Listen… It’s not your job to be everything to everyone.

Evening all I’ve not late night blogged for a while but it’s Sunday evening and

I’m filled with anxiety again.

There’s days where I need to have a moment to myself just to put my head straight.

It’s extremely difficult to be one hundred percent who you are these days.

I find that people are very judgmental and quick to jump to conclusions.

Without the facts.

I have to say that sometimes humans don’t have an alternative motif for just simply being helpful or truthful.

Sometimes it’s just in their nature to be honest without fear and to want to work hard to make a difference.

I truly believe that the current situation I find myself in is exactly where I need to be, you find yourself in certain situations in life where there is either lessons to be learnt or truth to be given in order for change to take place.

Somethings been stagnant for to long stubborn for change then….

You smack bang in the middle of a situation you either need to learn from or make a difference.

One thing I’ve realised is when you see through people your not very well liked that’s a know fact.

When your real and disconnect from the drama that’s when you become the drama and in no way shape or form have I got time for drama.

I’m literally at that stage where I still feel anxious and some days I’m not as strong.

But honestly your put on this earth to yes be thoughtful of others but to also be thoughtful of yourself.

I can’t stress enough to people if your struggling to juggle life and struggling with the people around you.

Distance is sometimes the best key you can never pour from an empty cup.

You can make sure your vessel is fine but if the minds off balance then the two don’t work in harmony.

Don’t put to much pressure on yourself to be the perfect parent, sibling, partner, friend or work colleague.

You need to nurture your own soul before you give to others.

When people try and drag you into Drama don’t fall for it, if it’s not your issue then leave it, some people don’t like the truth and can be….

But don’t fall for it you can’t fix everything or everyone so don’t try to.

Just be honest to yourself and honest with others and if your respected for it great if not there’s no love lost.

Good night everyone

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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Evening all

I haven’t published any late night blogs for a while.

I’ve been busy with life and a few things have changed for me.As life progresses we expect a lot of change, we have to expect change otherwise there will be no forward movement.

You find that where you are just isn’t enough anymore.

For me it isn’t my location it’s my actual life I’ve not been happy for a while and I’ve realised that if I keep going round on this hamster wheel I may never get off, it’s only certain aspects of my life I find I’m feeling a little stuck and undervalued.

So I’ve had to put plans in motion for change.

You can’t grow if you stay in the shade.

I’ve taken many risks in my younger years and many haven’t worked out but it was a massive learning curve for me.

Being a mum, someone’s daughter, sister and friend sometimes isn’t easy.

And to be honest I know I’ve been hard work at times.

I don’t answer phone calls, messages for days on end just way I am I live in my own little space sometimes it all gets a little to much.

Don’t get me wrong I’m a strange person I like love but also crave my own space, I can’t stand constant communication or talking all the time.

I get easily irritated by forced conversations and will withdraw and zone out if put in a position I don’t feel comfortable in.

I like people but only small group of people they will tend to be long term friendships I will only forge new friendships If I really want to.

I will literally help anyone anyway I can within reason.

But alot of people can’t take to me and my personality.

I used to let that affect the way I saw myself but now I don’t care I just let people think what they want to think.

They say when you stop pleasing others and start pleasing yourself that’s when life really takes flight.

That’s the truth your vibe will attract the right type of people to your life and repel the wrong type of people because that’s when you are truly aligned with yourself.

Now I don’t rely on anyone but myself .

I’m making things happen for myself and I will do whatever it takes to get to my own happiness.

I’m half way through writing my own book.

My blog is doing amazing

I have new opportunities all the time.

But I know down the line I will have to take more leaps of faith to see where it guides me but now I have my own back I will achieve anything.

Love to you all

Stacie xx

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Hiya Everyone

I hope you have had a great day I would like to say I have but that hasn’t been the case.

Do you know when you roll out of bed in the morning and you know its not going to be a great day both emotionally and physically, most the time these days I have my shit together.

But today I felt like the whole world was against me, my anxiety attacks are less and less these days since I’ve found my confidence back but still one slips through the cracks of that barrier that ive built so high around my soul and every now and again the old Stacie tries to remerge from the shadows and i have to rain her back into the darkness because that jush isn’t me anymore.

This blog post I’ve wanted to post for along time now and I’ve been putting it off for a while but i think its time to share it with you all.

To the people who know me in person who read my blog will understand exactly how I’ve been feeling and hopefully you will understand why I’ve needed to do what I have done to simply keep my head above water and to stop myself from drowning.

Up until the last six months Ive been at war with myself , my mind and my heart trying to align all three has been a battle and half.

I’ve always put others first and always put myself last just to make other people happy.

Ive loved and not always been loved back the old unrequited love is an arsehole.

I’ve sat there and listened and let someone pull me apart piece by piece for simply being me.

Ive kept calm when the fire inside me had raged.

I’ve been battered and bruised by my own self confidence.

Until that day comes and you think you know enough is enough I’m not taking this anymore.

I got up that morning in February and thought this is the last time i will allow my life and the people around me to control me..

It started with some external changes I was so determined to loose weight as that held my confidence back massively and I knew I had to drastically do something to achieve what i wanted so that was the first step for me.

So then the hair changed you always know when a women means business she changes her hair said coco channel , so that’s when my transformation really started when the red hair came along , that in itself gave me a lot of confidence.

Over the past 7 months i have worked on my surroundings and the company i kept.

I had taken a step back from anyone who brings drama to my life, I’m not about the drama, I just want a peaceful life.

One thing I realised when your going through a glow up is that some people will support you others will completely turn on you.

Ive been called nasty and evil plus lot more but i know that’s not me at all.

That’s the kind of people I haven’t got time for anymore.

We all go through bad times i know but its how we choose to evolve from it.

You see some people don’t like other people evolving due to their own insecurities, that’s when you realise that your energies are not meant to combine.

Your eyes open and you truly see people and situations that you once where involved with and think what the hell was i doing.

Transformation does that to you.

So what are my plans for the near future I’m sure that people will have something to say but you know what its my life my body I will do what makes me happy.

I don’t go into things blind I do my research..

so I’m fast approaching 33 and its time to start taking proper care of myself as vain as that sounds but again my choice, so i have been in touch with the Harley medical group to see if they will sort my loose skin from weight loss, that for me is a massive step in the mean time i will just have to put up with it.

Its ok people saying you look fine but its my choice i have to do what makes me happy and i would never go to the extreme.

So the glow up after such a rubbish time is amazing and I’m in this bubble at the moment where I feel untouchable from anything or anyone who caused me heartache and upset in the past.

If you like the new me then cool if you don’t then tough I’m never going back.

And I’m so proud of myself, I still have bad days and I know that one day someone will get me and will love me completely for just being me if given half the chance all I want to do is be happy but until then I’m like a elastic band I will always ping back ….

Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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Good Afternoon all.

I hope you are well, I just wanted to do a quick blog about a new exciting opportunity I have decided to progress forward with.

I’m not sure if any other fellow bloggers have come across the term guest blogging, but its Guest blogging, also called β€œguest posting,” is the act of writing content for another company or sole talent.

But why have I chosen to showcase other people’s business and talent’s I hear you ask.

I feel its extremely important to help each other grow there are times in life where we need to be selfish but when it comes to empowerment and recognising other peoples talents it doesn’t help to show your support.

All throughout my younger years ive built up my talent skills and I can really put my hand to mostly anything call me del boy but honestly there isn’t anything I wont try and learn to help with my own progression.

But what I lacked was support and people willing to help me grow so after a few failed attempts I know how gut wrenching it feels when you fail due to lack of support.

So here I am the universe gave me a sign to empower people and showcase their business and talents.

And it maybe only a small gesture of my own good will but from one small gesture can come some amazing opportunities.

All my life ive been selfless and I’ve always wanted to help others I suppose I wear my heart on my sleeve but I truly know how hard it is to be heard in a world that’s always so noisy.

So here is my pitch i hope it draws you in to work along side me lets help each other grow.

Once a month i will be giving away one free guest blog spot on my own blog seashells and lipgloss blog.

This post will stay on my blog indefinitely so that new readers will always be able read your blog and get to know your business and your talent’s leading them to choose to follow your journey through your own social media accounts and lead to potential clientele growth.

I’m looking for…

Artist’s , Musicians’, Photographer’s , All Small Businesses , Charites, Venues , Creative Writer’s.

I’m open to new talent opportunities also it doesn’t just have to be what’s listed above.

If your interested in what I have to offer please email me on..

seashellsandlipglossblog@gmail.com or via my contact block below

 

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Hello all

I hope you are all well i know

I always start my blogs of the same way i suppose i want people to know that wherever you are in the world I’m sending my well wishes .

Sometimes just a few words can completely change someone’s day.

As i sit in my new office cup of tea in hand my imagination goes wild its always this time of night where i feel like i can actually breathe sometimes its the simple things in life us humans need just to soothe the soul.

Its not about what you have left behind or what’s in your future its about where you are now in the present that’s all that counts.

I’m going to share with you all a short story about Harry and Mark.

It was a perfect summers day in the height of a busy dinner hour an elderly gentleman called Harry sits down on his usual bench in City Hall Park .

The bench held special memories of when Harry and his dearly beloved wife Susie used to sit and watch the world go by.

After Harry’s wife passed away he would always keep up their daily routine just because to him that was Harry’s happy place.

At that exact moment in the finance district was Mark after a busy morning of meetings and Linda from H.R spoiling his $900 suit he had already had enough of the day.

Escaping the hustle of the office and the noise of the city he found himself in City Hall Park.

Where he sat next to Harry they exchanged a simple hello.

But Harry could see the strain on Marks face, Tough day huh ?

Mark replied a little , sometimes i don’t know what its all for ?

You have a little bit more life experience any advice Mark asked Harry.

Yes of course i do ? but its only advice said Harry.

Do you have regrets Harry, plenty but its in the past i can’t change the past he replied.

Do you look to the future said Mark , not really Harry replied the future is never set in stone it can change in an instant.

So what do you look to asked Mark, Harry simply replied the present.

The present said Mark !!!

You need to look at what’s around you in the present moment are you happy are you alive or just existing , are you in love and have you ever found yourself even in the darkest of places.

Because know this one thing what’s important in life can’t be brought like real love ,trust , inner peace and time.

Mark said I’ve not really thought about it in that way before Harry , I’m in a relationship but I’m under a lot of pressure to take the next step, and I’m not sure if she’s the one , Harry replied.

If you love her you will know you will feel it deep down in the pit of your stomach if she is the one if you don’t feel it you have your answer.

I also work to hard and long hours i don’t see my family enough i don’t take vacation’s , im simply relied on by my boss to give 100% all the time and it’s so exhausting.

Harry replied simply tell him no and take a vacation go see your family.

Work will always be there when you get back but your loved ones won’t always be here, you simply need to find balance.

Find out what’s important to you and let everything else go.

What would a random Old man who hasn’t got time on his side say to his younger self.

He would say son fall in love whenever possible, don’t work so hard, and use your time wisely.

Change what doesn’t seem to fit and take risks.

That afternoon on that bench in City Hall Park words of wisdom were exchanged and lives were changed forever.

Sometimes all we need is a little bit of direction and a fresh mindset to make changes don’t ever feel weak for asking advice even if it’s from a complete stranger.

Be open and listen it just might change your life.

Love to you all
Stacie xx

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My Under The Stairs Office

Good Afternoon Everyone .

I hope you are all well and having a great weekend.

Today I’ve been busy finishing my own little office space ,i needed somewhere i could use to be creative other than blogging from my bedroom or my sofa.

My home isn’t a huge house its three bedroom home with two sitting areas there isn’t much space to call your own other than my bedroom.

But its home and its mine.

Having two children can kind of take over the place and ive always put them first so mum needed some space to be creative and in between a day time job i also run my blog , and my custom apparel business.

So life can become pretty madness at times as you can imagine.

I had been wanting to create a small office space for a while but I was debating on where and how I was going to achieve it on a budget .

So i have two storage cupboards in my hallway which where absolutely full of crap that no one wanted but i couldn’t be bothered to sort through and throw away but i finally got round to sorting it all out and i had a empty space a blank canvas if you like.

I had a budget of Β£200 which I’m happy to say i was under budget by Β£76.01, money saving always makes me happy.

I’m going to show you before and after picture …..

Desk was from Argos Β£50 , Chair also Argos Β£12

Paint and glitter was both from B& M bargains so was my flooring Β£20

My accessories Were from both Home Bargains & B& M Bargains

Wire Shelving Β£10 , Various Stationary and storage boxes Β£20

Candles and faux Plants Β£5

Wall stickers Where from Ebay Seller Kruger Stickers Β£3.49 for 90 Dalmatian Spots .

Lighting Are Battery powered and from Home Bargain’s Β£3.99 for three and they are so bright they also come with a remote.

Overall its not taken that long and i did have a bit of help.

I’m happy now i have a place to blog and be creative and also market my business.

Now i can get on with other projects i have been putting off for a while.

Have a fabulous evening all , im now going to relax with a classic amaretto and coke maybe cheeky whiskey in the mix.

Love to You All

Stacie xx

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It’s been a minute since I’ve properly blogged.

It’s been one of those weeks well months if I’m honest but it’s all been hush hush.

I’ve really wanted to blog about situations but I know I can’t at the moment i haven’t got the heart to.

Or the words to discribe how it’s made me feel.

You wake up everyday with this ambition of wanting to make a change an difference to yourself and the world around you.

You build yourself up then for others to try and knock you down and to me that’s not fair.

It’s not all bad news and depressing states though I’ve learnt alot about myself during this process.

I’ve removed a lot of toxic energy but some is still remaining its been quite tough trying to find a solution to situation where you don’t even know where to start.

Anyone who understands what I’m going on about knows how hard it is to try and it still not be good enough.

I talk alot about myself in my blogs because this is the whole reason why I decided to share parts of myself with you all.

So that people could relate and not feel alone.

Because feeling alone is worst feeling in the world.

One thing I’ve realised is I’m not normal and neither do I want to be.

But then what is classed as not normal these days we all have faults somewhere down the line.

Can we actually define the social expectations of being normal?

Someone who shows traits of an eccentric character in society isn’t deemed to be normal.

Why because they don’t allow themselves to fall into the trap of normal social existence.

Go to school, get a job, fall in love, get married, have babies.

That’s great in all if that’s what you want but to just simply be you and make yourself happy sometimes doesn’t sit well with others.

Not everyone will understand you or know why you do the things you do.

And that’s OK it’s not right to judge somebody else’s path.

Some times you just need to take a second to refocus.

Progress is progress however big or small it is, it’s still progress..

So little by little than none at all.

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Love to you all

Stacie xx

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Good evening..

Late night blogging for me its Monday and it’s a start of a brand new week.I wanted to share this blog with you all because at the moment I know people are struggling with their mental health and dealing with fear and anxiety.

When your forced to make changes or if a change is forced upon you it can be a very frustrating and confusing time let alone scary.

Some people deal with change well others don’t it’s just human nature.

Some have better coping mechanisms than others.I’m going to share some knowledge I’ve learnt over the past six months and how I’ve used it to help me progress..

1. Never change who you are to fit in with other’s…

I’ve been in this situation so many times.

Instead of being the person you are you end up being so far away from who you actually are and perceiving you’re self to be someone you’re not.

This is a massive lesson to learn because to all the people who just want to be liked by everyone it’s not going to happen…Sometimes in life people dislike you for no reason it happens.

Never ever under any circumstances try and fit in with others.You loose yourself in the process and whilst others around you are happy you will not be happy because you aren’t being your true self.

2. You will never understand another person’s actions towards you.

Dont try and debunk why someone treats you the way they do you will go round in circles in your own brain trying to figure it all out honestly it’s not worth it.

Life goes on always remember that and everyone has their own burdens to carry if you find a kind person around you be one.

3. Toughen up

I know it’s easy for me to say yes I said the exact same thing when I was told I’m too kind to people who don’t deserve it.It takes courage to stand up for yourself and say enough is enough.

I’m not dealing with this situation any more.

You either move past it or make life harder than it needs to be.

You don’t need to participate in every situation that gets thrown your way

People are going to think what they think and nothing you do or say will make them believe otherwise.

4. Don’t justify any decisions you make.

This one is simple it’s your life its your choice every decision you make is either for you to evolve and grow or to move on to something better.

If you feel it’s right go with your own gut instinct at the end of the day people talk it’s what humans do but you might as well just do it anyway regardless you can accept advice but never let someone criticise you for simply trying to better yourself.

5. Let them believe what they want to.

Best thing to do here don’t react when you enter transformation you care less about how others see you and more about how you see yourself.

What’s your self worth and why sometimes it doesn’t always pay you to be completely honest sometimes we just don’t need to say nothing at all…

People won’t understand how they treated you until you treat them in exactly the same way its just the way it is.

But don’t try and justify anything to anyone who’s already made up their mind about who you are.

Even if their perception is false.

6. The Chinese Whisperers

Massive lessons I’ve learnt this year is don’t believe everything someone says about someone.

We as humans are very quick to judge and get tangled up in all sort of drama that doesn’t really concern us.

This is my massive learning curve for 2020.

Leave people to fight their own battles.

We have all done it said something and thought why the hell have I just said that we are all human and make mistakes we live with alot of regret throughout life but its when you don’t learn from it that makes it dangerous for us.

I’m literally no longer getting involved with anything that doesn’t concern me you can’t keep making the same mistake.

You can’t bulid a new life by keep talking parts of the old one and trying to make the pieces fit it simply doesn’t work that way.

You will loose parts of yourself and people who you always thought would be around you forever but that’s part of the process where you are ready to move on.

You have your memories and sometimes that’s more than enough.

Stay strong

Love to you all

Stacie x

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It’s all so quiet …

Shh shh
It’s oh so still
Shh shh
You’re all alone
Shh shh
And so peaceful until

Good evening all.

I hope your well, so who’s ready for normal life to resume again I know I definitely want normality back.

Like billions of others I haven’t been blogging a lot because I’ve been busy working on a few things behind the scene and tbh I’ve had a few bad days I didn’t want to document them because for me it’s now about progression and moving forward.

I’m only human and I know i will still have bad days besides good ones.

My motto for August is be true to who you are and focus on yourselves. Everyone around you is on their own personal journey leave them to it and focus on you.

Apart from working on myself and my own future I would like to think I’ve made some sort of a difference to other people’s lives over the past 18 months I’ve had plenty of ups and downs but it’s honestly made me a stronger person…

My blog is going from strength to strength the amount support I receive is amazing thank you all.

I would like to say the scars are finally healing from the past and I’m actually remembering what happiness is again.

A week ago I sat down and thought about what I want from life I’ve not put a lifetime plan in place as things can change unexpectedly but I’ve made at least a twelve month plan for myself and where I would like to be a year from now…

Whilst I was going through a bad time in my life I forgot whats mostly important to me and what makes me happy just because I was always worrying about what other people thought of me and how my personal growth would affect there’s.

Now I’m just focusing on me as selfish as that sounds.

I am still a good mum and every other title I fall under of but I’m not taking to lightly on others I have to do what makes me happier.

Today I relaunched one of my passions making custom clothing it’s another bow added to my very long string.

I’m just doing what makes me happy and that’s what life’s about after all being happy, falling in love and feeling like you belong in your own skin.

What other people are doing around you isn’t your mess to clean up its there’s so your best off leaving them to it and focusing on yourself and your future.

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Love to you all

Stacie xxx

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Good afternoon…

I hate to have to do blogs like this now because I’m so far away from the person who I was 18 months ago.
But as its my blog and I know people who truly care about me will understand every word that I wrote. Nothing else matters than how you see yourself.

So here it goes….

Hey I’m stacie I’m a 32 year old working mum of two.

I have two girls that I need to show strength and empowerment to.

Yes how ive evolved from who I once was and to the people who don’t understand why I’ve changed I’m going to explain a little.

If your affected by it then tough then maybe you know you have played a part in my story and maybe the truth hits home hard but that’s not my gulit it’s yours.

When all people say is oh well your strong you can deal with it but your actually screaming inside I can’t do this anymore, I’ve had enough yes this was me 18 months ago disappointed by ego, relationships,friendships and your own personal growth.

If I could go back now and slap myself 18 months previous I would.
How I’ve allowed others to use and walk over me.

To lie, abuse my friendship and my love then act like I was the one who put the knife in their back.

Well guess what I’ve just pulled the last knife out of my own back.

Whatever I’ve done in order to create my own innerpeace is my bussiness.

I’ve lost weight for me and I will continue to do what makes me happy…

And if I want to sit there in my bra and pants and post a selfie I will because this women is proud of who’s shes becoming.

After years of looking in the mirror and hating myself I finally have self love.

If you don’t like to see someone else progress then that’s your own issue.

I won’t settle for anything less than what I deserve.
So yes you can say who does she think she is.

But you don’t know the truth behind my change and why I needed to change myself.

I’m still here there’s still parts of stacie but I’ve upgraded and outgrown people who didn’t bring peace to my life my old ways of thinking have gone.

I’m still compassionate I still have a heart but the walls are a little higher..

No time for drama, fake friends or judgement.

I’m here to make something of myself.

So keep your judgement to yourself because it’s not welcome here.

We don’t cut people out for the fun of it we cut people out because we have finally opened our eyes.

I’m no angel I know that but one thing is I’ve learnt from my mistakes I don’t try and pass them off to someone else and hide.

But understand that sometimes people need to wipe slate clean and walk away from anything that damages the soul.

Sometimes that includes cutting ties and moving on.

Thanks for reading πŸ’“πŸ’—

Stacie xx
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