It’s one small step in the right direction that lead to the most adventurous paths.

Evening all

I hope your OK

Apologies for the lack of blogging but life’s been a little upside down lately.

Have you ever had that feeling of a. Weight being lifted from you it’s like seeing blue skies after a very dark storm.

This is where Im at now I’ve been through the worst of if and I’m finally realising that I deserve to put my own needs first.

Trouble is I give more out than I ever receive then I end up burning myself out in the process.

Its OK to put myself first it’s OK to say no.

Focusing on yourself is extremely important, growth is extremely important.

Moving on is important leaving the past behind is essential.

You can’t change what’s happened.

But you can learn from the experience and use it in your future.

I’ve literally grown so far away from who I used to be at times I’m unrecognisable even to myself.

But as one door shuts another is waiting to open.

Something better and more for filling.

I’ve always been held back and too scared to be myself in fear of what other people think.

But that’s not me any more.

I’m not perfect I don’t look amazing all time, I’m not always happy, I get annoyed & like to be left alone sometimes.

But that’s just me.

But I’ve realised it’s time to move on I’m ready to move on and work on the life I deserve.

My heart will always be happy helping people but I have to remind myself that I need to also help myself.

Today was a great day I purchased my first ever size 12/14 pj’s I’m so overwhelmed I’ve not been a size 12 since high school.

Massive achievement…

I’m also exited to be working with Acti Labs Super excited I will be posting another blog along with details soon but their products are my absolute favourite that’s why I have taken a leap of faith and I’ve chosen to work alongside them.

You will be able to purchase direct from me but again I’ll put all details on another blog post for you all.

Thank you so much for all your support and love I’m so grateful.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

Blindsided

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Good Morning All

Its Saturday Which means its the weekend..

I awoke from not much sleep but Ive worked out coffee in hand I’m ready to be creative and let my passion flow.

Ive been getting a lot of emails and messages lately honestly I love getting messages from you all asking me for my guidance regarding your situations it makes me feel like I know what I’m talking about & also I like being helpful to other people.

I received an email of a lady in the U.S.A she had previously come across my blog and wanted my advice after her relationship of thirteen years ended abruptly.

I’m going to be honest I could feel her pain whilst reading her email one line that will always stick with me is I’m lost I really don’t know how I will carry on.

I just wanted to give her a hug because when your in love with someone and the feelings are no longer there on the partners side its a terrible feeling.

You just don’t know what you could of possibly done wrong, was you the actual problem all along.

Lets go over what the actual meaning of blindsided in love .

Blindside in love happens when one person thinks that everything is smooth and perfect in the relationship and suddenly the other person announces that they want to opt out. Being blindsided can shatter a person as it is unexpected and came without a warning.

We don’t see the red flags because we are so in love with someone we put them on a pedestal, it doesn’t matter what that person does to us we just don’t see the bigger picture.

  1. Your Feelings Are Normal

When you fail to pick up any signs that your partner was unhappy in the relationship and then suddenly ends it, you are going to feel like you have been blindsided by a breakup.

It’s normal to feel total shock and disbelief that this is happening to you because you thought you were both happy.

You will torture yourself with endless questions wondering how did it all go wrong. All these feelings are normal and they will pass as you process this heart breaking event.


2. Don’t Blame Yourself

Aside from cheating or doing something equally as destructive in the relationship, you can’t take the full blame for being splitting up.

If your ex wasn’t happy, they should have spoken up and discussed the issues that were bothering them.

But some people feel it’s easier to walk away rather than work through the issues towards a better relationship. You might have just been unlucky enough to fall for one of these types.


3. Take Time For Yourself

Be kind to yourself as you process this breakup.

Your heart has taken quite a blow without warning and it’s going to feel as if your world has been flipped upside down.

Often, your self-esteem will take a steep nosedive because you are going to feel unloved and unwanted.

The best way to combat these negative feelings is to pamper yourself so you get mini boosts of happiness as you work your way through the emotional pain.


4. Be Happy With Other People

Keep misery to a minimum by hanging out with good friends that can give you a shoulder to cry on.

Do fun things that you enjoy to take your mind off the breakup.

It’s really easy to slip into depression when someone you love tells you that they don’t want to be with you.

Surround yourself with people who think positive and can cheer you up when you are hurting the most.


5. Don’t Waste Your Time Trying To Convince Them.

The last thing you should do is try to convince them that they have made a mistake. Although it may have come as a complete surprise to you, it’s highly likely they where thinking about exiting the relationship long before it happened.

They had gave it a lot of thought before they actually initiated the breakup.

At this point, they have had more time to process the painful emotions and has detached themselves from them.


6. Acceptance Wont Come Easy

Although it always takes some time to accept a breakup, this one is going to be particularly difficult because you weren’t expecting to lose them at all.

You will remember the most recent time that they said “I love you” and struggle with the idea that their feelings couldn’t have changed that quickly.

Worst of all is that you will expect them to come back to you, and many times they won’t. It’s best to think of that relationship as a chapter in your life that has come to an end unless they says otherwise.


7. Distract Yourself

Find distractions to keep your mind from drowning in memories of your old relationship.

After you have been through a blindsiding breakup, your mind is going to struggle and try to make sense of the whole situation, which will bring up many old memories.

Find things to distract yourself like find a new hobby, sign up for a class in something you have always wanted to learn or learn a new language. The goal is to distract yourself so you won’t constantly be tortured by thoughts of your ex.

The key is to work on yourself when you go through a situation like this not because you where the problem in the first place but because you deserve to be loved and understood being blindsided can really be a whirlwind process but you will get through it , it just takes time.

You will learn new things about yourself when your in a state of vulnerability but you must always remember not every relationship will be the same as your last so please don’t give up on love when the time is right you will know but for now take your time and get to know yourself.

Please don’t Hesitate to email me if you need my advice using contact box below .

I’m Sending you love.

Stacie xxx

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𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝔾𝕝𝕠𝕨 𝕌𝕡

Hiya Everyone

I hope you have had a great day I would like to say I have but that hasn’t been the case.

Do you know when you roll out of bed in the morning and you know its not going to be a great day both emotionally and physically, most the time these days I have my shit together.

But today I felt like the whole world was against me, my anxiety attacks are less and less these days since I’ve found my confidence back but still one slips through the cracks of that barrier that ive built so high around my soul and every now and again the old Stacie tries to remerge from the shadows and i have to rain her back into the darkness because that jush isn’t me anymore.

This blog post I’ve wanted to post for along time now and I’ve been putting it off for a while but i think its time to share it with you all.

To the people who know me in person who read my blog will understand exactly how I’ve been feeling and hopefully you will understand why I’ve needed to do what I have done to simply keep my head above water and to stop myself from drowning.

Up until the last six months Ive been at war with myself , my mind and my heart trying to align all three has been a battle and half.

I’ve always put others first and always put myself last just to make other people happy.

Ive loved and not always been loved back the old unrequited love is an arsehole.

I’ve sat there and listened and let someone pull me apart piece by piece for simply being me.

Ive kept calm when the fire inside me had raged.

I’ve been battered and bruised by my own self confidence.

Until that day comes and you think you know enough is enough I’m not taking this anymore.

I got up that morning in February and thought this is the last time i will allow my life and the people around me to control me..

It started with some external changes I was so determined to loose weight as that held my confidence back massively and I knew I had to drastically do something to achieve what i wanted so that was the first step for me.

So then the hair changed you always know when a women means business she changes her hair said coco channel , so that’s when my transformation really started when the red hair came along , that in itself gave me a lot of confidence.

Over the past 7 months i have worked on my surroundings and the company i kept.

I had taken a step back from anyone who brings drama to my life, I’m not about the drama, I just want a peaceful life.

One thing I realised when your going through a glow up is that some people will support you others will completely turn on you.

Ive been called nasty and evil plus lot more but i know that’s not me at all.

That’s the kind of people I haven’t got time for anymore.

We all go through bad times i know but its how we choose to evolve from it.

You see some people don’t like other people evolving due to their own insecurities, that’s when you realise that your energies are not meant to combine.

Your eyes open and you truly see people and situations that you once where involved with and think what the hell was i doing.

Transformation does that to you.

So what are my plans for the near future I’m sure that people will have something to say but you know what its my life my body I will do what makes me happy.

I don’t go into things blind I do my research..

so I’m fast approaching 33 and its time to start taking proper care of myself as vain as that sounds but again my choice, so i have been in touch with the Harley medical group to see if they will sort my loose skin from weight loss, that for me is a massive step in the mean time i will just have to put up with it.

Its ok people saying you look fine but its my choice i have to do what makes me happy and i would never go to the extreme.

So the glow up after such a rubbish time is amazing and I’m in this bubble at the moment where I feel untouchable from anything or anyone who caused me heartache and upset in the past.

If you like the new me then cool if you don’t then tough I’m never going back.

And I’m so proud of myself, I still have bad days and I know that one day someone will get me and will love me completely for just being me if given half the chance all I want to do is be happy but until then I’m like a elastic band I will always ping back ….

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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𝕎𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕎𝕠𝕦𝕝𝕕 𝕪𝕠𝕦 ℂ𝕙𝕒𝕟𝕘𝕖 𝕀𝕥 𝕋𝕠..

Hello all

I hope you are all well i know

I always start my blogs of the same way i suppose i want people to know that wherever you are in the world I’m sending my well wishes .

Sometimes just a few words can completely change someone’s day.

As i sit in my new office cup of tea in hand my imagination goes wild its always this time of night where i feel like i can actually breathe sometimes its the simple things in life us humans need just to soothe the soul.

Its not about what you have left behind or what’s in your future its about where you are now in the present that’s all that counts.

I’m going to share with you all a short story about Harry and Mark.

It was a perfect summers day in the height of a busy dinner hour an elderly gentleman called Harry sits down on his usual bench in City Hall Park .

The bench held special memories of when Harry and his dearly beloved wife Susie used to sit and watch the world go by.

After Harry’s wife passed away he would always keep up their daily routine just because to him that was Harry’s happy place.

At that exact moment in the finance district was Mark after a busy morning of meetings and Linda from H.R spoiling his $900 suit he had already had enough of the day.

Escaping the hustle of the office and the noise of the city he found himself in City Hall Park.

Where he sat next to Harry they exchanged a simple hello.

But Harry could see the strain on Marks face, Tough day huh ?

Mark replied a little , sometimes i don’t know what its all for ?

You have a little bit more life experience any advice Mark asked Harry.

Yes of course i do ? but its only advice said Harry.

Do you have regrets Harry, plenty but its in the past i can’t change the past he replied.

Do you look to the future said Mark , not really Harry replied the future is never set in stone it can change in an instant.

So what do you look to asked Mark, Harry simply replied the present.

The present said Mark !!!

You need to look at what’s around you in the present moment are you happy are you alive or just existing , are you in love and have you ever found yourself even in the darkest of places.

Because know this one thing what’s important in life can’t be brought like real love ,trust , inner peace and time.

Mark said I’ve not really thought about it in that way before Harry , I’m in a relationship but I’m under a lot of pressure to take the next step, and I’m not sure if she’s the one , Harry replied.

If you love her you will know you will feel it deep down in the pit of your stomach if she is the one if you don’t feel it you have your answer.

I also work to hard and long hours i don’t see my family enough i don’t take vacation’s , im simply relied on by my boss to give 100% all the time and it’s so exhausting.

Harry replied simply tell him no and take a vacation go see your family.

Work will always be there when you get back but your loved ones won’t always be here, you simply need to find balance.

Find out what’s important to you and let everything else go.

What would a random Old man who hasn’t got time on his side say to his younger self.

He would say son fall in love whenever possible, don’t work so hard, and use your time wisely.

Change what doesn’t seem to fit and take risks.

That afternoon on that bench in City Hall Park words of wisdom were exchanged and lives were changed forever.

Sometimes all we need is a little bit of direction and a fresh mindset to make changes don’t ever feel weak for asking advice even if it’s from a complete stranger.

Be open and listen it just might change your life.

Love to you all
Stacie xx

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𝕃𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕝𝕖 𝕓𝕪 𝕃𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕝𝕖

It’s been a minute since I’ve properly blogged.

It’s been one of those weeks well months if I’m honest but it’s all been hush hush.

I’ve really wanted to blog about situations but I know I can’t at the moment i haven’t got the heart to.

Or the words to discribe how it’s made me feel.

You wake up everyday with this ambition of wanting to make a change an difference to yourself and the world around you.

You build yourself up then for others to try and knock you down and to me that’s not fair.

It’s not all bad news and depressing states though I’ve learnt alot about myself during this process.

I’ve removed a lot of toxic energy but some is still remaining its been quite tough trying to find a solution to situation where you don’t even know where to start.

Anyone who understands what I’m going on about knows how hard it is to try and it still not be good enough.

I talk alot about myself in my blogs because this is the whole reason why I decided to share parts of myself with you all.

So that people could relate and not feel alone.

Because feeling alone is worst feeling in the world.

One thing I’ve realised is I’m not normal and neither do I want to be.

But then what is classed as not normal these days we all have faults somewhere down the line.

Can we actually define the social expectations of being normal?

Someone who shows traits of an eccentric character in society isn’t deemed to be normal.

Why because they don’t allow themselves to fall into the trap of normal social existence.

Go to school, get a job, fall in love, get married, have babies.

That’s great in all if that’s what you want but to just simply be you and make yourself happy sometimes doesn’t sit well with others.

Not everyone will understand you or know why you do the things you do.

And that’s OK it’s not right to judge somebody else’s path.

Some times you just need to take a second to refocus.

Progress is progress however big or small it is, it’s still progress..

So little by little than none at all.

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Love to you all

Stacie xx

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𝔾𝕣𝕠𝕨𝕥𝕙 𝕞𝕖𝕒𝕟𝕤 𝕔𝕙𝕠𝕠𝕤𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕙𝕒𝕡𝕡𝕚𝕟𝕖𝕤𝕤 𝕠𝕧𝕖𝕣 𝕙𝕚𝕤𝕥𝕠𝕣𝕪

Good afternoon…

I hate to have to do blogs like this now because I’m so far away from the person who I was 18 months ago.
But as its my blog and I know people who truly care about me will understand every word that I wrote. Nothing else matters than how you see yourself.

So here it goes….

Hey I’m stacie I’m a 32 year old working mum of two.

I have two girls that I need to show strength and empowerment to.

Yes how ive evolved from who I once was and to the people who don’t understand why I’ve changed I’m going to explain a little.

If your affected by it then tough then maybe you know you have played a part in my story and maybe the truth hits home hard but that’s not my gulit it’s yours.

When all people say is oh well your strong you can deal with it but your actually screaming inside I can’t do this anymore, I’ve had enough yes this was me 18 months ago disappointed by ego, relationships,friendships and your own personal growth.

If I could go back now and slap myself 18 months previous I would.
How I’ve allowed others to use and walk over me.

To lie, abuse my friendship and my love then act like I was the one who put the knife in their back.

Well guess what I’ve just pulled the last knife out of my own back.

Whatever I’ve done in order to create my own innerpeace is my bussiness.

I’ve lost weight for me and I will continue to do what makes me happy…

And if I want to sit there in my bra and pants and post a selfie I will because this women is proud of who’s shes becoming.

After years of looking in the mirror and hating myself I finally have self love.

If you don’t like to see someone else progress then that’s your own issue.

I won’t settle for anything less than what I deserve.
So yes you can say who does she think she is.

But you don’t know the truth behind my change and why I needed to change myself.

I’m still here there’s still parts of stacie but I’ve upgraded and outgrown people who didn’t bring peace to my life my old ways of thinking have gone.

I’m still compassionate I still have a heart but the walls are a little higher..

No time for drama, fake friends or judgement.

I’m here to make something of myself.

So keep your judgement to yourself because it’s not welcome here.

We don’t cut people out for the fun of it we cut people out because we have finally opened our eyes.

I’m no angel I know that but one thing is I’ve learnt from my mistakes I don’t try and pass them off to someone else and hide.

But understand that sometimes people need to wipe slate clean and walk away from anything that damages the soul.

Sometimes that includes cutting ties and moving on.

Thanks for reading 💓💗

Stacie xx
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𝔻𝕠𝕟’𝕥 𝔾𝕖𝕥 𝕄𝕒𝕕 𝔾𝕖𝕥 𝔻𝕚𝕤𝕥𝕒𝕟𝕥.

Good afternoon 😊

I’m blogging from my little piece of heaven in Merseyside.

I’ve been wanting to blog about a topic for sometime now.

It’s also a question I’ve been asked a few times and again I’ve always thrown a curve ball and avoided answering it.

I think I owe it to myself and others to give a rational answer.

It’s all about communication or lack of it.

So girls and guys I’m going to answer in the best way I possibly can and share the experience I’ve had surrounding this subject.

The question was firstly asked around February 2020 a few of my earlier readers had the pleasure to read my pain and frustration from previous blog posts.

And I do get asked a lot of questions that I can give a honest answer to but this one I didn’t know the answer because at the time I really didn’t have the advice to share.

But the question was..

When do you give up on communication with someone who just simply isn’t responding to you.

First of all I’m not going to lie it hurts like hell when you put your heart and soul into a connection and its not reciprocated.

And sometimes it’s actually nothing to do with you or anything you have done.

Sometimes it’s a situation that’s out of our control or just how the other person see’s the connection.

I’m not saying it’s fine to ignore people because that’s a pretty shitty thing to do.

But unfortunately the world’s full of shitty selfish people.

It’s all about rebuilding yourself and taking each day at a time.

It doesn’t matter how much you try and communicate with them if they don’t want to communicate back nothing you do will make them want to.

I’m sorry but that’s the truth.

I’ve done it for months waited for a message, email or a call or a follow on social media it’s never came and now I’ve learnt that a dead flower won’t grow if you just keep watering in fact you just drown it, you just need let it be and leave it alone..

Let it do its thing if it regrows amazing if it doesn’t then fine.

Crazy metaphor I know but that’s how I see it.

Whilst you’re waiting life’s passing you by and your missing out on your own growth.

So stop looking at your emails or you phone waiting for a txted, email or call to come your way….

Go your own way and if your ships finally come in great just don’t wait around for communication because time waits for no one.

So go out there live your life be amazing and if that person never calls or emails then they have missed out on an awesome connection.

Not you…

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Love to you all

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𝕀𝕟𝕥𝕖𝕣𝕥𝕨𝕚𝕟𝕖𝕕

This is a story of two souls intertwined .

It tells a tale of one in love and one who left everything behind.

The stars are out said the boy to the girl.

As he gazed upon her bright green eyes and her dark haired curls.

The girl sensed his gaze upon her skin.
She sat quietly and whispered
Only if you would let me in.

Her heart was open and her hopes were high.

She knew after that evening it would be goodbye.

He had dreams of travel his heart full of fire.
He had passion charisma and desire.

She told him to follow his heart and live out his dreams.

She couldn’t help but think what could have been.

The boy turned to asked her why do you like me as such.

I can’t possibly answer she said there’s far to much.

Maybe it was his love for music and passion and drive.

Or how he made her feel so alive.

But I’m just a boy he said to the girl.

The girl simply replied yes you are but your my world.

The skies were clear and the stars were bright.

All upon that fateful night.

As she took a deep breath and stared into his blue eyes.

I’m really not good at goodbyes.

She loosen her grip and turned head.

Things where left there and unsaid.

She walked away and didn’t glance back.
She went on her way and left him to pack.

In her mind he was her true love and that she did know.

But this was his journey and he needed to go.

The boy moved on so did the girl.
But he knew deep down he was still her world.

Just as the sun meets the earth at night.
When it’s dark and there is no light.

When her body is tired but her souls awake.
She thinks of the memories her heart starts to break.

It’s not easy to break free and for the love to be gone
But the girl kept telling herself you just have to move on.

Stacie Leanne 14/04/2020

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𝕋𝕙𝕖 ℍ𝕒𝕣𝕕𝕖𝕣 𝕋𝕙𝕖 ℝ𝕒𝕚𝕟, ℍ𝕠𝕟𝕖𝕪, 𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝕊𝕨𝕖𝕖𝕥𝕖𝕣 𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝕊𝕦𝕟.

Evening all ❤️

Late night blogging again for me it’s the best time for me to blog when it’s quite and i have time to reflect.

Tonight’s blog post is mostly about overcoming tough situations and moving forward with your life.

You can grieve in life for people who are still present in life it may sound a little strange but we do.

When someone passes we know they have gone psychically from our lives.

We grieve but over time it becomes less painful.

Not for everyone but in majority of case’s this is true.

But when you grieve for a loss of another human being that’s still present that’s where it cuts deep into your soul.

Your forever left wondering what if…

I found myself in this situation around a year ago maybe a little bit longer than a year but who knows.

My life came tumbling down around me it affected every part of who i was and it really affected my self worth.

Im not going to give you ten steps to deal with it in this blog post because i want to be completely honest with you all.

It was tough i had to take each day at a time.

Very mixed emotions i felt so stupid about it all.

I actually felt like it was never going to end.

But it did the one thing I learned from this situation was it didn’t matter how long you held on for in the end if it was meant to be it would of been.

You can keep over analysing every second it won’t change the past.

It’s been a painful process but a huge learning curve for me and a huge wake up call.

Not everything always works out in your favour in life we just have to deal with it the best we can.

You either let its consume you or let it change you.

Im a lot stronger now than what i was before and I’ve found my peace.

Now I’ve come through it and im on the other side my outlook on life, love and happiness has completely changed.

Remember this the storm maybe freighting at the time but after a storm comes the sunshine and then the sunshine brings the rainbow that’s where you will join me and many others on a road to self discovery.

If i can do it so can you…

Here’s a great track called No Plan from Hozier… 👇👇👇

No Plan hozier

Love to you all 😊

Stacie 🐚 💋 💄 ❤️ ❤️

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