How To Starve A Narcissist

Hello my lovely people

Happy Sunday to you all I’m sorry I won’t be doing a weekly Spiritual Guidance Post this week I’m having a break, if truth be told I’m going to waste my whole Sunday playing sims 4.

Just because in sims I’ve got a better handle on life.

I’ve decided to do this post today because we have all dealt with a few narcissistic people in our life time.

You know the ones who are completely deluded that they have played a part in causing another human being pain.

It’s so easy to fall into a narcissistic trap because they are clever, at first they’ll say all right things and do all the right things to reel you in.

Once you have fallen into that black hole of nothingness it’s very difficult to pull yourself out of it.

It’s extremely difficult to remove yourself from a situation like this especially when you hold nothing but love for someone.

I can hundreds percent relate to the whole aspect of being in a connection with a certain individual.

That has these traits….

During the last few months of lockdown I feel its either gone two ways for people they have either been stuck within a narcissistic connection or have come within their power and a realisation that enough is enough and its time to act accordingly.

So how do you starve a narcissistic of your energy.

I know that a few of these steps won’t be easy for you but one thing I can promise you with time and self healing you will be fine.

This advice is from someone who’s been through it all yes it’s myself.

1. Go no contact.

This is the best option for you! If at all possible, cut all contact with him immediately and at once.

2. Be uninterested

This is the best option for you if you must have contact with the narcissist. Show no emotion, only answer the questions that must be answered and do so quick and to the point. Do not react at all to anything the narcissist says. Do not bite his bait of arguments or discussion about things that you’ve already discussed. Keep everything you say and do with him to an absolute minimum devoid of any emotion.

3. Keep it simple.

If you must have contact with the narcissist, keep all interaction brief. If he sends you a million texts, respond to only whatever is absolutely necessary. If you have to meet up, do what you came there for and nothing further. Again, remember – no emotion!

4. Walk away when their manipulative.

Whenever they starts to try to engage you, manipulate or blame you, walk away. Just end the conversation by leaving it. Don’t try to explain or reason with them about what’s happening. Just walk away. Soon you’ll train the narcissist that you aren’t available to be their energy supply any longer.

5. Don’t talk about the narcissist with people who know them.

If possible, don’t speak with them at all, but if you must, avoid details about your personal life and anything to do with the narcissist.

All of that information will end up making its way back to the narcissist and he or she can be fed energy from you through the third party. they will know what irks you and what buttons to push. they will know how their affecting you and you’ll continue to be seen as their energy source.

6. Set boundaries and don’t back down from them.

The reason the narcissist made their way into your life in the first place was because you didn’t have healthy boundaries in place.

Learn from that and implement the changes you need to make now!

Don’t feel bad for your boundaries and don’t reason your way out of enforcing them (i.e., “He or she doesn’t really know what he’s or she is doing,” or they are making improvements and he or she can change”). You teach other people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

7. Live your life.

Work on you, focus on you, build your future!

Don’t allow the narcissist to take any more of your time.

Set goals for yourself and celebrate when you reach them.

Build a healthy support system around you and don’t look back! There’s nothing for you back there.

Start implementing these things and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll find that the narcissist has no more hold on you!

One thing you always need to remember is that you hold the power to your own destiny we all get blindsided by love and connections but always believe in your own power to set boundaries and realise your self worth.

love to you all .

Stacie xxxx

What The Universe Wants You To Know ! Weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog 29/11/2020 to 6/12/2020

Good Afternoon to you all.

I trust you are all well as can be.

I feel there are a lot of you feeling quite lost at the moment I also feel very tired and surrounded by heavy energy

Today I’m going to get straight to business and concentrate on what the universe needs to share with you all.

I would like to state that all my weekly guidance blogs are for entertainment purpose only.

All signs and elements are included take what resonates and leave the rest.

Weekly vision message

Its late evening , im sitting on a porch in an old rocking chair.

I can hear the crickets chirping , The night time Wildlife ready to come to life in the darkness.

The sun is setting , the sky is filled with an eerily orange glow.

The silence is deafening.

But my mind feels clear and my heart feels pure, with each rock of the chair I can feel emotions arising, I feel like I’m trying to get somewhere but I’m getting no where fast.

I feel fear and frustration , I’m filled with fear and regret of not following my own heart and listing to other people.

As the darkness fills the sky my mind comes to life.

Within the few minutes where my mind was clear and my heart felt pure , I found true peace within.

That’s when the universe reminds me that between the chaos, there is calm and a chance of reflection, and a chance of true happiness.

You need to remind yourself that its ok to take a break and a step back.

Tarot Card Connection

1st Card

The Moon

With the Moon it’s likely that emotions are complicated at this time.

The environment can be one full of misunderstandings, and not everything is as it appears. You may need to do some work to get to the bottom of things; be sure to not only ensure the intentions of others, but also understand your own emotions, desires and motivations.

There may be old attitudes, beliefs or ideas that are clouding your judgement. Many things can be hiding in your unconscious affecting your ability to accept love. Are past relationships haunting you? Have you lost faith in love? Do you believe you are unworthy of love? All of these can have profound affects on how we approach relationships. Now is the time to examine them and reveal them as they truly are.

2nd Card

Justice In Reverse

Justice is about karma, and if you’ve been putting forth the effort, love and romance will be coming your way. If you’ve been kind, loving and supportive, your relationships will be a mirror of what you’ve been giving to others.

If you’ve been single, your loving and positive disposition will make you especially attractive to new potential romances.

Because this card is all about the law of cause and effect, make sure you have been treating your partner fairly. Watch out for resentment and defensiveness, and ensure that conflicts in your relationships are handled with respect and trust in your other half.

Compromise and understanding is needed now. Sometimes this card is also about being tactful, and expressing your frustrations in a way that are mindful of your partner’s feelings. As long as issues hare handled with honesty and good faith, your relationship will thrive.

3rd Card

Five of Wands Reversed

The Five of Wands reversed meaning can be that your natural method of dealing with disagreements is avoiding any kind of conflict by getting away from that place as fast as you can.

Sometimes this can be regarded as a good thing, but other times, it may lead to a number of issues that are brewing up within you, for which you will have to address soon.

On the other hand, it can also mean that you have worked through your troubles and that you do not have any more issues to worry about.

Issues of how you deal with conflict can affect your relationships now.

If you’re in a relationship, ensure that you haven’t been bottling up your resentments to avoid conflicts that the two of you need to have a smooth partnership.

Eventually avoiding difficult conversations lead to an erosion of trust. Remember that every person has the right to their needs, and having needs does not make you any less lovable.

If you’ve been doing the hard work of expressing yourself honestly with your partner however, you may find that misunderstandings are clearing up. What were once arguments may disappear once honesty and clarity have been achieved.

4th Card

The Devil

Getting the devil card in your reading shows that you have feelings of entrapment, emptiness and lack of fulfilment in your life.

It might also mean that you are a slave to materialism and opulence and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to shake off the feeling of wanting to indulge in luxurious living. 

You might be aware that this kind of lifestyle is leading you down the rabbit hole, but you have that feeling of not having any form of control over your actions or urges.


Addiction to substances or material pleasures can also be the reason for your feelings of powerlessness and entrapment. 

In situations such as these, you may feel as though you are a slave, unable to control your impulses or willpower to direct yourself towards something other than the satisfaction of these desires. 

Lust and temptation are symbolized by the Devil.

There can be a sense of hedonism, and a selfish desire for gratification with this card. In less serious circumstances, it can also just simply mean a pursuit for all of life’s earthly pleasures.

There is nothing wrong in having a bit of fun, but make sure that you are not hurting others or giving them wrong impressions when you do.

If you’re only looking for hook-ups, it is up to you to communicate that with your dates. Make sure you avoid pressuring others if they decide your lifestyle isn’t something that suits them. Communication will be more important than ever now.

Alternatively, the Devil can also signal addiction, and in the context of love and relationships, co-dependency.

Over time, this can be destructive to the individuality and self of both partners. Be wary, and ensure that the two of you remain strong individuals within your relationship.

5th Card

Page Of Pentacles

When we meet the Page of Pentacles, we see immediately that she is one that is ambitious and focused. She is protected, nourished, provided for by the suit whose name she bears.

Guided by it, she is deeply tied to the earth, nature, and all of its gifts.

She cherishes the body, for it too is something which is a manifestation of her element. Her diligence, ambition and loyalty drives her to quickly make plans for the future – for it is there where her focus lies.


When you meet her, she may be the bearer of news connected to all earthly and material matters. When you hear her message, be inspired as she is – lay down the foundations to follow your ambitions.

Generally, the Page of pentacles refers to the kind of energy that you need to complete all that is needed for your work.

It may point to the determination, focus and the ability to stick with a particular task no matter how boring it may seem.

In terms of work, the Page of Pentacles may signify that there are a lot of tasks you are responsible for, but your time to complete them is much too limited. This is not the time to feel stressed and overwhelmed. Assistance will be there for you, you just have to ask for it. 

In relation to finances, the Page of Pentacles can refer to the reward for your hard work. For those who are investing their hard–earned money, this is not the perfect time for you to take the risk. Invest your money in a safe and traditional way – the diligence will pay you back. If you are currently experiencing a health issue, this problem may be the result of the continuous neglect. Let a professional make sure that this is not the case.

The person symbolized by the Page of Pentacles is ambitious, loyal and practical; they may often be seen as studious, but once you get to know them well, they can also be quite funny.

Their ambition and focus means that they are hardworking. They are likely to be as dedicated as they are to a lover, as they are to their goals.

Their quiet demeanour may make them hard to notice at first, compared to other folks that may be more out going.

If this doesn’t represent a person that is entering your love life, the Page of Pentacles tarot love meaning can simply signal this Page’s dedication and loyalty in your relationship.

While sometimes the relationship can lack passion and feel a bit boring, the love is there; you may only need to go out there and figure out how to inject some fun and excitement back into your romance. Try not to always put practicality before passion in the relationship and the two of you should be just fine.

6th Card

The Seven Of Wands

The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event. The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle

The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event.

The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle that you need to go through to maintain your position, rather than to attain it.

This is about the difficulties we face to continue to have success. You should be ready for the competition to you defend your title, and to prove yourself. Others are going to desire the same results that you do, so you need to stay ahead of the them.

There will be challenges to the success of your project or venture from an outside source. You must remain dedicated to your desires, and with a clear purpose and effort, you will overcome them.


The overall meaning of the Seven of Wands is to hold your ground, no matter what is challenging your position.

You will need to defend this position and take a stand against those who are aiming to take your spot. There are setbacks during this time, but you need to keep fighting for your beliefs and confront those that may threaten or oppose you and your beliefs.

Bottom Of The Deck

The Empress

The Empress shows us how deeply we are embedded to our femininity. Femininity could be associated with fertility, expression, creativity and nurturing among many other aspects.

It therefore calls you to connect with beauty and bring happiness to your life.

Understand yourself and get in touch with your sensuality so that you can attract life circumstances to bring happiness and joy. She is a signal that be kind to yourself, to take care of yourself.

The Empress is also a strong indication of pregnancy and motherhood.

You can look for other cards to confirm if this is truly pregnancy, or rather just an indication of a motherly, nurturing and caring attitude.

The Empress card could also mean the birth of a new idea, business or project on your life. Owing to the good fortune that surrounds this card, you can be sure that such situations and projects would end successfully in your life.

Discover and bring forth those ideas that have been clinging to you and make sure that you devote yourself towards accomplishing them.

This card is a sign that they are going to be successful, and well taken care of. The Empress, as the archetype of the mother earth, also encourages you to spend time interacting with nature, the mother of all of us.

The empress stems from the element of earth.

The person represented by this card can be loving, nurturing and caring, as has financial security or appreciative of beautiful, comforting things. Sometimes, the Empress can point to love and work coming together, either with a co-worker, or perhaps a new business venture.

When it comes to relationships, this card also heralds a stable, serious and committed relationship. Because the card also represents motherhood, sometimes it can also signal marriage or pregnancy, or at least a new family, in whatever form that means for you.

I hope you enjoyed your weekly guidance post please feel free to comment below if you have any questions or extra clarity.

Please feel free to share like and comment and donate to my blog if you wish.

Sending Love to you all

Stacie xx

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ℕ𝕠𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘𝕤 ℙ𝕖𝕣𝕞𝕒𝕟𝕖𝕟𝕥

Nothing is permanent in this wicked world – not even our troubles.

Charlie Chaplin

Evening all

I hope you are all well.

I wanted to check in with you and let you know I’m still around in the background I’m just taking some time away from everyday hussle and bussle.

One thing I’ve come to realise these last few weeks is nothing is permanent in life, life can change instantly and it doesn’t matter how much we try and prevent something from happening we can’t.

Being a virgo for me is giving my all to every aspect of my life so at my job, at my home with my children and within my relationships.

I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have and putting other people first has always been a big stop block for me within all aspects of my life.

Truth is I care way to much about everything and I overthink far to much, I think with a realistic mind but I have a tenancy to be aggravated by people who are lazy and uncoordinated and people who play games.

It’s just my virgo traits.

I’ve worked very hard past few weeks on my mental health I’ve relapsed a few times had a few wobbles. I’ve been quite and unresponsive for a day or too I find it easier to shut down than try and explain my feelings.

It’s just way I’ve always be.

I’ve very lucky to have such a good support network around me i didn’t a few years ago but now I have people around me who understand when I’m having a bad day not to push me to far.

My blogging has slowed down abit again due to mostly me being busy but also to fear of getting on people’s nerves with all my posting but again like my mum says you don’t need to read if you don’t want to just…

You don’t need to justify anything you do to anyone.

Just have to be true to yourself.

Yes I may seem like an emotional lunatic very up and down when it comes to life, but you would be surprised how many people suffer in silance and pretend that they are OK.

I tell my story to help others sometimes along side the joking and everyday life blogs we need realisation that everyone is human and we all feel emotion and we all deal with life in different ways.

I tell mine through my writing along side my singing therapy.

And I really hope some people out there find comfort from my blog and sharing my experiences.

It’s been great to sit still for a while and catch my breath but slowly I’m coming back to myself….

P. S don’t forget to check out tommrow’s weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog.

Love to you all…

Stacie xx

It’s one small step in the right direction that lead to the most adventurous paths.

Evening all

I hope your OK

Apologies for the lack of blogging but life’s been a little upside down lately.

Have you ever had that feeling of a. Weight being lifted from you it’s like seeing blue skies after a very dark storm.

This is where Im at now I’ve been through the worst of if and I’m finally realising that I deserve to put my own needs first.

Trouble is I give more out than I ever receive then I end up burning myself out in the process.

Its OK to put myself first it’s OK to say no.

Focusing on yourself is extremely important, growth is extremely important.

Moving on is important leaving the past behind is essential.

You can’t change what’s happened.

But you can learn from the experience and use it in your future.

I’ve literally grown so far away from who I used to be at times I’m unrecognisable even to myself.

But as one door shuts another is waiting to open.

Something better and more for filling.

I’ve always been held back and too scared to be myself in fear of what other people think.

But that’s not me any more.

I’m not perfect I don’t look amazing all time, I’m not always happy, I get annoyed & like to be left alone sometimes.

But that’s just me.

But I’ve realised it’s time to move on I’m ready to move on and work on the life I deserve.

My heart will always be happy helping people but I have to remind myself that I need to also help myself.

Today was a great day I purchased my first ever size 12/14 pj’s I’m so overwhelmed I’ve not been a size 12 since high school.

Massive achievement…

I’m also exited to be working with Acti Labs Super excited I will be posting another blog along with details soon but their products are my absolute favourite that’s why I have taken a leap of faith and I’ve chosen to work alongside them.

You will be able to purchase direct from me but again I’ll put all details on another blog post for you all.

Thank you so much for all your support and love I’m so grateful.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

Two Way Street

Evening all

Been a while since my last late night blog.

I’ve always had the the ability to tell the truth regarding situations and my own emotions.

This blog this evening is something that I’ve been struggling to come to terms with.

And that’s understanding that when it comes to love and relationships it simply can’t be all onesided.

I know most people have dealt with similar situations in regards to connections.

Can anyone here genuinely say they have ever been so in love that they would do anything to make the other person happy and completely disregarding their own feelings in order to be more appealing to the other party I know I have.

You know how it goes you play it cool try and keep busy but all your waiting for is the next….

To then find that it never comes.

One thing I’ve realised is that connections work both ways effort needs to come from both sides.

Your not the one who takes orders from a ringleader.

You make your own rules and follow them as you wish.

Over the years I’ve put my everything into my connections with people, I’ve really gone above board to make people happy, trouble is with me, I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have, and I love to love it’s just in my nature.

One thing I’ve realised over the past few months is that sometimes the universe will remove toxic people from your life other times you must remove them yourself.

Those who bring ill intentions into our lives do not or will not love us.

They will simply take what they need then leave.

That isn’t someone who loves you.

Love and respect is a two way street.

Never wait for someone to change their mind regarding their feelings.

That may never happen which leaves you feeling deflated.

Always be true to you but when the times right you will meet someone who understands you completely and no matter what the feelings will be mutual never onesided.

Loving all the wrong people prepares us to completely be ourselves and be at peace in our lives.

But most importantly it prepares us to receive the love we all deserve.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

𝟛𝟘 𝕊𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘

Evening all…

This will be my last blog post at the age of 32 tomorrow is my birthday.

Do you even celebrate when your in your 30’s my answer to that is yes.

I’ve made it to 33 after everything I’ve been through I’ve made it.

It’s been tough lifes not been kind but im grateful I’m here and I’m alive.


What does being thirty three years of age mean to me and how will I be making changes for the foreseeable future.

After a few wobbly weeks I’ve been really thinking about myself as a person and how I approach situations.

I’ve realised that it’s time to move on from anything or anyone that’s caused me great harm.

Worst thing to do in the world of hold on to a grudge you only ever hurt yourself in the process…


The other issue I have is feeling guilty for actually living my life the way I want too and having to keep other people happy, I’m not doing it anymore so heads up people Stacie  is going to do what she wants to do and if it upsets the apple cart tough..


You get to a point in life you can’t keep worrying about other people.

Keep yourself in check make yourself happy because no one else will do it for you.

I’ll always be me but an upgraded version of my old self.

I’m finding people are seeking the old version of myself but she’s just not there anymore.

I’ve made  huge progress so far I’m not going to stop now.

The diet is back tommrow after a weekend of eating out and gin..

My aim is to loose another stone by end of September.

It’s achievable but I’ll need to be strict and keep active.

So what are my birthday plans well I’ll be on my own just the way I like it hopefully weather is OK.

I will head down my local beach and grab a coffee somewhere and watch the world go by.

I do have plans to see one of my best friends and my other friend at the end of September for a girlie night out with  festival vibes but until then it will be hard work and dedication.

And growing a little bit stronger each day.

I hope you have a fantastic week ahead don’t let people get you down and keep smiling.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx


Weekly Spiritual Guidance 04/09/2020 to 11/09/2020

Hello Everyone

I hope you are all well..

It’s that time of the week again for your weekly spiritual guidance from Seashells & Lipgloss blog.

I really do hope that all my readers enjoy them and please don’t forget to share like and subscribe to my blog for other daily blog posts on life love and everything else in-between.

As I must always state that all my weekly spiritual guidance’s posts are for entertainment purpose only.

My guidance’s posts are for all signs and elements.

Take What resonates and leave the rest to the universe.

 

 

My spiritual vision message for this week is…

This week as I was tuning into spirit ready for your guidance messages , I was shown a fast flowing stream, I also saw a girl with a large orange autumn leaf in her hand she want’s to put the leaf in the stream and let if float away but she’s worried that the stream will overpower the leaf and drag it under water.

What she feels is panic and fear of what might happen to the leaf if she lets go of it.

She sits there a while calm’s her thoughts and her mind as she contemplates she notices that whist she’s taken a step back to focus on herself that the stream has calmed down its not so fast moving anymore and her fear for the leaf has passed.

She is now able to let go and watch it sail down into the horizon until she can no longer see the leaf and she’s let go of the fear.

The moral to this vision is sometimes we don’t act on situations due to the fear of what might or might not happen but as we take a step back to refocus ourselves and evaluate situations we move forward with a more clear and positive mindset, this allows us to let go and move on to better and bigger things , just from releasing fear of the unknown.

1st Card

The Justice card in Tarot is about reason, truth, and, yes, justice.

This is the card about cold, objective balance.

It’s also about moderation in all things, as well as the realities of karma. If you’re not keeping the scales balanced, there could be some fallout.

Justice symbolizes harmony, balance, equality, righteousness, virtue, honour, and advice.

It can also mean a time for adjustments, as well as an opportunity to bring physical, emotional, social, and spiritual things back into balance.

It also means it is time to stand tall and strong against the things that might be trying to throw you off balance.

2nd Card

The Lovers card in Tarot symbolizes love, as well as romance, connection, attraction, and perfect harmony.

The basic symbols of this card are an angel or Cupid, a man and a woman, and two trees. In some decks, there is a man standing between two women, and in some decks, one tree is flowering and the other has fruit.

 it stands for love, harmony, trust, honour, the beginning of romance, and optimism.

It is a card of passion, and feeling passionate, but it isn’t strictly about romantic relationships and intense interpersonal bonds.

One basic meaning of this card is that you may come across a divergence you dare not miss, no matter the difficulty, even if it is against your chosen path.

Be on the lookout for this opportunity, and don’t automatically take the easy road.

Think things over before you come to a decision.

Perhaps it’s time to take a leap of faith in love and connections.

3rd Card

 

The Seven of Pentacles means you need a time-out.

This isn’t a card of finality. This is an in-between card that means you have to pause and check your strategy.

The image on the card is a person who has worked hard and then paused to take some time to admire their work.

It means it is time to catch your breath after a lot of activity.

It’s time to assess your work and what you get from that work.

Maybe you’ve been so busy that you haven’t taken the time to reflect on what you’ve accomplished.

This is the time to take stock of your situation and make sure you’re getting the results you want.

4th Card

 

The Hierophant card in Tarot symbolizes traditional values and is often associated with the religious or spiritual.

The purpose of the Hierophant is to bring the spiritual down to earth.

The basic meaning of this Tarot card is to create harmony in the face of crisis. During a crisis, the Hierophant diffuses the panic and offers good and practical advice.

The basic symbols of the Hierophant card are twin pillars, a staff, throne, the triple crown of a pope, a hand raised in blessing, and two acolytes.

 It symbolizes a need to conform and social approval on the one hand, and mercy, forgiveness, compassion, conformity, and inspiration on the other.

This card means that you know how to solve your problem even though it isn’t very easy.

5th Card

 

The Nine of Pentacles in Tarot stands for discipline, self-reliance, and refinement.

The Nine of Pentacles meaning in a Tarot reading is positive.

It’s about not concentrating too much on the business side of life, represented by coins in the image that are placed toward the ground.

On the other hand, there is another side to life: the arts, music, and the other forms of beauty that are very much part of our lives.

You have to enjoy these finer things, too.

It’s time to let go and enjoy the finer things in life and share that abundance with others. You’ve earned it. It’s time to focus less on work and more on enjoying arts and culture. The card also signifies self-reliance. Remember to trust your own abilities.

This is the time to take matters into your own hands.

6th Card

The Queen of Swords in Tarot stands for honesty, astuteness, forthrightness, wittiness, and experience.

Her personality is a combination of the positive air energy of the Swords suit and the inward focus of a Queen.

The Queen of Swords admires honesty, is committed to truth, and tells you exactly as it is. She has no interest in lies or tricks and has a marked lack of pretence.

She fully understands the good and the bad of the world and is not easy to fool.

She can easily analyse a situation, and she can identify a tricky one coming at her.

Her observations are straightforward and candid and not meant to be hurtful.

Another of the traits of the Queen of Swords is a sense of humour along with witty comebacks.

It means you need to think and feel like her.

The first and foremost way is to be completely honest. You need to figure out what is going on and ensure that you are not letting yourself be fooled.

You may also need to see the humour in a situation you are facing, and make sure that you’re inspired by her special energy.

I hope you enjoyed your weekly guidance post please feel free to comment below if you have any questions or extra clarity.

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Good Morning All

Its Saturday Which means its the weekend..

I awoke from not much sleep but Ive worked out coffee in hand I’m ready to be creative and let my passion flow.

Ive been getting a lot of emails and messages lately honestly I love getting messages from you all asking me for my guidance regarding your situations it makes me feel like I know what I’m talking about & also I like being helpful to other people.

I received an email of a lady in the U.S.A she had previously come across my blog and wanted my advice after her relationship of thirteen years ended abruptly.

I’m going to be honest I could feel her pain whilst reading her email one line that will always stick with me is I’m lost I really don’t know how I will carry on.

I just wanted to give her a hug because when your in love with someone and the feelings are no longer there on the partners side its a terrible feeling.

You just don’t know what you could of possibly done wrong, was you the actual problem all along.

Lets go over what the actual meaning of blindsided in love .

Blindside in love happens when one person thinks that everything is smooth and perfect in the relationship and suddenly the other person announces that they want to opt out. Being blindsided can shatter a person as it is unexpected and came without a warning.

We don’t see the red flags because we are so in love with someone we put them on a pedestal, it doesn’t matter what that person does to us we just don’t see the bigger picture.

  1. Your Feelings Are Normal

When you fail to pick up any signs that your partner was unhappy in the relationship and then suddenly ends it, you are going to feel like you have been blindsided by a breakup.

It’s normal to feel total shock and disbelief that this is happening to you because you thought you were both happy.

You will torture yourself with endless questions wondering how did it all go wrong. All these feelings are normal and they will pass as you process this heart breaking event.


2. Don’t Blame Yourself

Aside from cheating or doing something equally as destructive in the relationship, you can’t take the full blame for being splitting up.

If your ex wasn’t happy, they should have spoken up and discussed the issues that were bothering them.

But some people feel it’s easier to walk away rather than work through the issues towards a better relationship. You might have just been unlucky enough to fall for one of these types.


3. Take Time For Yourself

Be kind to yourself as you process this breakup.

Your heart has taken quite a blow without warning and it’s going to feel as if your world has been flipped upside down.

Often, your self-esteem will take a steep nosedive because you are going to feel unloved and unwanted.

The best way to combat these negative feelings is to pamper yourself so you get mini boosts of happiness as you work your way through the emotional pain.


4. Be Happy With Other People

Keep misery to a minimum by hanging out with good friends that can give you a shoulder to cry on.

Do fun things that you enjoy to take your mind off the breakup.

It’s really easy to slip into depression when someone you love tells you that they don’t want to be with you.

Surround yourself with people who think positive and can cheer you up when you are hurting the most.


5. Don’t Waste Your Time Trying To Convince Them.

The last thing you should do is try to convince them that they have made a mistake. Although it may have come as a complete surprise to you, it’s highly likely they where thinking about exiting the relationship long before it happened.

They had gave it a lot of thought before they actually initiated the breakup.

At this point, they have had more time to process the painful emotions and has detached themselves from them.


6. Acceptance Wont Come Easy

Although it always takes some time to accept a breakup, this one is going to be particularly difficult because you weren’t expecting to lose them at all.

You will remember the most recent time that they said “I love you” and struggle with the idea that their feelings couldn’t have changed that quickly.

Worst of all is that you will expect them to come back to you, and many times they won’t. It’s best to think of that relationship as a chapter in your life that has come to an end unless they says otherwise.


7. Distract Yourself

Find distractions to keep your mind from drowning in memories of your old relationship.

After you have been through a blindsiding breakup, your mind is going to struggle and try to make sense of the whole situation, which will bring up many old memories.

Find things to distract yourself like find a new hobby, sign up for a class in something you have always wanted to learn or learn a new language. The goal is to distract yourself so you won’t constantly be tortured by thoughts of your ex.

The key is to work on yourself when you go through a situation like this not because you where the problem in the first place but because you deserve to be loved and understood being blindsided can really be a whirlwind process but you will get through it , it just takes time.

You will learn new things about yourself when your in a state of vulnerability but you must always remember not every relationship will be the same as your last so please don’t give up on love when the time is right you will know but for now take your time and get to know yourself.

Please don’t Hesitate to email me if you need my advice using contact box below .

I’m Sending you love.

Stacie xxx

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Weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog 28/08/2020 to 4/09/2020

Good Afternoon everyone.

I’m super excited to share this weeks spiritual guidance blog with you all.

Firstly I want to say that I really do hope that my guidance blogs helps all my readers in some way or another, I have had a spiritual gift for all my life and a huge interest in what come’s to us all after our passing for a very long time but I will save that for another blog.

My spiritual guidance blogs are all about you guys and me giving something back to you all as good will gesture for always taking the time out to read my blogs and support me in everything I do.

So lets get on with the legalities and get the boring stuff out the way first..

I have to state that all my guidance blogs are for entertainment purpose’s only .

My weekly guidance blogs are for all signs and elements, take what resonates and leave the rest to the universe .

Here we go..

I have a little message from the universe to everyone who’s really struggling with life at the moment.

Whilst connecting to gain clarity regarding your guidance today I was show a very clear image of a shadow person in front this shadow person two pathways formed as the vision got clearer I started to see more of a clearer outline of the shadow person, he was male , his expression on his face was somewhat of confusion and fear after a short while and hesitation…

I herd what path should I take the right one it seems less bumpy more plain sailing but what seeks me at the end is safe , unfulfilling in the long run it seems and easy less effort I have a dreaded feeling of regret.

He looks at the left path its full of bumps its looks scary full of uncertainties, dark corners great highs and steep lows he feels fear , excitement , great love and release from the ties of life.

As he stands there he knows he has to make a choice he can’t keep holding back in the darkness and floating about hoping everything will work out fine.

This is a very clear message I get for a lot of you, if you want something in life you have to make it happen it won’t just fall in your lap the universe doesn’t work like that you have to put the effort in .

If you want that dream job get of your butt start researching now on training , work on gaining skills and the opportunities’ will be endless.

If you have wanted a connection with someone emotionally for a while but you have always been held back by your own emotions and fear , speak your truth because it something wonderful can happen from just one honest truthful conversation if it works out great if it doesn’t no regret’s only lesson’s learnt.

Life doesn’t have a road map you don’t always need a plan because plans, people and situations can change just like the direction of the wind you need to live in the present and the now.

First Card

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Four of Cups

Has the grass been looking greener on the other side?

The Four of Cups is a card that tells us we aren’t looking at the good things we already have in our lives, and instead are longing for what we could have.

When this card appears in your readings, it’s challenging you to stop daydreaming about what you could have in your life and instead count your blessings.

The Four of Cups is a warning that we need to be more appreciative of what we have, and show a little more gratitude towards the things we’ve already been blessed with.

When we become self-absorbed, and start taking what we have for granted, we tend to miss out on other opportunities.

The Four of Cups calls attention to the fact that while you are busy wondering about other things, you’re missing out on the chance to improve what you already have.

Second Card

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Five Of Cups

The Five of Cups is a surprisingly complex card for being a part of the Minor Arcana.

It is depicted as five golden chalices, three of which have been knocked to their sides while the remaining two stay standing.

This card brings about confirmation of loss, sorrow, and despair, but also signifies that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

The three downed cups typically refer to the feelings you already have about your situation.

Whatever it may be that life has thrown at you, it can be hard to come to terms with not being able to put things back as they were.

The Cups suit is related to water, and you certainly cannot refill the fallen chalices with the water they already held.

The two chalices that have been untouched, however, promise that your situation can be salvaged, even if some of its parts have been changed.

Third Card

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Page Of Swords

The Page of Swords is represented by a young man atop a hill, grasping a silver sword in both his hands.

Like the other Page cards of the Minor Arcana, he is still learning and growing.

Often he represents an actual young person in your life.

The Page of Swords stands for truth and justice, as well as open and honest communication.

He is likely to appear to those who are struggling between telling the truth and sparing someone’s feelings, or those who are having a hard time verbally expressing their emotions.

Its important that you express your emotions without fear of the outcome because your at greater risk of hurting yourself trying to keep others happy.

Forth Card

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Page Of Wands

Generally speaking, the Page of Wands is in the area of having projects that come to fruition.

Something you initiated a while back starts to deliver positive results.

Another meaning that is to be considered frequently in a reading is that this Page represents a literal person in your life.

(S)he is a high energy person, a high-achiever that brings a positive vibe in your world.

Beware of lack of focus though.

Energy, success and enthusiasm are all good, but don’t take your eyes off the prize just yet.

Keep going keep achieving your hearts desires.

Fifth Card

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Ace Of Cups

This card is generally depicted as a large golden chalice with water overflowing from within.

The Ace of Cups shows up in a reading when you have reached a point of emotional stability, happiness, and peace.

It is a reminder that you have good emotional intelligence and a strong foundation on which you are able to take on the world, usually with a smile on your face.

A present position Ace of Cups means that the path your life has taken is the best one for you.

Whether it’s your relationship, family life, or career, you are in a secure and stable place emotionally.

Whatever you’ve been doing, it’s working in your favour so keep at it.

Sixth Card

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The World

This card is also about gaining more insight into what is your role in a bigger scheme of things.

It can be a big project, it can be the community you are part of and so on.

The meaning is that you are more in tune with the world around you.

There is a virtuous circle, i.e. the more success you have, the more connected you feel and the more you are motivated to contribute.

In terms of travel, the World can literally indicate that you may be traveling around the world. You may soon go for a long distance trip.

You may also receive a message from the Universe to be more open to take in elements from the world around you.

Try to become more receptive and expand your awareness.

Thank you for reading i hope you gained comfort and guidance from this weeks post.

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Sending Love to you all

Stacie xx

𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝔾𝕝𝕠𝕨 𝕌𝕡

Hiya Everyone

I hope you have had a great day I would like to say I have but that hasn’t been the case.

Do you know when you roll out of bed in the morning and you know its not going to be a great day both emotionally and physically, most the time these days I have my shit together.

But today I felt like the whole world was against me, my anxiety attacks are less and less these days since I’ve found my confidence back but still one slips through the cracks of that barrier that ive built so high around my soul and every now and again the old Stacie tries to remerge from the shadows and i have to rain her back into the darkness because that jush isn’t me anymore.

This blog post I’ve wanted to post for along time now and I’ve been putting it off for a while but i think its time to share it with you all.

To the people who know me in person who read my blog will understand exactly how I’ve been feeling and hopefully you will understand why I’ve needed to do what I have done to simply keep my head above water and to stop myself from drowning.

Up until the last six months Ive been at war with myself , my mind and my heart trying to align all three has been a battle and half.

I’ve always put others first and always put myself last just to make other people happy.

Ive loved and not always been loved back the old unrequited love is an arsehole.

I’ve sat there and listened and let someone pull me apart piece by piece for simply being me.

Ive kept calm when the fire inside me had raged.

I’ve been battered and bruised by my own self confidence.

Until that day comes and you think you know enough is enough I’m not taking this anymore.

I got up that morning in February and thought this is the last time i will allow my life and the people around me to control me..

It started with some external changes I was so determined to loose weight as that held my confidence back massively and I knew I had to drastically do something to achieve what i wanted so that was the first step for me.

So then the hair changed you always know when a women means business she changes her hair said coco channel , so that’s when my transformation really started when the red hair came along , that in itself gave me a lot of confidence.

Over the past 7 months i have worked on my surroundings and the company i kept.

I had taken a step back from anyone who brings drama to my life, I’m not about the drama, I just want a peaceful life.

One thing I realised when your going through a glow up is that some people will support you others will completely turn on you.

Ive been called nasty and evil plus lot more but i know that’s not me at all.

That’s the kind of people I haven’t got time for anymore.

We all go through bad times i know but its how we choose to evolve from it.

You see some people don’t like other people evolving due to their own insecurities, that’s when you realise that your energies are not meant to combine.

Your eyes open and you truly see people and situations that you once where involved with and think what the hell was i doing.

Transformation does that to you.

So what are my plans for the near future I’m sure that people will have something to say but you know what its my life my body I will do what makes me happy.

I don’t go into things blind I do my research..

so I’m fast approaching 33 and its time to start taking proper care of myself as vain as that sounds but again my choice, so i have been in touch with the Harley medical group to see if they will sort my loose skin from weight loss, that for me is a massive step in the mean time i will just have to put up with it.

Its ok people saying you look fine but its my choice i have to do what makes me happy and i would never go to the extreme.

So the glow up after such a rubbish time is amazing and I’m in this bubble at the moment where I feel untouchable from anything or anyone who caused me heartache and upset in the past.

If you like the new me then cool if you don’t then tough I’m never going back.

And I’m so proud of myself, I still have bad days and I know that one day someone will get me and will love me completely for just being me if given half the chance all I want to do is be happy but until then I’m like a elastic band I will always ping back ….

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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