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Evening all

I thought I would do a little blog on where I’m at just to let you all know why I’m not around as much at the moment.

Well the title says it all radio silence for the people who haven’t heard this saying before I will explain below.

It means a Β periodΒ ofΒ timeΒ when someone does notΒ communicateΒ with anotherΒ personΒ or otherΒ people.

Seems dramatic I know but its my choice.

I’ve needed to strip back every aspect in my life and look at what direction I was heading towards.

Believe me it wasn’t healthy to some extent I’m still battling with my demons.

I’ve been through a very long period of heartache and self loathing for such a long time I’ve just had enough.

Closing the last chapter was the hardest and I have one last hurdle to get over before I can truly move forward.

I suppose you have to fully let the old layers of yourself fall away before you can heal and rebuild yourself.

I’ve given so much of myself to people who didn’t deserve me.

Now I know that and it’s difficult for me to pull my energy back.

But it’s what’s needed for me to be the best person I can be.


It’s time for me to take back my power and allow myself to put myself first.

So I’ve decided to pull back my energy from social media even though its a great place to reach out and put yourself our there I don’t feel I’m 100% ready for it.

With me trying to engage with people I found it’s drained me physically and emotionally.

I just simply can’t find the strength to deal with other peoples issues at the moment it makes me  hypocritical giving our advice and not listing to my own inner wisdom.

I’ve decided to not post anymore pictures or videos of myself at the moment because Im really not happy within myself and because I want people to get to know the real me not just the outside exterior of myself.

Tommrow I’m back on my health kick and the universe is giving me a massive…
To move forward so I will be back after some me time and I will come back better and stronger.

Love to you all ❀️

Stacie xxx

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Blindsided

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Good Morning All

Its Saturday Which means its the weekend..

I awoke from not much sleep but Ive worked out coffee in hand I’m ready to be creative and let my passion flow.

Ive been getting a lot of emails and messages lately honestly I love getting messages from you all asking me for my guidance regarding your situations it makes me feel like I know what I’m talking about & also I like being helpful to other people.

I received an email of a lady in the U.S.A she had previously come across my blog and wanted my advice after her relationship of thirteen years ended abruptly.

I’m going to be honest I could feel her pain whilst reading her email one line that will always stick with me is I’m lost I really don’t know how I will carry on.

I just wanted to give her a hug because when your in love with someone and the feelings are no longer there on the partners side its a terrible feeling.

You just don’t know what you could of possibly done wrong, was you the actual problem all along.

Lets go over what the actual meaning of blindsided in love .

Blindside in love happens when one person thinks that everything is smooth and perfect in the relationship and suddenly the other person announces that they want to opt out. Being blindsided can shatter a person as it is unexpected and came without a warning.

We don’t see the red flags because we are so in love with someone we put them on a pedestal, it doesn’t matter what that person does to us we just don’t see the bigger picture.

  1. Your Feelings Are Normal

When you fail to pick up any signs that your partner was unhappy in the relationship and then suddenly ends it, you are going to feel like you have been blindsided by a breakup.

It’s normal to feel total shock and disbelief that this is happening to you because you thought you were both happy.

You will torture yourself with endless questions wondering how did it all go wrong. All these feelings are normal and they will pass as you process this heart breaking event.


2. Don’t Blame Yourself

Aside from cheating or doing something equally as destructive in the relationship, you can’t take the full blame for being splitting up.

If your ex wasn’t happy, they should have spoken up and discussed the issues that were bothering them.

But some people feel it’s easier to walk away rather than work through the issues towards a better relationship. You might have just been unlucky enough to fall for one of these types.


3. Take Time For Yourself

Be kind to yourself as you process this breakup.

Your heart has taken quite a blow without warning and it’s going to feel as if your world has been flipped upside down.

Often, your self-esteem will take a steep nosedive because you are going to feel unloved and unwanted.

The best way to combat these negative feelings is to pamper yourself so you get mini boosts of happiness as you work your way through the emotional pain.


4. Be Happy With Other People

Keep misery to a minimum by hanging out with good friends that can give you a shoulder to cry on.

Do fun things that you enjoy to take your mind off the breakup.

It’s really easy to slip into depression when someone you love tells you that they don’t want to be with you.

Surround yourself with people who think positive and can cheer you up when you are hurting the most.


5. Don’t Waste Your Time Trying To Convince Them.

The last thing you should do is try to convince them that they have made a mistake. Although it may have come as a complete surprise to you, it’s highly likely they where thinking about exiting the relationship long before it happened.

They had gave it a lot of thought before they actually initiated the breakup.

At this point, they have had more time to process the painful emotions and has detached themselves from them.


6. Acceptance Wont Come Easy

Although it always takes some time to accept a breakup, this one is going to be particularly difficult because you weren’t expecting to lose them at all.

You will remember the most recent time that they said “I love you” and struggle with the idea that their feelings couldn’t have changed that quickly.

Worst of all is that you will expect them to come back to you, and many times they won’t. It’s best to think of that relationship as a chapter in your life that has come to an end unless they says otherwise.


7. Distract Yourself

Find distractions to keep your mind from drowning in memories of your old relationship.

After you have been through a blindsiding breakup, your mind is going to struggle and try to make sense of the whole situation, which will bring up many old memories.

Find things to distract yourself like find a new hobby, sign up for a class in something you have always wanted to learn or learn a new language. The goal is to distract yourself so you won’t constantly be tortured by thoughts of your ex.

The key is to work on yourself when you go through a situation like this not because you where the problem in the first place but because you deserve to be loved and understood being blindsided can really be a whirlwind process but you will get through it , it just takes time.

You will learn new things about yourself when your in a state of vulnerability but you must always remember not every relationship will be the same as your last so please don’t give up on love when the time is right you will know but for now take your time and get to know yourself.

Please don’t Hesitate to email me if you need my advice using contact box below .

I’m Sending you love.

Stacie xxx

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Hiya Everyone

I hope you have had a great day I would like to say I have but that hasn’t been the case.

Do you know when you roll out of bed in the morning and you know its not going to be a great day both emotionally and physically, most the time these days I have my shit together.

But today I felt like the whole world was against me, my anxiety attacks are less and less these days since I’ve found my confidence back but still one slips through the cracks of that barrier that ive built so high around my soul and every now and again the old Stacie tries to remerge from the shadows and i have to rain her back into the darkness because that jush isn’t me anymore.

This blog post I’ve wanted to post for along time now and I’ve been putting it off for a while but i think its time to share it with you all.

To the people who know me in person who read my blog will understand exactly how I’ve been feeling and hopefully you will understand why I’ve needed to do what I have done to simply keep my head above water and to stop myself from drowning.

Up until the last six months Ive been at war with myself , my mind and my heart trying to align all three has been a battle and half.

I’ve always put others first and always put myself last just to make other people happy.

Ive loved and not always been loved back the old unrequited love is an arsehole.

I’ve sat there and listened and let someone pull me apart piece by piece for simply being me.

Ive kept calm when the fire inside me had raged.

I’ve been battered and bruised by my own self confidence.

Until that day comes and you think you know enough is enough I’m not taking this anymore.

I got up that morning in February and thought this is the last time i will allow my life and the people around me to control me..

It started with some external changes I was so determined to loose weight as that held my confidence back massively and I knew I had to drastically do something to achieve what i wanted so that was the first step for me.

So then the hair changed you always know when a women means business she changes her hair said coco channel , so that’s when my transformation really started when the red hair came along , that in itself gave me a lot of confidence.

Over the past 7 months i have worked on my surroundings and the company i kept.

I had taken a step back from anyone who brings drama to my life, I’m not about the drama, I just want a peaceful life.

One thing I realised when your going through a glow up is that some people will support you others will completely turn on you.

Ive been called nasty and evil plus lot more but i know that’s not me at all.

That’s the kind of people I haven’t got time for anymore.

We all go through bad times i know but its how we choose to evolve from it.

You see some people don’t like other people evolving due to their own insecurities, that’s when you realise that your energies are not meant to combine.

Your eyes open and you truly see people and situations that you once where involved with and think what the hell was i doing.

Transformation does that to you.

So what are my plans for the near future I’m sure that people will have something to say but you know what its my life my body I will do what makes me happy.

I don’t go into things blind I do my research..

so I’m fast approaching 33 and its time to start taking proper care of myself as vain as that sounds but again my choice, so i have been in touch with the Harley medical group to see if they will sort my loose skin from weight loss, that for me is a massive step in the mean time i will just have to put up with it.

Its ok people saying you look fine but its my choice i have to do what makes me happy and i would never go to the extreme.

So the glow up after such a rubbish time is amazing and I’m in this bubble at the moment where I feel untouchable from anything or anyone who caused me heartache and upset in the past.

If you like the new me then cool if you don’t then tough I’m never going back.

And I’m so proud of myself, I still have bad days and I know that one day someone will get me and will love me completely for just being me if given half the chance all I want to do is be happy but until then I’m like a elastic band I will always ping back ….

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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π•Žπ•™π•’π•₯ π•Žπ• π•¦π•π•• π•ͺ𝕠𝕦 β„‚π•™π•’π•Ÿπ•˜π•– 𝕀π•₯ π•‹π• ..

Hello all

I hope you are all well i know

I always start my blogs of the same way i suppose i want people to know that wherever you are in the world I’m sending my well wishes .

Sometimes just a few words can completely change someone’s day.

As i sit in my new office cup of tea in hand my imagination goes wild its always this time of night where i feel like i can actually breathe sometimes its the simple things in life us humans need just to soothe the soul.

Its not about what you have left behind or what’s in your future its about where you are now in the present that’s all that counts.

I’m going to share with you all a short story about Harry and Mark.

It was a perfect summers day in the height of a busy dinner hour an elderly gentleman called Harry sits down on his usual bench in City Hall Park .

The bench held special memories of when Harry and his dearly beloved wife Susie used to sit and watch the world go by.

After Harry’s wife passed away he would always keep up their daily routine just because to him that was Harry’s happy place.

At that exact moment in the finance district was Mark after a busy morning of meetings and Linda from H.R spoiling his $900 suit he had already had enough of the day.

Escaping the hustle of the office and the noise of the city he found himself in City Hall Park.

Where he sat next to Harry they exchanged a simple hello.

But Harry could see the strain on Marks face, Tough day huh ?

Mark replied a little , sometimes i don’t know what its all for ?

You have a little bit more life experience any advice Mark asked Harry.

Yes of course i do ? but its only advice said Harry.

Do you have regrets Harry, plenty but its in the past i can’t change the past he replied.

Do you look to the future said Mark , not really Harry replied the future is never set in stone it can change in an instant.

So what do you look to asked Mark, Harry simply replied the present.

The present said Mark !!!

You need to look at what’s around you in the present moment are you happy are you alive or just existing , are you in love and have you ever found yourself even in the darkest of places.

Because know this one thing what’s important in life can’t be brought like real love ,trust , inner peace and time.

Mark said I’ve not really thought about it in that way before Harry , I’m in a relationship but I’m under a lot of pressure to take the next step, and I’m not sure if she’s the one , Harry replied.

If you love her you will know you will feel it deep down in the pit of your stomach if she is the one if you don’t feel it you have your answer.

I also work to hard and long hours i don’t see my family enough i don’t take vacation’s , im simply relied on by my boss to give 100% all the time and it’s so exhausting.

Harry replied simply tell him no and take a vacation go see your family.

Work will always be there when you get back but your loved ones won’t always be here, you simply need to find balance.

Find out what’s important to you and let everything else go.

What would a random Old man who hasn’t got time on his side say to his younger self.

He would say son fall in love whenever possible, don’t work so hard, and use your time wisely.

Change what doesn’t seem to fit and take risks.

That afternoon on that bench in City Hall Park words of wisdom were exchanged and lives were changed forever.

Sometimes all we need is a little bit of direction and a fresh mindset to make changes don’t ever feel weak for asking advice even if it’s from a complete stranger.

Be open and listen it just might change your life.

Love to you all
Stacie xx

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𝕋𝕙𝕖 ℍ𝕒𝕣𝕕𝕖𝕣 𝕋𝕙𝕖 β„π•’π•šπ•Ÿ, β„π• π•Ÿπ•–π•ͺ, 𝕋𝕙𝕖 π•Šπ•¨π•–π•–π•₯𝕖𝕣 𝕋𝕙𝕖 π•Šπ•¦π•Ÿ.

Evening all ❀️

Late night blogging again for me it’s the best time for me to blog when it’s quite and i have time to reflect.

Tonight’s blog post is mostly about overcoming tough situations and moving forward with your life.

You can grieve in life for people who are still present in life it may sound a little strange but we do.

When someone passes we know they have gone psychically from our lives.

We grieve but over time it becomes less painful.

Not for everyone but in majority of case’s this is true.

But when you grieve for a loss of another human being that’s still present that’s where it cuts deep into your soul.

Your forever left wondering what if…

I found myself in this situation around a year ago maybe a little bit longer than a year but who knows.

My life came tumbling down around me it affected every part of who i was and it really affected my self worth.

Im not going to give you ten steps to deal with it in this blog post because i want to be completely honest with you all.

It was tough i had to take each day at a time.

Very mixed emotions i felt so stupid about it all.

I actually felt like it was never going to end.

But it did the one thing I learned from this situation was it didn’t matter how long you held on for in the end if it was meant to be it would of been.

You can keep over analysing every second it won’t change the past.

It’s been a painful process but a huge learning curve for me and a huge wake up call.

Not everything always works out in your favour in life we just have to deal with it the best we can.

You either let its consume you or let it change you.

Im a lot stronger now than what i was before and I’ve found my peace.

Now I’ve come through it and im on the other side my outlook on life, love and happiness has completely changed.

Remember this the storm maybe freighting at the time but after a storm comes the sunshine and then the sunshine brings the rainbow that’s where you will join me and many others on a road to self discovery.

If i can do it so can you…

Here’s a great track called No Plan from Hozier… πŸ‘‡πŸ‘‡πŸ‘‡

No Plan hozier

Love to you all 😊

Stacie 🐚 πŸ’‹ πŸ’„ ❀️ ❀️

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𝕆𝕙 π•₯𝕙𝕖 π•šπ•£π• π•Ÿπ•ͺ

“α΄›ΙͺΙ΄α΄‹α΄‡Κ€Κ™α΄‡ΚŸΚŸ Κœα΄€κœ± α΄€ΚŸα΄‘α΄€Κκœ± ʙᴇᴇɴ α΄›Κœα΄‡Κ€α΄‡ κœ°α΄Κ€ α΄˜α΄‡α΄›α΄‡Κ€.

α΄€Ι΄α΄… α΄˜α΄‡α΄›α΄‡Κ€?

Κœα΄‡ α΄„Κœα΄κœ±α΄‡ ᴑᴇɴᴅʏ”

Typical…

Evening all ❀️

I trust you are all well.

Bit of an odd day if i may say so, but all is fair in love and war.

This post isn’t Disney inspired sorry all you Disney lovers out there.

The quote actually fitted quite perfectly for today’s mood.

Right were do i start ah.. Human behaviour towards other humans feeling and emotions.

Please take however you wish to take this blog post but im not fooling around when i say humans can be absolutely thee biggest pains in the butt.

So stubborn, egotistical and stuck in their heads about a situation its beyond knowledge to me why people react this way to kindness and loving behaviour.

I get it sometimes it can not be reciprocated nor can it be forced.

Life only comes around once you know what is it your waiting for.

A sign if you want something or someone one in life you need understand that the chance doesn’t fall into your lap.

You have to work at it, and make it happen.

Nothing is perfect in life and nobody is perfect we are human we make mistakes.

That’s just what we do.

We say stuff we don’t mean act upon impulse as a defence mechanism.

Its bulit into our dna to be defensive when we feel attacked.

But here’s the thing we don’t always need to be so defensive to others opinions we are all entitled to one.

That’s just the way it is.

If a human being deliberately hurts another human being just because they care and have shown them compassion.

Says alot about the person who just can’t simply take what the other person is offering.

Due to their own self doubt and lack of understanding.

It is what it is.

And sometimes you just got to drawn the line and say enough is enough.

Remember if your a kind of person who loves deeply and truly cares enough to put everything and everyone’s needs before your own you should be treasured because that’s very rare these days.

There isn’t anything wrong with you or how you love, sometimes it is just the way it is.

Stay strong and never change who you are ❀️

Love to you all 😊 😊

Stacie 🐚 πŸ’‹ πŸ’„ ❀️ ❀️

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“π•Žπ•– π•žπ•’π•ͺ 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕖 𝕝𝕠𝕀π•₯ π•₯𝕙𝕖 𝕓𝕒π•₯π•₯𝕝𝕖, 𝕓𝕦π•₯ π•Ÿπ• π•₯ π•₯𝕙𝕖 π•¨π•’𝕣”

Afternoon all from the beautiful sunny Merseyside UK.

Im just recharging myself in the sun before another week of chaos and internal screaming inside.

Why do weekends go so fast even when we are still in lockdown they seem to fly by.

After long conversations yesterday and thinking deep into the night.

Ive decided to do a blog post about…

Surrendering and learning that you don’t always get what you want in life.

Sometimes we need to put more effort into it or just know when to admit defeat and move on.

When we are hit with heartbreaking situations in life.

And we see no way forward and your exhausted from fighting a battle that never seems to never end.

For your own sanity you want to admit defeat and just sit in a dark corner and cry.

But we as humans are put through lessons in life that we are meant to learn from.

We all love a good love story and wish for a fairytale in life but we can somehow put to much effort into a connection that we end up loosing ourselves in the process.

We stumble upon partnerships we feel an istant connection to and give everything we have to offer for it to end up being either taken for granted or not reciprocated.

It fills us with doubt and insecurity.

You must remember that its not always you who is at fault, you may have not done anything but love a person and try and make them happy.

But sometimes its not enough you can be so wrapped up in the situation you mistake their hurt for love and affection.

A partnership works both ways and both of you need to be on same wavelength for progression to happen.

Experiencing a difficult love connection is also frustrating and exhausting.

But you need to ask yourself is it worth holding on or letting go.

Yes you maybe hurt you maybe you feel defeated.

Don’t forget how its made you feel.

Sometimes for once in a while its nice to be fought for never give up on love just because of a bad chapter in life.

And if a connection feels right then fight for it.

Leave the ball in their court and rebulid yourself and your heart.

If its meant to be it will work out but do not put life on hold.

People come into our lives to either love us unconditionally or to teach us a lesson.

Sometimes we find love in the strangest of situations but we dont see it until its to late.

Remember nothing is ever final but in the meantime breathe and if all you did today was try and survive then im proud of you.

Love to you all.

Stacie 🐚 πŸ’‹ πŸ’„ ❀️ ❀️

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𝔹𝕖 π•„π•šπ•Ÿπ••π•—π•¦π•

Afternoon all ❀️

I really hope you are all ok .

Bit of a weird blog today about being mindful of others and of yourself.

Its not been a bad weekend but ive awoken today to feel somewhat very withdrawn in myself.

Ive got things on my mind.

Peoples coping mechanisms are different to others, i would rather withdraw than keep going over the same conversation about my emotional unbalances.

I don’t think i could find the correct words to explain, im no good at all that.

I’ve been called somethings in my time needy, obsessed, to much, attention seeker..

Thing is im none of them and i don’t see why i should get tarnished by these words when none of them are true.

Human beings can be incredibly cruel to each other.

Your forced onto a planet with people and forced to understand why they say the things they say and do the things they do.

And your meant to be ok with their behaviour however crappy it is.

Being kind doesn’t cost nothing it really doesn’t.

But what does cost something is either you loosing a relationship, freindship or family members.

With being kind i don’t mean you need to become soft and let people walk over you its about being mindful to others with words that come from your mouth.

The ones your in control of.

One word can change somones whole day.

In either a negative or a positive way, your actions are from within.

Im asking in such times we find ourselves in and thereafter to be Mindful of people’s emotions and thoughts.

Im fine with how ive grown i don’t need to prove to anyone who i am.

To anyone but myself….

If im withdraw and i dont get in touch its because im going through something or im just trying to get through this thing we call life.

Dont give space to people in your mind your heart or your life that aren’t mindful of your emotions.

It’s just not worth the heartbreak or time trying to explain to someone who’s only intentions was to get one over on you.

You dont need that sort of person in your life.

Keep safe, keep mindful, you are loved.

Stacie 🐚 πŸ’‹ πŸ’„ ❀️ ❀️ ❀️

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π•Šπ•  𝕓𝕒𝕓π•ͺ π•”π•’π•Ÿ’π•₯ π•ͺ𝕠𝕦 𝕀𝕖𝕖 𝕀’𝕧𝕖 π•˜π• π•₯ π•₯𝕠 π•“π•£π•–π•’π•œ π•—𝕣𝕖𝕖.

Evening all ❀️

Ahh what day is it…..

Loosing track of times, days & seasons.

Bit of lighthearted humour beacuse everything is so serious at the moment.

Everyone’s in mixed emotions and scared that’s understandable.

But on the otherside of things without sounding selfish… When is it all going to end thats the million dollar question isn’t it.

Im so sick and tired of feeling anxious about going food shopping its bad enough as it is without all this.

Your scared to even breathe too loud with fear of the state coming in and shaving you bald.

I understand its for our own good but i never want to experience this again and I know im not on my own.

Trying to live a normal daily life with added pressure changes to working patterns and new procedures every few days is a nightmare.

So Called my mum up yesterday absolutely fuming in a right strop like someone had pinched my last rolo.

But after a rubbish night’s sleep bad dreams and feeling slightly nostalgic.

i think if the cat would of looked at me in the wrong way it would of pushed me over the edge.

I know im not on my own but normally i don’t mind staying in but being told i cant go out only for work and essentials maybe odd walk with kids for exercise kind of restricts my aura.

I don’t like being told i can’t do something im quite rebellious in that way.

I like to make my own choices but understand these circumstances we have no choice.

Its just to much to think about and remember….

I don’t really have problem with shutting the world out but again i was making plans to see family, friends and travelling.

All on hold like a huge majority of other people’s plans.

I was talking to a couple of friends of mine about what’s the worst experience during this lockdown.

Mine has to be hands down the shopping experience queuing in the shops queuing just to get on a website online brings me rage only the incredible hulk would understand.

Everytime i have to do the dreaded food shopping i feel like im on a episode of supermarket sweep.

Its who can dart around the store in the quickest time whist Brenda from cedar crescent takes the absolute piss looking at two types of pork pies.

And dont you even dare pick up something that’s not classed as an essential item…. You might get sent to hell and yes you Bill put that chainsaw back its not a necessity.

Its just not normal i know i must sound so ungrateful i have my health and my girls and loved ones are ok.

But this blog isn’t about the illness side of the situation.

Im fully aware of the suffering and grief its causing.

But it’s about mental health issues surrounding it too.

As soon as its all over i can’t wait to give my family a big hug and give my freinds a massive hug ive missed them terribly.

As much as I love my girls god im going to throw a party when they announce schools are opening.

There’s been tears tantrums plenty of time outs..

My poor mum has listened to me vent more times than i can remember.

And friends also have to put up with my moods thank you ladies and gents i love you all.

On the lighter note do as boris says stay home stay safe even if your going a bit stir crazy πŸ€ͺ.

Hopefully we won’t be in lockdown for much longer….

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Stacie Leanne 16/04/2020

Within the darkness beholds the night.
Therfore comes morning to show you the light.

Everyday it’s a blessing to be alive.
To wake up each day and know you have survived.

Be thankful for the love and the support you receive.

Be thankful for the sky and the air that you breathe.

Life is challenging and sometimes a struggle.
Sometimes it gets to much to juggle.

But you woke up this morning and you open your eyes.

How greatful you should feel to be alive.