How To Starve A Narcissist

Hello my lovely people

Happy Sunday to you all I’m sorry I won’t be doing a weekly Spiritual Guidance Post this week I’m having a break, if truth be told I’m going to waste my whole Sunday playing sims 4.

Just because in sims I’ve got a better handle on life.

I’ve decided to do this post today because we have all dealt with a few narcissistic people in our life time.

You know the ones who are completely deluded that they have played a part in causing another human being pain.

It’s so easy to fall into a narcissistic trap because they are clever, at first they’ll say all right things and do all the right things to reel you in.

Once you have fallen into that black hole of nothingness it’s very difficult to pull yourself out of it.

It’s extremely difficult to remove yourself from a situation like this especially when you hold nothing but love for someone.

I can hundreds percent relate to the whole aspect of being in a connection with a certain individual.

That has these traits….

During the last few months of lockdown I feel its either gone two ways for people they have either been stuck within a narcissistic connection or have come within their power and a realisation that enough is enough and its time to act accordingly.

So how do you starve a narcissistic of your energy.

I know that a few of these steps won’t be easy for you but one thing I can promise you with time and self healing you will be fine.

This advice is from someone who’s been through it all yes it’s myself.

1. Go no contact.

This is the best option for you! If at all possible, cut all contact with him immediately and at once.

2. Be uninterested

This is the best option for you if you must have contact with the narcissist. Show no emotion, only answer the questions that must be answered and do so quick and to the point. Do not react at all to anything the narcissist says. Do not bite his bait of arguments or discussion about things that you’ve already discussed. Keep everything you say and do with him to an absolute minimum devoid of any emotion.

3. Keep it simple.

If you must have contact with the narcissist, keep all interaction brief. If he sends you a million texts, respond to only whatever is absolutely necessary. If you have to meet up, do what you came there for and nothing further. Again, remember – no emotion!

4. Walk away when their manipulative.

Whenever they starts to try to engage you, manipulate or blame you, walk away. Just end the conversation by leaving it. Don’t try to explain or reason with them about what’s happening. Just walk away. Soon you’ll train the narcissist that you aren’t available to be their energy supply any longer.

5. Don’t talk about the narcissist with people who know them.

If possible, don’t speak with them at all, but if you must, avoid details about your personal life and anything to do with the narcissist.

All of that information will end up making its way back to the narcissist and he or she can be fed energy from you through the third party. they will know what irks you and what buttons to push. they will know how their affecting you and you’ll continue to be seen as their energy source.

6. Set boundaries and don’t back down from them.

The reason the narcissist made their way into your life in the first place was because you didn’t have healthy boundaries in place.

Learn from that and implement the changes you need to make now!

Don’t feel bad for your boundaries and don’t reason your way out of enforcing them (i.e., “He or she doesn’t really know what he’s or she is doing,” or they are making improvements and he or she can change”). You teach other people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

7. Live your life.

Work on you, focus on you, build your future!

Don’t allow the narcissist to take any more of your time.

Set goals for yourself and celebrate when you reach them.

Build a healthy support system around you and don’t look back! There’s nothing for you back there.

Start implementing these things and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll find that the narcissist has no more hold on you!

One thing you always need to remember is that you hold the power to your own destiny we all get blindsided by love and connections but always believe in your own power to set boundaries and realise your self worth.

love to you all .

Stacie xxxx

What The Universe Wants You To Know ! Weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog 29/11/2020 to 6/12/2020

Good Afternoon to you all.

I trust you are all well as can be.

I feel there are a lot of you feeling quite lost at the moment I also feel very tired and surrounded by heavy energy

Today I’m going to get straight to business and concentrate on what the universe needs to share with you all.

I would like to state that all my weekly guidance blogs are for entertainment purpose only.

All signs and elements are included take what resonates and leave the rest.

Weekly vision message

Its late evening , im sitting on a porch in an old rocking chair.

I can hear the crickets chirping , The night time Wildlife ready to come to life in the darkness.

The sun is setting , the sky is filled with an eerily orange glow.

The silence is deafening.

But my mind feels clear and my heart feels pure, with each rock of the chair I can feel emotions arising, I feel like I’m trying to get somewhere but I’m getting no where fast.

I feel fear and frustration , I’m filled with fear and regret of not following my own heart and listing to other people.

As the darkness fills the sky my mind comes to life.

Within the few minutes where my mind was clear and my heart felt pure , I found true peace within.

That’s when the universe reminds me that between the chaos, there is calm and a chance of reflection, and a chance of true happiness.

You need to remind yourself that its ok to take a break and a step back.

Tarot Card Connection

1st Card

The Moon

With the Moon it’s likely that emotions are complicated at this time.

The environment can be one full of misunderstandings, and not everything is as it appears. You may need to do some work to get to the bottom of things; be sure to not only ensure the intentions of others, but also understand your own emotions, desires and motivations.

There may be old attitudes, beliefs or ideas that are clouding your judgement. Many things can be hiding in your unconscious affecting your ability to accept love. Are past relationships haunting you? Have you lost faith in love? Do you believe you are unworthy of love? All of these can have profound affects on how we approach relationships. Now is the time to examine them and reveal them as they truly are.

2nd Card

Justice In Reverse

Justice is about karma, and if you’ve been putting forth the effort, love and romance will be coming your way. If you’ve been kind, loving and supportive, your relationships will be a mirror of what you’ve been giving to others.

If you’ve been single, your loving and positive disposition will make you especially attractive to new potential romances.

Because this card is all about the law of cause and effect, make sure you have been treating your partner fairly. Watch out for resentment and defensiveness, and ensure that conflicts in your relationships are handled with respect and trust in your other half.

Compromise and understanding is needed now. Sometimes this card is also about being tactful, and expressing your frustrations in a way that are mindful of your partner’s feelings. As long as issues hare handled with honesty and good faith, your relationship will thrive.

3rd Card

Five of Wands Reversed

The Five of Wands reversed meaning can be that your natural method of dealing with disagreements is avoiding any kind of conflict by getting away from that place as fast as you can.

Sometimes this can be regarded as a good thing, but other times, it may lead to a number of issues that are brewing up within you, for which you will have to address soon.

On the other hand, it can also mean that you have worked through your troubles and that you do not have any more issues to worry about.

Issues of how you deal with conflict can affect your relationships now.

If you’re in a relationship, ensure that you haven’t been bottling up your resentments to avoid conflicts that the two of you need to have a smooth partnership.

Eventually avoiding difficult conversations lead to an erosion of trust. Remember that every person has the right to their needs, and having needs does not make you any less lovable.

If you’ve been doing the hard work of expressing yourself honestly with your partner however, you may find that misunderstandings are clearing up. What were once arguments may disappear once honesty and clarity have been achieved.

4th Card

The Devil

Getting the devil card in your reading shows that you have feelings of entrapment, emptiness and lack of fulfilment in your life.

It might also mean that you are a slave to materialism and opulence and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to shake off the feeling of wanting to indulge in luxurious living. 

You might be aware that this kind of lifestyle is leading you down the rabbit hole, but you have that feeling of not having any form of control over your actions or urges.


Addiction to substances or material pleasures can also be the reason for your feelings of powerlessness and entrapment. 

In situations such as these, you may feel as though you are a slave, unable to control your impulses or willpower to direct yourself towards something other than the satisfaction of these desires. 

Lust and temptation are symbolized by the Devil.

There can be a sense of hedonism, and a selfish desire for gratification with this card. In less serious circumstances, it can also just simply mean a pursuit for all of life’s earthly pleasures.

There is nothing wrong in having a bit of fun, but make sure that you are not hurting others or giving them wrong impressions when you do.

If you’re only looking for hook-ups, it is up to you to communicate that with your dates. Make sure you avoid pressuring others if they decide your lifestyle isn’t something that suits them. Communication will be more important than ever now.

Alternatively, the Devil can also signal addiction, and in the context of love and relationships, co-dependency.

Over time, this can be destructive to the individuality and self of both partners. Be wary, and ensure that the two of you remain strong individuals within your relationship.

5th Card

Page Of Pentacles

When we meet the Page of Pentacles, we see immediately that she is one that is ambitious and focused. She is protected, nourished, provided for by the suit whose name she bears.

Guided by it, she is deeply tied to the earth, nature, and all of its gifts.

She cherishes the body, for it too is something which is a manifestation of her element. Her diligence, ambition and loyalty drives her to quickly make plans for the future – for it is there where her focus lies.


When you meet her, she may be the bearer of news connected to all earthly and material matters. When you hear her message, be inspired as she is – lay down the foundations to follow your ambitions.

Generally, the Page of pentacles refers to the kind of energy that you need to complete all that is needed for your work.

It may point to the determination, focus and the ability to stick with a particular task no matter how boring it may seem.

In terms of work, the Page of Pentacles may signify that there are a lot of tasks you are responsible for, but your time to complete them is much too limited. This is not the time to feel stressed and overwhelmed. Assistance will be there for you, you just have to ask for it. 

In relation to finances, the Page of Pentacles can refer to the reward for your hard work. For those who are investing their hard–earned money, this is not the perfect time for you to take the risk. Invest your money in a safe and traditional way – the diligence will pay you back. If you are currently experiencing a health issue, this problem may be the result of the continuous neglect. Let a professional make sure that this is not the case.

The person symbolized by the Page of Pentacles is ambitious, loyal and practical; they may often be seen as studious, but once you get to know them well, they can also be quite funny.

Their ambition and focus means that they are hardworking. They are likely to be as dedicated as they are to a lover, as they are to their goals.

Their quiet demeanour may make them hard to notice at first, compared to other folks that may be more out going.

If this doesn’t represent a person that is entering your love life, the Page of Pentacles tarot love meaning can simply signal this Page’s dedication and loyalty in your relationship.

While sometimes the relationship can lack passion and feel a bit boring, the love is there; you may only need to go out there and figure out how to inject some fun and excitement back into your romance. Try not to always put practicality before passion in the relationship and the two of you should be just fine.

6th Card

The Seven Of Wands

The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event. The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle

The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event.

The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle that you need to go through to maintain your position, rather than to attain it.

This is about the difficulties we face to continue to have success. You should be ready for the competition to you defend your title, and to prove yourself. Others are going to desire the same results that you do, so you need to stay ahead of the them.

There will be challenges to the success of your project or venture from an outside source. You must remain dedicated to your desires, and with a clear purpose and effort, you will overcome them.


The overall meaning of the Seven of Wands is to hold your ground, no matter what is challenging your position.

You will need to defend this position and take a stand against those who are aiming to take your spot. There are setbacks during this time, but you need to keep fighting for your beliefs and confront those that may threaten or oppose you and your beliefs.

Bottom Of The Deck

The Empress

The Empress shows us how deeply we are embedded to our femininity. Femininity could be associated with fertility, expression, creativity and nurturing among many other aspects.

It therefore calls you to connect with beauty and bring happiness to your life.

Understand yourself and get in touch with your sensuality so that you can attract life circumstances to bring happiness and joy. She is a signal that be kind to yourself, to take care of yourself.

The Empress is also a strong indication of pregnancy and motherhood.

You can look for other cards to confirm if this is truly pregnancy, or rather just an indication of a motherly, nurturing and caring attitude.

The Empress card could also mean the birth of a new idea, business or project on your life. Owing to the good fortune that surrounds this card, you can be sure that such situations and projects would end successfully in your life.

Discover and bring forth those ideas that have been clinging to you and make sure that you devote yourself towards accomplishing them.

This card is a sign that they are going to be successful, and well taken care of. The Empress, as the archetype of the mother earth, also encourages you to spend time interacting with nature, the mother of all of us.

The empress stems from the element of earth.

The person represented by this card can be loving, nurturing and caring, as has financial security or appreciative of beautiful, comforting things. Sometimes, the Empress can point to love and work coming together, either with a co-worker, or perhaps a new business venture.

When it comes to relationships, this card also heralds a stable, serious and committed relationship. Because the card also represents motherhood, sometimes it can also signal marriage or pregnancy, or at least a new family, in whatever form that means for you.

I hope you enjoyed your weekly guidance post please feel free to comment below if you have any questions or extra clarity.

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Sending Love to you all

Stacie xx

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What The Universe Wants You To Know 22/11/2020 To 29/11/2020

Good afternoon everyone.

Happy Sunday to you all.

Tomorrow will be a start to a brand new week I’m feeling a lot of positivity from the universe at the moment, I feel the dynamics have somewhat changed , there has been a huge transitional shift .

Out with the negativity and the darkness and in comes the light at the end of the road.

For a lot of you it seems like a lifetime in waiting for such clarity and understanding of your own soul.

A lot more of you have opened your minds to what’s around you , this I feel is from you having time away from normal daily routine , as we all know life hasn’t been normal for all of us for a while now , but take one good thing from this pandemic its made us have time to sit and evaluate our lives and look at situations differently, for many of us it’s given us the power of voice and to allow our true selves to shine through braking down the false veil that we all shield behind.

I would like to state that all my spiritual guidance blogs are for entertaiment purpose only.

Take what resonates and leave the rest.

All signs and elements are included.

Weekly Vision Message

I’m standing in busy old fashioned train station , I can hear the steam from the engines and I can smell the burning of the coal.

There is a lot of people rushing around in all directions trying to get to their destinations.

As I approach my platform I can feel and see the sadness from loved ones saying goodbye to each other, also hugs of reassurance to.

As I reach my train I hesitate ,I take one deep breath and step aboard.

I’m feeling nervous and scared, will everything be ok , will I return again , Will things remain the same.

This message I feel is linked to long distance love connections , I feel a few of you are really struggling with this situation at the moment , if your in a relationship or apart from someone you wish to have a connection with then this is a message for you.

Time and distance can never come between true love connections , if the two of you are determined and wanting to make your situation work then it will, Trust is needed to build a solid foundation everything else comes from trust and loyalty.

As long as you both put the effort into this connection distance or time will never come between you.

Its frustrating not making plans for your intermediate future but have faith and be willing to make time for each other in other ways and remain truthful and honest to one another.

The universe is reassuring you that everything will work out fine….

1st Card

When the World card is reversed it symbolizes imperfection, lack of vision, and disappointment.

The result of the project is imperfect, disappointing, and lacks vision.

Or you are having trouble reaching your goal.

You may be frustrated and tempted to take a shortcut, but that will only lead to more frustration, and you won’t be happy with the result.

The world in reverse in love I feel with the world in reverse regarding your love life , is that your pushing away your soul mate due to fear , you don’t feel you both can overcome this situation.

So you are shutting down regarding your connection.

If your single this can mean your not ready to commit , your not interested in sharing your life with anyone at the moment.

2nd Card

When the Two of Swords is reversed in a Tarot reading, it can mean you are being indecisive.

There might be fear and confusion.

It might leave you inert and unable to act.

It can also mean that you’re finally seeing something for what it is.

The Two of Swords in reverse is an indication that things are no longer being stalled.

If you’re single, it might mean that you need to choose between two prospective partners and are having trouble deciding.

If you’re in a relationship, it can mean that you and your significant other are at a crossroads and need to decide what comes next.

3rd Card

When the Three of Cups is upright , it signifies feelings around friendship.

It represents community and the network created when we interact with others.

You may find you have a lot of parties and celebrations on your calendar.

This card also means it is time to examine your attachments from an emotional point of view.

The card may also represent all types of support, including giving and receiving help.

The Three of Cups in love is an indication that good times are ahead.

If you’re single, you may find a spark with someone from your past.

If you’ve been in a dry spell, you may find potential partners knocking on your door.

If you’re in a relationship, this card can mean there’s an upcoming celebration of love, such as a wedding or engagement.

4th Card

When the Lovers card is upright ,it stands for love, harmony, trust, honour, the beginning of romance, and optimism.

It is a card of passion, and feeling passionate, but it isn’t strictly about romantic relationships and intense interpersonal bonds.

One basic meaning of this card is that you may come across a divergence you dare not miss, no matter the difficulty, even if it is against your chosen path.

Be on the lookout for this opportunity, and don’t automatically take the easy road.

Think things over before you come to a decision.

Perhaps it’s time to take a leap of faith.

The Lovers card in a Tarot is seriously romantic.

If you’re single, hang on tight because a red-hot romance is headed to you.

If you’re in a relationship, things are about to heat up between you.

5th Card

When the Eight of Cups is upright , it is time to realize that the past is gone.

An end is approaching, and what was thought to be permanent is no longer so.

It is time to accept the change that is staring you in the face.

The card signals that it’s time to move on. The only thing permanent in life is change, and everything slips away sooner or later.

The Eight of Cups in love represents feeling’s of abandonment.

If you’re in a relationship, it could mean that you or your partner is ready to walk away.

But I feel communication is needed as I feel that your holding back on your feelings.

If you’re single, it represents loneliness and the inability to allow yourself to thrive in a new relationship.

6th Card

When the Four of Swords is reversed, it can mean you are finally finding the strength to get through (or out of) something.

It can also indicate that you’re ready to address stress, anxiety, and other things that worry you.

It can also mean taking care of yourself after a long time of not doing so.

The Four of Swords in love is an indication that you are ready to connect or reconnect with a past love !!

If you’re single, it means you might want to take some time to figure out exactly what you want in a partner before welcoming someone new into your life.

If you’re in a relationship, you are entering a period of peacefulness with your partner.

Bottom Of the Deck

When the Tower card is reversed in a Tarot reading, it means that you are stuck in a rut or trapped in a bad situation.

You need to shake things up.

You probably know this, but you have been procrastinating about making a big change.

Take a hard look at habits and traditions that you’ve been following unquestioningly.

Ask yourself how they are holding you back.

And why your scared of following your heart

What can you throw away to make room for something better?

The Tower card in love means profound changes are happening.

If you’re single, it could mean you need to reconstruct yourself from the ground up before you have room for a relationship.

If you’re in a relationship, it might have to end, signalling a breakup or divorce.

Even if the relationship remains standing, it will change fundamentally in some way.

Angel Oracle Message

Any obstacles that you have been experiencing are temporary.

Your guardian angels are taking care of the details to remove them from your path.

Do not worry about the appearance of challenges, because they are just an illusion that will soon disappear.

If you worry excessively about these issues, you will fuel them with power and energy.

See them instead as wispy clouds that can’t really block you.

This is an especially important time for you to stay in steady contact with God and your angels.

Sometimes when we are under stress, we forget to pray and ask for Heaven’s help – yet these are the times when it is best for us to enlist the assistance of our Creator and celestial guides.

It is your angels’ great pleasure to help you to navigate along a smooth path.

They know that you will grow faster in a peaceful setting, just as a plant grows strongest with the optimal nutrients, sunlight, and water.

Your life is becoming more stable with a quieter form of excitement.

The drama of obstacles is now a thing of the past.

I hope you enjoyed your weekly guidance post please feel free to comment below if you have any questions or extra clarity.

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Sending Love to you all

Stacie xx

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ℕ𝕠𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘𝕤 ℙ𝕖𝕣𝕞𝕒𝕟𝕖𝕟𝕥

Nothing is permanent in this wicked world – not even our troubles.

Charlie Chaplin

Evening all

I hope you are all well.

I wanted to check in with you and let you know I’m still around in the background I’m just taking some time away from everyday hussle and bussle.

One thing I’ve come to realise these last few weeks is nothing is permanent in life, life can change instantly and it doesn’t matter how much we try and prevent something from happening we can’t.

Being a virgo for me is giving my all to every aspect of my life so at my job, at my home with my children and within my relationships.

I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have and putting other people first has always been a big stop block for me within all aspects of my life.

Truth is I care way to much about everything and I overthink far to much, I think with a realistic mind but I have a tenancy to be aggravated by people who are lazy and uncoordinated and people who play games.

It’s just my virgo traits.

I’ve worked very hard past few weeks on my mental health I’ve relapsed a few times had a few wobbles. I’ve been quite and unresponsive for a day or too I find it easier to shut down than try and explain my feelings.

It’s just way I’ve always be.

I’ve very lucky to have such a good support network around me i didn’t a few years ago but now I have people around me who understand when I’m having a bad day not to push me to far.

My blogging has slowed down abit again due to mostly me being busy but also to fear of getting on people’s nerves with all my posting but again like my mum says you don’t need to read if you don’t want to just…

You don’t need to justify anything you do to anyone.

Just have to be true to yourself.

Yes I may seem like an emotional lunatic very up and down when it comes to life, but you would be surprised how many people suffer in silance and pretend that they are OK.

I tell my story to help others sometimes along side the joking and everyday life blogs we need realisation that everyone is human and we all feel emotion and we all deal with life in different ways.

I tell mine through my writing along side my singing therapy.

And I really hope some people out there find comfort from my blog and sharing my experiences.

It’s been great to sit still for a while and catch my breath but slowly I’m coming back to myself….

P. S don’t forget to check out tommrow’s weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog.

Love to you all…

Stacie xx

Losing yourself to find yourself

Life is a funny old thing isn’t it?

How many of us find ourselves hoping for a better day ahead.

You can find yourself so wrapped up with daily routine and structure, you forget how much of your life is passing you by.

Do you crumble at the idea of not having a plan in place for every outting or experience in life.

Then you just maybe existing and not living.

A lot of people need structure and fear spontaneous life events.

The classic what if moment.

That fills us with anxiety and fear of rejection.

Some of the best experiences in life are followed by a ephiany moment….

We as humans are stronger than we think.

An advantage human can go through several transition in a lifetime its how we evolve and adapt to change.

As you know change is inevitable and if the universe thinks that you are heading in the wrong direction it will make changes for you.

We loose our true self for all sorts or reasons but one thing is pretty much certain we always find our way back to our authentic self.

It’s difficult feeling being lost and hopeless, not knowing what’s next.

But not every situation needs to be controlled and it doesn’t need a plan either.

If your like me then I find it extremely hard to let my guard down and trust people, I hate not knowing why and when, but one thing I’ve learnt is it doesn’t matter how much you need structure or answers you don’t always get it.

For myself now don’t force anything any more because anything that needs to be forced isn’t worth having.

And great things can happen when you loosen the grip of needed to control everything.

There’s no magic eight ball…

But you have your intuition so use it well and trust the process only then will you find the way back to your authentic self.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

Change The Game Or The Game Changes you.

Have you ever been under an illusion or under someone’s spell let me just add it will hurt like hell but once your eyes are open you will understand everything you saw through rose tinted glasses was just an illusion.

It takes a stronger person to see their worth I stared this blog in 2019 I was a quivering mess, a truly broken soul but now I hardly see any trace of the old me.

I upped my game and changed the way i played it.

I understood that there was parts of myself that I needed to change in order to progress.

Ive been on a journey of self discovery , don’t get me wrong , I’m no cold hearted person but I don’t just sit there anymore , what’s the point in just being someone’s emotional punchbag , say what you want about me but one thing will always remain and that’s my ability to be loyal.

Stop looking for the old Stacie she’s not here anymore pain changes people , disappointment changes people it makes you stronger.

Don’t try and force Karma she always finds the ones who deserve it.

I’m trying to reach out to people who are going through a tough time , the people with broken hearts you will get through it , it takes time and when the healing is done you won’t heal back the same way but your wounds will make you stronger.

Years ive been plagued by mental health , self doubt and emotional abuse after my fight to save my own soul i can honestly say I’ve taken back my power and my mind my heart and my soul is my own.

I can finally breathe after so long of holding my breath I can feel my heart beating I feel alive.

Saturday the 10th of October is world mental health day

World Mental Health Day aims to raise awareness in the global community around mental health issues, “with a unifying voice through collaboration with various partners”.

Its Extremely important to raise awareness

We all deserve to feel safe and supported when talking about our mental health. But too often, mental health stigma leaves people feeling isolated and ashamed. At worst, it prevents people from speaking out but help is available.

I got through it through pure strength and amazing support I know some aren’t so lucky to have a good support network but there is help out there but also it takes strength and you will find it.

Check out this link below …

https://www.time-to-change.org.uk/get-involved/world-mental-health-day

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

Two Way Street

Evening all

Been a while since my last late night blog.

I’ve always had the the ability to tell the truth regarding situations and my own emotions.

This blog this evening is something that I’ve been struggling to come to terms with.

And that’s understanding that when it comes to love and relationships it simply can’t be all onesided.

I know most people have dealt with similar situations in regards to connections.

Can anyone here genuinely say they have ever been so in love that they would do anything to make the other person happy and completely disregarding their own feelings in order to be more appealing to the other party I know I have.

You know how it goes you play it cool try and keep busy but all your waiting for is the next….

To then find that it never comes.

One thing I’ve realised is that connections work both ways effort needs to come from both sides.

Your not the one who takes orders from a ringleader.

You make your own rules and follow them as you wish.

Over the years I’ve put my everything into my connections with people, I’ve really gone above board to make people happy, trouble is with me, I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have, and I love to love it’s just in my nature.

One thing I’ve realised over the past few months is that sometimes the universe will remove toxic people from your life other times you must remove them yourself.

Those who bring ill intentions into our lives do not or will not love us.

They will simply take what they need then leave.

That isn’t someone who loves you.

Love and respect is a two way street.

Never wait for someone to change their mind regarding their feelings.

That may never happen which leaves you feeling deflated.

Always be true to you but when the times right you will meet someone who understands you completely and no matter what the feelings will be mutual never onesided.

Loving all the wrong people prepares us to completely be ourselves and be at peace in our lives.

But most importantly it prepares us to receive the love we all deserve.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

Blindsided

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Good Morning All

Its Saturday Which means its the weekend..

I awoke from not much sleep but Ive worked out coffee in hand I’m ready to be creative and let my passion flow.

Ive been getting a lot of emails and messages lately honestly I love getting messages from you all asking me for my guidance regarding your situations it makes me feel like I know what I’m talking about & also I like being helpful to other people.

I received an email of a lady in the U.S.A she had previously come across my blog and wanted my advice after her relationship of thirteen years ended abruptly.

I’m going to be honest I could feel her pain whilst reading her email one line that will always stick with me is I’m lost I really don’t know how I will carry on.

I just wanted to give her a hug because when your in love with someone and the feelings are no longer there on the partners side its a terrible feeling.

You just don’t know what you could of possibly done wrong, was you the actual problem all along.

Lets go over what the actual meaning of blindsided in love .

Blindside in love happens when one person thinks that everything is smooth and perfect in the relationship and suddenly the other person announces that they want to opt out. Being blindsided can shatter a person as it is unexpected and came without a warning.

We don’t see the red flags because we are so in love with someone we put them on a pedestal, it doesn’t matter what that person does to us we just don’t see the bigger picture.

  1. Your Feelings Are Normal

When you fail to pick up any signs that your partner was unhappy in the relationship and then suddenly ends it, you are going to feel like you have been blindsided by a breakup.

It’s normal to feel total shock and disbelief that this is happening to you because you thought you were both happy.

You will torture yourself with endless questions wondering how did it all go wrong. All these feelings are normal and they will pass as you process this heart breaking event.


2. Don’t Blame Yourself

Aside from cheating or doing something equally as destructive in the relationship, you can’t take the full blame for being splitting up.

If your ex wasn’t happy, they should have spoken up and discussed the issues that were bothering them.

But some people feel it’s easier to walk away rather than work through the issues towards a better relationship. You might have just been unlucky enough to fall for one of these types.


3. Take Time For Yourself

Be kind to yourself as you process this breakup.

Your heart has taken quite a blow without warning and it’s going to feel as if your world has been flipped upside down.

Often, your self-esteem will take a steep nosedive because you are going to feel unloved and unwanted.

The best way to combat these negative feelings is to pamper yourself so you get mini boosts of happiness as you work your way through the emotional pain.


4. Be Happy With Other People

Keep misery to a minimum by hanging out with good friends that can give you a shoulder to cry on.

Do fun things that you enjoy to take your mind off the breakup.

It’s really easy to slip into depression when someone you love tells you that they don’t want to be with you.

Surround yourself with people who think positive and can cheer you up when you are hurting the most.


5. Don’t Waste Your Time Trying To Convince Them.

The last thing you should do is try to convince them that they have made a mistake. Although it may have come as a complete surprise to you, it’s highly likely they where thinking about exiting the relationship long before it happened.

They had gave it a lot of thought before they actually initiated the breakup.

At this point, they have had more time to process the painful emotions and has detached themselves from them.


6. Acceptance Wont Come Easy

Although it always takes some time to accept a breakup, this one is going to be particularly difficult because you weren’t expecting to lose them at all.

You will remember the most recent time that they said “I love you” and struggle with the idea that their feelings couldn’t have changed that quickly.

Worst of all is that you will expect them to come back to you, and many times they won’t. It’s best to think of that relationship as a chapter in your life that has come to an end unless they says otherwise.


7. Distract Yourself

Find distractions to keep your mind from drowning in memories of your old relationship.

After you have been through a blindsiding breakup, your mind is going to struggle and try to make sense of the whole situation, which will bring up many old memories.

Find things to distract yourself like find a new hobby, sign up for a class in something you have always wanted to learn or learn a new language. The goal is to distract yourself so you won’t constantly be tortured by thoughts of your ex.

The key is to work on yourself when you go through a situation like this not because you where the problem in the first place but because you deserve to be loved and understood being blindsided can really be a whirlwind process but you will get through it , it just takes time.

You will learn new things about yourself when your in a state of vulnerability but you must always remember not every relationship will be the same as your last so please don’t give up on love when the time is right you will know but for now take your time and get to know yourself.

Please don’t Hesitate to email me if you need my advice using contact box below .

I’m Sending you love.

Stacie xxx

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Weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog 28/08/2020 to 4/09/2020

Good Afternoon everyone.

I’m super excited to share this weeks spiritual guidance blog with you all.

Firstly I want to say that I really do hope that my guidance blogs helps all my readers in some way or another, I have had a spiritual gift for all my life and a huge interest in what come’s to us all after our passing for a very long time but I will save that for another blog.

My spiritual guidance blogs are all about you guys and me giving something back to you all as good will gesture for always taking the time out to read my blogs and support me in everything I do.

So lets get on with the legalities and get the boring stuff out the way first..

I have to state that all my guidance blogs are for entertainment purpose’s only .

My weekly guidance blogs are for all signs and elements, take what resonates and leave the rest to the universe .

Here we go..

I have a little message from the universe to everyone who’s really struggling with life at the moment.

Whilst connecting to gain clarity regarding your guidance today I was show a very clear image of a shadow person in front this shadow person two pathways formed as the vision got clearer I started to see more of a clearer outline of the shadow person, he was male , his expression on his face was somewhat of confusion and fear after a short while and hesitation…

I herd what path should I take the right one it seems less bumpy more plain sailing but what seeks me at the end is safe , unfulfilling in the long run it seems and easy less effort I have a dreaded feeling of regret.

He looks at the left path its full of bumps its looks scary full of uncertainties, dark corners great highs and steep lows he feels fear , excitement , great love and release from the ties of life.

As he stands there he knows he has to make a choice he can’t keep holding back in the darkness and floating about hoping everything will work out fine.

This is a very clear message I get for a lot of you, if you want something in life you have to make it happen it won’t just fall in your lap the universe doesn’t work like that you have to put the effort in .

If you want that dream job get of your butt start researching now on training , work on gaining skills and the opportunities’ will be endless.

If you have wanted a connection with someone emotionally for a while but you have always been held back by your own emotions and fear , speak your truth because it something wonderful can happen from just one honest truthful conversation if it works out great if it doesn’t no regret’s only lesson’s learnt.

Life doesn’t have a road map you don’t always need a plan because plans, people and situations can change just like the direction of the wind you need to live in the present and the now.

First Card

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Four of Cups

Has the grass been looking greener on the other side?

The Four of Cups is a card that tells us we aren’t looking at the good things we already have in our lives, and instead are longing for what we could have.

When this card appears in your readings, it’s challenging you to stop daydreaming about what you could have in your life and instead count your blessings.

The Four of Cups is a warning that we need to be more appreciative of what we have, and show a little more gratitude towards the things we’ve already been blessed with.

When we become self-absorbed, and start taking what we have for granted, we tend to miss out on other opportunities.

The Four of Cups calls attention to the fact that while you are busy wondering about other things, you’re missing out on the chance to improve what you already have.

Second Card

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Five Of Cups

The Five of Cups is a surprisingly complex card for being a part of the Minor Arcana.

It is depicted as five golden chalices, three of which have been knocked to their sides while the remaining two stay standing.

This card brings about confirmation of loss, sorrow, and despair, but also signifies that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

The three downed cups typically refer to the feelings you already have about your situation.

Whatever it may be that life has thrown at you, it can be hard to come to terms with not being able to put things back as they were.

The Cups suit is related to water, and you certainly cannot refill the fallen chalices with the water they already held.

The two chalices that have been untouched, however, promise that your situation can be salvaged, even if some of its parts have been changed.

Third Card

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Page Of Swords

The Page of Swords is represented by a young man atop a hill, grasping a silver sword in both his hands.

Like the other Page cards of the Minor Arcana, he is still learning and growing.

Often he represents an actual young person in your life.

The Page of Swords stands for truth and justice, as well as open and honest communication.

He is likely to appear to those who are struggling between telling the truth and sparing someone’s feelings, or those who are having a hard time verbally expressing their emotions.

Its important that you express your emotions without fear of the outcome because your at greater risk of hurting yourself trying to keep others happy.

Forth Card

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Page Of Wands

Generally speaking, the Page of Wands is in the area of having projects that come to fruition.

Something you initiated a while back starts to deliver positive results.

Another meaning that is to be considered frequently in a reading is that this Page represents a literal person in your life.

(S)he is a high energy person, a high-achiever that brings a positive vibe in your world.

Beware of lack of focus though.

Energy, success and enthusiasm are all good, but don’t take your eyes off the prize just yet.

Keep going keep achieving your hearts desires.

Fifth Card

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Ace Of Cups

This card is generally depicted as a large golden chalice with water overflowing from within.

The Ace of Cups shows up in a reading when you have reached a point of emotional stability, happiness, and peace.

It is a reminder that you have good emotional intelligence and a strong foundation on which you are able to take on the world, usually with a smile on your face.

A present position Ace of Cups means that the path your life has taken is the best one for you.

Whether it’s your relationship, family life, or career, you are in a secure and stable place emotionally.

Whatever you’ve been doing, it’s working in your favour so keep at it.

Sixth Card

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The World

This card is also about gaining more insight into what is your role in a bigger scheme of things.

It can be a big project, it can be the community you are part of and so on.

The meaning is that you are more in tune with the world around you.

There is a virtuous circle, i.e. the more success you have, the more connected you feel and the more you are motivated to contribute.

In terms of travel, the World can literally indicate that you may be traveling around the world. You may soon go for a long distance trip.

You may also receive a message from the Universe to be more open to take in elements from the world around you.

Try to become more receptive and expand your awareness.

Thank you for reading i hope you gained comfort and guidance from this weeks post.

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Stacie xx

𝕃𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕝𝕖 𝕓𝕪 𝕃𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕝𝕖

It’s been a minute since I’ve properly blogged.

It’s been one of those weeks well months if I’m honest but it’s all been hush hush.

I’ve really wanted to blog about situations but I know I can’t at the moment i haven’t got the heart to.

Or the words to discribe how it’s made me feel.

You wake up everyday with this ambition of wanting to make a change an difference to yourself and the world around you.

You build yourself up then for others to try and knock you down and to me that’s not fair.

It’s not all bad news and depressing states though I’ve learnt alot about myself during this process.

I’ve removed a lot of toxic energy but some is still remaining its been quite tough trying to find a solution to situation where you don’t even know where to start.

Anyone who understands what I’m going on about knows how hard it is to try and it still not be good enough.

I talk alot about myself in my blogs because this is the whole reason why I decided to share parts of myself with you all.

So that people could relate and not feel alone.

Because feeling alone is worst feeling in the world.

One thing I’ve realised is I’m not normal and neither do I want to be.

But then what is classed as not normal these days we all have faults somewhere down the line.

Can we actually define the social expectations of being normal?

Someone who shows traits of an eccentric character in society isn’t deemed to be normal.

Why because they don’t allow themselves to fall into the trap of normal social existence.

Go to school, get a job, fall in love, get married, have babies.

That’s great in all if that’s what you want but to just simply be you and make yourself happy sometimes doesn’t sit well with others.

Not everyone will understand you or know why you do the things you do.

And that’s OK it’s not right to judge somebody else’s path.

Some times you just need to take a second to refocus.

Progress is progress however big or small it is, it’s still progress..

So little by little than none at all.

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