How To Starve A Narcissist

Hello my lovely people

Happy Sunday to you all I’m sorry I won’t be doing a weekly Spiritual Guidance Post this week I’m having a break, if truth be told I’m going to waste my whole Sunday playing sims 4.

Just because in sims I’ve got a better handle on life.

I’ve decided to do this post today because we have all dealt with a few narcissistic people in our life time.

You know the ones who are completely deluded that they have played a part in causing another human being pain.

It’s so easy to fall into a narcissistic trap because they are clever, at first they’ll say all right things and do all the right things to reel you in.

Once you have fallen into that black hole of nothingness it’s very difficult to pull yourself out of it.

It’s extremely difficult to remove yourself from a situation like this especially when you hold nothing but love for someone.

I can hundreds percent relate to the whole aspect of being in a connection with a certain individual.

That has these traits….

During the last few months of lockdown I feel its either gone two ways for people they have either been stuck within a narcissistic connection or have come within their power and a realisation that enough is enough and its time to act accordingly.

So how do you starve a narcissistic of your energy.

I know that a few of these steps won’t be easy for you but one thing I can promise you with time and self healing you will be fine.

This advice is from someone who’s been through it all yes it’s myself.

1. Go no contact.

This is the best option for you! If at all possible, cut all contact with him immediately and at once.

2. Be uninterested

This is the best option for you if you must have contact with the narcissist. Show no emotion, only answer the questions that must be answered and do so quick and to the point. Do not react at all to anything the narcissist says. Do not bite his bait of arguments or discussion about things that you’ve already discussed. Keep everything you say and do with him to an absolute minimum devoid of any emotion.

3. Keep it simple.

If you must have contact with the narcissist, keep all interaction brief. If he sends you a million texts, respond to only whatever is absolutely necessary. If you have to meet up, do what you came there for and nothing further. Again, remember – no emotion!

4. Walk away when their manipulative.

Whenever they starts to try to engage you, manipulate or blame you, walk away. Just end the conversation by leaving it. Don’t try to explain or reason with them about what’s happening. Just walk away. Soon you’ll train the narcissist that you aren’t available to be their energy supply any longer.

5. Don’t talk about the narcissist with people who know them.

If possible, don’t speak with them at all, but if you must, avoid details about your personal life and anything to do with the narcissist.

All of that information will end up making its way back to the narcissist and he or she can be fed energy from you through the third party. they will know what irks you and what buttons to push. they will know how their affecting you and you’ll continue to be seen as their energy source.

6. Set boundaries and don’t back down from them.

The reason the narcissist made their way into your life in the first place was because you didn’t have healthy boundaries in place.

Learn from that and implement the changes you need to make now!

Don’t feel bad for your boundaries and don’t reason your way out of enforcing them (i.e., “He or she doesn’t really know what he’s or she is doing,” or they are making improvements and he or she can change”). You teach other people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

7. Live your life.

Work on you, focus on you, build your future!

Don’t allow the narcissist to take any more of your time.

Set goals for yourself and celebrate when you reach them.

Build a healthy support system around you and don’t look back! There’s nothing for you back there.

Start implementing these things and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll find that the narcissist has no more hold on you!

One thing you always need to remember is that you hold the power to your own destiny we all get blindsided by love and connections but always believe in your own power to set boundaries and realise your self worth.

love to you all .

Stacie xxxx

What The Universe Wants You To Know ! Weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog 29/11/2020 to 6/12/2020

Good Afternoon to you all.

I trust you are all well as can be.

I feel there are a lot of you feeling quite lost at the moment I also feel very tired and surrounded by heavy energy

Today I’m going to get straight to business and concentrate on what the universe needs to share with you all.

I would like to state that all my weekly guidance blogs are for entertainment purpose only.

All signs and elements are included take what resonates and leave the rest.

Weekly vision message

Its late evening , im sitting on a porch in an old rocking chair.

I can hear the crickets chirping , The night time Wildlife ready to come to life in the darkness.

The sun is setting , the sky is filled with an eerily orange glow.

The silence is deafening.

But my mind feels clear and my heart feels pure, with each rock of the chair I can feel emotions arising, I feel like I’m trying to get somewhere but I’m getting no where fast.

I feel fear and frustration , I’m filled with fear and regret of not following my own heart and listing to other people.

As the darkness fills the sky my mind comes to life.

Within the few minutes where my mind was clear and my heart felt pure , I found true peace within.

That’s when the universe reminds me that between the chaos, there is calm and a chance of reflection, and a chance of true happiness.

You need to remind yourself that its ok to take a break and a step back.

Tarot Card Connection

1st Card

The Moon

With the Moon it’s likely that emotions are complicated at this time.

The environment can be one full of misunderstandings, and not everything is as it appears. You may need to do some work to get to the bottom of things; be sure to not only ensure the intentions of others, but also understand your own emotions, desires and motivations.

There may be old attitudes, beliefs or ideas that are clouding your judgement. Many things can be hiding in your unconscious affecting your ability to accept love. Are past relationships haunting you? Have you lost faith in love? Do you believe you are unworthy of love? All of these can have profound affects on how we approach relationships. Now is the time to examine them and reveal them as they truly are.

2nd Card

Justice In Reverse

Justice is about karma, and if you’ve been putting forth the effort, love and romance will be coming your way. If you’ve been kind, loving and supportive, your relationships will be a mirror of what you’ve been giving to others.

If you’ve been single, your loving and positive disposition will make you especially attractive to new potential romances.

Because this card is all about the law of cause and effect, make sure you have been treating your partner fairly. Watch out for resentment and defensiveness, and ensure that conflicts in your relationships are handled with respect and trust in your other half.

Compromise and understanding is needed now. Sometimes this card is also about being tactful, and expressing your frustrations in a way that are mindful of your partner’s feelings. As long as issues hare handled with honesty and good faith, your relationship will thrive.

3rd Card

Five of Wands Reversed

The Five of Wands reversed meaning can be that your natural method of dealing with disagreements is avoiding any kind of conflict by getting away from that place as fast as you can.

Sometimes this can be regarded as a good thing, but other times, it may lead to a number of issues that are brewing up within you, for which you will have to address soon.

On the other hand, it can also mean that you have worked through your troubles and that you do not have any more issues to worry about.

Issues of how you deal with conflict can affect your relationships now.

If you’re in a relationship, ensure that you haven’t been bottling up your resentments to avoid conflicts that the two of you need to have a smooth partnership.

Eventually avoiding difficult conversations lead to an erosion of trust. Remember that every person has the right to their needs, and having needs does not make you any less lovable.

If you’ve been doing the hard work of expressing yourself honestly with your partner however, you may find that misunderstandings are clearing up. What were once arguments may disappear once honesty and clarity have been achieved.

4th Card

The Devil

Getting the devil card in your reading shows that you have feelings of entrapment, emptiness and lack of fulfilment in your life.

It might also mean that you are a slave to materialism and opulence and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to shake off the feeling of wanting to indulge in luxurious living. 

You might be aware that this kind of lifestyle is leading you down the rabbit hole, but you have that feeling of not having any form of control over your actions or urges.


Addiction to substances or material pleasures can also be the reason for your feelings of powerlessness and entrapment. 

In situations such as these, you may feel as though you are a slave, unable to control your impulses or willpower to direct yourself towards something other than the satisfaction of these desires. 

Lust and temptation are symbolized by the Devil.

There can be a sense of hedonism, and a selfish desire for gratification with this card. In less serious circumstances, it can also just simply mean a pursuit for all of life’s earthly pleasures.

There is nothing wrong in having a bit of fun, but make sure that you are not hurting others or giving them wrong impressions when you do.

If you’re only looking for hook-ups, it is up to you to communicate that with your dates. Make sure you avoid pressuring others if they decide your lifestyle isn’t something that suits them. Communication will be more important than ever now.

Alternatively, the Devil can also signal addiction, and in the context of love and relationships, co-dependency.

Over time, this can be destructive to the individuality and self of both partners. Be wary, and ensure that the two of you remain strong individuals within your relationship.

5th Card

Page Of Pentacles

When we meet the Page of Pentacles, we see immediately that she is one that is ambitious and focused. She is protected, nourished, provided for by the suit whose name she bears.

Guided by it, she is deeply tied to the earth, nature, and all of its gifts.

She cherishes the body, for it too is something which is a manifestation of her element. Her diligence, ambition and loyalty drives her to quickly make plans for the future – for it is there where her focus lies.


When you meet her, she may be the bearer of news connected to all earthly and material matters. When you hear her message, be inspired as she is – lay down the foundations to follow your ambitions.

Generally, the Page of pentacles refers to the kind of energy that you need to complete all that is needed for your work.

It may point to the determination, focus and the ability to stick with a particular task no matter how boring it may seem.

In terms of work, the Page of Pentacles may signify that there are a lot of tasks you are responsible for, but your time to complete them is much too limited. This is not the time to feel stressed and overwhelmed. Assistance will be there for you, you just have to ask for it. 

In relation to finances, the Page of Pentacles can refer to the reward for your hard work. For those who are investing their hard–earned money, this is not the perfect time for you to take the risk. Invest your money in a safe and traditional way – the diligence will pay you back. If you are currently experiencing a health issue, this problem may be the result of the continuous neglect. Let a professional make sure that this is not the case.

The person symbolized by the Page of Pentacles is ambitious, loyal and practical; they may often be seen as studious, but once you get to know them well, they can also be quite funny.

Their ambition and focus means that they are hardworking. They are likely to be as dedicated as they are to a lover, as they are to their goals.

Their quiet demeanour may make them hard to notice at first, compared to other folks that may be more out going.

If this doesn’t represent a person that is entering your love life, the Page of Pentacles tarot love meaning can simply signal this Page’s dedication and loyalty in your relationship.

While sometimes the relationship can lack passion and feel a bit boring, the love is there; you may only need to go out there and figure out how to inject some fun and excitement back into your romance. Try not to always put practicality before passion in the relationship and the two of you should be just fine.

6th Card

The Seven Of Wands

The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event. The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle

The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event.

The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle that you need to go through to maintain your position, rather than to attain it.

This is about the difficulties we face to continue to have success. You should be ready for the competition to you defend your title, and to prove yourself. Others are going to desire the same results that you do, so you need to stay ahead of the them.

There will be challenges to the success of your project or venture from an outside source. You must remain dedicated to your desires, and with a clear purpose and effort, you will overcome them.


The overall meaning of the Seven of Wands is to hold your ground, no matter what is challenging your position.

You will need to defend this position and take a stand against those who are aiming to take your spot. There are setbacks during this time, but you need to keep fighting for your beliefs and confront those that may threaten or oppose you and your beliefs.

Bottom Of The Deck

The Empress

The Empress shows us how deeply we are embedded to our femininity. Femininity could be associated with fertility, expression, creativity and nurturing among many other aspects.

It therefore calls you to connect with beauty and bring happiness to your life.

Understand yourself and get in touch with your sensuality so that you can attract life circumstances to bring happiness and joy. She is a signal that be kind to yourself, to take care of yourself.

The Empress is also a strong indication of pregnancy and motherhood.

You can look for other cards to confirm if this is truly pregnancy, or rather just an indication of a motherly, nurturing and caring attitude.

The Empress card could also mean the birth of a new idea, business or project on your life. Owing to the good fortune that surrounds this card, you can be sure that such situations and projects would end successfully in your life.

Discover and bring forth those ideas that have been clinging to you and make sure that you devote yourself towards accomplishing them.

This card is a sign that they are going to be successful, and well taken care of. The Empress, as the archetype of the mother earth, also encourages you to spend time interacting with nature, the mother of all of us.

The empress stems from the element of earth.

The person represented by this card can be loving, nurturing and caring, as has financial security or appreciative of beautiful, comforting things. Sometimes, the Empress can point to love and work coming together, either with a co-worker, or perhaps a new business venture.

When it comes to relationships, this card also heralds a stable, serious and committed relationship. Because the card also represents motherhood, sometimes it can also signal marriage or pregnancy, or at least a new family, in whatever form that means for you.

I hope you enjoyed your weekly guidance post please feel free to comment below if you have any questions or extra clarity.

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Sending Love to you all

Stacie xx

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Weekly Spiritual Guidance 15/11/2020 to 22/11/2020

Good Afternoon all

How this week has passed us by so quickly its that time of the week again for your weekly spiritual guidance .

Today my energy is feeling a bit ropey but I’m here and ready to pass on messages from the divine.

Let me just remind you all that my spiritual guidance blogs are for entertainment purpose only.

Take what resonates and leave the rest.

For all signs and elements for the week commencing 15/11/2020 to 22/11/2020

Lets see what vision message the universe wants to share with you today..

I am seeing an image of a gentleman sitting at a table with his phone in front of him , I can feel mixed emotions bubbling up inside of him.

I feel the urgency of speaking the truth ,I feel this is linked to a past love interest that didn’t quite go as expected.

He is hovering over his phone , his heart starts to beat fast , he gains the courage to message this female , the message says !!

”HI I HOPE YOUR DOING WELL, THIS MAYBE A LONGSHOT BUT I WOULD REALLY LIKE TO MEET AND TALK TO YOU ”

He hits the send button and eagerly awaits a response, I can feel the anxiety rising within.

Will she reply ?

Its taken months maybe years for this gentleman to come to a realisation of how he feels about the female but now fears it maybe to late for them !!

He knows deep down there maybe a chance she wont reply , Either way he gets closure or the chance to speak the truth .

The universe want you to know that everyone makes mistakes , everyone feels fear when it comes to realisation of emotions , some people cant process emotions like others only option is to shut it out and push it aside.

Until the realisation of what you truly feel hits home and the damage is already done .

To right a wrong you must be truthful , you must also understand that sometimes there isn’t a way forward from your past mistake , there is only closure of a cycle .

But the universe wants you to be at peace and your past connections to be at peace , so if you cant make peace with the past at least make peace with yourself.

Lets Proceed With Our Weekly Tarot Card Guidance

Card 1

When the Ace of Cups is upright it means that you are a vessel for deep love and sympathy.

Love is the essence of this card, but it may or may not be romantic love.

Look to connect with other people

. This is the time to forgive or ask for forgiveness.

This is the time to set your anger aside and look for peace, and to drop your reserve and let your feelings come to the fore.

This is the time when your time is coming.

The Ace of Cups in love is an indication that there is tremendous romantic potential at this time.

If you are single, you may experience a very deep connection with someone new.

If you are in a relationship, then you and your partner will enjoy a period of deep intimacy and togetherness.

Card 2

When the Magician card is upright , it symbolizes originality, creativity, skill, self-confidence, and dexterity.

The card means you will be given an idea, a solution to a problem, an ambitious career, a love life, or a job.

You must trust in your big brain to help you find what you need and let the world open up to you.

The Magician card in love is usually a sign of positive things to come.

If you’re single, a new (and profound!) love is likely headed your way.

If you’re in a relationship, it could mean it is time to deepen your bond with your partner. All in all, a very good thing.

Card 3

When the Queen of Pentacles is upright ,it means you think as she does. You feel warm and caring toward others.

You are sensible in your approach.

You are true to your word. You’re highly generous, and best of all, you can be trusted when the chips are down.

By drawing the Queen of Pentacles card, you can be inspired by the atmosphere of warmth, trust, security, and whatever else the Queen stands for, including her special energy.

The Queen of Pentacles in love means you’re feeling confident and secure in love.

If you’re single, make sure to take time in picking the perfect partner.

If you’re in a relationship, it might mean it is time for you and your significant other to take a luxurious, romantic vacation together.

Card 4

When the Five of Cups is upright in a Tarot reading, it is there to alert you to the possibilities of a loss.

You might already be aware of the loss.

If not, this is when you must try to reduce the importance of the loss, if not avoid it altogether.

The Five of Cups in love means you have some sense of loss and grief when it comes to your relationships, past and present.

If you are single, it means you might live in worry that you let your soul mate get away.

If you’re in a relationship, the Five of Cups might mean that a breakup is coming in your future.

If you don’t want that to happen, you need to work on resolving deep issues.

Card 5

When the World card is upright it symbolizes completion, perfection, and recognition, in addition to honours, the end result, success, fulfilment, triumph, and eternal life.

It indicates a happy end to a project.

It will be accompanied by well-earned praise, celebration, and success.

Enjoy the satisfaction and fulfilment of a job well done.

The World card in love suggests finality, soul mates, ideal partners, a permanent and successful relationship.

If you are single, it may mean that you are feeling ready to begin something new, with fresh new optimism.

If you are in a relationship, maybe you are celebrating a happy anniversary or a marriage after a long engagement.

Card 6

The Queen of Wands always looks at the positive in all situations.

Her life is busy, and nothing gets her down.

She is healthy and fit, naturally strong, perfectly coordinated, and a good athlete.

The Queen of Wands has faith in her own abilities but is never arrogant.

Her belief that she can accomplish whatever she wishes comes from her self-assurance. When the Queen of Wands is upright in a Tarot reading, you need to feel and think like she does.

You need to feel attractive, believe in yourself, and be full of energy.

Her special energy has a special meaning. You need to be inspired by the Queen of Wands in whatever form she appears to you.

The appearance of this card may suggest that you be wholeheartedly adventurous, creative, and trusting. In fact, shake off those blues and be gung-ho about life.

This card means you need to create an atmosphere of cheerfulness and confident enthusiasm.

This is the time to be inspired by everything the Queen of Wands stands for.

The Queen of Wands in love is a lovely thing.

If you’re single, it might mean that either you’re about to meet a Queen of Wands type or you are the Queen of Wands type.

If you’re in a relationship, it means that you’re taking on characteristics of the Queen of Wands or that your partner is.

Bottom Of The Deck

When the Two of Pentacles is upright it means you can take care of all the demands made of you. You’ll juggle obstacles with excitement.

The card is a sign that you have to believe in yourself even if you aren’t feeling confident.

You can meet all challenges if you just remember to be flexible.

Forcing your way through difficulties is not going to work.

Sometimes the way forward is by a step to the side or backward.

The Two of Pentacles in love is an indication that you have a decision coming up.

If you’re single, this means you must decide if you want to stay single or make room for someone new in your life.

If you’re in a relationship, you might be facing a large financial decision that will impact the future of your relationship.

Be honest with yourself about what you want.

I hope you enjoyed your weekly guidance post please feel free to comment below if you have any questions or extra clarity.

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Sending Love to you all

Stacie xx

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ℕ𝕠𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘𝕤 ℙ𝕖𝕣𝕞𝕒𝕟𝕖𝕟𝕥

Nothing is permanent in this wicked world – not even our troubles.

Charlie Chaplin

Evening all

I hope you are all well.

I wanted to check in with you and let you know I’m still around in the background I’m just taking some time away from everyday hussle and bussle.

One thing I’ve come to realise these last few weeks is nothing is permanent in life, life can change instantly and it doesn’t matter how much we try and prevent something from happening we can’t.

Being a virgo for me is giving my all to every aspect of my life so at my job, at my home with my children and within my relationships.

I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have and putting other people first has always been a big stop block for me within all aspects of my life.

Truth is I care way to much about everything and I overthink far to much, I think with a realistic mind but I have a tenancy to be aggravated by people who are lazy and uncoordinated and people who play games.

It’s just my virgo traits.

I’ve worked very hard past few weeks on my mental health I’ve relapsed a few times had a few wobbles. I’ve been quite and unresponsive for a day or too I find it easier to shut down than try and explain my feelings.

It’s just way I’ve always be.

I’ve very lucky to have such a good support network around me i didn’t a few years ago but now I have people around me who understand when I’m having a bad day not to push me to far.

My blogging has slowed down abit again due to mostly me being busy but also to fear of getting on people’s nerves with all my posting but again like my mum says you don’t need to read if you don’t want to just…

You don’t need to justify anything you do to anyone.

Just have to be true to yourself.

Yes I may seem like an emotional lunatic very up and down when it comes to life, but you would be surprised how many people suffer in silance and pretend that they are OK.

I tell my story to help others sometimes along side the joking and everyday life blogs we need realisation that everyone is human and we all feel emotion and we all deal with life in different ways.

I tell mine through my writing along side my singing therapy.

And I really hope some people out there find comfort from my blog and sharing my experiences.

It’s been great to sit still for a while and catch my breath but slowly I’m coming back to myself….

P. S don’t forget to check out tommrow’s weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog.

Love to you all…

Stacie xx

Losing yourself to find yourself

Life is a funny old thing isn’t it?

How many of us find ourselves hoping for a better day ahead.

You can find yourself so wrapped up with daily routine and structure, you forget how much of your life is passing you by.

Do you crumble at the idea of not having a plan in place for every outting or experience in life.

Then you just maybe existing and not living.

A lot of people need structure and fear spontaneous life events.

The classic what if moment.

That fills us with anxiety and fear of rejection.

Some of the best experiences in life are followed by a ephiany moment….

We as humans are stronger than we think.

An advantage human can go through several transition in a lifetime its how we evolve and adapt to change.

As you know change is inevitable and if the universe thinks that you are heading in the wrong direction it will make changes for you.

We loose our true self for all sorts or reasons but one thing is pretty much certain we always find our way back to our authentic self.

It’s difficult feeling being lost and hopeless, not knowing what’s next.

But not every situation needs to be controlled and it doesn’t need a plan either.

If your like me then I find it extremely hard to let my guard down and trust people, I hate not knowing why and when, but one thing I’ve learnt is it doesn’t matter how much you need structure or answers you don’t always get it.

For myself now don’t force anything any more because anything that needs to be forced isn’t worth having.

And great things can happen when you loosen the grip of needed to control everything.

There’s no magic eight ball…

But you have your intuition so use it well and trust the process only then will you find the way back to your authentic self.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

ℝ𝕒𝕕𝕚𝕠 𝕊𝕚𝕝𝕖𝕟𝕔𝕖

Evening all

I thought I would do a little blog on where I’m at just to let you all know why I’m not around as much at the moment.

Well the title says it all radio silence for the people who haven’t heard this saying before I will explain below.

It means a  period of time when someone does not communicate with another person or other people.

Seems dramatic I know but its my choice.

I’ve needed to strip back every aspect in my life and look at what direction I was heading towards.

Believe me it wasn’t healthy to some extent I’m still battling with my demons.

I’ve been through a very long period of heartache and self loathing for such a long time I’ve just had enough.

Closing the last chapter was the hardest and I have one last hurdle to get over before I can truly move forward.

I suppose you have to fully let the old layers of yourself fall away before you can heal and rebuild yourself.

I’ve given so much of myself to people who didn’t deserve me.

Now I know that and it’s difficult for me to pull my energy back.

But it’s what’s needed for me to be the best person I can be.


It’s time for me to take back my power and allow myself to put myself first.

So I’ve decided to pull back my energy from social media even though its a great place to reach out and put yourself our there I don’t feel I’m 100% ready for it.

With me trying to engage with people I found it’s drained me physically and emotionally.

I just simply can’t find the strength to deal with other peoples issues at the moment it makes me  hypocritical giving our advice and not listing to my own inner wisdom.

I’ve decided to not post anymore pictures or videos of myself at the moment because Im really not happy within myself and because I want people to get to know the real me not just the outside exterior of myself.

Tommrow I’m back on my health kick and the universe is giving me a massive…
To move forward so I will be back after some me time and I will come back better and stronger.

Love to you all ❤️

Stacie xxx

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It’s one small step in the right direction that lead to the most adventurous paths.

Evening all

I hope your OK

Apologies for the lack of blogging but life’s been a little upside down lately.

Have you ever had that feeling of a. Weight being lifted from you it’s like seeing blue skies after a very dark storm.

This is where Im at now I’ve been through the worst of if and I’m finally realising that I deserve to put my own needs first.

Trouble is I give more out than I ever receive then I end up burning myself out in the process.

Its OK to put myself first it’s OK to say no.

Focusing on yourself is extremely important, growth is extremely important.

Moving on is important leaving the past behind is essential.

You can’t change what’s happened.

But you can learn from the experience and use it in your future.

I’ve literally grown so far away from who I used to be at times I’m unrecognisable even to myself.

But as one door shuts another is waiting to open.

Something better and more for filling.

I’ve always been held back and too scared to be myself in fear of what other people think.

But that’s not me any more.

I’m not perfect I don’t look amazing all time, I’m not always happy, I get annoyed & like to be left alone sometimes.

But that’s just me.

But I’ve realised it’s time to move on I’m ready to move on and work on the life I deserve.

My heart will always be happy helping people but I have to remind myself that I need to also help myself.

Today was a great day I purchased my first ever size 12/14 pj’s I’m so overwhelmed I’ve not been a size 12 since high school.

Massive achievement…

I’m also exited to be working with Acti Labs Super excited I will be posting another blog along with details soon but their products are my absolute favourite that’s why I have taken a leap of faith and I’ve chosen to work alongside them.

You will be able to purchase direct from me but again I’ll put all details on another blog post for you all.

Thank you so much for all your support and love I’m so grateful.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

Two Way Street

Evening all

Been a while since my last late night blog.

I’ve always had the the ability to tell the truth regarding situations and my own emotions.

This blog this evening is something that I’ve been struggling to come to terms with.

And that’s understanding that when it comes to love and relationships it simply can’t be all onesided.

I know most people have dealt with similar situations in regards to connections.

Can anyone here genuinely say they have ever been so in love that they would do anything to make the other person happy and completely disregarding their own feelings in order to be more appealing to the other party I know I have.

You know how it goes you play it cool try and keep busy but all your waiting for is the next….

To then find that it never comes.

One thing I’ve realised is that connections work both ways effort needs to come from both sides.

Your not the one who takes orders from a ringleader.

You make your own rules and follow them as you wish.

Over the years I’ve put my everything into my connections with people, I’ve really gone above board to make people happy, trouble is with me, I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have, and I love to love it’s just in my nature.

One thing I’ve realised over the past few months is that sometimes the universe will remove toxic people from your life other times you must remove them yourself.

Those who bring ill intentions into our lives do not or will not love us.

They will simply take what they need then leave.

That isn’t someone who loves you.

Love and respect is a two way street.

Never wait for someone to change their mind regarding their feelings.

That may never happen which leaves you feeling deflated.

Always be true to you but when the times right you will meet someone who understands you completely and no matter what the feelings will be mutual never onesided.

Loving all the wrong people prepares us to completely be ourselves and be at peace in our lives.

But most importantly it prepares us to receive the love we all deserve.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

Listen… It’s not your job to be everything to everyone.

Evening all I’ve not late night blogged for a while but it’s Sunday evening and

I’m filled with anxiety again.

There’s days where I need to have a moment to myself just to put my head straight.

It’s extremely difficult to be one hundred percent who you are these days.

I find that people are very judgmental and quick to jump to conclusions.

Without the facts.

I have to say that sometimes humans don’t have an alternative motif for just simply being helpful or truthful.

Sometimes it’s just in their nature to be honest without fear and to want to work hard to make a difference.

I truly believe that the current situation I find myself in is exactly where I need to be, you find yourself in certain situations in life where there is either lessons to be learnt or truth to be given in order for change to take place.

Somethings been stagnant for to long stubborn for change then….

You smack bang in the middle of a situation you either need to learn from or make a difference.

One thing I’ve realised is when you see through people your not very well liked that’s a know fact.

When your real and disconnect from the drama that’s when you become the drama and in no way shape or form have I got time for drama.

I’m literally at that stage where I still feel anxious and some days I’m not as strong.

But honestly your put on this earth to yes be thoughtful of others but to also be thoughtful of yourself.

I can’t stress enough to people if your struggling to juggle life and struggling with the people around you.

Distance is sometimes the best key you can never pour from an empty cup.

You can make sure your vessel is fine but if the minds off balance then the two don’t work in harmony.

Don’t put to much pressure on yourself to be the perfect parent, sibling, partner, friend or work colleague.

You need to nurture your own soul before you give to others.

When people try and drag you into Drama don’t fall for it, if it’s not your issue then leave it, some people don’t like the truth and can be….

But don’t fall for it you can’t fix everything or everyone so don’t try to.

Just be honest to yourself and honest with others and if your respected for it great if not there’s no love lost.

Good night everyone

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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Evening all…

This will be my last blog post at the age of 32 tomorrow is my birthday.

Do you even celebrate when your in your 30’s my answer to that is yes.

I’ve made it to 33 after everything I’ve been through I’ve made it.

It’s been tough lifes not been kind but im grateful I’m here and I’m alive.


What does being thirty three years of age mean to me and how will I be making changes for the foreseeable future.

After a few wobbly weeks I’ve been really thinking about myself as a person and how I approach situations.

I’ve realised that it’s time to move on from anything or anyone that’s caused me great harm.

Worst thing to do in the world of hold on to a grudge you only ever hurt yourself in the process…


The other issue I have is feeling guilty for actually living my life the way I want too and having to keep other people happy, I’m not doing it anymore so heads up people Stacie  is going to do what she wants to do and if it upsets the apple cart tough..


You get to a point in life you can’t keep worrying about other people.

Keep yourself in check make yourself happy because no one else will do it for you.

I’ll always be me but an upgraded version of my old self.

I’m finding people are seeking the old version of myself but she’s just not there anymore.

I’ve made  huge progress so far I’m not going to stop now.

The diet is back tommrow after a weekend of eating out and gin..

My aim is to loose another stone by end of September.

It’s achievable but I’ll need to be strict and keep active.

So what are my birthday plans well I’ll be on my own just the way I like it hopefully weather is OK.

I will head down my local beach and grab a coffee somewhere and watch the world go by.

I do have plans to see one of my best friends and my other friend at the end of September for a girlie night out with  festival vibes but until then it will be hard work and dedication.

And growing a little bit stronger each day.

I hope you have a fantastic week ahead don’t let people get you down and keep smiling.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx