How To Starve A Narcissist

Hello my lovely people

Happy Sunday to you all I’m sorry I won’t be doing a weekly Spiritual Guidance Post this week I’m having a break, if truth be told I’m going to waste my whole Sunday playing sims 4.

Just because in sims I’ve got a better handle on life.

I’ve decided to do this post today because we have all dealt with a few narcissistic people in our life time.

You know the ones who are completely deluded that they have played a part in causing another human being pain.

It’s so easy to fall into a narcissistic trap because they are clever, at first they’ll say all right things and do all the right things to reel you in.

Once you have fallen into that black hole of nothingness it’s very difficult to pull yourself out of it.

It’s extremely difficult to remove yourself from a situation like this especially when you hold nothing but love for someone.

I can hundreds percent relate to the whole aspect of being in a connection with a certain individual.

That has these traits….

During the last few months of lockdown I feel its either gone two ways for people they have either been stuck within a narcissistic connection or have come within their power and a realisation that enough is enough and its time to act accordingly.

So how do you starve a narcissistic of your energy.

I know that a few of these steps won’t be easy for you but one thing I can promise you with time and self healing you will be fine.

This advice is from someone who’s been through it all yes it’s myself.

1. Go no contact.

This is the best option for you! If at all possible, cut all contact with him immediately and at once.

2. Be uninterested

This is the best option for you if you must have contact with the narcissist. Show no emotion, only answer the questions that must be answered and do so quick and to the point. Do not react at all to anything the narcissist says. Do not bite his bait of arguments or discussion about things that you’ve already discussed. Keep everything you say and do with him to an absolute minimum devoid of any emotion.

3. Keep it simple.

If you must have contact with the narcissist, keep all interaction brief. If he sends you a million texts, respond to only whatever is absolutely necessary. If you have to meet up, do what you came there for and nothing further. Again, remember – no emotion!

4. Walk away when their manipulative.

Whenever they starts to try to engage you, manipulate or blame you, walk away. Just end the conversation by leaving it. Don’t try to explain or reason with them about what’s happening. Just walk away. Soon you’ll train the narcissist that you aren’t available to be their energy supply any longer.

5. Don’t talk about the narcissist with people who know them.

If possible, don’t speak with them at all, but if you must, avoid details about your personal life and anything to do with the narcissist.

All of that information will end up making its way back to the narcissist and he or she can be fed energy from you through the third party. they will know what irks you and what buttons to push. they will know how their affecting you and you’ll continue to be seen as their energy source.

6. Set boundaries and don’t back down from them.

The reason the narcissist made their way into your life in the first place was because you didn’t have healthy boundaries in place.

Learn from that and implement the changes you need to make now!

Don’t feel bad for your boundaries and don’t reason your way out of enforcing them (i.e., “He or she doesn’t really know what he’s or she is doing,” or they are making improvements and he or she can change”). You teach other people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

7. Live your life.

Work on you, focus on you, build your future!

Don’t allow the narcissist to take any more of your time.

Set goals for yourself and celebrate when you reach them.

Build a healthy support system around you and don’t look back! There’s nothing for you back there.

Start implementing these things and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll find that the narcissist has no more hold on you!

One thing you always need to remember is that you hold the power to your own destiny we all get blindsided by love and connections but always believe in your own power to set boundaries and realise your self worth.

love to you all .

Stacie xxxx

Noticing details that no one else sees. #mentalhealthawareness

Good morning all

As I sit in my bed coffee in hand deep in thought feeling an element of Carrie Bradshaw from sex in the city.

Life is somewhat chaotic but peaceful at the same time.

Over the last year I have to say I’ve met some truly amazing people each with a story that’s so unique and both inspiring.

It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the moment and get trapped in your own bubble your oblivious to others around you.

Sometimes life gets so hectic we can forget about everything that’s truly important.

Reevaluating your life isn’t an easy task.

But In time it gets less complicated and more a way of life.

You become aware of the love around you and the connections you form.

Humans are unique each with a personal story that’s just waiting to be heard, we just need to vibe with people who want to listen.

I opened my eyes and my heart six months ago from then on I’ve come to realise that each of us walks on our own path.

Sometimes we walk same path but it’s never the exact same story we share.

Sometimes people just need someone to listen not to judge.

I’m sharing this blog with you all to raise awareness.

To check in with people around you I know life gets busy and there isn’t enough time in the Day.

But just sending a quick message can completely change someone’s day.

Let them know you care.

Sometimes that’s all people need is just to know people genuinely care.

Reassurance is needed from loved ones other than from their own mind.

The mind can be a dark place…

So be someones light.

Love Stacie xxxx

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#mentalhealthawareness

ℕ𝕠𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘𝕤 ℙ𝕖𝕣𝕞𝕒𝕟𝕖𝕟𝕥

Nothing is permanent in this wicked world – not even our troubles.

Charlie Chaplin

Evening all

I hope you are all well.

I wanted to check in with you and let you know I’m still around in the background I’m just taking some time away from everyday hussle and bussle.

One thing I’ve come to realise these last few weeks is nothing is permanent in life, life can change instantly and it doesn’t matter how much we try and prevent something from happening we can’t.

Being a virgo for me is giving my all to every aspect of my life so at my job, at my home with my children and within my relationships.

I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have and putting other people first has always been a big stop block for me within all aspects of my life.

Truth is I care way to much about everything and I overthink far to much, I think with a realistic mind but I have a tenancy to be aggravated by people who are lazy and uncoordinated and people who play games.

It’s just my virgo traits.

I’ve worked very hard past few weeks on my mental health I’ve relapsed a few times had a few wobbles. I’ve been quite and unresponsive for a day or too I find it easier to shut down than try and explain my feelings.

It’s just way I’ve always be.

I’ve very lucky to have such a good support network around me i didn’t a few years ago but now I have people around me who understand when I’m having a bad day not to push me to far.

My blogging has slowed down abit again due to mostly me being busy but also to fear of getting on people’s nerves with all my posting but again like my mum says you don’t need to read if you don’t want to just…

You don’t need to justify anything you do to anyone.

Just have to be true to yourself.

Yes I may seem like an emotional lunatic very up and down when it comes to life, but you would be surprised how many people suffer in silance and pretend that they are OK.

I tell my story to help others sometimes along side the joking and everyday life blogs we need realisation that everyone is human and we all feel emotion and we all deal with life in different ways.

I tell mine through my writing along side my singing therapy.

And I really hope some people out there find comfort from my blog and sharing my experiences.

It’s been great to sit still for a while and catch my breath but slowly I’m coming back to myself….

P. S don’t forget to check out tommrow’s weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog.

Love to you all…

Stacie xx

ℝ𝕒𝕕𝕚𝕠 𝕊𝕚𝕝𝕖𝕟𝕔𝕖

Evening all

I thought I would do a little blog on where I’m at just to let you all know why I’m not around as much at the moment.

Well the title says it all radio silence for the people who haven’t heard this saying before I will explain below.

It means a  period of time when someone does not communicate with another person or other people.

Seems dramatic I know but its my choice.

I’ve needed to strip back every aspect in my life and look at what direction I was heading towards.

Believe me it wasn’t healthy to some extent I’m still battling with my demons.

I’ve been through a very long period of heartache and self loathing for such a long time I’ve just had enough.

Closing the last chapter was the hardest and I have one last hurdle to get over before I can truly move forward.

I suppose you have to fully let the old layers of yourself fall away before you can heal and rebuild yourself.

I’ve given so much of myself to people who didn’t deserve me.

Now I know that and it’s difficult for me to pull my energy back.

But it’s what’s needed for me to be the best person I can be.


It’s time for me to take back my power and allow myself to put myself first.

So I’ve decided to pull back my energy from social media even though its a great place to reach out and put yourself our there I don’t feel I’m 100% ready for it.

With me trying to engage with people I found it’s drained me physically and emotionally.

I just simply can’t find the strength to deal with other peoples issues at the moment it makes me  hypocritical giving our advice and not listing to my own inner wisdom.

I’ve decided to not post anymore pictures or videos of myself at the moment because Im really not happy within myself and because I want people to get to know the real me not just the outside exterior of myself.

Tommrow I’m back on my health kick and the universe is giving me a massive…
To move forward so I will be back after some me time and I will come back better and stronger.

Love to you all ❤️

Stacie xxx

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Listen… It’s not your job to be everything to everyone.

Evening all I’ve not late night blogged for a while but it’s Sunday evening and

I’m filled with anxiety again.

There’s days where I need to have a moment to myself just to put my head straight.

It’s extremely difficult to be one hundred percent who you are these days.

I find that people are very judgmental and quick to jump to conclusions.

Without the facts.

I have to say that sometimes humans don’t have an alternative motif for just simply being helpful or truthful.

Sometimes it’s just in their nature to be honest without fear and to want to work hard to make a difference.

I truly believe that the current situation I find myself in is exactly where I need to be, you find yourself in certain situations in life where there is either lessons to be learnt or truth to be given in order for change to take place.

Somethings been stagnant for to long stubborn for change then….

You smack bang in the middle of a situation you either need to learn from or make a difference.

One thing I’ve realised is when you see through people your not very well liked that’s a know fact.

When your real and disconnect from the drama that’s when you become the drama and in no way shape or form have I got time for drama.

I’m literally at that stage where I still feel anxious and some days I’m not as strong.

But honestly your put on this earth to yes be thoughtful of others but to also be thoughtful of yourself.

I can’t stress enough to people if your struggling to juggle life and struggling with the people around you.

Distance is sometimes the best key you can never pour from an empty cup.

You can make sure your vessel is fine but if the minds off balance then the two don’t work in harmony.

Don’t put to much pressure on yourself to be the perfect parent, sibling, partner, friend or work colleague.

You need to nurture your own soul before you give to others.

When people try and drag you into Drama don’t fall for it, if it’s not your issue then leave it, some people don’t like the truth and can be….

But don’t fall for it you can’t fix everything or everyone so don’t try to.

Just be honest to yourself and honest with others and if your respected for it great if not there’s no love lost.

Good night everyone

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

𝟙𝟘 𝕋𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘𝕤 𝕋𝕙𝕖𝕪 𝔻𝕠𝕟’𝕥 𝕋𝕖𝕝𝕝 𝕐𝕠𝕦 𝕎𝕙𝕖𝕟 𝕐𝕠𝕦 𝕃𝕠𝕤𝕖 𝕎𝕖𝕚𝕘𝕙𝕥

I never thought I had the motivation to make a change to my lifestyle and eating habits but after a few rough months and lots of heartache.

I decided it was time to make drastic changes.

I didn’t want to just lose the weight that was holding me back but I wanted to work on my self-worth and learn to love myself again.
Over the past ten years, as I’ve gradually yoyo dieted and lost and gained weight.

I’ve been aware of so many changes – not just in my body but life in general.

But this time round I’ve worked my hardest.

Here are 10 things that you don’t expect to happen when you lose weight…

1.Your skin will loosen and head to your feet.

I know, gross. Once you start dropping the pounds, everyone experiences this and its not always exercise that helps with excess skin in fact it doesn’t hardly help at all.

This has to be one of my main issues at the moment it’s been getting to me that bad I’ve actually consulted two private medical practices to ask about paid surgery to remove excess skin.

It’s unbearable at times.

2. Itchy skin and sore stretch marks.

If you have lost weight and have stretch marks from either having children or rapid weight gain.

The healing process of shrinking stretch marks is terrible if you have this problem too then you feel my pain.

3.Your boobs will shrink.

I miss the fullness of my boobs.

Don’t get me wrong, they are still a good handful but not quite what they were.

I’ve reversed two cup sizes which is good for me due to less back pain and better fitting underwear.

4.You feel guilty for even looking at a freddo

I’m more relaxed with my eating now but in the first few months I would feel so guilty if I ate something ‘naughty’. Do allow yourself treats (weekends are a good time for this) but in moderation, of course!

5.You become a boring .

I’m sure I’ve bored friends and family with my nutritional advice as they bite into a sandwich. Sorry.

It’s just because you feel so passionate about your own body and taking care of it you just try and help others.

That can sometimes come across as being over boring with annoying weight loss information.

6. Constantly having to be careful when buying new items of clothing.

This should be enjoyable and a happier side of weightloss infact the whole thing just stresses me out, down to remembering you don’t need your past bigger sizes.

To not wanting to spend a small fortune on clothes that may not fit you after more increased weightloss.

7. The true understanding that being thin doesn’t make you happier.

True statement there, just because being thin changes your body and mental attitude it doesn’t mean that all your problems will disappear.

Remember that your weight doesn’t define you as a person.

8. Maintaining the weight loss.

Maintenance can be even harder than losing the weight itself. When I began my journey, I was fueled by success, non-scale victories, and a newfound confidence I gained from becoming a healthier and happier me. But once I began to reach that weight range I’d been gunning for, I started to think, “Well, I’ve already lost a ton of weight.

So adapting my future healthy eating plan for long term process wasn’t going to be easy.

9. My relationships with friends and family have changed; some have grown stronger, and some have become more distant.

When you embark on a big lifestyle change like this, you aren’t just adjusting your eating habits and physical activity. Your interests, hobbies, and thought processes change, too. Even my relationships have changed.
Some friendships have grown apart, because our relationships were so heavily fueled by social drinking and eating.

I think the hardest part about this lifestyle change is that I never anticipated my friendships would shift.

10. I am still scared that I will spiral out of control and gain everything back.

This is an irrational thought, but it is also a very real one. It is especially heightened when I’m traveling or enjoying life and I go in the “fuck it, I’m on vacation” mode, and I binge to the point where I’m not sure I can come back from it.

Like going hard on sweets or alcohol hiding it from friends out of guilt, or overeating in general.

I’m aware that this is a problem for me, and it terrifies me when I lose control that way.

While I would be upset if I reversed my hard work, I think there’s a deeper fear there of disappointing everyone else and having my failure displayed on a very public level.

So there you have it the truth that no one tells you during the process of losing weight…

I hope I’ve helped 😊

Love to you all

Stacie xx

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Blindsided

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Good Morning All

Its Saturday Which means its the weekend..

I awoke from not much sleep but Ive worked out coffee in hand I’m ready to be creative and let my passion flow.

Ive been getting a lot of emails and messages lately honestly I love getting messages from you all asking me for my guidance regarding your situations it makes me feel like I know what I’m talking about & also I like being helpful to other people.

I received an email of a lady in the U.S.A she had previously come across my blog and wanted my advice after her relationship of thirteen years ended abruptly.

I’m going to be honest I could feel her pain whilst reading her email one line that will always stick with me is I’m lost I really don’t know how I will carry on.

I just wanted to give her a hug because when your in love with someone and the feelings are no longer there on the partners side its a terrible feeling.

You just don’t know what you could of possibly done wrong, was you the actual problem all along.

Lets go over what the actual meaning of blindsided in love .

Blindside in love happens when one person thinks that everything is smooth and perfect in the relationship and suddenly the other person announces that they want to opt out. Being blindsided can shatter a person as it is unexpected and came without a warning.

We don’t see the red flags because we are so in love with someone we put them on a pedestal, it doesn’t matter what that person does to us we just don’t see the bigger picture.

  1. Your Feelings Are Normal

When you fail to pick up any signs that your partner was unhappy in the relationship and then suddenly ends it, you are going to feel like you have been blindsided by a breakup.

It’s normal to feel total shock and disbelief that this is happening to you because you thought you were both happy.

You will torture yourself with endless questions wondering how did it all go wrong. All these feelings are normal and they will pass as you process this heart breaking event.


2. Don’t Blame Yourself

Aside from cheating or doing something equally as destructive in the relationship, you can’t take the full blame for being splitting up.

If your ex wasn’t happy, they should have spoken up and discussed the issues that were bothering them.

But some people feel it’s easier to walk away rather than work through the issues towards a better relationship. You might have just been unlucky enough to fall for one of these types.


3. Take Time For Yourself

Be kind to yourself as you process this breakup.

Your heart has taken quite a blow without warning and it’s going to feel as if your world has been flipped upside down.

Often, your self-esteem will take a steep nosedive because you are going to feel unloved and unwanted.

The best way to combat these negative feelings is to pamper yourself so you get mini boosts of happiness as you work your way through the emotional pain.


4. Be Happy With Other People

Keep misery to a minimum by hanging out with good friends that can give you a shoulder to cry on.

Do fun things that you enjoy to take your mind off the breakup.

It’s really easy to slip into depression when someone you love tells you that they don’t want to be with you.

Surround yourself with people who think positive and can cheer you up when you are hurting the most.


5. Don’t Waste Your Time Trying To Convince Them.

The last thing you should do is try to convince them that they have made a mistake. Although it may have come as a complete surprise to you, it’s highly likely they where thinking about exiting the relationship long before it happened.

They had gave it a lot of thought before they actually initiated the breakup.

At this point, they have had more time to process the painful emotions and has detached themselves from them.


6. Acceptance Wont Come Easy

Although it always takes some time to accept a breakup, this one is going to be particularly difficult because you weren’t expecting to lose them at all.

You will remember the most recent time that they said “I love you” and struggle with the idea that their feelings couldn’t have changed that quickly.

Worst of all is that you will expect them to come back to you, and many times they won’t. It’s best to think of that relationship as a chapter in your life that has come to an end unless they says otherwise.


7. Distract Yourself

Find distractions to keep your mind from drowning in memories of your old relationship.

After you have been through a blindsiding breakup, your mind is going to struggle and try to make sense of the whole situation, which will bring up many old memories.

Find things to distract yourself like find a new hobby, sign up for a class in something you have always wanted to learn or learn a new language. The goal is to distract yourself so you won’t constantly be tortured by thoughts of your ex.

The key is to work on yourself when you go through a situation like this not because you where the problem in the first place but because you deserve to be loved and understood being blindsided can really be a whirlwind process but you will get through it , it just takes time.

You will learn new things about yourself when your in a state of vulnerability but you must always remember not every relationship will be the same as your last so please don’t give up on love when the time is right you will know but for now take your time and get to know yourself.

Please don’t Hesitate to email me if you need my advice using contact box below .

I’m Sending you love.

Stacie xxx

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𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝔾𝕝𝕠𝕨 𝕌𝕡

Hiya Everyone

I hope you have had a great day I would like to say I have but that hasn’t been the case.

Do you know when you roll out of bed in the morning and you know its not going to be a great day both emotionally and physically, most the time these days I have my shit together.

But today I felt like the whole world was against me, my anxiety attacks are less and less these days since I’ve found my confidence back but still one slips through the cracks of that barrier that ive built so high around my soul and every now and again the old Stacie tries to remerge from the shadows and i have to rain her back into the darkness because that jush isn’t me anymore.

This blog post I’ve wanted to post for along time now and I’ve been putting it off for a while but i think its time to share it with you all.

To the people who know me in person who read my blog will understand exactly how I’ve been feeling and hopefully you will understand why I’ve needed to do what I have done to simply keep my head above water and to stop myself from drowning.

Up until the last six months Ive been at war with myself , my mind and my heart trying to align all three has been a battle and half.

I’ve always put others first and always put myself last just to make other people happy.

Ive loved and not always been loved back the old unrequited love is an arsehole.

I’ve sat there and listened and let someone pull me apart piece by piece for simply being me.

Ive kept calm when the fire inside me had raged.

I’ve been battered and bruised by my own self confidence.

Until that day comes and you think you know enough is enough I’m not taking this anymore.

I got up that morning in February and thought this is the last time i will allow my life and the people around me to control me..

It started with some external changes I was so determined to loose weight as that held my confidence back massively and I knew I had to drastically do something to achieve what i wanted so that was the first step for me.

So then the hair changed you always know when a women means business she changes her hair said coco channel , so that’s when my transformation really started when the red hair came along , that in itself gave me a lot of confidence.

Over the past 7 months i have worked on my surroundings and the company i kept.

I had taken a step back from anyone who brings drama to my life, I’m not about the drama, I just want a peaceful life.

One thing I realised when your going through a glow up is that some people will support you others will completely turn on you.

Ive been called nasty and evil plus lot more but i know that’s not me at all.

That’s the kind of people I haven’t got time for anymore.

We all go through bad times i know but its how we choose to evolve from it.

You see some people don’t like other people evolving due to their own insecurities, that’s when you realise that your energies are not meant to combine.

Your eyes open and you truly see people and situations that you once where involved with and think what the hell was i doing.

Transformation does that to you.

So what are my plans for the near future I’m sure that people will have something to say but you know what its my life my body I will do what makes me happy.

I don’t go into things blind I do my research..

so I’m fast approaching 33 and its time to start taking proper care of myself as vain as that sounds but again my choice, so i have been in touch with the Harley medical group to see if they will sort my loose skin from weight loss, that for me is a massive step in the mean time i will just have to put up with it.

Its ok people saying you look fine but its my choice i have to do what makes me happy and i would never go to the extreme.

So the glow up after such a rubbish time is amazing and I’m in this bubble at the moment where I feel untouchable from anything or anyone who caused me heartache and upset in the past.

If you like the new me then cool if you don’t then tough I’m never going back.

And I’m so proud of myself, I still have bad days and I know that one day someone will get me and will love me completely for just being me if given half the chance all I want to do is be happy but until then I’m like a elastic band I will always ping back ….

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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𝕋𝕒𝕝𝕜 𝕀’𝕝𝕝 𝕃𝕚𝕤𝕥𝕖𝕟

Afternoon all..

I hope you are all well and have had a great weekend.

Whist I’ve had a bit of time to myself  the past few days I’ve looked back over the last few months and how slowly started to bring myself back to life.

Mental health is so important to me because I understand how other people feel when their at a low point in life and how our minds affects our  progression, relationships and the way we see ourselves.

One of the main issues I had was trying to hold everything inside keeping feelings and emotions inside.

It really didn’t work it was like putting a packet of mentos in a bottle of coke and expecting it not to erupt..


It happens there’s no holding it in..

This is know as fight and flight mode..

When your in flight of fight mode which does happen a lot with people who have anxiety and other conditions that are linked to mental distress. All you want to do is run and hide away push everyone away and bottle everything up so you try to surpress your emotions and pretend your fine.


There are three stages of flight or flight alarm, resistance, and exhaustion.

Alarm – This occurs when we first perceive something as stressful, and then the body initiates the fight-or-flight response.

Resistance – If the perceived stress continues, the body stays activated at a higher metabolic level in an effort to offset the persistent stress.  The body cannot maintain this level indefinitely, and its resources will eventually deplete.

Exhaustion – Prolonged exposure to the stressor will result in the depletion of the body’s resources, and the resulting wear and tear will suppress the immune system and cause bodily functions to deteriorate.

This can lead to a variety of health issues and illnesses, including heart disease, digestive problems, depression, and diabetes.

It’s important we try and figure out what triggers us in order to help us not only move on but to help stop fight or flight reactions reaccurring.

It’s all about personal boundaries and allowing yourself to actually put you’re own needs first.

I’m  always told by people I  don’t  know how you always manage to  cope with certain situations and people.
I was always told  you’re extremely strong willed the answer to them would be yes I suppose so but all I wanted to scream is I’m not I just wear a mask like most people I’m good at suppressing my emotions which can then come across like I’m not affected by situations or people’s actions.

But actually I really am affected by it just good at hiding my feelings.

One of my biggest issues is trying to understand why people don’t like me i know in past situations I’ve not been the best possible person I could be.
But I’ve learnt from my mistakes.

I have issues with rejection I find it extremely hard to understand why people wouldn’t like me…


But the people who are close to me always tell me is because I actually try and achieve something in life and that I aways wear my heart on my sleeve.

I’ve come to realise that not everyone likes everyone and that’s OK sometimes there isn’t a reason and there isn’t an answer to your question you just have to accept it for what it is and move on.

It’s impossible to be liked by everyone and never try understand why people do things the way they do or say the things they say.

Your only in control of yourself.

It’s all about quality of friendship and family connections not quantity the people who love your will always listen to you however many times your need to scream or moan but never be scared to express how you really feel.

Your causing more damage to yourself than good by pretending you’re OK don’t be scared to ask for help or put yourself first.

Sending hugs to you all

Lots of love
Stacie xx

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Good afternoon…

I hate to have to do blogs like this now because I’m so far away from the person who I was 18 months ago.
But as its my blog and I know people who truly care about me will understand every word that I wrote. Nothing else matters than how you see yourself.

So here it goes….

Hey I’m stacie I’m a 32 year old working mum of two.

I have two girls that I need to show strength and empowerment to.

Yes how ive evolved from who I once was and to the people who don’t understand why I’ve changed I’m going to explain a little.

If your affected by it then tough then maybe you know you have played a part in my story and maybe the truth hits home hard but that’s not my gulit it’s yours.

When all people say is oh well your strong you can deal with it but your actually screaming inside I can’t do this anymore, I’ve had enough yes this was me 18 months ago disappointed by ego, relationships,friendships and your own personal growth.

If I could go back now and slap myself 18 months previous I would.
How I’ve allowed others to use and walk over me.

To lie, abuse my friendship and my love then act like I was the one who put the knife in their back.

Well guess what I’ve just pulled the last knife out of my own back.

Whatever I’ve done in order to create my own innerpeace is my bussiness.

I’ve lost weight for me and I will continue to do what makes me happy…

And if I want to sit there in my bra and pants and post a selfie I will because this women is proud of who’s shes becoming.

After years of looking in the mirror and hating myself I finally have self love.

If you don’t like to see someone else progress then that’s your own issue.

I won’t settle for anything less than what I deserve.
So yes you can say who does she think she is.

But you don’t know the truth behind my change and why I needed to change myself.

I’m still here there’s still parts of stacie but I’ve upgraded and outgrown people who didn’t bring peace to my life my old ways of thinking have gone.

I’m still compassionate I still have a heart but the walls are a little higher..

No time for drama, fake friends or judgement.

I’m here to make something of myself.

So keep your judgement to yourself because it’s not welcome here.

We don’t cut people out for the fun of it we cut people out because we have finally opened our eyes.

I’m no angel I know that but one thing is I’ve learnt from my mistakes I don’t try and pass them off to someone else and hide.

But understand that sometimes people need to wipe slate clean and walk away from anything that damages the soul.

Sometimes that includes cutting ties and moving on.

Thanks for reading 💓💗

Stacie xx
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