How To Starve A Narcissist

Hello my lovely people

Happy Sunday to you all I’m sorry I won’t be doing a weekly Spiritual Guidance Post this week I’m having a break, if truth be told I’m going to waste my whole Sunday playing sims 4.

Just because in sims I’ve got a better handle on life.

I’ve decided to do this post today because we have all dealt with a few narcissistic people in our life time.

You know the ones who are completely deluded that they have played a part in causing another human being pain.

It’s so easy to fall into a narcissistic trap because they are clever, at first they’ll say all right things and do all the right things to reel you in.

Once you have fallen into that black hole of nothingness it’s very difficult to pull yourself out of it.

It’s extremely difficult to remove yourself from a situation like this especially when you hold nothing but love for someone.

I can hundreds percent relate to the whole aspect of being in a connection with a certain individual.

That has these traits….

During the last few months of lockdown I feel its either gone two ways for people they have either been stuck within a narcissistic connection or have come within their power and a realisation that enough is enough and its time to act accordingly.

So how do you starve a narcissistic of your energy.

I know that a few of these steps won’t be easy for you but one thing I can promise you with time and self healing you will be fine.

This advice is from someone who’s been through it all yes it’s myself.

1. Go no contact.

This is the best option for you! If at all possible, cut all contact with him immediately and at once.

2. Be uninterested

This is the best option for you if you must have contact with the narcissist. Show no emotion, only answer the questions that must be answered and do so quick and to the point. Do not react at all to anything the narcissist says. Do not bite his bait of arguments or discussion about things that you’ve already discussed. Keep everything you say and do with him to an absolute minimum devoid of any emotion.

3. Keep it simple.

If you must have contact with the narcissist, keep all interaction brief. If he sends you a million texts, respond to only whatever is absolutely necessary. If you have to meet up, do what you came there for and nothing further. Again, remember – no emotion!

4. Walk away when their manipulative.

Whenever they starts to try to engage you, manipulate or blame you, walk away. Just end the conversation by leaving it. Don’t try to explain or reason with them about what’s happening. Just walk away. Soon you’ll train the narcissist that you aren’t available to be their energy supply any longer.

5. Don’t talk about the narcissist with people who know them.

If possible, don’t speak with them at all, but if you must, avoid details about your personal life and anything to do with the narcissist.

All of that information will end up making its way back to the narcissist and he or she can be fed energy from you through the third party. they will know what irks you and what buttons to push. they will know how their affecting you and you’ll continue to be seen as their energy source.

6. Set boundaries and don’t back down from them.

The reason the narcissist made their way into your life in the first place was because you didn’t have healthy boundaries in place.

Learn from that and implement the changes you need to make now!

Don’t feel bad for your boundaries and don’t reason your way out of enforcing them (i.e., “He or she doesn’t really know what he’s or she is doing,” or they are making improvements and he or she can change”). You teach other people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

7. Live your life.

Work on you, focus on you, build your future!

Don’t allow the narcissist to take any more of your time.

Set goals for yourself and celebrate when you reach them.

Build a healthy support system around you and don’t look back! There’s nothing for you back there.

Start implementing these things and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll find that the narcissist has no more hold on you!

One thing you always need to remember is that you hold the power to your own destiny we all get blindsided by love and connections but always believe in your own power to set boundaries and realise your self worth.

love to you all .

Stacie xxxx

What The Universe Wants You To Know ! Weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog 29/11/2020 to 6/12/2020

Good Afternoon to you all.

I trust you are all well as can be.

I feel there are a lot of you feeling quite lost at the moment I also feel very tired and surrounded by heavy energy

Today I’m going to get straight to business and concentrate on what the universe needs to share with you all.

I would like to state that all my weekly guidance blogs are for entertainment purpose only.

All signs and elements are included take what resonates and leave the rest.

Weekly vision message

Its late evening , im sitting on a porch in an old rocking chair.

I can hear the crickets chirping , The night time Wildlife ready to come to life in the darkness.

The sun is setting , the sky is filled with an eerily orange glow.

The silence is deafening.

But my mind feels clear and my heart feels pure, with each rock of the chair I can feel emotions arising, I feel like I’m trying to get somewhere but I’m getting no where fast.

I feel fear and frustration , I’m filled with fear and regret of not following my own heart and listing to other people.

As the darkness fills the sky my mind comes to life.

Within the few minutes where my mind was clear and my heart felt pure , I found true peace within.

That’s when the universe reminds me that between the chaos, there is calm and a chance of reflection, and a chance of true happiness.

You need to remind yourself that its ok to take a break and a step back.

Tarot Card Connection

1st Card

The Moon

With the Moon it’s likely that emotions are complicated at this time.

The environment can be one full of misunderstandings, and not everything is as it appears. You may need to do some work to get to the bottom of things; be sure to not only ensure the intentions of others, but also understand your own emotions, desires and motivations.

There may be old attitudes, beliefs or ideas that are clouding your judgement. Many things can be hiding in your unconscious affecting your ability to accept love. Are past relationships haunting you? Have you lost faith in love? Do you believe you are unworthy of love? All of these can have profound affects on how we approach relationships. Now is the time to examine them and reveal them as they truly are.

2nd Card

Justice In Reverse

Justice is about karma, and if you’ve been putting forth the effort, love and romance will be coming your way. If you’ve been kind, loving and supportive, your relationships will be a mirror of what you’ve been giving to others.

If you’ve been single, your loving and positive disposition will make you especially attractive to new potential romances.

Because this card is all about the law of cause and effect, make sure you have been treating your partner fairly. Watch out for resentment and defensiveness, and ensure that conflicts in your relationships are handled with respect and trust in your other half.

Compromise and understanding is needed now. Sometimes this card is also about being tactful, and expressing your frustrations in a way that are mindful of your partner’s feelings. As long as issues hare handled with honesty and good faith, your relationship will thrive.

3rd Card

Five of Wands Reversed

The Five of Wands reversed meaning can be that your natural method of dealing with disagreements is avoiding any kind of conflict by getting away from that place as fast as you can.

Sometimes this can be regarded as a good thing, but other times, it may lead to a number of issues that are brewing up within you, for which you will have to address soon.

On the other hand, it can also mean that you have worked through your troubles and that you do not have any more issues to worry about.

Issues of how you deal with conflict can affect your relationships now.

If you’re in a relationship, ensure that you haven’t been bottling up your resentments to avoid conflicts that the two of you need to have a smooth partnership.

Eventually avoiding difficult conversations lead to an erosion of trust. Remember that every person has the right to their needs, and having needs does not make you any less lovable.

If you’ve been doing the hard work of expressing yourself honestly with your partner however, you may find that misunderstandings are clearing up. What were once arguments may disappear once honesty and clarity have been achieved.

4th Card

The Devil

Getting the devil card in your reading shows that you have feelings of entrapment, emptiness and lack of fulfilment in your life.

It might also mean that you are a slave to materialism and opulence and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to shake off the feeling of wanting to indulge in luxurious living. 

You might be aware that this kind of lifestyle is leading you down the rabbit hole, but you have that feeling of not having any form of control over your actions or urges.


Addiction to substances or material pleasures can also be the reason for your feelings of powerlessness and entrapment. 

In situations such as these, you may feel as though you are a slave, unable to control your impulses or willpower to direct yourself towards something other than the satisfaction of these desires. 

Lust and temptation are symbolized by the Devil.

There can be a sense of hedonism, and a selfish desire for gratification with this card. In less serious circumstances, it can also just simply mean a pursuit for all of life’s earthly pleasures.

There is nothing wrong in having a bit of fun, but make sure that you are not hurting others or giving them wrong impressions when you do.

If you’re only looking for hook-ups, it is up to you to communicate that with your dates. Make sure you avoid pressuring others if they decide your lifestyle isn’t something that suits them. Communication will be more important than ever now.

Alternatively, the Devil can also signal addiction, and in the context of love and relationships, co-dependency.

Over time, this can be destructive to the individuality and self of both partners. Be wary, and ensure that the two of you remain strong individuals within your relationship.

5th Card

Page Of Pentacles

When we meet the Page of Pentacles, we see immediately that she is one that is ambitious and focused. She is protected, nourished, provided for by the suit whose name she bears.

Guided by it, she is deeply tied to the earth, nature, and all of its gifts.

She cherishes the body, for it too is something which is a manifestation of her element. Her diligence, ambition and loyalty drives her to quickly make plans for the future – for it is there where her focus lies.


When you meet her, she may be the bearer of news connected to all earthly and material matters. When you hear her message, be inspired as she is – lay down the foundations to follow your ambitions.

Generally, the Page of pentacles refers to the kind of energy that you need to complete all that is needed for your work.

It may point to the determination, focus and the ability to stick with a particular task no matter how boring it may seem.

In terms of work, the Page of Pentacles may signify that there are a lot of tasks you are responsible for, but your time to complete them is much too limited. This is not the time to feel stressed and overwhelmed. Assistance will be there for you, you just have to ask for it. 

In relation to finances, the Page of Pentacles can refer to the reward for your hard work. For those who are investing their hard–earned money, this is not the perfect time for you to take the risk. Invest your money in a safe and traditional way – the diligence will pay you back. If you are currently experiencing a health issue, this problem may be the result of the continuous neglect. Let a professional make sure that this is not the case.

The person symbolized by the Page of Pentacles is ambitious, loyal and practical; they may often be seen as studious, but once you get to know them well, they can also be quite funny.

Their ambition and focus means that they are hardworking. They are likely to be as dedicated as they are to a lover, as they are to their goals.

Their quiet demeanour may make them hard to notice at first, compared to other folks that may be more out going.

If this doesn’t represent a person that is entering your love life, the Page of Pentacles tarot love meaning can simply signal this Page’s dedication and loyalty in your relationship.

While sometimes the relationship can lack passion and feel a bit boring, the love is there; you may only need to go out there and figure out how to inject some fun and excitement back into your romance. Try not to always put practicality before passion in the relationship and the two of you should be just fine.

6th Card

The Seven Of Wands

The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event. The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle

The Seven of Wands has a similar in meaning to the Five of Wands; both cards indicate struggles after the initial fulfilment and satisfaction of an event.

The Seven of Wands however is different as it is is about the struggle that you need to go through to maintain your position, rather than to attain it.

This is about the difficulties we face to continue to have success. You should be ready for the competition to you defend your title, and to prove yourself. Others are going to desire the same results that you do, so you need to stay ahead of the them.

There will be challenges to the success of your project or venture from an outside source. You must remain dedicated to your desires, and with a clear purpose and effort, you will overcome them.


The overall meaning of the Seven of Wands is to hold your ground, no matter what is challenging your position.

You will need to defend this position and take a stand against those who are aiming to take your spot. There are setbacks during this time, but you need to keep fighting for your beliefs and confront those that may threaten or oppose you and your beliefs.

Bottom Of The Deck

The Empress

The Empress shows us how deeply we are embedded to our femininity. Femininity could be associated with fertility, expression, creativity and nurturing among many other aspects.

It therefore calls you to connect with beauty and bring happiness to your life.

Understand yourself and get in touch with your sensuality so that you can attract life circumstances to bring happiness and joy. She is a signal that be kind to yourself, to take care of yourself.

The Empress is also a strong indication of pregnancy and motherhood.

You can look for other cards to confirm if this is truly pregnancy, or rather just an indication of a motherly, nurturing and caring attitude.

The Empress card could also mean the birth of a new idea, business or project on your life. Owing to the good fortune that surrounds this card, you can be sure that such situations and projects would end successfully in your life.

Discover and bring forth those ideas that have been clinging to you and make sure that you devote yourself towards accomplishing them.

This card is a sign that they are going to be successful, and well taken care of. The Empress, as the archetype of the mother earth, also encourages you to spend time interacting with nature, the mother of all of us.

The empress stems from the element of earth.

The person represented by this card can be loving, nurturing and caring, as has financial security or appreciative of beautiful, comforting things. Sometimes, the Empress can point to love and work coming together, either with a co-worker, or perhaps a new business venture.

When it comes to relationships, this card also heralds a stable, serious and committed relationship. Because the card also represents motherhood, sometimes it can also signal marriage or pregnancy, or at least a new family, in whatever form that means for you.

I hope you enjoyed your weekly guidance post please feel free to comment below if you have any questions or extra clarity.

Please feel free to share like and comment and donate to my blog if you wish.

Sending Love to you all

Stacie xx

One-Time
Monthly
Yearly

Make a one-time donation

Make a monthly donation

Make a yearly donation

Choose an amount

£3.00
£5.00
£10.00
£3.00
£9.00
£60.00
£3.00
£9.00
£60.00

Or enter a custom amount

£

Your contribution is appreciated.

Your contribution is appreciated.

Your contribution is appreciated.

DonateDonate monthlyDonate yearly

Weekly Spiritual Guidance 25/10/2020 to 1/11/2020

Good Afternoon all .

Its that time of the week again what does the universe have in store for you.

I really enjoy doing these weekly blog posts and I know my readers on my blog and everyone at fashion potluck also loves reading them too.

So lets see what the universe has to share with us all this week.

Lets get the legal formalities out the way firstly all my weekly spiritual guidance blog posts are for entertaiment purpose only .

All signs and elements are included take what resonates and leave the rest.

Starting with my weekly vision message…

Its a hot summers day , I’m walking up a small winding path.

The birds tweeting and there are butterflies dancing amongst the flowers, the grass is the perfect shade of green, and the sky is so blue there isn’t a cloud in sight.

As I’m walking up the path I see a old wooden bridge ahead it looked a little unsteady.

Before I cross the bridge I hesitate , my heart starts to race and my mind fills with fear.

What if I fall , what if I get hurt….

As I am standing on the edge of the path along come’s a little boy and a dog.

He asks me why do you hesitate to cross the bridge lady ?

I simply replied because I’m scared and I fear that I may get hurt, The boy replied but how will you continue your journey without crossing the bridge.

You can’t stay where you are you must move forward..

Without hesitation the boy skipped over the bridge with a smile the dog followed closely behind him.

When the boy reached the other side, he shouted over to me “See it wasn’t so bad after all , if I can do it so can you.

You just need to let go of fear and have faith.

Within this message I feel a lot of people are fearing the unknown and the uncertainty of their own futures, Fear fuels negativity and negativity spreads like a wildfire from one person to the next.

It present times I know people are tired and fearful but what the universe want’s you all to know is that you are all free spirits , you all have control over your own destiny let go of that fear and the negativity allow yourselves time to heal from the past.

Only then will you allow yourself to be at peace.

Let the light of positivity shine your way forward without fear you can accomplish anything & have faith in yourself.

1st Card

When the Moon card is reversed it symbolizes discovering deception before damage can be done, trifling mistakes, and taking advantage of someone.

It’s the releasing of negativity and the letting go of fears.

Your problems will lighten and you’ll emerge with newfound confidence and clarity.

The Moon card in love is one of insecurity cards .

If you’re single, try to keep your wits about you with your new love interest to make sure everything is on the up and up.

If you’re in a relationship, it might be time to examine if this is exactly what you want.

Maybe you look like the perfect couple on the outside, but there’s another story behind closed doors.

2nd Card

When the Justice card is upright it symbolizes harmony, balance, equality, righteousness, virtue, honour, and advice.

It can also mean a time for adjustments, as well as an opportunity to bring physical, emotional, social, and spiritual things back into balance.

It also means it is time to stand tall and strong against the things that might be trying to throw you off balance.

The Justice card in a love is a portent of true, honest love.

If you’re single, it could mean that someone with a background in the law is coming into your life.

If you’re in a relationship, the Justice card will shine a light on the actions of you and your partner. Are you both acting in a fair and just manner?

3rd Card

When the Devil card is upright it symbolizes downfall, unexpected failure, controversy, violence, disaster, an ill-tempered person, and weird or strange experiences.

The Devil card warns you not to be too restrained but to be passionate and ambitious. You are restrained because you allow yourself to be.

The Devil card in love can be somewhat complicated.

If you’re single, it can indicate that you want to be loved but are unsure of how.

It might also signal that you’re using sex as a stand-in for true intimacy and might do best if you took a step back to re-evaluate what you really want in a relationship.

If you’re in a relationship, it might indicate that you feel suffocated, trapped, or are overly co-dependent, which should be addressed if you want to move into a place of relationship health.

4th Card

When the Seven of Pentacles is upright and it means it is time to catch your breath after a lot of activity.

It’s time to assess your work and what you get from that work.

Maybe you’ve been so busy that you haven’t taken the time to reflect on what you’ve accomplished. This is the time to take stock of your situation and make sure you’re getting the results you want.

The Seven of Pentacles in love is an indication that you can manifest what you want.

If you’re single, you should reflect on past relationships to understand what you want out of a future love.

If you’re in a relationship, this card usually means that the work you’ve been putting into your relationship will pay off very soon.

5th Card

When the Four of Swords is reversed it can mean you are finally finding the strength to get through (or out of) something.

It can also indicate that you’re ready to address stress, anxiety, and other things that worry you.

It can also mean taking care of yourself after a long time of not doing so.

The Four of Swords in love is an indication that you are ready to connect or reconnect.

If you’re single, it means you might want to take some time to figure out exactly what you want in a partner before welcoming someone new into your life.

If you’re in a relationship, you are entering a period of peacefulness with your partner.

6th Card

When the Seven of Wands is reversed it means turning your back on your own truths and beliefs and convictions.

It can also represent making a compromise or being unpopular.

Let the conflict go.

Fight only if it is worth fighting, even if you’ve already invested time and energy in it.

If your cause is just, stand by your convictions as indicated by the Seven of Wands.

The Seven of Wands in a love ,If you’re single, it might mean that you’re going to have to work very hard to get the person you desire.

If you’re in a relationship, be prepared to fight for what you want and need.

Bottom of the deck

When the Hermit card is upright it symbolizes counsel, inner strength, prudence, caution, vigilance, patience, and withdrawal.

You might be impatient with people who cannot see what you can see, and you may have a desire to be alone.

You are diving deep and figuring things out for yourself.

It might mean you need to be alone to do the self-reflection that’s necessary right now.

The Hermit card in a love is an indication of a fresh start.

If you’re single and you’ve recently retreated (perhaps due to previous heartbreak), you’re finally ready to put your heart back out there.

If you’re in a relationship, it might mean you and your partner need to focus on each other. Independence is good, but there’s a reason you’re together.

I hope you enjoyed your weekly guidance post please feel free to comment below if you have any questions or extra clarity.

Please feel free to share like and comment and donate to my blog if you wish.

Sending Love to you all

Stacie xx

One-Time
Monthly
Yearly

Make a one-time donation

Make a monthly donation

Make a yearly donation

Choose an amount

£3.00
£9.00
£60.00
£3.00
£9.00
£60.00
£3.00
£9.00
£60.00

Or enter a custom amount

£

Your contribution is appreciated.

Your contribution is appreciated.

Your contribution is appreciated.

DonateDonate monthlyDonate yearly

ℕ𝕠𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘𝕤 ℙ𝕖𝕣𝕞𝕒𝕟𝕖𝕟𝕥

Nothing is permanent in this wicked world – not even our troubles.

Charlie Chaplin

Evening all

I hope you are all well.

I wanted to check in with you and let you know I’m still around in the background I’m just taking some time away from everyday hussle and bussle.

One thing I’ve come to realise these last few weeks is nothing is permanent in life, life can change instantly and it doesn’t matter how much we try and prevent something from happening we can’t.

Being a virgo for me is giving my all to every aspect of my life so at my job, at my home with my children and within my relationships.

I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have and putting other people first has always been a big stop block for me within all aspects of my life.

Truth is I care way to much about everything and I overthink far to much, I think with a realistic mind but I have a tenancy to be aggravated by people who are lazy and uncoordinated and people who play games.

It’s just my virgo traits.

I’ve worked very hard past few weeks on my mental health I’ve relapsed a few times had a few wobbles. I’ve been quite and unresponsive for a day or too I find it easier to shut down than try and explain my feelings.

It’s just way I’ve always be.

I’ve very lucky to have such a good support network around me i didn’t a few years ago but now I have people around me who understand when I’m having a bad day not to push me to far.

My blogging has slowed down abit again due to mostly me being busy but also to fear of getting on people’s nerves with all my posting but again like my mum says you don’t need to read if you don’t want to just…

You don’t need to justify anything you do to anyone.

Just have to be true to yourself.

Yes I may seem like an emotional lunatic very up and down when it comes to life, but you would be surprised how many people suffer in silance and pretend that they are OK.

I tell my story to help others sometimes along side the joking and everyday life blogs we need realisation that everyone is human and we all feel emotion and we all deal with life in different ways.

I tell mine through my writing along side my singing therapy.

And I really hope some people out there find comfort from my blog and sharing my experiences.

It’s been great to sit still for a while and catch my breath but slowly I’m coming back to myself….

P. S don’t forget to check out tommrow’s weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog.

Love to you all…

Stacie xx

ℝ𝕒𝕕𝕚𝕠 𝕊𝕚𝕝𝕖𝕟𝕔𝕖

Evening all

I thought I would do a little blog on where I’m at just to let you all know why I’m not around as much at the moment.

Well the title says it all radio silence for the people who haven’t heard this saying before I will explain below.

It means a  period of time when someone does not communicate with another person or other people.

Seems dramatic I know but its my choice.

I’ve needed to strip back every aspect in my life and look at what direction I was heading towards.

Believe me it wasn’t healthy to some extent I’m still battling with my demons.

I’ve been through a very long period of heartache and self loathing for such a long time I’ve just had enough.

Closing the last chapter was the hardest and I have one last hurdle to get over before I can truly move forward.

I suppose you have to fully let the old layers of yourself fall away before you can heal and rebuild yourself.

I’ve given so much of myself to people who didn’t deserve me.

Now I know that and it’s difficult for me to pull my energy back.

But it’s what’s needed for me to be the best person I can be.


It’s time for me to take back my power and allow myself to put myself first.

So I’ve decided to pull back my energy from social media even though its a great place to reach out and put yourself our there I don’t feel I’m 100% ready for it.

With me trying to engage with people I found it’s drained me physically and emotionally.

I just simply can’t find the strength to deal with other peoples issues at the moment it makes me  hypocritical giving our advice and not listing to my own inner wisdom.

I’ve decided to not post anymore pictures or videos of myself at the moment because Im really not happy within myself and because I want people to get to know the real me not just the outside exterior of myself.

Tommrow I’m back on my health kick and the universe is giving me a massive…
To move forward so I will be back after some me time and I will come back better and stronger.

Love to you all ❤️

Stacie xxx

#seashellsandlipglossblog
#bekind
#selflove

It’s one small step in the right direction that lead to the most adventurous paths.

Evening all

I hope your OK

Apologies for the lack of blogging but life’s been a little upside down lately.

Have you ever had that feeling of a. Weight being lifted from you it’s like seeing blue skies after a very dark storm.

This is where Im at now I’ve been through the worst of if and I’m finally realising that I deserve to put my own needs first.

Trouble is I give more out than I ever receive then I end up burning myself out in the process.

Its OK to put myself first it’s OK to say no.

Focusing on yourself is extremely important, growth is extremely important.

Moving on is important leaving the past behind is essential.

You can’t change what’s happened.

But you can learn from the experience and use it in your future.

I’ve literally grown so far away from who I used to be at times I’m unrecognisable even to myself.

But as one door shuts another is waiting to open.

Something better and more for filling.

I’ve always been held back and too scared to be myself in fear of what other people think.

But that’s not me any more.

I’m not perfect I don’t look amazing all time, I’m not always happy, I get annoyed & like to be left alone sometimes.

But that’s just me.

But I’ve realised it’s time to move on I’m ready to move on and work on the life I deserve.

My heart will always be happy helping people but I have to remind myself that I need to also help myself.

Today was a great day I purchased my first ever size 12/14 pj’s I’m so overwhelmed I’ve not been a size 12 since high school.

Massive achievement…

I’m also exited to be working with Acti Labs Super excited I will be posting another blog along with details soon but their products are my absolute favourite that’s why I have taken a leap of faith and I’ve chosen to work alongside them.

You will be able to purchase direct from me but again I’ll put all details on another blog post for you all.

Thank you so much for all your support and love I’m so grateful.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

Two Way Street

Evening all

Been a while since my last late night blog.

I’ve always had the the ability to tell the truth regarding situations and my own emotions.

This blog this evening is something that I’ve been struggling to come to terms with.

And that’s understanding that when it comes to love and relationships it simply can’t be all onesided.

I know most people have dealt with similar situations in regards to connections.

Can anyone here genuinely say they have ever been so in love that they would do anything to make the other person happy and completely disregarding their own feelings in order to be more appealing to the other party I know I have.

You know how it goes you play it cool try and keep busy but all your waiting for is the next….

To then find that it never comes.

One thing I’ve realised is that connections work both ways effort needs to come from both sides.

Your not the one who takes orders from a ringleader.

You make your own rules and follow them as you wish.

Over the years I’ve put my everything into my connections with people, I’ve really gone above board to make people happy, trouble is with me, I wear my heart on my sleeve I always have, and I love to love it’s just in my nature.

One thing I’ve realised over the past few months is that sometimes the universe will remove toxic people from your life other times you must remove them yourself.

Those who bring ill intentions into our lives do not or will not love us.

They will simply take what they need then leave.

That isn’t someone who loves you.

Love and respect is a two way street.

Never wait for someone to change their mind regarding their feelings.

That may never happen which leaves you feeling deflated.

Always be true to you but when the times right you will meet someone who understands you completely and no matter what the feelings will be mutual never onesided.

Loving all the wrong people prepares us to completely be ourselves and be at peace in our lives.

But most importantly it prepares us to receive the love we all deserve.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

Are You Awake

Hello Everyone

Ive been writing this article for quite some time now debating whether or not to post it on my blog due to its controversial nature.

I have been posting in different articles about the current situation with snippets of information regarding the awakening.

I must add that a spiritual awakening isn’t about U.F.O’s and the world ending, An awakening is a shift in consciousness in which thinking and awareness separate.

For most people it is not an event but a process they undergo.

Even those rare beings who experience a sudden, dramatic, and seemingly irreversible awakening will still go through a process in which the new state of consciousness gradually flows into and transforms everything they do and so becomes integrated into their lives.

Another definition is an act or moment of becoming suddenly aware of something.

Your no longer walking around asleep , you find yourself asking questions that you wouldn’t normally ask you see situations and people for what they really are.

People who go through an awakening are not crazy , people tend to attack things they don’t understand.

My awakening started over a year ago and I still don’t feel like its complete but I know I’m near the end.

With current situations in the world along side my own awakening and the fact ive seen nobody but work colleges for the past seven months and ive not seen my own family since November 2019 , I’m starting to see there is a major injustice that is occurring within our own lives, there is a lot of people who are still asleep people who are following the system , living in fear , who are being compliance to what we are being told to do.

When you go through a awakening you drop the ego , your eyes are open to what is going on and you question everything and that’s because you no longer feel the need of control and compliance, you live your own life.

Of course everyone has there own views and I’m not here to try and change anyone’s views but the world of today needs you to wake up and stand up for your freedom.

I get asked about my awakening a lot do I find it frightening , do I find it challenging has it changed me as a person .

What I always says that change is scary yes but once you let go of the fear and you accept that you are being awakened everything is more free flowing and less confusing , its been very confusing over certain stages but I feel that ive learnt a lot over the past few months about myself and the world we live in.

So I wanted to give you all a little insight into the stages of awakening so I have listed the Ten known awakening stages below.

The 10 Stages of Awakening

Stage 1:

You are despondent about life and are unhappy with the current state you are in. You feel unsupported or frustrated by life or those around you. You start feeling the desire take your power back and make changes.

You feel the desire to take your life into your own hands and take responsibility for it. You no longer want to rely on others or external events for your happiness. Just setting the intention to claim your power back helps to activate your energy, your chakra’s and your soul. This causes you to open your eyes. Awakening has begun.

Stage 2:

You are able to see life in a whole new light. You experience a sense of bliss, euphoria and freedom, but there is also a pain. Suddenly, you are confronted with all sorts of emotions surrounding your past and how you have chosen to live your life. You start to question everything. You start to challenge everything.

Stage 3:

There is a push-pull between staying awake and closing your eyes. There is a fear of what will happen if you continue on the path of awakening. You are at the point of taking a leap into the unknown. Things around your start to crumble. Your beliefs, the way you have lived your life, all start to become meaningless or mistaken. You start to feel stuck and bewildered. The ground you are walking on suddenly feels shaky, you know if you continue it will implode. At this stage, many people go back to sleep, but those who continue, begin to transform.

Stage 4:

Everything has crumbled and you are in the dark, but you must be in the dark in order to understand the light. You look around and are perplexed by the state of the world. The poverty, the greed, the state of the environment. You wonder how this has been allowed to happen. You feel depressed and wonder how you will integrate into society. You have a desire to be a hermit, to be alone, to be with nature. The people around you can’t understand, they think its a “phase”. Suddenly there is no satisfaction in your life. You feel alone and lost, you start to question- “Who am I?” 

Stage 5:

You realize that you don’t need to change the world but you need to loosen the grip to fear and control.

You start looking within and realize that through changing yourself you will automatically change the world. You start feeling a greater sense of connectedness to the world. You start focusing your attention on love and gratitude. You may even start studying or researching spirituality or all things metaphysical. You slowly start changing your perception of the world and realize that you are on this earth for a reason.

Stage 6:

You start to really feel and see the inter-connectedness of all things; nature, animals, the stars. You see that we are not in the Universe, but part of it. Your consciousness is  and you start seeing the world on a deeper, more connected level.

Your intuition and psychic gifts expand and you see that we are all equal and one of the same. Your life starts showing you signs of synchronicity You start realizing that your thoughts, emotions and feelings shape your reality. Your lifestyle slowly starts shifting and changing to support this.

Stage 7:

This new awareness allows you to feel one with the Universe. You start understanding your purpose. You start shifting away from the tangible and instead, realize the greater power of energy and intention. You start seeing that all you need to do to start walking the path of your higher purpose  is to be your true, authentic self. You realize that your authentic self is what you have come to this earth to share.

Stage 8:

You begin to align with your true, authentic self. Ideas burst out of you like seeds. Inspiration follows you. Things start unfolding, your destiny becomes clearer. You start attracting abundance into your life through your creations and ideas. Your life is very much transformed and the people around you and experiences that you have, reflect your current state of higher consciousness. Challenges are still presented to you, but you are better equipped emotionally and spiritually to deal with them.

Stage 9:

As you pursue your path you realize that you are co creating with the divine .

You realize that when you surrender to and work with the Divine, things are better, bigger and have more flow. You start working alongside Source energy and understand that you will always be guided. You may even start connecting with your Spirit guides guardian angels or higher self.

Your intuition and psychic gifts may develop to be even stronger.

Stage 10:

As you work alongside the Divine, you start to align your energy with that of unconditional love.

You are love, you radiate love and you feel love. You realize that this life is temporary and simply an experience to enjoy. You understand that the entire awakening process has simply been to make your life easier, more peaceful and more secure.

I can’t stress enough how important it is not to fight against your awakening it will happen and when it does everything will make sense and you will be amazed at what you will see when your eyes are truly open .

Please Take a look at this YouTube video below.

Please feel free to contact me via my contact box I would love to hear your awakening experience’s.

Love to you all

Stacie xx