How To Starve A Narcissist

Hello my lovely people

Happy Sunday to you all I’m sorry I won’t be doing a weekly Spiritual Guidance Post this week I’m having a break, if truth be told I’m going to waste my whole Sunday playing sims 4.

Just because in sims I’ve got a better handle on life.

I’ve decided to do this post today because we have all dealt with a few narcissistic people in our life time.

You know the ones who are completely deluded that they have played a part in causing another human being pain.

It’s so easy to fall into a narcissistic trap because they are clever, at first they’ll say all right things and do all the right things to reel you in.

Once you have fallen into that black hole of nothingness it’s very difficult to pull yourself out of it.

It’s extremely difficult to remove yourself from a situation like this especially when you hold nothing but love for someone.

I can hundreds percent relate to the whole aspect of being in a connection with a certain individual.

That has these traits….

During the last few months of lockdown I feel its either gone two ways for people they have either been stuck within a narcissistic connection or have come within their power and a realisation that enough is enough and its time to act accordingly.

So how do you starve a narcissistic of your energy.

I know that a few of these steps won’t be easy for you but one thing I can promise you with time and self healing you will be fine.

This advice is from someone who’s been through it all yes it’s myself.

1. Go no contact.

This is the best option for you! If at all possible, cut all contact with him immediately and at once.

2. Be uninterested

This is the best option for you if you must have contact with the narcissist. Show no emotion, only answer the questions that must be answered and do so quick and to the point. Do not react at all to anything the narcissist says. Do not bite his bait of arguments or discussion about things that you’ve already discussed. Keep everything you say and do with him to an absolute minimum devoid of any emotion.

3. Keep it simple.

If you must have contact with the narcissist, keep all interaction brief. If he sends you a million texts, respond to only whatever is absolutely necessary. If you have to meet up, do what you came there for and nothing further. Again, remember – no emotion!

4. Walk away when their manipulative.

Whenever they starts to try to engage you, manipulate or blame you, walk away. Just end the conversation by leaving it. Don’t try to explain or reason with them about what’s happening. Just walk away. Soon you’ll train the narcissist that you aren’t available to be their energy supply any longer.

5. Don’t talk about the narcissist with people who know them.

If possible, don’t speak with them at all, but if you must, avoid details about your personal life and anything to do with the narcissist.

All of that information will end up making its way back to the narcissist and he or she can be fed energy from you through the third party. they will know what irks you and what buttons to push. they will know how their affecting you and you’ll continue to be seen as their energy source.

6. Set boundaries and don’t back down from them.

The reason the narcissist made their way into your life in the first place was because you didn’t have healthy boundaries in place.

Learn from that and implement the changes you need to make now!

Don’t feel bad for your boundaries and don’t reason your way out of enforcing them (i.e., “He or she doesn’t really know what he’s or she is doing,” or they are making improvements and he or she can change”). You teach other people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

7. Live your life.

Work on you, focus on you, build your future!

Don’t allow the narcissist to take any more of your time.

Set goals for yourself and celebrate when you reach them.

Build a healthy support system around you and don’t look back! There’s nothing for you back there.

Start implementing these things and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll find that the narcissist has no more hold on you!

One thing you always need to remember is that you hold the power to your own destiny we all get blindsided by love and connections but always believe in your own power to set boundaries and realise your self worth.

love to you all .

Stacie xxxx

Two Way Street

Evening all

Been a while since my last late night blog.

I’ve always had the the ability to tell the truth regarding situations and my own emotions.

This blog this evening is something that I’ve been struggling to come to terms with.

And that’s understanding that when it comes to love and relationships it simply can’t be all onesided.

I know most people have dealt with similar situations in regards to connections.

Can anyone here genuinely say they have ever been so in love that they would do anything to make the other person happy and completely disregarding their own feelings in order to be more appealing to the other party I know I have.

You know how it goes you play it cool try and keep busy but all your waiting for is the next….

To then find that it never comes.

One thing I’ve realised is that connections work both ways effort needs to come from both sides.

Your not the one who takes orders from a ringleader.

You make your own rules and follow them as you wish.

Over the years I’ve put my everything into my connections with people, I’ve really gone above board to make people happy, trouble is with me, I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have, and I love to love it’s just in my nature.

One thing I’ve realised over the past few months is that sometimes the universe will remove toxic people from your life other times you must remove them yourself.

Those who bring ill intentions into our lives do not or will not love us.

They will simply take what they need then leave.

That isn’t someone who loves you.

Love and respect is a two way street.

Never wait for someone to change their mind regarding their feelings.

That may never happen which leaves you feeling deflated.

Always be true to you but when the times right you will meet someone who understands you completely and no matter what the feelings will be mutual never onesided.

Loving all the wrong people prepares us to completely be ourselves and be at peace in our lives.

But most importantly it prepares us to receive the love we all deserve.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝔾𝕝𝕠𝕨 𝕌𝕡

Hiya Everyone

I hope you have had a great day I would like to say I have but that hasn’t been the case.

Do you know when you roll out of bed in the morning and you know its not going to be a great day both emotionally and physically, most the time these days I have my shit together.

But today I felt like the whole world was against me, my anxiety attacks are less and less these days since I’ve found my confidence back but still one slips through the cracks of that barrier that ive built so high around my soul and every now and again the old Stacie tries to remerge from the shadows and i have to rain her back into the darkness because that jush isn’t me anymore.

This blog post I’ve wanted to post for along time now and I’ve been putting it off for a while but i think its time to share it with you all.

To the people who know me in person who read my blog will understand exactly how I’ve been feeling and hopefully you will understand why I’ve needed to do what I have done to simply keep my head above water and to stop myself from drowning.

Up until the last six months Ive been at war with myself , my mind and my heart trying to align all three has been a battle and half.

I’ve always put others first and always put myself last just to make other people happy.

Ive loved and not always been loved back the old unrequited love is an arsehole.

I’ve sat there and listened and let someone pull me apart piece by piece for simply being me.

Ive kept calm when the fire inside me had raged.

I’ve been battered and bruised by my own self confidence.

Until that day comes and you think you know enough is enough I’m not taking this anymore.

I got up that morning in February and thought this is the last time i will allow my life and the people around me to control me..

It started with some external changes I was so determined to loose weight as that held my confidence back massively and I knew I had to drastically do something to achieve what i wanted so that was the first step for me.

So then the hair changed you always know when a women means business she changes her hair said coco channel , so that’s when my transformation really started when the red hair came along , that in itself gave me a lot of confidence.

Over the past 7 months i have worked on my surroundings and the company i kept.

I had taken a step back from anyone who brings drama to my life, I’m not about the drama, I just want a peaceful life.

One thing I realised when your going through a glow up is that some people will support you others will completely turn on you.

Ive been called nasty and evil plus lot more but i know that’s not me at all.

That’s the kind of people I haven’t got time for anymore.

We all go through bad times i know but its how we choose to evolve from it.

You see some people don’t like other people evolving due to their own insecurities, that’s when you realise that your energies are not meant to combine.

Your eyes open and you truly see people and situations that you once where involved with and think what the hell was i doing.

Transformation does that to you.

So what are my plans for the near future I’m sure that people will have something to say but you know what its my life my body I will do what makes me happy.

I don’t go into things blind I do my research..

so I’m fast approaching 33 and its time to start taking proper care of myself as vain as that sounds but again my choice, so i have been in touch with the Harley medical group to see if they will sort my loose skin from weight loss, that for me is a massive step in the mean time i will just have to put up with it.

Its ok people saying you look fine but its my choice i have to do what makes me happy and i would never go to the extreme.

So the glow up after such a rubbish time is amazing and I’m in this bubble at the moment where I feel untouchable from anything or anyone who caused me heartache and upset in the past.

If you like the new me then cool if you don’t then tough I’m never going back.

And I’m so proud of myself, I still have bad days and I know that one day someone will get me and will love me completely for just being me if given half the chance all I want to do is be happy but until then I’m like a elastic band I will always ping back ….

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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Good Afternoon all.

I hope you are all well I’ve been so busy the last few days with work and home life I’ve also been feeling a bit drained by certain energies but its now the weekend so its time to let that go and focus on myself.

I really enjoy doing these weekly guidance blogs because i love giving something back to you all i love sharing my spiritual energy with you all.

Lets get the formal bit out the way and i can start processing the messages and guidance for you all.

Disclaimer please note that weekly guidance blog post are for entertainment purpose only please take what resonates with you and leave the rest please note that its for all signs also.

The next few weeks there will be a lot of you who will be letting a lot go and choosing to move forwards there has been a period of stagnate energy nothings been moving on in fact i feel a lot has changed for a lot of you.

Trying times i feel are now passing but i feel most of you need to really sit and think about future plans only movement forward is needed not revisiting the past what’s left in the past should stay in the past.

I have been drawn to six tarot cards today im now going to share with you each interpretation.

First Card

Six Of Pentacle’s

The main meaning of the Six of Pentacles is that it is a card of sharing. Often, this card represents giving or receiving financial assistance, but in some cases, it can symbolize generosity with love, feelings, support, etc.

Typically, the Six of Pentacles predicts that charity being given and received.

If you are in financial hardship and have received the Six of Pentacles, you will be given a chance to recover.

Help is coming you need to trust that better times are coming and don’t be worried to ask others for help and support you must not allow your pride to get in the way.

Second Card

The Chariot

As you trudge along the pilgrimage of life, it is inevitable to experience rough and bumpy roads. But bear in mind that this too shall pass.

The upright position of the chariot card denotes the will to surpass difficult problems and the drive to break insurmountable boundaries. It gives a message that when you persist in winning challenges and obstacles, victory is surely within reach.

When you are in proper and full control of your affairs, you can easily achieve your goals and desires in life.

Again spirit has spoken and its all about moving forward taking charge and understanding that progress is needed in order to move forward but this card also indicated that you need to have a clear vision of where your going in order to guide yourself on to the correct path and go ahead without fear.

Third Card

The Star

The Star’s presence signifies a period of respite and renewal for you. This renewal may be spiritual, physical, or both. It is a particularly positive sign if you or someone close is recovering from illness or injury. It is a light in the darkness, illuminating your future and your past.

The light at the end of the tunnel card with the star its showing you that with a little bit of faith and trust in your own abilities you will be overcoming your current situation i also feel you have become stronger within yourselves in order to make changes in your mindset for future goals.

Fourth Card

Page of Wands

The Page of Wands in Tarot stands for being creative, enthusiastic, confident, and courageous. This card also considers spiritual concepts. Depending on the accompanying cards, at times the Page of Wands may further imply that the entire situation is immersed in the spirit of excitement and adventure. Again, depending on the circumstances, the Page of Wands can also suggest a presence of a young-at-heart adult or a child with whom you would interact. Such interactions may involve independence, high energy, risky behaviour, or shared enthusiasm.

The Page of wands card indicates a risk taker a dreamer someone who is living life and full of energy highly addictive trait to fall inline with.

I don’t believe this card is fearful its here to show us all that we all need excitement in our lives and to truly treasure the memories that we have the ones that are yet to come.

Let out your wild side and be free without fear.

Fifth Card

Knight of Pentacles

The Knight of Pentacles rushes to your side, bringing forth gifts of financial blessings, professional movement, stability and nobility.

He is a man of positive nature who takes responsibilities for his actions and is telling you that you should be responsible for yours as well. You are a dependable person, with good instincts who is watchful as well as a good physical leader.

The Knight of Pentacles offers protective assistance, a sense of duty as well as loyalty. He is practical and athletic. If this Knight represents you as the querent, then you are a super protective kind of person whose sense of duty and loyalty really motivates your life experience.

You are able to see the expansive side of things in life, the potential that all of the world possesses should we only take a hold and allow it to move us. You are going through a happy transit of the pursuit of success and abundance.

For all of you that are experiencing hardship at the moment this is your card and message from spirit saying hold fire this hardship is coming to an end the cogs in the wheel are starting to turn again don’t give up hope.

Good news is coming soon…

Sixth Card

Three of Cups.

Three of Cups, you will see three women lifting their cups up in the air in a celebration of some sort. Good times are in the air, for the three ladies have wreaths made of flowers in their hair.

Wreaths are often associated with success and victory, so their happiness is well deserved. The ladies are also seen standing on top of a field of flowers and fruit, further adding to the joyful feelings in this card.

There are feelings of beauty, growth, compassion and happiness that the women share between each other.

The meaning behind the Three of Cups represents a period of happiness. You will be able to forget the worries of your daily life and spend quality time with family and friends.

To see the Three of Cups can indicate a happy reunion with a long lost friend, relative, or loved one. It can also mean a celebration, whether it is your own or for someone who you love. The event can be a birthday, wedding, or any other happy occasion. In general, it is about spending quality time with people you cherish in your life. 

I hope you have enjoyed your weekly guidance post please share like and comment below.

With love

Stacie xx

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It’s all so quiet …

Shh shh
It’s oh so still
Shh shh
You’re all alone
Shh shh
And so peaceful until

Good evening all.

I hope your well, so who’s ready for normal life to resume again I know I definitely want normality back.

Like billions of others I haven’t been blogging a lot because I’ve been busy working on a few things behind the scene and tbh I’ve had a few bad days I didn’t want to document them because for me it’s now about progression and moving forward.

I’m only human and I know i will still have bad days besides good ones.

My motto for August is be true to who you are and focus on yourselves. Everyone around you is on their own personal journey leave them to it and focus on you.

Apart from working on myself and my own future I would like to think I’ve made some sort of a difference to other people’s lives over the past 18 months I’ve had plenty of ups and downs but it’s honestly made me a stronger person…

My blog is going from strength to strength the amount support I receive is amazing thank you all.

I would like to say the scars are finally healing from the past and I’m actually remembering what happiness is again.

A week ago I sat down and thought about what I want from life I’ve not put a lifetime plan in place as things can change unexpectedly but I’ve made at least a twelve month plan for myself and where I would like to be a year from now…

Whilst I was going through a bad time in my life I forgot whats mostly important to me and what makes me happy just because I was always worrying about what other people thought of me and how my personal growth would affect there’s.

Now I’m just focusing on me as selfish as that sounds.

I am still a good mum and every other title I fall under of but I’m not taking to lightly on others I have to do what makes me happier.

Today I relaunched one of my passions making custom clothing it’s another bow added to my very long string.

I’m just doing what makes me happy and that’s what life’s about after all being happy, falling in love and feeling like you belong in your own skin.

What other people are doing around you isn’t your mess to clean up its there’s so your best off leaving them to it and focusing on yourself and your future.

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Love to you all

Stacie xxx

𝔻𝕠𝕟’𝕥 𝔾𝕖𝕥 𝕄𝕒𝕕 𝔾𝕖𝕥 𝔻𝕚𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕟𝕥.

Good afternoon 😊

I’m blogging from my little piece of heaven in Merseyside.

I’ve been wanting to blog about a topic for sometime now.

It’s also a question I’ve been asked a few times and again I’ve always thrown a curve ball and avoided answering it.

I think I owe it to myself and others to give a rational answer.

It’s all about communication or lack of it.

So girls and guys I’m going to answer in the best way I possibly can and share the experience I’ve had surrounding this subject.

The question was firstly asked around February 2020 a few of my earlier readers had the pleasure to read my pain and frustration from previous blog posts.

And I do get asked a lot of questions that I can give a honest answer to but this one I didn’t know the answer because at the time I really didn’t have the advice to share.

But the question was..

When do you give up on communication with someone who just simply isn’t responding to you.

First of all I’m not going to lie it hurts like hell when you put your heart and soul into a connection and its not reciprocated.

And sometimes it’s actually nothing to do with you or anything you have done.

Sometimes it’s a situation that’s out of our control or just how the other person see’s the connection.

I’m not saying it’s fine to ignore people because that’s a pretty shitty thing to do.

But unfortunately the world’s full of shitty selfish people.

It’s all about rebuilding yourself and taking each day at a time.

It doesn’t matter how much you try and communicate with them if they don’t want to communicate back nothing you do will make them want to.

I’m sorry but that’s the truth.

I’ve done it for months waited for a message, email or a call or a follow on social media it’s never came and now I’ve learnt that a dead flower won’t grow if you just keep watering in fact you just drown it, you just need let it be and leave it alone..

Let it do its thing if it regrows amazing if it doesn’t then fine.

Crazy metaphor I know but that’s how I see it.

Whilst you’re waiting life’s passing you by and your missing out on your own growth.

So stop looking at your emails or you phone waiting for a txted, email or call to come your way….

Go your own way and if your ships finally come in great just don’t wait around for communication because time waits for no one.

So go out there live your life be amazing and if that person never calls or emails then they have missed out on an awesome connection.

Not you…

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Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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This is a story of two souls intertwined .

It tells a tale of one in love and one who left everything behind.

The stars are out said the boy to the girl.

As he gazed upon her bright green eyes and her dark haired curls.

The girl sensed his gaze upon her skin.
She sat quietly and whispered
Only if you would let me in.

Her heart was open and her hopes were high.

She knew after that evening it would be goodbye.

He had dreams of travel his heart full of fire.
He had passion charisma and desire.

She told him to follow his heart and live out his dreams.

She couldn’t help but think what could have been.

The boy turned to asked her why do you like me as such.

I can’t possibly answer she said there’s far to much.

Maybe it was his love for music and passion and drive.

Or how he made her feel so alive.

But I’m just a boy he said to the girl.

The girl simply replied yes you are but your my world.

The skies were clear and the stars were bright.

All upon that fateful night.

As she took a deep breath and stared into his blue eyes.

I’m really not good at goodbyes.

She loosen her grip and turned head.

Things where left there and unsaid.

She walked away and didn’t glance back.
She went on her way and left him to pack.

In her mind he was her true love and that she did know.

But this was his journey and he needed to go.

The boy moved on so did the girl.
But he knew deep down he was still her world.

Just as the sun meets the earth at night.
When it’s dark and there is no light.

When her body is tired but her souls awake.
She thinks of the memories her heart starts to break.

It’s not easy to break free and for the love to be gone
But the girl kept telling herself you just have to move on.

Stacie Leanne 14/04/2020

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𝕀𝕥’𝕤 𝕛𝕦𝕤𝕥 𝕝𝕚𝕗𝕖, 𝕀𝕥’𝕝𝕝 𝕓𝕖 𝕠𝕧𝕖𝕣 𝕓𝕖𝕗𝕠𝕣𝕖 𝕨𝕖 𝕜𝕟𝕠𝕨 𝕚𝕥.

Are we living or just existing.

Are we composed and consistent.

One day we are here and the next we are not.

We have to cherish all that we have got.

Its not about money or the treasures you seek.

Just to simply be happy and the memories we keep.

Don’t be scared to say how you feel.

Because even after all this time we allow ourselves to heal.

Be grateful for love be grateful for pain be grateful for the sun and the rain.

Be grateful for the air that you breathe.

Be grateful for the dreams but you must believe.

We all get one chance to walk the earth as us.

Be present be proud and learn to adjust.

Learn to love with all your heart.

Even when times get tough and you’re apart.

Beacuse all that matters in the end.

Is who we become next my friend.

Stacie Leanne 22/06/2020

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𝕋𝕙𝕖 ℍ𝕒𝕣𝕕𝕖𝕣 𝕋𝕙𝕖 ℝ𝕒𝕚𝕟, ℍ𝕠𝕟𝕖𝕪, 𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝕊𝕨𝕖𝕖𝕥𝕖𝕣 𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝕊𝕦𝕟.

Evening all ❤️

Late night blogging again for me it’s the best time for me to blog when it’s quite and i have time to reflect.

Tonight’s blog post is mostly about overcoming tough situations and moving forward with your life.

You can grieve in life for people who are still present in life it may sound a little strange but we do.

When someone passes we know they have gone psychically from our lives.

We grieve but over time it becomes less painful.

Not for everyone but in majority of case’s this is true.

But when you grieve for a loss of another human being that’s still present that’s where it cuts deep into your soul.

Your forever left wondering what if…

I found myself in this situation around a year ago maybe a little bit longer than a year but who knows.

My life came tumbling down around me it affected every part of who i was and it really affected my self worth.

Im not going to give you ten steps to deal with it in this blog post because i want to be completely honest with you all.

It was tough i had to take each day at a time.

Very mixed emotions i felt so stupid about it all.

I actually felt like it was never going to end.

But it did the one thing I learned from this situation was it didn’t matter how long you held on for in the end if it was meant to be it would of been.

You can keep over analysing every second it won’t change the past.

It’s been a painful process but a huge learning curve for me and a huge wake up call.

Not everything always works out in your favour in life we just have to deal with it the best we can.

You either let its consume you or let it change you.

Im a lot stronger now than what i was before and I’ve found my peace.

Now I’ve come through it and im on the other side my outlook on life, love and happiness has completely changed.

Remember this the storm maybe freighting at the time but after a storm comes the sunshine and then the sunshine brings the rainbow that’s where you will join me and many others on a road to self discovery.

If i can do it so can you…

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Love to you all 😊

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️ ❤️

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