to move on to something better.

If you feel it’s right go with your own gut instinct at the end of the day people talk it’s what humans do but you might as well just do it anyway regardless you can accept advice but never let someone criticise you for simply trying to better yourself.

5. Let them believe what they want to.

Best thing to do here don’t react when you enter transformation you care less about how others see you and more about how you see yourself.

What’s your self worth and why sometimes it doesn’t always pay you to be completely honest sometimes we just don’t need to say nothing at all…

People won’t understand how they treated you until you treat them in exactly the same way its just the way it is.

But don’t try and justify anything to anyone who’s already made up their mind about who you are.

Even if their perception is false.

6. The Chinese Whisperers

Massive lessons I’ve learnt this year is don’t believe everything someone says about someone.

We as humans are very quick to judge and get tangled up in all sort of drama that doesn’t really concern us.

This is my massive learning curve for 2020.

Leave people to fight their own battles.

We have all done it said something and thought why the hell have I just said that we are all human and make mistakes we live with alot of regret throughout life but its when you don’t learn from it that makes it dangerous for us.

I’m literally no longer getting involved with anything that doesn’t concern me you can’t keep making the same mistake.

You can’t bulid a new life by keep talking parts of the old one and trying to make the pieces fit it simply doesn’t work that way.

You will loose parts of yourself and people who you always thought would be around you forever but that’s part of the process where you are ready to move on.

You have your memories and sometimes that’s more than enough.

Stay strong

Love to you all

Stacie x

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