How To Starve A Narcissist

Hello my lovely people

Happy Sunday to you all I’m sorry I won’t be doing a weekly Spiritual Guidance Post this week I’m having a break, if truth be told I’m going to waste my whole Sunday playing sims 4.

Just because in sims I’ve got a better handle on life.

I’ve decided to do this post today because we have all dealt with a few narcissistic people in our life time.

You know the ones who are completely deluded that they have played a part in causing another human being pain.

It’s so easy to fall into a narcissistic trap because they are clever, at first they’ll say all right things and do all the right things to reel you in.

Once you have fallen into that black hole of nothingness it’s very difficult to pull yourself out of it.

It’s extremely difficult to remove yourself from a situation like this especially when you hold nothing but love for someone.

I can hundreds percent relate to the whole aspect of being in a connection with a certain individual.

That has these traits….

During the last few months of lockdown I feel its either gone two ways for people they have either been stuck within a narcissistic connection or have come within their power and a realisation that enough is enough and its time to act accordingly.

So how do you starve a narcissistic of your energy.

I know that a few of these steps won’t be easy for you but one thing I can promise you with time and self healing you will be fine.

This advice is from someone who’s been through it all yes it’s myself.

1. Go no contact.

This is the best option for you! If at all possible, cut all contact with him immediately and at once.

2. Be uninterested

This is the best option for you if you must have contact with the narcissist. Show no emotion, only answer the questions that must be answered and do so quick and to the point. Do not react at all to anything the narcissist says. Do not bite his bait of arguments or discussion about things that you’ve already discussed. Keep everything you say and do with him to an absolute minimum devoid of any emotion.

3. Keep it simple.

If you must have contact with the narcissist, keep all interaction brief. If he sends you a million texts, respond to only whatever is absolutely necessary. If you have to meet up, do what you came there for and nothing further. Again, remember – no emotion!

4. Walk away when their manipulative.

Whenever they starts to try to engage you, manipulate or blame you, walk away. Just end the conversation by leaving it. Don’t try to explain or reason with them about what’s happening. Just walk away. Soon you’ll train the narcissist that you aren’t available to be their energy supply any longer.

5. Don’t talk about the narcissist with people who know them.

If possible, don’t speak with them at all, but if you must, avoid details about your personal life and anything to do with the narcissist.

All of that information will end up making its way back to the narcissist and he or she can be fed energy from you through the third party. they will know what irks you and what buttons to push. they will know how their affecting you and you’ll continue to be seen as their energy source.

6. Set boundaries and don’t back down from them.

The reason the narcissist made their way into your life in the first place was because you didn’t have healthy boundaries in place.

Learn from that and implement the changes you need to make now!

Don’t feel bad for your boundaries and don’t reason your way out of enforcing them (i.e., “He or she doesn’t really know what he’s or she is doing,” or they are making improvements and he or she can change”). You teach other people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

7. Live your life.

Work on you, focus on you, build your future!

Don’t allow the narcissist to take any more of your time.

Set goals for yourself and celebrate when you reach them.

Build a healthy support system around you and don’t look back! There’s nothing for you back there.

Start implementing these things and you’ll be surprised at how quickly you’ll find that the narcissist has no more hold on you!

One thing you always need to remember is that you hold the power to your own destiny we all get blindsided by love and connections but always believe in your own power to set boundaries and realise your self worth.

love to you all .

Stacie xxxx

Losing yourself to find yourself

Life is a funny old thing isn’t it?

How many of us find ourselves hoping for a better day ahead.

You can find yourself so wrapped up with daily routine and structure, you forget how much of your life is passing you by.

Do you crumble at the idea of not having a plan in place for every outting or experience in life.

Then you just maybe existing and not living.

A lot of people need structure and fear spontaneous life events.

The classic what if moment.

That fills us with anxiety and fear of rejection.

Some of the best experiences in life are followed by a ephiany moment….

We as humans are stronger than we think.

An advantage human can go through several transition in a lifetime its how we evolve and adapt to change.

As you know change is inevitable and if the universe thinks that you are heading in the wrong direction it will make changes for you.

We loose our true self for all sorts or reasons but one thing is pretty much certain we always find our way back to our authentic self.

It’s difficult feeling being lost and hopeless, not knowing what’s next.

But not every situation needs to be controlled and it doesn’t need a plan either.

If your like me then I find it extremely hard to let my guard down and trust people, I hate not knowing why and when, but one thing I’ve learnt is it doesn’t matter how much you need structure or answers you don’t always get it.

For myself now don’t force anything any more because anything that needs to be forced isn’t worth having.

And great things can happen when you loosen the grip of needed to control everything.

There’s no magic eight ball…

But you have your intuition so use it well and trust the process only then will you find the way back to your authentic self.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

ℝ𝕒𝕕𝕚𝕠 𝕊𝕚𝕝𝕖𝕟𝕔𝕖

Evening all

I thought I would do a little blog on where I’m at just to let you all know why I’m not around as much at the moment.

Well the title says it all radio silence for the people who haven’t heard this saying before I will explain below.

It means a  period of time when someone does not communicate with another person or other people.

Seems dramatic I know but its my choice.

I’ve needed to strip back every aspect in my life and look at what direction I was heading towards.

Believe me it wasn’t healthy to some extent I’m still battling with my demons.

I’ve been through a very long period of heartache and self loathing for such a long time I’ve just had enough.

Closing the last chapter was the hardest and I have one last hurdle to get over before I can truly move forward.

I suppose you have to fully let the old layers of yourself fall away before you can heal and rebuild yourself.

I’ve given so much of myself to people who didn’t deserve me.

Now I know that and it’s difficult for me to pull my energy back.

But it’s what’s needed for me to be the best person I can be.


It’s time for me to take back my power and allow myself to put myself first.

So I’ve decided to pull back my energy from social media even though its a great place to reach out and put yourself our there I don’t feel I’m 100% ready for it.

With me trying to engage with people I found it’s drained me physically and emotionally.

I just simply can’t find the strength to deal with other peoples issues at the moment it makes me  hypocritical giving our advice and not listing to my own inner wisdom.

I’ve decided to not post anymore pictures or videos of myself at the moment because Im really not happy within myself and because I want people to get to know the real me not just the outside exterior of myself.

Tommrow I’m back on my health kick and the universe is giving me a massive…
To move forward so I will be back after some me time and I will come back better and stronger.

Love to you all ❤️

Stacie xxx

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It’s one small step in the right direction that lead to the most adventurous paths.

Evening all

I hope your OK

Apologies for the lack of blogging but life’s been a little upside down lately.

Have you ever had that feeling of a. Weight being lifted from you it’s like seeing blue skies after a very dark storm.

This is where Im at now I’ve been through the worst of if and I’m finally realising that I deserve to put my own needs first.

Trouble is I give more out than I ever receive then I end up burning myself out in the process.

Its OK to put myself first it’s OK to say no.

Focusing on yourself is extremely important, growth is extremely important.

Moving on is important leaving the past behind is essential.

You can’t change what’s happened.

But you can learn from the experience and use it in your future.

I’ve literally grown so far away from who I used to be at times I’m unrecognisable even to myself.

But as one door shuts another is waiting to open.

Something better and more for filling.

I’ve always been held back and too scared to be myself in fear of what other people think.

But that’s not me any more.

I’m not perfect I don’t look amazing all time, I’m not always happy, I get annoyed & like to be left alone sometimes.

But that’s just me.

But I’ve realised it’s time to move on I’m ready to move on and work on the life I deserve.

My heart will always be happy helping people but I have to remind myself that I need to also help myself.

Today was a great day I purchased my first ever size 12/14 pj’s I’m so overwhelmed I’ve not been a size 12 since high school.

Massive achievement…

I’m also exited to be working with Acti Labs Super excited I will be posting another blog along with details soon but their products are my absolute favourite that’s why I have taken a leap of faith and I’ve chosen to work alongside them.

You will be able to purchase direct from me but again I’ll put all details on another blog post for you all.

Thank you so much for all your support and love I’m so grateful.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

Listen… It’s not your job to be everything to everyone.

Evening all I’ve not late night blogged for a while but it’s Sunday evening and

I’m filled with anxiety again.

There’s days where I need to have a moment to myself just to put my head straight.

It’s extremely difficult to be one hundred percent who you are these days.

I find that people are very judgmental and quick to jump to conclusions.

Without the facts.

I have to say that sometimes humans don’t have an alternative motif for just simply being helpful or truthful.

Sometimes it’s just in their nature to be honest without fear and to want to work hard to make a difference.

I truly believe that the current situation I find myself in is exactly where I need to be, you find yourself in certain situations in life where there is either lessons to be learnt or truth to be given in order for change to take place.

Somethings been stagnant for to long stubborn for change then….

You smack bang in the middle of a situation you either need to learn from or make a difference.

One thing I’ve realised is when you see through people your not very well liked that’s a know fact.

When your real and disconnect from the drama that’s when you become the drama and in no way shape or form have I got time for drama.

I’m literally at that stage where I still feel anxious and some days I’m not as strong.

But honestly your put on this earth to yes be thoughtful of others but to also be thoughtful of yourself.

I can’t stress enough to people if your struggling to juggle life and struggling with the people around you.

Distance is sometimes the best key you can never pour from an empty cup.

You can make sure your vessel is fine but if the minds off balance then the two don’t work in harmony.

Don’t put to much pressure on yourself to be the perfect parent, sibling, partner, friend or work colleague.

You need to nurture your own soul before you give to others.

When people try and drag you into Drama don’t fall for it, if it’s not your issue then leave it, some people don’t like the truth and can be….

But don’t fall for it you can’t fix everything or everyone so don’t try to.

Just be honest to yourself and honest with others and if your respected for it great if not there’s no love lost.

Good night everyone

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

𝟛𝟘 𝕊𝕠𝕞𝕖𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕟𝕘

Evening all…

This will be my last blog post at the age of 32 tomorrow is my birthday.

Do you even celebrate when your in your 30’s my answer to that is yes.

I’ve made it to 33 after everything I’ve been through I’ve made it.

It’s been tough lifes not been kind but im grateful I’m here and I’m alive.


What does being thirty three years of age mean to me and how will I be making changes for the foreseeable future.

After a few wobbly weeks I’ve been really thinking about myself as a person and how I approach situations.

I’ve realised that it’s time to move on from anything or anyone that’s caused me great harm.

Worst thing to do in the world of hold on to a grudge you only ever hurt yourself in the process…


The other issue I have is feeling guilty for actually living my life the way I want too and having to keep other people happy, I’m not doing it anymore so heads up people Stacie  is going to do what she wants to do and if it upsets the apple cart tough..


You get to a point in life you can’t keep worrying about other people.

Keep yourself in check make yourself happy because no one else will do it for you.

I’ll always be me but an upgraded version of my old self.

I’m finding people are seeking the old version of myself but she’s just not there anymore.

I’ve made  huge progress so far I’m not going to stop now.

The diet is back tommrow after a weekend of eating out and gin..

My aim is to loose another stone by end of September.

It’s achievable but I’ll need to be strict and keep active.

So what are my birthday plans well I’ll be on my own just the way I like it hopefully weather is OK.

I will head down my local beach and grab a coffee somewhere and watch the world go by.

I do have plans to see one of my best friends and my other friend at the end of September for a girlie night out with  festival vibes but until then it will be hard work and dedication.

And growing a little bit stronger each day.

I hope you have a fantastic week ahead don’t let people get you down and keep smiling.

Love to you all

Stacie xxx


𝕀’𝕧𝕖 𝔾𝕠𝕥 𝕄𝕪 𝕆𝕨𝕟 𝔹𝕒𝕔𝕜

Evening all

I haven’t published any late night blogs for a while.

I’ve been busy with life and a few things have changed for me.As life progresses we expect a lot of change, we have to expect change otherwise there will be no forward movement.

You find that where you are just isn’t enough anymore.

For me it isn’t my location it’s my actual life I’ve not been happy for a while and I’ve realised that if I keep going round on this hamster wheel I may never get off, it’s only certain aspects of my life I find I’m feeling a little stuck and undervalued.

So I’ve had to put plans in motion for change.

You can’t grow if you stay in the shade.

I’ve taken many risks in my younger years and many haven’t worked out but it was a massive learning curve for me.

Being a mum, someone’s daughter, sister and friend sometimes isn’t easy.

And to be honest I know I’ve been hard work at times.

I don’t answer phone calls, messages for days on end just way I am I live in my own little space sometimes it all gets a little to much.

Don’t get me wrong I’m a strange person I like love but also crave my own space, I can’t stand constant communication or talking all the time.

I get easily irritated by forced conversations and will withdraw and zone out if put in a position I don’t feel comfortable in.

I like people but only small group of people they will tend to be long term friendships I will only forge new friendships If I really want to.

I will literally help anyone anyway I can within reason.

But alot of people can’t take to me and my personality.

I used to let that affect the way I saw myself but now I don’t care I just let people think what they want to think.

They say when you stop pleasing others and start pleasing yourself that’s when life really takes flight.

That’s the truth your vibe will attract the right type of people to your life and repel the wrong type of people because that’s when you are truly aligned with yourself.

Now I don’t rely on anyone but myself .

I’m making things happen for myself and I will do whatever it takes to get to my own happiness.

I’m half way through writing my own book.

My blog is doing amazing

I have new opportunities all the time.

But I know down the line I will have to take more leaps of faith to see where it guides me but now I have my own back I will achieve anything.

Love to you all

Stacie xx

Weekly Spiritual Guidance Blog 28/08/2020 to 4/09/2020

Good Afternoon everyone.

I’m super excited to share this weeks spiritual guidance blog with you all.

Firstly I want to say that I really do hope that my guidance blogs helps all my readers in some way or another, I have had a spiritual gift for all my life and a huge interest in what come’s to us all after our passing for a very long time but I will save that for another blog.

My spiritual guidance blogs are all about you guys and me giving something back to you all as good will gesture for always taking the time out to read my blogs and support me in everything I do.

So lets get on with the legalities and get the boring stuff out the way first..

I have to state that all my guidance blogs are for entertainment purpose’s only .

My weekly guidance blogs are for all signs and elements, take what resonates and leave the rest to the universe .

Here we go..

I have a little message from the universe to everyone who’s really struggling with life at the moment.

Whilst connecting to gain clarity regarding your guidance today I was show a very clear image of a shadow person in front this shadow person two pathways formed as the vision got clearer I started to see more of a clearer outline of the shadow person, he was male , his expression on his face was somewhat of confusion and fear after a short while and hesitation…

I herd what path should I take the right one it seems less bumpy more plain sailing but what seeks me at the end is safe , unfulfilling in the long run it seems and easy less effort I have a dreaded feeling of regret.

He looks at the left path its full of bumps its looks scary full of uncertainties, dark corners great highs and steep lows he feels fear , excitement , great love and release from the ties of life.

As he stands there he knows he has to make a choice he can’t keep holding back in the darkness and floating about hoping everything will work out fine.

This is a very clear message I get for a lot of you, if you want something in life you have to make it happen it won’t just fall in your lap the universe doesn’t work like that you have to put the effort in .

If you want that dream job get of your butt start researching now on training , work on gaining skills and the opportunities’ will be endless.

If you have wanted a connection with someone emotionally for a while but you have always been held back by your own emotions and fear , speak your truth because it something wonderful can happen from just one honest truthful conversation if it works out great if it doesn’t no regret’s only lesson’s learnt.

Life doesn’t have a road map you don’t always need a plan because plans, people and situations can change just like the direction of the wind you need to live in the present and the now.

First Card

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Four of Cups

Has the grass been looking greener on the other side?

The Four of Cups is a card that tells us we aren’t looking at the good things we already have in our lives, and instead are longing for what we could have.

When this card appears in your readings, it’s challenging you to stop daydreaming about what you could have in your life and instead count your blessings.

The Four of Cups is a warning that we need to be more appreciative of what we have, and show a little more gratitude towards the things we’ve already been blessed with.

When we become self-absorbed, and start taking what we have for granted, we tend to miss out on other opportunities.

The Four of Cups calls attention to the fact that while you are busy wondering about other things, you’re missing out on the chance to improve what you already have.

Second Card

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Five Of Cups

The Five of Cups is a surprisingly complex card for being a part of the Minor Arcana.

It is depicted as five golden chalices, three of which have been knocked to their sides while the remaining two stay standing.

This card brings about confirmation of loss, sorrow, and despair, but also signifies that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

The three downed cups typically refer to the feelings you already have about your situation.

Whatever it may be that life has thrown at you, it can be hard to come to terms with not being able to put things back as they were.

The Cups suit is related to water, and you certainly cannot refill the fallen chalices with the water they already held.

The two chalices that have been untouched, however, promise that your situation can be salvaged, even if some of its parts have been changed.

Third Card

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Page Of Swords

The Page of Swords is represented by a young man atop a hill, grasping a silver sword in both his hands.

Like the other Page cards of the Minor Arcana, he is still learning and growing.

Often he represents an actual young person in your life.

The Page of Swords stands for truth and justice, as well as open and honest communication.

He is likely to appear to those who are struggling between telling the truth and sparing someone’s feelings, or those who are having a hard time verbally expressing their emotions.

Its important that you express your emotions without fear of the outcome because your at greater risk of hurting yourself trying to keep others happy.

Forth Card

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Page Of Wands

Generally speaking, the Page of Wands is in the area of having projects that come to fruition.

Something you initiated a while back starts to deliver positive results.

Another meaning that is to be considered frequently in a reading is that this Page represents a literal person in your life.

(S)he is a high energy person, a high-achiever that brings a positive vibe in your world.

Beware of lack of focus though.

Energy, success and enthusiasm are all good, but don’t take your eyes off the prize just yet.

Keep going keep achieving your hearts desires.

Fifth Card

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Ace Of Cups

This card is generally depicted as a large golden chalice with water overflowing from within.

The Ace of Cups shows up in a reading when you have reached a point of emotional stability, happiness, and peace.

It is a reminder that you have good emotional intelligence and a strong foundation on which you are able to take on the world, usually with a smile on your face.

A present position Ace of Cups means that the path your life has taken is the best one for you.

Whether it’s your relationship, family life, or career, you are in a secure and stable place emotionally.

Whatever you’ve been doing, it’s working in your favour so keep at it.

Sixth Card

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The World

This card is also about gaining more insight into what is your role in a bigger scheme of things.

It can be a big project, it can be the community you are part of and so on.

The meaning is that you are more in tune with the world around you.

There is a virtuous circle, i.e. the more success you have, the more connected you feel and the more you are motivated to contribute.

In terms of travel, the World can literally indicate that you may be traveling around the world. You may soon go for a long distance trip.

You may also receive a message from the Universe to be more open to take in elements from the world around you.

Try to become more receptive and expand your awareness.

Thank you for reading i hope you gained comfort and guidance from this weeks post.

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Sending Love to you all

Stacie xx

𝕋𝕙𝕖 𝔾𝕝𝕠𝕨 𝕌𝕡

Hiya Everyone

I hope you have had a great day I would like to say I have but that hasn’t been the case.

Do you know when you roll out of bed in the morning and you know its not going to be a great day both emotionally and physically, most the time these days I have my shit together.

But today I felt like the whole world was against me, my anxiety attacks are less and less these days since I’ve found my confidence back but still one slips through the cracks of that barrier that ive built so high around my soul and every now and again the old Stacie tries to remerge from the shadows and i have to rain her back into the darkness because that jush isn’t me anymore.

This blog post I’ve wanted to post for along time now and I’ve been putting it off for a while but i think its time to share it with you all.

To the people who know me in person who read my blog will understand exactly how I’ve been feeling and hopefully you will understand why I’ve needed to do what I have done to simply keep my head above water and to stop myself from drowning.

Up until the last six months Ive been at war with myself , my mind and my heart trying to align all three has been a battle and half.

I’ve always put others first and always put myself last just to make other people happy.

Ive loved and not always been loved back the old unrequited love is an arsehole.

I’ve sat there and listened and let someone pull me apart piece by piece for simply being me.

Ive kept calm when the fire inside me had raged.

I’ve been battered and bruised by my own self confidence.

Until that day comes and you think you know enough is enough I’m not taking this anymore.

I got up that morning in February and thought this is the last time i will allow my life and the people around me to control me..

It started with some external changes I was so determined to loose weight as that held my confidence back massively and I knew I had to drastically do something to achieve what i wanted so that was the first step for me.

So then the hair changed you always know when a women means business she changes her hair said coco channel , so that’s when my transformation really started when the red hair came along , that in itself gave me a lot of confidence.

Over the past 7 months i have worked on my surroundings and the company i kept.

I had taken a step back from anyone who brings drama to my life, I’m not about the drama, I just want a peaceful life.

One thing I realised when your going through a glow up is that some people will support you others will completely turn on you.

Ive been called nasty and evil plus lot more but i know that’s not me at all.

That’s the kind of people I haven’t got time for anymore.

We all go through bad times i know but its how we choose to evolve from it.

You see some people don’t like other people evolving due to their own insecurities, that’s when you realise that your energies are not meant to combine.

Your eyes open and you truly see people and situations that you once where involved with and think what the hell was i doing.

Transformation does that to you.

So what are my plans for the near future I’m sure that people will have something to say but you know what its my life my body I will do what makes me happy.

I don’t go into things blind I do my research..

so I’m fast approaching 33 and its time to start taking proper care of myself as vain as that sounds but again my choice, so i have been in touch with the Harley medical group to see if they will sort my loose skin from weight loss, that for me is a massive step in the mean time i will just have to put up with it.

Its ok people saying you look fine but its my choice i have to do what makes me happy and i would never go to the extreme.

So the glow up after such a rubbish time is amazing and I’m in this bubble at the moment where I feel untouchable from anything or anyone who caused me heartache and upset in the past.

If you like the new me then cool if you don’t then tough I’m never going back.

And I’m so proud of myself, I still have bad days and I know that one day someone will get me and will love me completely for just being me if given half the chance all I want to do is be happy but until then I’m like a elastic band I will always ping back ….

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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𝔾𝕦𝕖𝕤𝕥 𝔹𝕝𝕠𝕘𝕘𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕆𝕡𝕡𝕠𝕣𝕥𝕦𝕟𝕚𝕥𝕚𝕖𝕤

Good Afternoon all.

I hope you are well, I just wanted to do a quick blog about a new exciting opportunity I have decided to progress forward with.

I’m not sure if any other fellow bloggers have come across the term guest blogging, but its Guest blogging, also called “guest posting,” is the act of writing content for another company or sole talent.

But why have I chosen to showcase other people’s business and talent’s I hear you ask.

I feel its extremely important to help each other grow there are times in life where we need to be selfish but when it comes to empowerment and recognising other peoples talents it doesn’t help to show your support.

All throughout my younger years ive built up my talent skills and I can really put my hand to mostly anything call me del boy but honestly there isn’t anything I wont try and learn to help with my own progression.

But what I lacked was support and people willing to help me grow so after a few failed attempts I know how gut wrenching it feels when you fail due to lack of support.

So here I am the universe gave me a sign to empower people and showcase their business and talents.

And it maybe only a small gesture of my own good will but from one small gesture can come some amazing opportunities.

All my life ive been selfless and I’ve always wanted to help others I suppose I wear my heart on my sleeve but I truly know how hard it is to be heard in a world that’s always so noisy.

So here is my pitch i hope it draws you in to work along side me lets help each other grow.

Once a month i will be giving away one free guest blog spot on my own blog seashells and lipgloss blog.

This post will stay on my blog indefinitely so that new readers will always be able read your blog and get to know your business and your talent’s leading them to choose to follow your journey through your own social media accounts and lead to potential clientele growth.

I’m looking for…

Artist’s , Musicians’, Photographer’s , All Small Businesses , Charites, Venues , Creative Writer’s.

I’m open to new talent opportunities also it doesn’t just have to be what’s listed above.

If your interested in what I have to offer please email me on..

seashellsandlipglossblog@gmail.com or via my contact block below