Losing yourself to find yourself

Life is a funny old thing isn’t it?

How many of us find ourselves hoping for a better day ahead.

You can find yourself so wrapped up with daily routine and structure, you forget how much of your life is passing you by.

Do you crumble at the idea of not having a plan in place for every outting or experience in life.

Then you just maybe existing and not living.

A lot of people need structure and fear spontaneous life events.

The classic what if moment.

That fills us with anxiety and fear of rejection.

Some of the best experiences in life are followed by a ephiany moment….

We as humans are stronger than we think.

An advantage human can go through several transition in a lifetime its how we evolve and adapt to change.

As you know change is inevitable and if the universe thinks that you are heading in the wrong direction it will make changes for you.

We loose our true self for all sorts or reasons but one thing is pretty much certain we always find our way back to our authentic self.

It’s difficult feeling being lost and hopeless, not knowing what’s next.

But not every situation needs to be controlled and it doesn’t need a plan either.

If your like me then I find it extremely hard to let my guard down and trust people, I hate not knowing why and when, but one thing I’ve learnt is it doesn’t matter how much you need structure or answers you don’t always get it.

For myself now don’t force anything any more because anything that needs to be forced isn’t worth having.

And great things can happen when you loosen the grip of needed to control everything.

There’s no magic eight ball…

But you have your intuition so use it well and trust the process only then will you find the way back to your authentic self.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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Evening all

I thought I would do a little blog on where I’m at just to let you all know why I’m not around as much at the moment.

Well the title says it all radio silence for the people who haven’t heard this saying before I will explain below.

It means a Β periodΒ ofΒ timeΒ when someone does notΒ communicateΒ with anotherΒ personΒ or otherΒ people.

Seems dramatic I know but its my choice.

I’ve needed to strip back every aspect in my life and look at what direction I was heading towards.

Believe me it wasn’t healthy to some extent I’m still battling with my demons.

I’ve been through a very long period of heartache and self loathing for such a long time I’ve just had enough.

Closing the last chapter was the hardest and I have one last hurdle to get over before I can truly move forward.

I suppose you have to fully let the old layers of yourself fall away before you can heal and rebuild yourself.

I’ve given so much of myself to people who didn’t deserve me.

Now I know that and it’s difficult for me to pull my energy back.

But it’s what’s needed for me to be the best person I can be.


It’s time for me to take back my power and allow myself to put myself first.

So I’ve decided to pull back my energy from social media even though its a great place to reach out and put yourself our there I don’t feel I’m 100% ready for it.

With me trying to engage with people I found it’s drained me physically and emotionally.

I just simply can’t find the strength to deal with other peoples issues at the moment it makes me  hypocritical giving our advice and not listing to my own inner wisdom.

I’ve decided to not post anymore pictures or videos of myself at the moment because Im really not happy within myself and because I want people to get to know the real me not just the outside exterior of myself.

Tommrow I’m back on my health kick and the universe is giving me a massive…
To move forward so I will be back after some me time and I will come back better and stronger.

Love to you all ❀️

Stacie xxx

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Good Afternoon all.

I hope you are well, I just wanted to do a quick blog about a new exciting opportunity I have decided to progress forward with.

I’m not sure if any other fellow bloggers have come across the term guest blogging, but its Guest blogging, also called β€œguest posting,” is the act of writing content for another company or sole talent.

But why have I chosen to showcase other people’s business and talent’s I hear you ask.

I feel its extremely important to help each other grow there are times in life where we need to be selfish but when it comes to empowerment and recognising other peoples talents it doesn’t help to show your support.

All throughout my younger years ive built up my talent skills and I can really put my hand to mostly anything call me del boy but honestly there isn’t anything I wont try and learn to help with my own progression.

But what I lacked was support and people willing to help me grow so after a few failed attempts I know how gut wrenching it feels when you fail due to lack of support.

So here I am the universe gave me a sign to empower people and showcase their business and talents.

And it maybe only a small gesture of my own good will but from one small gesture can come some amazing opportunities.

All my life ive been selfless and I’ve always wanted to help others I suppose I wear my heart on my sleeve but I truly know how hard it is to be heard in a world that’s always so noisy.

So here is my pitch i hope it draws you in to work along side me lets help each other grow.

Once a month i will be giving away one free guest blog spot on my own blog seashells and lipgloss blog.

This post will stay on my blog indefinitely so that new readers will always be able read your blog and get to know your business and your talent’s leading them to choose to follow your journey through your own social media accounts and lead to potential clientele growth.

I’m looking for…

Artist’s , Musicians’, Photographer’s , All Small Businesses , Charites, Venues , Creative Writer’s.

I’m open to new talent opportunities also it doesn’t just have to be what’s listed above.

If your interested in what I have to offer please email me on..

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Good evening all.

I trust you are all well , and starting to get back to some sort of normality.

Tonight’s article i feel will be relatable to a wide audience , its that part of our lives we can find extremely confusing and also heart-breaking yes its love and relationship’s.

I get lots of messages from my readers asking for advice regarding love and relationship’s , I’m no dear Deidre but ive had my own share of heartbreak and confusion.

First i want to say to you all that read this article proceed with an open mind its just advice and my own added personal experience’s, so lets get to it.

The daunting experience of love and relationship’s it can leave us in quite a confused state , love makes us do things we wouldn’t normally do it can either evolve us or destroy us.

It all depends on how we react to certain situations, we live in a world were we are forced to always do the right thing the respectable thing even if sometimes it makes ourselves unhappy .

When it comes to finding another human being that we are compatible with it can be like finding a needle in a haystack.


Lets just address the elephant in the room here and just make something clear , there isn’t such thing as a perfect partner everyone has faults.

So lets throw away the perfect partner check list out shall we and be realistic here.

Dating isn’t anything like it used to be its all swipe left swipe right these days, There is an app for all sorts of things these days but are dating apps actually a useful tool to help you find the perfect partner.

Do you want me to be perfectly honest here… I’m going to say no sorry tinder …

I know some people may not agree here but remember what i said previously remain open minded.

I just think dating apps show pictures and its all about first impression’s on people and superficial looks.

How can you really get to know people from just a short bio of themselves on a site with millions of users.

It isn’t possible I’m not saying lets go back to the 1930’s what I’m trying to say is times have moved on but it still doesn’t hurt to use some of the traditional dating method’s.

So what if your already in a love connection and your unsure on what you want from your connection together.

If you find yourself in a connection where your unsure if you see future progress with that person the key is communication don’t waste your own time or the other parties time , because we all know that time is precious and you will never get it back.

Its always best to be honest and upfront i know sometimes its not easy to cause others heartbreak but you could be potentially be holding yourself and your partner back from finding more compatible connections.

I know its sad but sometimes we need to let go in order to progress.

This part of the article connects to everybody who maybe talking to someone and are having mixed signals from the other party.

Have you been talking a lot lately and all of a sudden communication slows down or do they completely go ghost on you well here are a few tips that i have learnt myself over the years.

  • Don’t make yourself so easily available to them, I know how it goes you get that texted message and you think oh i have to texted back straight away DONT!!!! there isn’t a law on how long you should wait to texted back but don’t make yourself so easy to be reachable.
  • They must understands that you need to study or hang out with friends or family, you need your own space it’s not healthy to spend 24 hours a day every day together.
  • Set Boundaries The right man or lady will step up to the plate and bring their A game. By conveying how you wish to be treated you are setting yourself up as the exceptionally high value human being that you are.
  • The three day texted rule this one’s for you if your being subjected to the ultimate male code of treat them mean keep them keen let’s ignore them for three days and see what happens rubbish, well lads your theory is outdated as the ark, by doing this incredibly silly tactic you could possibly make them loose complete interest in you sorry but we want consistency alongside space don’t confuse the two.

After going through my own in depth dating experiencesΒ .

That’s when I realized that as a society, we don’t teach our people about the things each of us desires most.Β We all wantΒ love.

We want relationships.Β 

We want to grow.Β 

This is what we imagine can happen in a great relationship, but most of us haven’t deleted our unconscious relationship programming.

Β To change those habits into new ones, we have to do it with our hearts, not just our minds.Β Knowing something isn’t the same as being someone new.Β 

Love can be a beautiful experience if we allow ourselves to be honest with our own feelings , there isn’t any wrong or right way to date someone but you have to feel it in both your heart and mind, Both working symmetrically and in harmony .

Love to you All

Stacie xx